Money and Marriage 金钱与婚姻 英语专业毕业论文.doc

毕业论文论文题目: Money and Marriage 指导老师：作者姓名： 准考证号：联系电话：班 级：英语（本科）班日 期：2011年09月9日AcknowledgementI would like to express my sincere thanks to my advisor for his valuable directions and suggestions and for his generosity in spending his time discussing questions concerning this thesis and for his constant encouragement as well. I also wish to express my further thanks to all my teachers, whose courses and lectures have inspired me to write this thesis.Money and Marriage.Introduction .1.Various phenomena about money and marriage In the modern society.21.Different views about money and marriage between man and woman 32.The importances of money in marriage life today.43.Family financial can influence the marriage .5III.Contrast between Chinese and western.61.The value of money and marriage in Chinese.72.The value of money and marriage in western.83. Similarities of money and marriage in Chinese and western9IV. Ancient and modern contast.101.In ancient ,the function of money in marriage .112.Money is fertilizer in the modern marriage.12.The relationship between money and marriage.131. Money in marriage should not decide the happiness of marriage or not.142.Love marriage is more important than money both in modern and ancient .15. conclusion161.Build the correct views about money.172.Chose a right man who really love you to build a family18Money and MarriageBy：普桂芳AbstractMoney plays all important role in our everyday life. It has been a favorite topic for discussion among all kinds of people, young and old, men and women. With the establishment of the market economy and the development of society, more and more people are paying their attention to the function of money. Some say that money is the source of happiness while others hold a negative attitude and regard money as the root of all evils.Money and love, they seems two everlasting topics for people.On one hand,money can buy flowers, chocolates but love. On the other hand, most love cannot lasting without money. With the development of society, people find that money can make you own beauty, romance and lovers. But in my eyes, the honey is more important than money. Because money is never exist withemotion. On the contrary, the real love can accompany people no matter what things happened.It is a gift for everyone and it never can bought by moneyKey words:money, marriage ,love ,happiness , wealth.IntroductionNow, marriage and money is no longer seems to be what is reluctant to subject, it is a kind of the manifestation of social progress.But rationally treats the relationship between the two does that mean can put the marriage as a commodity to treat? Admittedly, no money of marriage in this materialized society is unrealistic, but the more money can represent the happier marriage ?Money, a lovely and hateful thing, many people in order to get it to lose dignity, freedom. Hatefully, it is not because the will of the people and change the nature of their own, that is: people have no money is totally unacceptable. Lovely , if you ignore it, then it will also pack up its attractive face, which makes you produce some of pure great otherworldly respond . Just now I read an article named For Love or For Money? I think that there is a deep truth in it. The story means many people show more important to money than love. Here is the story: An elderly man on the beach found a magic lamp. He picked it up and a genie appeared. Because you have freed me, the genie said. I will grand you a wish. The man thought for a moment and then responded, my brother and I had a fight 30 years ago and he hasnt spoken to me since. I wish that hell finally forgive me. There was thunderclap, and the genie declared, Your wish has been granted, You know, the genie continued, most men would have asked for wealth or fame. But you only wanted the love of your brother. Is it because you are old and dying? No way! the man cried. But my brother is, and hes worth about 60 million(1). Various phenomena about money and marriage In the modern societySmart Girls Marry Money,(2)satirical self-help book which has a serious mission: to get women and men to talk more about marriage and finances. The book came into being when the two working-mom authors, Elizabeth Ford and Daniela Drake, M.D., met while picking up their young children from preschool. They noticed that the moms who were able to spend the most time with their kids were the moms who hadnt necessarily taken their careers seriously and married someone with money, said Dr. Drake in the interview. It became a joke that if we were smart, we would have married for money.The authors arent saying that every woman should aspire to marry a rich guy. But they argue that marriage shouldnt just be about loveit should also be an economic partnership (as marriage traditionally was for centuries.) Women and men should be more upfront about marriage and money, instead of entering marriage starry-eyed without considering the financial future.All over the country today-Valentines Day-men are down on bended knee proposing marriage. They will speak of love and affection and devotion. Few, however, will mention what really matters: money.Crass, maybe. But true nonetheless.When you think about it, couples dont fight over love. They fight over money. They fight because one person didnt balance the checkbook or made a bone-headed investment without consulting the other. They fight because one partner exerts dictatorial control over the money, or because one has secretly amassed thousands of dollars in debt on a credit card, imperiling the couples finances.Whether the issues are big or small, money will prove a powerful force impacting your marriage - sometimes overtly in the form of routine arguments; sometimes quietly as animosities seethe beneath the surface for years, only to explode into a potentially marriage-ending supernova.What couples dont always grasp is that money is rarely the real culprit. Its the lack of communication, often stemming from a lack of knowledge about each others personal financial quirks and beliefs.So, some time between Yes, I will marry you, and I do, you and your partner need to have The Money Talk-the key questions all couples should ask of one another.Here are four of the more important questions to ask each other, since they provide insight and information on how money will flow through your marriage.What Are Your Assets and Liabilities?This question is paramount because assets and liabilities are the basic building blocks of the financial life youll live together. Assets (banks accounts, investments, retirement plans and a house) help you strive for the life you want. The liabilities (a mortgage, credit-card debt, auto loans and leases) will hold you back.Your goal is to pinpoint where you are financially as a couple so that you can map out where you want to go together. That could mean determining how much you want to save each month for ret irement, or how much you want to put into an account for a new house, a new car or an annual vacation.It also could mean talking about how you each use debt and the amount of debt you each have - and mapping out a plan to pay off as quickly as possible the combined debt you will have as a family.The best way to approach this: Present each other with a copy of your net-worth statement, a simple list of all your assets and liabilities. And voice no judgments. Mocking a partners choices will simply lead to future silence.What Is Your Money History?What you experienced financially as a child-how your parents ma naged their bills, how they talked or yelled about money, what they taught you about saving and spending-has shaped who you are today.Problems arise in marriage because partners dont always see money from the same perspective. You might abhor debt for anything other than a mortgage, yet your spouse-to-be thinks nothing of putting lunch, groceries and the afternoon Slurpee on a credit card, and then paying the minimum each month and allowing the balance to roll overIn talking to one another about how you each see money, you will begin to understand one anothers money habits. That, in turn, will help you find a common approach for managing money successfully as a couple.Neither of you will-nor should-get your way completely. Marriage is about compromise. A better understanding early on of how you each see and use money will give you the tools to find a middle ground youre each happy with when financial discord arises.How Should We Divide Financial Duties?In many marriages, one partner exerts financial dominance over the other, leaving the silenced partner anxious and angry. Other times, one partner shirks financial duties because of disinterest, leaving the other to shoulder the burden. Neither is fair.Couples should determine how to divvy up the various financial obligations that exist. Maybe one takes charge of investing and the other balances the checkbook. Play to each others strengths. If youre good at challenging bureaucracy, maybe you agree to handle the insurance companies and the medical bills.The point is that you both have an obligation to the familys financial well-being, and both spouses need to be aware of the households financial situation.If one partner wants to opt out of the daily financial minutiae, thats fine, so long as the other spouse is OK with handling the full obligation. But even then, you need to remain aware of whats going on with the finances so there are no unsavory surprises.4. Do We Combine Accounts or Operate Individually?This is a divisive issue. Many financial pros argue that operating from individual accounts helps maintain marital peace. Since neither partner knows what happens in the others account, theres no bickering.Maybe. But its far from perfect. Resentments can emerge if one partner is better at saving and always has money for larger, more meaningful purchases. Moreover, individual accounts mask the familys true financial position, which can hamper the main purpose of marriage: operating as a team.If neither of you know how much money is really flowing through the individual accounts, nor how much is being saved and invested, then its impossible to plan a future together.That doesnt mean individual accounts cant work. They can. But they require a large degree of openness so that you can both work toward common goals.Ultimately, all of these questions are about one thing: communication. Learn to talk about money early and often, and you can mitigate the financial tensions that are normal in all marriages.III.Contrast between Chinese and westernWith the expansion of the city in recent years, more and more people from rural China turn over to the sex and the city, even in the neighbourhood silos all, family marriage is like a broken line kite, and deserted where.Even in reform and opening up, the bike in early on with a white skirt is a good memory. Appreciate each others ideal and talent for love added romantic together to create a happy life simple desire is also the bond of marriage.And now, to maintain the marriage? Link seems to be the only money, marriage, almost completely commercialization but if money is the only a family foundation, so men and women both parties will marriage everything as commodity, including each other, so as a party to the appearance of ageing or energy dried up, new for old is the inevitable choice. And in China, quit the cost of marriage is still low. Dont like the United States and South Korea and other countries, the divorce fault for a party to bring the financial hit is often fatal.Marriage is not only a mans love story, is also the most strict social and economic contract. This is the best-selling set for the marriage life. The Chinese seem to be a classic reading was not used to add a marriage contract, and whats more, the economic contract do not improve, the protection of the disadvantageous enough. And with the intensity of the social transformation, the traditional family ethic, acquaintances communities by the formation of the social contract also broke, no contract relationship constraints of marriage is not stable.Modern Chinese without fear. And whether the law, religious or moral sense, the people have to fear marriage, or only on once beautiful feelings to sustain, in the social transition period, brings the huge temptation potentially vulnerable.Chinese believe that than other good is happiness. Mansion, day, jewelry. Money is necessary condition of secular life, but the United States, a survey to us $120000 annual revenue, happiness no longer increases with the increase of money increases. Money to happiness is to a certain level of diminishing marginal utility after things quickly.If rich is a happy marriage, the divorce appear?In western , The seven year itch , Marilyn Monroe film may be more than she I visibility. Itch, that is, uncomfortable, the marriage life the dull, law, boring couple is an experience of crisis, if true test problems, not necessarily have to wait seven years, three years, new also have.(3)The cause of the itching can vary. But the most basic and marriage most easily not the harmonious factor is the financial status and rank the husband and wife Pepsi. If has been the lack of financial planning, in man, and after a middle-aged problems such as anxiety, then aged spiritual and material double oppression, even if you dont make a broken marriage, that Im afraid will make serious deterioration of the marriage life quality, exist in name only.With an economic terms, marriage is a merger and reorganization, divorce is a family of bankruptcy. In the different stages of marriage, will face different test, the test of such men and women from the different characteristics of the life cycle and the change of external environment, in todays dramatic social transition period is even more so. Must be careful manage time, to make the life and happy marriage, which may contribute to the steady accumulation of wealth.Money in pride and prejudice is everywhere, even in Elizabeth and darcy of love mixed with a little money unavoidable also factors. In the stranger, it seemed, Elizabeth as picked up a gold, like Mrs. Bennett shouted: every year ten thousand pounds of income, may need more broadly to royal general! Previous to Mr. Darcy frustration and anger, have altogether behind him the clouds. For his second daughter of the marriage couldnt agree, if can, the lovely wife Im afraid your feet will be lifted up even. But, Elizabeth and darcy marriage is detached itself from the book describes several other marriage, is because two people not only moral, and it is truly in love.(4)“It is a truth universally acknowledge，that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.” The beginning of this design,(5) Jane Austen has profound implication is. Money and marriage are inseparable, this author dont deny that. To ensure that the family happiness and good health, the most basic or need to do is the basis of wealth. And for money leading marriage this idea, Austin is a critical attitude, but she didnt have to social critics of the identity of the essence of exposing the social, and not the radical artists of extreme gimmick. Her irony is spicy and relaxed witty, both profound and fluid nature. Through a few marriage she reveals the description of the then social interest money in marriage play a crucial role, peoples feelings will be affected by its control. Lydia and vicks marriage, not only is completely by money or so, and the combination of the two people, had also just because cheap sexual attraction. This kind of marriage will not only bring you unfortunately, the more will give their family cause harm, Jane Austin most against this combination. For charlotte and Collins filled with realistic marriage, the author also do not approve of. But the description, we also recognize that at the time of the social environment, peoples feelings have to obey the money of the helpless (actually in todays society might it not so?) . Let the reader to them a little understanding and tolerance. As the marxist critics. MaKe David, talking about human behavior when the economy once said: Jane Austen, in a certain sense, is more than Marx early marxist.In developing country , because of the material, worship of the backward prevail. For example: the more backward areas have the price being paid requirements; The less developed areas of both sides, money and position equivalent of the greater the see; Married to spend more grandiose, to prove his rich have a face.But in the westen country, due to material developed/economic independence/social security is perfect, so dont have to rely on one of the other party in the marriage life, so the money less influence factors. In the meantime, both sides are more likely to each other for the independent and sign prenuptial agreement, to have a better protection for both sides.In short, whether in developing China or in the western developed western countries, people have many similarities about relationship of money and marriage.IV. Ancient and modern contastAncient Chinese marriage is the standard equal. When the western zhou dynasty ban with civilians to intermarriage no