商务综合英语Unit 5 marriage and family

1、.,unit 5 marriage and family,.,word power,matrimony: the state of being married arranged marriage marry/wed sb. / get married /engaged /divorced / be wedded to sb. propose/ proposal engage /engagement separate- divorce live together/ cohabit /cohabitation wedding ceremony vows honeymoon single/bache

2、lor /spinster fianc fiance newlyweds couple life partner spouse divorce ex-wife stepmother widow -widower bride/groom bridesmaid /best man/ flower girl / ring bearer monogamy bigamy polygamy adultery tie the knot stay in the marriage walk away from the marriage,family extended family nuclear family

3、single parent family broken family on the brink of divorce,.,family tree,.,what do you think about marriage? marriage is about. why do people get married? financial, emotional, social, historical, economic, cultural, political, religious. why nowadays we have so many single people? is it typical in

4、china?,.,.,.,.,some quotes,p 112 恋爱虽易，婚姻不易，且行且珍惜。 when you marry the right woman, you are complete. （娶对老婆，你这一生就完整了。） when you marry the wrong woman, you are finished. （娶错老婆，你这一生就完蛋了。） and when the right one catches you with the wrong one, you are completely finished. （让老婆逮到你跟小三，你就彻底地完蛋了。）,.,origin o

5、f marriage: more than 4,000 years old,bible: adam: “this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh” (gen. 2:23). god: “it is not good for the man to be alone. i will make a helper suitable for him” (gen. 2:18). jesus himself defined the origin and essence of marriage in matthew 19:4-6: “havent

6、you read . . . that at the beginning the creator made them male and female, and said for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? so they are no longer two, but one. therefore what god has joined together, let man not separate.”

7、 commandment “you shall not commit adultery.”,.,biological reason: to ensure that the children are their biological heirs. emotional reason: romantic love financial reason: property political: stability of the society many people hold the view that regardless of how people enter into matrimony, marr

8、iage is a bond between two people that involves responsibility and legalities, as well as commitment and challenge. that concept of marriage hasnt changed through the ages.,.,family,how important is family to us? in what way it plays an important role in our life?,.,development of family,extended fa

9、mily nuclear family stepfamily unmarried couples living together / cohabitation key driving force: womens role / status; industrialization,.,importance of family,a social / economic unit where you learn how to love, how to behave, how to come along in life, how to relate to others emotional support,

10、 unconditional love where we foster our values, form our personality key agent of socialization,.,topic for presentation: wedding,1. western wedding: before, during and after the wedding (procedure, ceremony) p114 d, p116 a. 2. western wedding vs chinese wedding 3. perform a wedding ceremony(act it

11、out; the church scene; the banquet scene),.,what are the problems in marriage?,the reasons for divorce statistics,.,marital problems,extramarital affair/ infidelity / unfaithfulness /cheating domestic abuse sexual problems marriage stressors,.,models for marriage,main idea though it is recognized by

12、 some politicians that marriage is important to the national unity, the divorce rate remains very high in our society, which drives us to ask what goes wrong with this marriage institution and whether it is possible to reverse this trend. the reasons behind the high divorce rate can be traced down t

13、o the culture of immediate gratification and social values of self-importance which do not prepare the young to make sacrifice in marriage when faced with the challenges of marriage. this problem begins when people view marriage as an optional addition to a sexual relationship. they enter marriage w

14、ith a high expectation of personal satisfaction and when moments of difficulty and examination arise, they just quit. the joys of the spirit and of the heart, the enduring happiness, the moral satisfaction that come from fulfilling the commitment and selfishless giving in times of adversity of marri

15、age are not savored when the education of our young do not aim at teaching them what a life of selfless love can promise. the solution is to teach the young to love without counting the cost.,.,part i: para 1-3,proposal to do sth. propose that put forward/ approve/ reject a proposal set aside 我同学每月都

16、会花至少一百元买书。 come to do sth. union beyond get back on track get / run off the track; keep/lose track of sb./ sth. -oriented put sth. in second place context: circumstances, situation you are quoting my words out of context. fulfill fulfilling fulfilling career / experience,comprehension questions 1. w

17、hat is the novel idea mentioned in para 1? 2. what is the authors opinion of the proposal? 3. substitute? dynamics？ 4. the challenges of marriage? 4. do you agree with the author that marriage and family life help us to transform from thinking about ourselves to thinking about others? what do you th

18、ink marriage and family life benefit us? 5. how does family influence ones marriage? 6. what is marriage in your opinion? paraphrase: p120,.,marriage,sociallyrecognized and approved union between individuals, who commit to one another with the expectation of a stable and lasting intimate relationshi

19、p.,.,paraphrasing,this original idea shows that some politicians begin to realize united states united status is largely by the american families united status, in other words, whether the married couple have a good relationship. apart from all the research figures and interesting personal stories a

20、bout divorce, what are the most important elements that make the marriage system successful or problematic? the key to the marriage issue is whether or not our society has encouraged an atmosphere or fostered a way of thinking that make people no longer able to face and solve the challenges of marri

21、age.,.,part ii: para 4- 5,be ignorant of tempt to; be tempted to cut ones loss approach 在我看来，没有哪个作曲家可以比得上mozart. with/without reference to 关于你上封信提到的产品缺陷问题，我们的答复如下。 figure in 他出演了好几部电视剧的主角。,comprehensionquestions: 1.rather than marriage, what are we actually preparing the young people for?. 2. what a

22、re the reasons for divorce? 3. what does our culture of easy promiscuity encourage? 4. whats wrong when pleasure figures in the beginning of a relationship? 4. paraphrasing,.,pleasure and happiness,pleasure is a discreet and enjoyable experience: a sugar-covered donut, sex, listening to music, watch

23、ing an absorbing movie. as satisfying as pure pleasure is, it is also transitory and often quite superficial.,happiness, is making steady, measurable, and observable progress in achieving the long-term goals that are a part of a lifetime plan.,.,happiness is rooted in some combinationofthemostbasicd

24、esiresforagoodlifethatnearlyeveryindividualholds:toloveandbeloved;tosuccessfullyraiseafamily;toshareamplequalitytimewithfriendsandlovedones;tobeenjoyablyengagedinagainfulpursuit,onethatfullyemploysandcontinuouslyexpandsonesskills,haspurpose,earnsfairrecognitionandprovidesrewardsthatareeconomicallyan

25、d/oremotionallysatisfying;andtobeavaluedandrespectedmemberofonescommunityandsociety. inthisregard,pleasureisanevent;happinessisaprocess. pleasureisanendpoint;happinessisthejourney.pleasureismaterial;happinessisspiritual.pleasureisself-involved;happinessisouter-andother-involved.,.,paraphrasing,the c

26、ommon practice of having many sexual partners in the society influences many young people. they decide to have sexual relationships without thinking about future marriage. if one begins a relationship with another mainly focusing on the sexual side, this relationship is one that begins with pleasure

27、 but the pleasure doesnt last long.,.,part iii： para 6-9para 6-7,neither. nor be impeded by. 战争与疾病阻碍了他事业的发展。 fashion sth. out of. in anticipation of optional addition contribute to teach the lesson,where do your joys of heart come from? what is a strong marriage like? whats wrong of viewing marriage

28、 as a kind of optional addition to a sexual relationship? what does it mean?,.,para 8-9,at every stage preoccupation with be preoccupied with: be engaged in pave the way for. sth. (a situation, opportunity) present itself/themselves,the prospect of in the times of fill the years to follow lay the fo

29、undation for prepare sb. for sth. be prepared to do sth. turn away from commitment,.,when does the most dangerous moment come? where did the foundation of permanent happiness in marriage come from? (para 9) in what way we should prepare our children for marriage? para 8 analyze the first sentence pa

30、ra 8 duty and labor for another para 9 the first moments of sacrifice; examination? what are they? examples? paraphrasing,.,paraphrasing,if a marriage begins not with the wish to love and serve each other, but with the expectation to have sexual pleasure, that marriage is actually not going to be a

31、strong one. those who decided to have sexual relationship with one another without thinking about future marriage may as well consider a marriage can be something add on to a sexual relationship, but not a necessary part. will it be surprising then, if they also consider children something they can

32、choose to add on to a marriage, but not a necessary part of marriage? also, is it possible that a marriage in which the parents think childrens existence/function is to make the parents happier really can teach the family members to try their best to make others life happy?,.,paraphrasing,at the tim

33、e when marriage is not the future concern of a sexual relationship or when children are not considered crucial in a marriage, the couples will feel unpleasant to find their partners have needs for them which they cant escaping from meeting. since the relationship begins with self-centeredness, the c

34、all for sacrificing for the other comes as a surprise. (para 8),.,part iv:para 10-12,spit out savor lie hidden in aim at doing sth. above all paradoxically domestic union deign to do sth love without counting the cost revive the happiness,.,what were the unexpected flavor and the something that if e

35、xpected, we would have savored with the highest regard actually referring to? what are commitments of family life? what goal should the education of our young people aim at? what are the things in marriage that our culture of self-gratification should prepare the young to taste? what does the author mainly argue in this article? do you agree with him? is china facing the same problem?,.,paraphrasing,since we do not expect