大学英语口语教程 Make a good impression

HowtoMakeaGoodImpression,AimsofThisUnit,1.LearnsomeusefulwordsandexpressionsrelatedtothetopicsofHowtoMakeaGoodImpression.2.Learnhowtouseproperwordsandexpressionstomakeagoodimpression.3.ConductaseriesofspeakingactivitiestodeveloptheiroralEnglishcommunicativecompetence.,PartOne:Questions,1.Discusstheimportanceofafirstgoodimpression,Tomakeagoodimpression,wehavetohavedeepconfidenceinourselves.Ifyouarecalmandconfident,theotherpersonwillfeelmoreateaseandthismakesasolidfoundationofagoodfirstimpression.,2.Whenmeetinganimportantperson,youwanttomakeagoodimpression,isconfidentveryimportant?Why?,3.Youarenotbornprettyorhandsome,howdoyoudressyourselftomakeagoodimpression?,Althoughphysicalappearanceseemstobemoreimportantnowadays,dontgetupsetifyouarenotbornpretty/handsome.Trypresentingyourselfappropriately,donotdressforyourownmood.Makesurethatyoulookcleanandtidyasthishelptomakeagoodimpression.,4.Howdoyoumakeuseofyourownbodylanguagetomakeagoodimpression?,standtall,smile,makeeyecontact,handshake,Bodylanguageaswellasappearancespeaksmuchlouderthanwords.Thus,standtall,smilemakeeyecontact,greetwithafirmhandshake.Allofthiswillhelpyouprojectconfidenceandencouragebothyouandtheotherpersonfeelbetteratease.,themostimportantthingisasmile.Awarmandconfidentsmilewillputbothyouandtheotherpersonatease.Youhavetolooksincereandtruewhileyouaresmiling.,5.Howcanyoumakeagoodimpressionthroughyourconversations?,Donttalknon-stop,Dontstartcriticizingpeople,Conversationsshouldbeshortandsweet.Donttalknon-stopasthismakestheotherpersonbored.Trytofindsomethingcommonbetweenthetwoofyoutotalksoastokeepitflowing.Staypositive,politeanddontstartcriticizingpeopleormakesarcasticcommentsbecausethiswillspoilyourimage.,PartTwoRole-play,Makeuseofthefollowingexpressionstorole-playansimpleinterviewwithyourpartner.,UsefulExpressions,interview面试face-to-faceconversationrequest需要，要求orderasrequested应邀beinvitedassistant助理的，辅助的；助手somebodythathelpstodosomethingassoonaspossible尽快immediatelycolleague同事coworkerappointment约会，约定datefluent流利的，流畅的smoothbyappointment按约定accordingtotherequestedorder.befamiliarwith熟悉havingfamiliaritywith,PartThree:Dialogue:HowtoMakeaFabulousFirstImpression,ChenhaohasworkedinanAmericancompanythatliesinBeijingforonemonth.TodayhehasachancetomeethisCEOforthefirsttime,inordertomakeafabulousfirstimpression,hedecidestohaveatalkwithMaryaboutthis.,C:Mary,IwillmeettheCEOforthefirsttimethisafternoon,canyougivemesomeadvice?M:Thefirstimpressionisveryimportant.Researchshowswemakeupourmindsaboutpeoplethroughunspokencommunicationwhenwemeetsomepeopleforthefirsttime.,C:Soifyoucandressupyourselfbeautifully,everythingisOK?M：No,youarewrong,youshoulddressupyourselfproperly.youshouldalsoremember,whenyoumeetsomeone,itispoliteforyoutowashandcombyourhair.C:Oh,Itseemsthatmanyofmycolleagueswearties,isitnecessary?,M：Year,dontforgettowearyourtieafterawhile.C:OK,Iwillhaveitdonesoon.M：Waitaminute,oh,yourpantsistoolong,remember,Pantsshouldnotdragonthefloor。C:Iwillwearotherpantsthisafternoon.M：YoushouldalsokeepinmindthatShoesshouldbepolishedandingoodcondition.,C:Oh,ImhappyIhavemadethempolished.M：Whydoyouwearwhitesocks,neverdothatnexttime.C:Therearesomanyrules,andnowImsonervousthatIforgetthemall,canyourepeatthemtome?M：Hairshouldbewellmaintained;tiesproperlytied；pantsshouldnotdragthefloor;shoesshouldbepolished.Andnowhitesocks,please.C:thanksalot.,Completethedialogue,afterthat,role-playitwithyourpartner.,PartFour:Completethedialogue,GreetingYourColleagueswithCourtesy,陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作。他刚好遇到美国同事Amy.(Officeambience)C：HiAmy,howareyou?A：Iamfine,thankyou.Andyou?C：有件事一直让我摸不着头脑。A：Aboutwhat?C：我的新同事Carol很奇怪。每天早上，如果我不主动跟她打招呼的话，她肯定不会主动理我。,A：Youmeanshedoesntsay,GoodMorningunlessyousayitfirst?C：没错。我昨天就没主动跟她说早安，结果不出所料，她真的没有主动理我。A：Doesshetalktoyouduringtheday?C：谈工作的时候她倒是跟我讲话，就是从来不主动问好，或是打招呼。A：Shesoundsrude.Itmustbedifficulttoworkwithsomeonelikethat.C：是啊，跟她相处让我觉得挺不自在。,A：Youneedtotalktoher.Otherwisethingsaregoingtogetworse.C：其实现在已经影响到我的工作了。我们天天在一起工作，但她却好像没我这个人似的。A：Anunfriendlyco-workerisbadformoraleandproductivity.C：我今天得找机会跟她谈谈。,陈豪下班后在车站遇到了Amy，两人一起等车。A：ChenHao,howdiditgo?DidyougetachancetotalktoCaroltoday?C：我专门等周围没人的时候去找了她。A：Thatwasgoodthatyouwaiteduntilnooneelsewaspresent.Youwouldntwanttotalkaboutasensitiveissueinfrontofothers.C：我记得你以前提醒过我，这种敏感的事情最好是等周围没人的时候谈。A：Tellmewhathappened?Whatdidyousay?C：我问她为什么早上从不主动跟我打招呼，是不是我有什么地方得罪她了。,A：Whatdidshesay?C：她显得很吃惊。她说自己总是第一个来上班，因此后来的应该主动跟先来的打招呼。我不主动向她问好，会让她觉得受了冷落。A：Yourekidding.ThatsthesilliestthingIeverheard.C：我当时也是这么想，但是没敢直说，只是说谁主动跟别人打招呼跟先来后到没关系。A：Youareabsolutelyright.Nooneshouldwaitforanyoneelsetospeakfirst,smilefirstorevenmakeeyecontactbeforeacknowledgingtheotherperson.,C：对呀，如果真那样的话，办公室里干脆谁也别理谁算了。我希望这次谈话能有助于改善跟Carol的关系。A：Sohowdidyouleavethesituation?C：她最后向我赔礼道歉，说没想到会让我觉得不自在。我想，明天早上上班就知道今天的谈话有没有效果了。A：Youwererighttodiscussitwithher.Youdonthavetobebestfriendswithallthepeopleyouworkwith,butyoushouldtreateachoneofthemwithcourtesyandrespect.C：是啊，有的时候，一句“早上好”就能给一天带来一个好的开端。,PartFivePassage:One:HowtoMakeaFabulousFirstImpression,Yougetonlyonechancetomakeafabulousfirstimpression!Businessisbuiltonrelationships,andtypicallythosefirstfewsecondsofaninitialencounterwilldeterminethedirectionthatrelationshipcouldtake.Thekeytomakingagreatfirstimpressionisensuringthattheotherpersonfeelsimportant,allowinghimorhertobaskinthespotlight.Studieshaverepeatedlyshownthatwheneverweencountersomeoneforthefirsttime,oneoftwopossibletapesbeginstoplayinourminds:apositiveoranegativeone.Ifthepositivetapestartstoplay,anysubsequentimpressionsoractionsthatarenegativewilllikelybedismissedasunimportant.Conversely,ifthenegativetapeplays,anypositiveinformationreceivedwillsimilarlybedismissed.,Mostoftheseresponsesandreactionsareprocessedonasubconsciouslevel.Makingaspectacularfirstimpressionisaskillthatcanbedeveloped.UsetheSevenSimpleStepsbelowtohelpyousucceed:StepOne:EyeContact-Thewindowstoyoursoulrevealthetruthaboutyoursincerity.Maintaingoodeyecontact.Failuretolookdirectlyatthepersoncanconveyalackofself-confidence.NetworkingNo-No:Neverlookaroundtheroomatothersbeforeyouveestablishedrapportwiththepersoninfrontofyou.Doingsocommunicatesthemessage,“Imreallymoreinterestedinthosepeopleacrosstheroomthaninyou.”,StepTwo:ShakingHands-Thewayweholdanothershandwillconveypresenceandenthusiasmorsendanegativemessage.Afirmhandshake,withyourthumbnotchescontactingeachother,willearnyoupositivepoints.Maintainthecontactforatleasttwoseconds.StepThree:FacialExpression-Alwaysdisplayawarm,sinceresmile.Thesloweryousmile,themoresincerityyoucommunicate-showingthatyouredevelopingatrueappreciationofhimorher.Consciouslythinkingapositive,affirmingthoughtaboutthepersonwillautomaticallyproduceanaturalsmile.Itwillalsogeneratetherighttoneinyourvoice.StepFour:NameRecall-Everyonesfavoritewordishisorhername!Rememberanduseapersonsname.Thisletsthemknowthattheyreimportanttousand,ofcourse,ournumber-oneobjectiveistomakethemfeelspecial.Masteringnamerecallisamatterofmotivation,techniqueandpractice.,StepFive:BodyPosture-Energyiskey!Oneofthebestwaystoenergizeyourselfistodwellonapositivethoughtaboutthepersoninfrontofyou.“Whatawarmsmile!”Or,“Ireallyenjoyhisenthusiasm!”Standstraight,withshouldersbackandchinhigh,leaningforwardveryslightlywhentalking.Keepyourbody“open”ataslightangle,ratherthatdirectlyfacetoface,thusgivingthemmore“personalspace”andallowingagreaterlevelofcomfort.StepSix:ThatInitialQuestion-Setthetonefortheconversation.Beginthedialoguebyaskingaquestionaboutthepersonhimselforherselfthatreflectssincereinterest,andmakesthepersonfeelimportant.Youmayfindyoucanhelptheminsomeway.Evenifyournewfoundfriendisntapotentialclient,asyougettoknoweachother,youmaydiscoverthatheorsheisacquaintedwithseverallikelycandidatesforyourserviceorproductandwouldbedelightedtorecommendyoutothem.,StepSeven:TheConversation-Honorthepersonandmakethemfeelspecialbyexpressinggenuineadmiration.Complimenttheminasincereway.Forexample,“Whatagreatoutfit!Areyouanimageconsultant?”“Youhaveawonderfulspiritaboutyou.Areyoualifecoach?”Lookatthepersonspeakingandnodoften.ChimeinwiththeoccasionalIsee,orIunderstand,indicatingthatyouarelisteningcarefully.Paycloseattentiontotheconversation;thoselittledetailsmaybeusefulinthenearfuture.NetworkingNo-No:Neverinterrupt.Thisclearlyinformsyournewfriendthatyouarenotfocusedonwhatheorshehastosaybuthavesimplybeenwaitingforanopportunitytospeakyourself.,Weveallmetpeoplewhomweinstantlylikeandwanttogettoknowmoreordobusinesswith.Thesepeopleareusuallyfollowingthestepsabovetomakeastronginitialimpressioninthoseall-importantfirst30seconds-andyoucandothesame.Makingagreatfirstimpressionisanessentialaspectofsuccessfulnetworking.Itsaskillthat,withtherightmotivation,alittleeff