大苹果新书推荐SIMPLICITYPARENTINGByKIMJOHNPAYNE

1、大苹果新书推荐SIMPLICITY PARENTINGBy KIM JOHN PAYNE生活中鸡毛蒜皮之类的事是否压得你喘不过气来，影响到你的家庭生活和对孩子的教育，还记得梭罗笔下的瓦尔登湖吗？其实一切都可以返璞归真， 有时候简单更是一种效率 生活如此，育儿也可如此。分类：生活 健康英文书名： SIMPLICITY PARENTING作者： KIM JOHN PAYNE出版社： BALLANTINE BOOKS审阅资料：信息【简介】教育孩子的方式只要简单就好，无需太过复杂。其实有的时候，简单可以凌驾在复杂之上， 让人感受到平静之美。 本书将教导你如何一步步简化生活中的琐碎之事， 放慢速度享 受

2、生活，体味孩子们的童年，同时享受成年人的生活。为什么要简单化呢？1. 繁琐的事情将家庭生活压得喘不过气来，殃及到孩子的童年生活。2. 现在许多孩子患有强迫症和多动症，简单化可以让他们回到原来的生活状态。如何简单化呢？50%的东西丢弃。从孩子的房内拿几1. 简化环境扔掉屋子里你不用或不喜欢的东西，再将屋内剩余的你就本儿童书看看， 扔掉房内的塑料实物模型。比方说，如果强尼想要一座公园模型的话， 去买些需要的工具和材料让他自己动手做。2. 简化食物和用餐时间 不要让吃饭时间成为吃饭人和烧饭人的负担， 确定每天的用餐时间并要努力坚持。 如果与看 足球或听音乐相冲突，那就重新安排这些活动。3. 简化家庭

3、计划 养育孩子就如同种植庄稼。 抚养孩子的方法有两种， 一是你给他挡风遮雨为他安排好一切， 就等他成材。另一种更好的方式是给他时间让他自由发展，进行自我塑造，独立成材。孩子需要时间来活动和创造， 同样地， 他们需要时间来无所事事。 别以为他们真的什么也没 做哦。4. 简化成人世界的信息量和活动量 对成年人而言， 这个世界是危险黑暗的， 但请不要只将负面消息灌输到孩子的头脑中。 在谈 论坏事的同时也请讲讲好的事情。5. 简化纪律 你得明确一下想从孩子的谈论中获取什么样的结果， 站在孩子身前， 双目注视着他， 不要东 张西望。 比方说，在屋内大喊让孩子穿戴好这种方式实在是不大好。如果是你站在孩子面

4、前，教导他穿戴整齐，那效果就要好多了，同时还节约了时间。WHY SIMPLIFY .Too much stuff! Sensory overwhelm in the lives of our families., the undeclared war on childhood.The D Generation. ADD, ODD, OCD and on it goes. How simplifying helps labeled children regain resiliency.HOW TO SIMPLIFY .Step One: Simplify your environmentThis

5、 is FlyLady on steroids. Get rid of your clutter and then get rid of everything that you dont love and use, then get rid of 50% of the rest of the stuff youve got lying around the house. Take all but five of the books out of your childs room. Swap in new ones now and then. Same with toys, and get ri

6、d of all the plastic imitations of real things. If Johnny wants a gardening set, go to the hardware store and get proper tools in sizes that he can handle.Step Two: Simplify food and mealtimesDont let meal times become a time of stress for either the person making it or those eating it. Schedule it,

7、 set a routine and stick to it. If soccer or music conflcts, reschedule those activities.Step Three: Simplify your families scheduleHe compared parenting to growing crops. There are two ways to grow a crop (child). You can plant it and then add super-phosphates, pour on extra manure, kill everything

8、 around it with herbicides and pesticides, control the environment, give it coaching, push it hard all season and genetically modify it. But the best way to grow a successful crop (child) is to allow it time to lay fallow (do nothing), time for green fertilizer (creativity) and growth (lessons and p

9、lanned activity).Children need equal time to be creative (read, write, do imaginative play, draw, play or listen to music), to participate in activities (school, sports, lessons) and to do nothing. And dont underestimate the value of nothing.Step Four: Simplify the amount of information and involvem

10、ent about the adult worldThe world can be scary and gloomy for adults, but try not to project this negativity to your children. Talk about the bad stuff but talk about the good stuff too. The What can we do as a family about global warming? discussion as opposed to the Were going to hell in a handba

11、sket tiradeStep Five: Simplify disciplineVisualization and the two by two approach to discipline. First, visualize what you want the outcome of your discussion with your child to achieve. Stand two feet in front of her with your two feet planted on the ground. Look at them, make your request and foc

12、us on nothing else but them until they have followed through on your request. For example, yelling at Johnny from across the house to put on his coat and shoes will likely yield, not much. But if you stand in front of Johnny and ask him to put on his coat and shoes and stand watching/coaching him un

13、til hes done the task will yield a less stressful and more successful outcome and save you time in the long run.I cant possibly capture all the goodness from this talk, he spoke for 2 1/2 hours and every minute was full of great information, anecdotes and caring. Kim John travels and lectures alot s

14、o check his website, if you ever get a chance to hear him, it will give you alot to think about as a parent.关于作者：Kim John Payne, M. Ed, has twenty one years of experience as a counselor, adult educator, consultant/researcher and educator. He developed the internationally recognized Social Inclusion

15、Approach to work with bullying and teasing. Mr. Payne is presently based in Harlemville, N.Y. He is the author of the book The Games Children Play, (1996) published by Hawthorn Press. He is presently working on his two his two new books, Simplicity Parenting and The Soul of Discipline.Review:“ Simpl

16、icity Parenting takes the unusual and unusually wise approach that sometimes less can be more. Less as in less frenetic activity, racing around, and clutter. Instead, Payne provides practical strategies for turning down the volume and creating a pace that fosters calmness, mindfulness, reflection, a

17、nd individuality in children. Simplicity Parenting should be on every parent (isn deed, every person rse) ading list. -” Kathleen Brehony, Ph.D., author of Awakening at Midlife“ If you are raising children in these anxious times, you need this book. It will inspire you, reassure you, and most important of all, it will remind you: that less is more, that simplicity trumps complication, that rhythm and routine bring peace to the soul. In this profound and practical guide, Kim Payne offers parents a do-able, step-by-step approach to simplifying everyday family life, from the toy box to the