我祝你不幸并且痛苦.doc

Rain, somebody said, is like confetti from heaven. So even the heavens are celebrating this morning, joining the rest of us at this wonderful commencement ceremony. Before we go any further, graduates, you have an important task to perform because behind you are your parents and guardians. Two or three or four years ago, they drove into Cardigan, dropped you off, helped you get settled and then turned around and drove back out the gates. It was an extraordinary sacrifice for them. They drove down the trail of tears back to an emptier and lonelier house.They did that because the decision about your education, they knew, was about you. It was not about them. That sacrifice and others they made have brought you to this point. But this morning is not just about you. It is also about them, so I hope you will stand up and turn around and give them a great round of applause. Please. Now when somebody asks me how the remarks at Cardigan went, I will be able to say they were interrupted by applause. Congratulations, class of 2017. Youve reached an important milestone. An important stage of your life is behind you. Im sorry to be the one to tell you it is the easiest stage of your life, but it is in the books. While youve been at Cardigan, you have all been a part of an important international community as well. And I think that needs to be particularly recognized. 有人说，雨就像天上的五彩纸屑。因此，即使是今天早上的天空也在庆祝，在这个精彩的毕业典礼上与我们大家一起庆祝。在我们继续前进之前，毕业生们，你们有一个重要的任务要做，因为你们的身后是你们的父母和监护人。两三年或四年前，他们开车进了卡迪根，让你下车，帮你安顿下来，然后转身把车开回大门。这是对他们的巨大牺牲。他们沿着小径流着眼泪，回到了一个更空旷、更孤独的房子。他们这样做是因为，他们知道关于你的教育的决定在于你自己。这与他们无关。他们所做的牺牲是把你带到这里。但今天早上不只是你。这也是关于他们的，所以我希望你能站起来，转过身来，给他们热烈的掌声。请。现在，当有人问我卡迪根的演讲是怎么样的，我就能说他们被掌声打断了。恭喜你,2017级。你已经达到了一个重要的里程碑。你生命的一个重要阶段就在你身后。我很抱歉要告诉你这是你生命中最容易的阶段，但它在书中。当你在卡迪根的时候，你也都是一个重要的国际社会的一部分。我认为这需要特别的认识。Now around the country today at colleges, high schools, middle schools, commencement speakers are standing before impatient graduates. And they are almost always saying the same things. They will say that today is a commencement exercise. It is a beginning, not an end. You should look forward. And I think that is true enough, however, I think if youre going to look forward to figure out where youre going, its good to know where youve been and to look back as well. And I think if you look back to your first afternoon here at Cardigan, perhaps you will recall that you were lonely. Perhaps you will recall that you were a little scared, a little anxious. And now look at you. You are surrounded by friends that you call brothers, and you are confident in facing the next step in your education. It is worth trying to think why that is so. And when you do, I think you may appreciate that it was because of the support of your classmates in the classroom, on the athletic field and in the dorms. And as far as the confidence goes, I think you will appreciate that it is not because you succeeded at everything you did, but because with the help of your friends, you were not afraid to fail. And if you did fail, you got up and tried again. And if you failed again, you got up and tried again. And if you failed again, it might be time to think about doing something else. But it was not just success, but not being afraid to fail that brought you to this point. 现在全国各地的大学、中学、中学、毕业典礼上的演讲者都站在没有耐心的毕业生面前。他们总是说同样的话。他们会说今天是毕业典礼。“这是一个开始，而不是结束。你应该向前看”我认为这是千真万确的，但是，我认为如果你想知道你要去哪里，很高兴知道你在哪里，也可以回顾一下。我想如果你回想一下你在卡迪根的第一个下午，也许你会想起你很孤独。也许你会记得你有点害怕，有点焦虑。现在看看你。你被朋友们包围，你称他们为兄弟，你有信心面对你教育阶段的下一步。想知道为什么会这样？这是个值得去思考的问题。当你这样做的时候，我想你会很感激，因为你的同学在教室里，在运动场上，在宿舍里支持你。就信心而言，我认为你会明白这并不是因为你做了所有的事情，而是因为在朋友的帮助下，你不怕失败。如果你失败了，你站起来再试一次。如果你失败了，你就站起来再试一次。如果你再次失败，可能是时候考虑做些别的事情了。但这不仅是成功，也是不害怕失败让你走到这一步。Now the commencement speakers will typically also wish you good luck and extend good wishes to you. I will not do that, and Ill tell you why. From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you dont take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope youll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion. Whether I wish these things or not, theyre going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes. 现在，毕业典礼的演讲者通常也会祝你好运，并向你致以良好的祝愿。我不会那样做，我会告诉你为什么。在今后的岁月里，我希望你们能受到不公平的对待，这样你们就会知道正义的价值。我希望你会遭受背叛，因为那会教会你忠诚的重要性。很抱歉这么说，但我希望你偶尔会感到孤独，这样你就不会把朋友当成理所当然。愿你们偶尔运气不佳，这样才会意识到机遇在人生中的地位，进而理解你们的成功并非命中注定，别人的失败也不是天经地义。当你们偶尔遭遇失败时，愿你们受到对手幸灾乐祸的嘲弄，这才会让你们理解体育精神的重要性。 愿你们偶尔被人忽视，这样才能学会倾听；感受到切肤之痛，才能对别人有同情的理解。无论我怎么想，这些迟早会来临。而你们能否从中获益，取决于能否参透人生苦难传 递的信息。Now commencement speakers are also expected to give some advice. They give grand advice, and they give some useful tips. The most common grand advice they give is for you to be yourself. It is an odd piece of advice to give people dressed identically, but you should you should be yourself. But you should understand what that means. Unless you are perfect, it does not mean dont make any changes. In a certain sense, you should not be yourself. You should try to become something better. People say be yourself because they want you to resist the impulse to conform to what others want you to be. But you cant be yourself if you dont learn who are, and you cant learn who you are unless you think about it. The Greek philosopher Socrates said, The unexamined life is not worth living. And while just do it might be a good motto for some things, its not a good motto when its trying to figure out how to live your life that is before you. And one important clue to living a good life is to not to try to live the good life. The best way to lose the values that are central to who you are is frankly not to think about them at all. So thats the deep advice. Now some tips as you get ready to go to your new school. Other the last couple of years, I have gotten to know many of you young men pretty well, and I know you are good guys. But you are also privileged young men. And if you werent privileged when you came here, you are privileged now because you have been here. My advice is: Dont act like it. 现在，参加毕业典礼的人也会给出一些建议。他们给了大建议，并给出一些有用的建议。最常见的建议是“做自己”。但你得明白其中真意。如果你并非足够完美，就必须做出改变。这时，你就不能光想着做自己，必须不断自我完善。别人说“做自己”，是希望你抵制按他人意愿随波逐流的冲动。但如果连你都不知道自己要成为什么样的人，是不可能“做自己”的，而如果不思考这些，你也不可能知道自己想成为什么样的人。希腊哲人苏格拉底说过，“未经自省的人生没有意义。”对某些事情而言，“just do it ”是不错的座右铭，但在你想明白自己想要什么样的人生之前，这个座右铭可不咋滴。生活美好的一条重要准则就是不要试图享受好生活。失去那些对你来说至关重要的价值观，最好的方法就是不要去想它们。这就是深层的建议。现在准备好去新学校的一些建议。在过去的几年里，我很了解你们很多年轻人，我知道你们都是好人。但你们也是有特权的年轻人。如果你来到这里时没有特权，因为你来过这里，所以现在享有了特权。我的建议是:不要表现得像它。When you get to your new school, walk up and introduce yourself to the person who is raking the leaves, shoveling the snow or emptying the trash. Learn their name and call them by their name during your time at the school. Another piece of advice: When you pass by people you dont recognize on the walks, smile, look them in the eye and say hello. The worst thing that will happen is that you will become known as the young man who smiles and says hello, and that is not a bad thing to start with. Youve been at a school with just boys. Most of you will be going to a school with girls. I have no advice for you.The last bit of advice Ill give you is very simple, but I think it could make a big difference in your life. Once a week, you should write a note to someone. Not an email. A note on a piece of paper. It will take you exactly 10 minutes. Talk to an adult, let them tell you what a stamp is. You can put the stamp on the envelope. Again, 10 minutes, once a week. I will help you, right now. I will dictate to you the first note you should write. It will say, Dear fill in the name of a teacher at Cardigan Mountain School. Say: I have started at this new school. We are reading in English. Football or soccer practice is hard, but Im enjoying it. Thank you for teaching me. Put it in an envelope, put a stamp on it and send it. It will mean a great deal to people who for reasons most of us cannot contemplate have dedicated themselves to teaching middle school boys.当你去到新学校时，请走上前向那个正在耙树叶、铲雪或倒垃圾的人介绍自己。记住他们的名字，在学校的时候叫他们的名字。另一条忠告:当你走过那些你不认识的人的时候，微笑，看着他们的眼睛，向他们问好。最糟糕的事情是，你会成为一个微笑着打招呼的年轻人，而这并不是一件坏事。你在一所只有男生的学校里。你们大多数人会去一所有女孩子的学校。我不能给你任何建议。我给你的最后一点建议很简单，但我认为它会给你的生活带来很大的改变。你应该给某人一周写一封信。不是电子邮件。一张纸上一个留言。你只需花10分钟时间。跟大人交谈，让他们告诉你邮票是什么。你可以把邮票贴在信封上。又一个10分钟，保持每周一次。我现在就帮你。我将向你说明你应该写的第一张便条。它会说:“亲爱的填满了卡迪根的老师的名字。”说:“我从这所新学校开始。我们正在用英语阅读。足球或足球，训练很难，但我很享受。谢谢你教我。”把它放在信封里，贴上邮票，寄出去。这对那些为了我们大多数人无法思考的原因而献身于教导中学男生的人来说意义重大。As I said, that will take you exactly 10 minutes a week. By the end of the school year, you will have sent notes to 40 people. Forty people will feel a little more special because you did, and they will think you are very special because of what you did. No one else is going to carry that dividend during your time at school. Enough advice. I would like to end by reading some important lyrics. I cited the Greek philosopher Socrates earlier. These lyrics are from the great American philosopher, Bob Dylan. Theyre almost 50 years old. He wrote them for his son, Jesse, who he was missing while he was on tour. It lists the hopes that a parent might have for a son and for a daughter. Theyre also good goals for a son and a daughter. The wishes are beautiful, theyre timeless. Theyre universal. Theyre good and true, except for one: It is the wish that gives the song its title and its refrain. That wish is a parents lament. Its not a good wish. So these are the lyrics fr