大学英语-作文-Men-vs-Women.docx

精品文档Men vs WomenWhenever you hear complaints from a young guy about the hardship of relationships between men and women, there is no necessity for you to be surprised. Nowadays, even for college students, how to handle their relationships with their boyfriends or girlfriends is very likely to be one of their compulsory courses. For instance, recently my roommate has been dating with a cute guy, which is supposed to be a golden time. Instead, she always comes to me with an air of disappointment, and the catch, at every turn, is not a big deal. “Why cant he understand what I mean?” How often I hear such complaints concerning about those trivial things. The reason behind it is that there is a gap between them, burdening their relationship. Worse still, they never know the gap really exists.However, it seems that the youngsters have to learn the compulsory course by themselves, since in the current educational system, there is nothing to make our future generation realize that they have to distinguish men from women at the level of mind. Worse yet, for women, the overemphasis of feminism gets them off the track towards a happy relationship. For men, the notion that the relationship thing is destined to be brushed aside or, at least, taken slightly, has long instilled into them. Small wonder, then, that they overlook the fact that familiarizing themselves with a new friend could be challenging, and getting along with their boyfriends or girlfriends may be more so. Whenever a conflict happens, the one and only thing they exert efforts is to minimize the effect, not solving the real problems.I am not exaggerating the dimension of incongruity and its negative effects between men and women. And I strongly commend the marvelous book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. It suggests that when coping with those problems of relationship, the very first thing to do is to recognize the difference. We need to come to term with the fact that not only does the incongruity between men and women exist, but there also is a small glint of hope for us to change it. That does not mean we have to wrestle with the problem all the time or go to great lengths to get better of the one you love. In order to have an ideal relationship rather than fights of men versus women, for one thing, you should learn to be tolerant. Since settling the problem of incongruity is of little hope, tolerance is going to play a crucial role for a long-term relationship. For another, negotiation is essential. When facing the gap between men and women, communication, to a certain extent, would reduce the differences. When you exchange your different ideas, they will collide and then become the same one. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. We had a tough time of preparing the college entrance exam under great pressure, keeping a secret relationship in front of our parents and overcoming the burden of distance when we became college students, just to name three. There have been numerous problems between us and we have quarreled, but we never forget how important communication is, which is the secret for beating over the dire problems and keeping a good, long-term relationship.Do not be filled with the sense of dread next time you come across some conflicts with the one you love. Realize the problem of incongruity, be tolerant and exchange your ideas. W