[英语学习]letgo与翻译.doc

中国矿业大学徐海学院英语专业综 合 技 能 训 练（1） 姓 名： 冯昌璇 班 级： 英语09-3班 学 号： 22090685 指 导 教 师： 刘 宝 2011年12月放 手爱的体验是一种生活状态.但爱存在时，你就能快乐，充满生机，感到自由，感觉到不仅是自己，整个生活都是美好的。当你把爱的体验带入生活，生活就会过得更容易，美好的事情也就会发生了。爱的对立面是恐惧和失望。当它们存在时，就会困扰你。让你失去创造力和洞察力，视野变得狭窄，所做的事情也往往只会让境况更糟糕。你被爱包围或是陷于失望之中，不取决于你处的环境，而取决于你如何处理这些环境。一个很好的办法是审视你的失望。失望似乎是由发生的事引起的，但实际上不是，它是因对抗和抵制发生的事所引起的。为了证实这一点，选一件最近令你失望的事，试试不论发生什么你都平静对待，看会发生什么，失望会消失。失望会消失是因为失望不是由发生的事引起的，而是因对抗和抵制所发生的事引起的。当你不再对抗和抵制时，失望也随之消失了。为让生活充满爱，创造一个有效的生活，你需要停止对抗和抵制，要做到这样，你需要学会放手。放手是释放恐惧和失望的心理状态。放手的那一刻，一切也就改变了。恐惧和失望消失，你就能以不同的视角看待环境，创造力回归，也就发现之前不曾发现的新发法。要学会放手，你要学会走到对抗和抵制的对立面。放弃你对生活的要求和期待，平静的看待生活。找到你所抵制的事物，允许它们的存在。如果你害怕失去一段关系，自由地任其发展吧；如果你抵制某人的行为，那就别在意，让他去做吧。乐意去接受所有事情，让你内心自由释放。做一些能让你的生活更加幸福的事情。谨记在心，放手是一种内心的状态，与你的行为无关。放手消除了恐惧和失望，让你看清你能够做什么。在你内心，你可以接受失去某人。但在行动上，你要尽一切所能，让那人感受到你爱他，让他不愿离开。为让放手变得简单些，你可以借鉴一下几个小步骤。首先是相信。不论发生什么，你都会没事。当你知道自己会没事时，放手就变得相对简单了。相信也就带来了事实。不论发生什么都好，你确实会没事。因为只有在你抵制生活时，它才会很糟糕。所以停止抵制，学会相信吧。不论发生什么，你都会没事。其次，在学会放手的过程中要愿意感受痛苦，去体会所有伤痛和境遇不令人满意时的感受。愿意感受糟糕或不太好时的痛苦。就是为了避免感受这样的痛苦，你才会抵制生活。一但你愿意去感受这些痛苦，抵制就没有必要了，你也就放手了。例如，罗伯特害怕失去她的妻子简，为了确保简不会离开他，他紧紧握住她。但是他的紧握却把她推得更远。罗伯特害怕失去简，因为如果简离开，他就得经历不被爱的苦楚。他不想经历，只有紧握。但是，如果他愿意接受这种痛苦，失去简的恐惧也就不存在了。他不再急切地想抓住简，而是可以接受她的离开。这种想法改变了两人之间的关系，从单纯需要简转变到学会珍惜她。简感受到深深地被爱和独立的存在感，她也就不愿离开。这就是生活。你能越好的学会放手，顺其自然，生活也就能越轻松自在。你可能不会得到你想要的东西，但是可以得到内心的自由释放。内心的平静得以恢复，工作也能高效率，也就能创造一个有效的生活了。Let goThe experience of love is an inner state. When this is present, you are happy, alive, and free. You feel good about yourself and good about life. As you bring this experience of love into your life, life works effortlessly and great things happen. The opposite of love is fear and upset. When this is present, you lose down inside. You lose your creativity and ability to see clearly. You get tunnel vision and you interact in a way that almost always makes your situation worse. Whether you live in a state of love or a state of upset depends, not on your circumstances, but on how you relate to your circumstances. A good way to see this is to look at upset. Upsets seem to be caused by what happens but they are not. Upsets are caused by your fighting and resisting what happens. To see this in your life, select a recent upset, now notice what would happen if somehow you were at peace with what happened. There would be no upset. There would be no upset because upsets arent caused by what happened. Upsets are caused by fighting and resisting what happened. The moment you take away the fighting and resisting, the upset disappears. To live the experience of love, and to create a life that works, you need to stop the fighting and resisting. You do this through a process called letting go. Letting go is the inner action that releases the fear and upset. The moment you let go, everything seems to change. With the fear and upset gone, you see your situation very differently. You become creative and discover solutions that you could never have seen before. To let go, you need to do the opposite of fighting and resisting. You need to let go of your demands and expectations for how life should be and make peace with the way life is. Find what you are resisting. Then give it full permission to be there. If you have a fear of losing a relationship, be willing to be it. If you are resisting the way someone is, then give the person full permission to be that way. Be willing for anything. Set yourself free inside. Then take whatever action you need to have your life be great. Keep in mind that letting go is a state of mind and has nothing to do with your actions. Letting go is the process that removes the fear and upset so you can see what action you need to take. In your heart, you can be willing to lose someone, but in your actions, do everything you can to make sure that person feels so loved that he or she would never want to leave. To make letting go a little easier, there are several steps you can take. The first is trusting. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be okay. When you know that you will be okay, letting go becomes relatively easy. Trusting is also telling the truth. You really will be okay no matter what happens. Life is only threatening when you resist. So stop resisting and trust. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be okay. The second step in the process of letting go is to be willing to feel your hurt. Be willing to feel all the hurt and the feelings of being not okay that your circumstances reactivate. Be willing to feel the hurt of being worthless or not good enough . The avoidance of this hurt is what makes you resist. Once you are willing to feel this hurt, the need to resist disappears. You can then let go.For example, Robert has a fear of losing his wife Jane. To make sure she didnt leave, he hung on to her. His hanging on then pushed her further and further away. Robert was afraid of losing Jane because if she left him, this would reactivate all his hurt of feeling not worth loving. To avoid this hurt. He hung on.Once he was willing to feel this hurt, the lose of Jane ceased to be a treat. He no longer needed to hung on and became willing for her to leave. The moment this happened he changed the way he related to her. Instead of needing Jane, he started treasuring her. Jan then felt so loved and able to be herself, she didnt want to leave. This is what