《疗愈内在小孩》word版.doc

快意 疗愈内在小孩Healing the Inner Child作者：安吉尔歇朵 Angel Shadow 翻譯：雷惟媛我们每个人的内心都住着一个内在小孩。他或她要么是健康、快乐和有适应力的，要么是不健康，恐惧和混乱的。你只需花一点点时间就能意识到你内在小孩是否在隐藏，因为他或她会将自己显现在你每天的成人生活中。 只需观察你的自动反应，它们是通往内在小孩的钥匙。这些自动反应往往会被忽略，你甚至不会意识到自己在做那些，仿佛它们本该如此。一旦你开始醒觉，你就会明白你的内在小孩哪一部分需要被疗愈。缺乏信任、不自信、无安全感、愤怒和遗憾，这些问题大多源于童年未被疗愈的伤痛。你的“成人”身份只是按照过去的反应方式在行动，它不得不从童年的某些经历中获取经验。 健康的内在小孩等同于健康、完全适应社会的成年人。我们都会遇到生活中的种种问题，但一个情感健康的成年人能够用有益的情感方式去应对。没有责备，没有自怨自艾，没有戏剧化，没有持续不断对认可的需要。情感健康的成年人完全知道自己是谁，无需从外界获取认可。 疗愈这个受伤的内在小孩，你首先需要找到他们在哪里。这不会很容易，他们可是捉迷藏的高手。多少次你甚至都不知道他们在那里就轻易地错过了。部分的他们想伸出援手帮你，叫喊着，“我在这儿！来找我呀！”另一部分却说，“安静点！别让他们发现你隐藏的地方！这儿是安全的！”所以，有意识点吧。保持警醒，发现那个内在小孩。 一旦你找到了他们，让他们离开隐藏之地的任务就需花不少时间了。你每次可能不得不照顾他们好几个小时，一天又一天，连续好几个月，仅仅只为让他们前进一步。缓慢但可以确定的是，一种新的信任会开始建立，最终，他们会接受你的帮助，走出黑暗。开始，你做的最多的可能是谈话，但最终，耐心点，他们会开始向你敞开，一个新的理解的世界将被打开。和内在小孩交谈后，所有的事情将变得有意义。 将你自己这个“幼小”的部分想成一个失落的、焦躁不安的灵魂，游荡在我们同一时空中。再次体验他们无法逃脱的相同创伤和混乱。因为他们是你的一部分，他们对这些未被疗愈的事件的反应将被你带入成年，并会持续的指示你现在努力经营生活该有的情感反应。一旦你让他们走出隐藏之地，敞开心扉，你们就能共同建立一个新的现实。一个基于真理和理解“为什么”的现实。疗愈内在小孩需要你采取以下几个步骤：1 找到内在小孩。倾听他们会让你的搜寻变得简单。2 接受你所发现的，认识这个“幼小”的家伙。你从这个内在小孩所获得的信息，极大可能是疼痛的。接受它，走出创伤。3 和小孩谈谈。不停挖掘，直到你发现核心问题。4 耐心点！他们敞开自己的心可能需要点时间。他们已被设定好要保持隐秘和沉默。5 带领他们离开隐藏之地。握住他们的手，向他们承诺你是能够被信任的。 记住，他们是你的一部分，真实的情况是你不信任你自己。完成疗愈需要一段时间。让受伤的内在小孩陪伴你是没问题的事实上，我鼓励这么做。记住，他们就是你！他们（和你）花越多的时间疗愈过去的事件，你（作为成年人）将被调整和疗愈得越好。所以别担心找出你自身那个失落、稚嫩的部分。他们已经被隐藏了好长时间，他们等待着疗愈和理解的到来。聆听他们的声音，他们握有问题的答案。乐意去接受他们不得不说的话，否则他们会再次撤回到隐藏之地。他们需要感到自己能再次相信不会被遗弃。内在小孩需要时间和耐心才会再次变得信任他人、充满活力。你希望如何被对待就如何去对待他们吧，记住，你实际上是在疗愈你自己呀！Inside each and every one of us is an inner child. This child is either healthy, happy and adjusted or its unhealthy, frightened and in chaos. It should only take you a few moments to realize if your inner child is hiding, for it will manifest itself in your everyday adult life.Simply take a look at your programmed reactions, for they are the key. These reactions are often overlooked because you wont even realize youre doing it. It simply IS what it IS. Once you become aware of that, youll understand what part of your inner child needs healing. Issues like lack of trust, low self-esteem, not feeling safe, anger and regret most likely stem from not healing an area of your childhood. Your adult self is simply reacting the way its always reacted and it had to start somewhere.A healthy inner child equals a healthy, well-adjusted adult. We all have issues that come up in life, but an emotionally healthy adult can deal with these issues in an emotionally healthy way. There is no blame. No pity party. No drama. No constant need for acknowledgement. Emotionally healthy adults know exactly who they are and do not need outside acknowledgement from others.To heal this wounded, inner child, you first need to locate them. This is not always easy because they are the masters of hide and seek. Many times, youll breeze right past them, not even knowing theyre there. Part of them wants to reach out and say, Im here! Please find me! While another part says, Be quiet! Dont let them find your hiding place! Its safe here! So become aware. Stay alert and find that inner child.Once you find them, the task of getting them out of their hiding place takes time. You may have to sit with them for hours at a time, day after day, for months, just to get them to take a step. Slowly, but surely, a new trust will begin to develop and eventually, they will take your hand and walk out of the darkness. At first, you may do most of the talking, but eventually, with patience, they will begin to open up and a new world of understanding will be released. After talking to this inner child, everything will begin to make sense.Think of this little part of yourself as a lost, restless spirit, wandering the same area of time and space. Reliving the same trauma and chaos that they couldnt escape from. Because they are a part of you, their reactions to these unhealed events will have carried with you into your adulthood and will continue to dictate your emotional responses to the life you are currently attempting to live. Once you get them to come out of hiding and open up, you can build a new reality together. One based on trust and an understanding of why.Healing the inner child requires you to take the following steps:1 Find the child. Tune in to them and your search will be an easy one. 2 Acceptance of what you find and learn about this little one. The knowledge you gain from this inner child will most likely be painful. Accept it and work through it. 3 Talk to the child. Dig until you find the core issue. 4 Have patience! It may take some time for them to open up. Theyve been programmed to remain hidden and silent. 5 Get them out of their hiding place. Hold their hand and prove to them you can be trusted. Remember, they are a part of you and whats really happening is you are not trusting yourself.Complete healing will take some time. Its alright to keep this wounded inner child with you. actually, I encourage it. Remember, they ARE YOU! The more time they spend (with you) healing the issues of the past, the more adjusted and healed you (as an adult) will become. So dont be afraid to locate that lost, little part of yourself. They have been in hiding for a long time.waiting for healing and understanding to come. Listen to them, for they hold the answers. Be willing to accept what they have to say or they will retreat into hiding once again. They need to feel that they can trust again. that they will not be abandoned. With time and patience, that wounded inner child will become trusting and full of life once again. Treat them the way you wish to be treated. remember, you are literally healing yourself.关于作者：安吉尔歇朵“我的童年充满虐待和忽视，这也导致我开始自愿受虐待，它也引起我的焦虑和恐慌，多年以来我都受它们的折磨。所以我愿意去帮助处于同样状况的人。现在我找到了属于自己的自由，基于我个人真理和释放一切。”更多信息请搜索/