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成人高等教育本科生毕业论文题目： 农村学校中的师生关系 学生姓名：舒 勇 学号： 20091070008 系别：数 学 系 专业：数学与应用数学 学习形式： 函 授 指导教师： 李 敏 起止日期： 2010、92011、5 2011年4月18日农村学校中的师生关系摘 要自从农民的“皇粮国税”被取消，政府反而予以农民补贴之后，广大农民朋友关心的问题莫过于教育和医疗。治病救命与医生的关系他们没有发言的权利与选择，教育对多数农民朋友而言，所产生的直接效果远远不及医疗效果那么直接明显，但是教育支出却是相当的明显醒目，因此谈到教育问题时，教师就是替罪头羊。而教师的职业特点造就天天与学生见面打交道，农民与教师的关系也就自然而然地移交到老师与学生的师生关系上了。本文结合笔者十余年的农村从教的亲身经历和感受，对农村学校的师生关系的现状、成因及解决途径进行一些尝试性探讨和实践。关键词 师生关系；和谐；平等The relationship between teachers and students; Harmony; equality 一、引言随着人们对教育活动的认识不断深入，教育即交往逐渐成为一个时髦且深刻的命题1。各种各样的交往关系影响着教育效果，而师生关系的状况直接影响着教育的效果，于是师生关系也自然成为现代教育研究一个颇受关注的话题。有这样一个事实我们必须承认，学生有时候尊重你，爱戴你，在很大程度上不在于你所讲的话多么有道理，也不在于你的专业功底多么深厚，而取决于你与学生之间的师生关系怎样。正如一位心理咨询专家所说，“沟通的微妙之处不在于道理，而在于关系2”。如果师生关系不好，即使老师讲的话很有道理，学生仍然难以接受。所以，我们首先需要考虑的就是建立一种怎样的师生关系。二、师生关系的现状 先来看看一些师生关系的案例：某中学英语课堂上两名男生打牌，老师发现予以制止，两名男生破口大骂英语老师，致使老师羞愤难当，回到办公室脑溢血死亡。安徽长丰县双墩镇吴店中学的两名学生在课堂上打架，被曝授课教师杨经贵没有制止，而是坚持继续上课，以致一名学生死亡。 女教师被逼向学生下跪道歉后进精神病院（华西都市报），教师因批评学生挨耳光并被打倒在地（北京晨报）。 小学教师疑因体罚学生被家长要求道歉服毒自杀（中国网） 教师不管、被殴、被辱、被逼疯甚至被弑的新闻，成为社会关注的焦点，蜇痛了人们的心。同时，也折射出当前中国教育的弊端，功利教育导致师生关系扭曲和变异。 三、扭曲师生关系的成因 1、教师方面当前师德师风很不乐观，有很多的教师的素质低、对学生不负责任，工具理性在教育界“蔚然成风”，教师把教书作为生存的工具，而学生把接受教育作为参与社会竞争的工具，教师和学生之间，只是金钱关系、利益关系，而不复传统的师徒关系，“亦师亦父”的师生关系荡然无存3。随着经济社会学的影响日益蔓延，学校不在是象牙塔，不在是独立于社会的一方净土，生存的压力、利益的驱使使得许多教师的师德发生了质的变化，把教育当做商业贸易，把学生当做会生金蛋的鸡。教书育人的天职在他们的脑海中消失殆尽，追逐利益成了他们的目标，老师成了老板，学生成了他们眼中的顾客。道德的败坏使得他们不在关心学生的成长，不在重视自己肩上所承担的历史使命，无视法律法规，漠视学生，是师生关系矛盾的主要方面。2、学生方面对学生的身心健康来说，家庭的影响很大。国内外大量研究表明，不良家庭环境因素容易造成家庭成员的心理行为异常。这些因素主要有：家庭主要成员变动，如父母死亡、父母离异或分居、父母再婚等4；当前学生的家庭教育状况不容乐观，农村留守儿童已经成为一大社会问题。家庭是孩子的第一课堂，父母是孩子的第一任老师，而现如今农村留守儿童占农村学校学生的比例在笔者所到过的学校中达到了六成，并且还有上升的势头，许多学生对父母的印象也就是过年时的身影和平时偶尔电话中传出的声音。家庭教育的缺位使得学生的性格格外偏激，对父母的敢怒不敢言、怨恨都只有往朝夕相处的老师身上发泄，犹如一只只愤怒的刺猬随时准备发射蜇人的刺，惹不得碰不得！以前人们总是常说“穷人的孩子早当家”，懂事，容易教育，那是因为孩子长期在父母身边，耳濡目染久而久之形成的良性循环。而如今当老师说起父母的爱的伟大时，学生的脸上有的茫然，有的冷漠，有的甚至还有些许愤怒！在学生的心中，老师是父母的说客、不负责任的开脱者，在与教师的交往过程中，因为对父母的不满转嫁到同样身为大人的老师身上。如，把老师对他们的批评看成是找岔儿；教师的态度稍微严厉一点，就认为是不尊重他们、不民主等等。学生看待某些问题思想有一些偏激是正常现象，因为他们终究是不成熟的孩子，但是长期的父母不在身边及时疏导、给以正确的引导，造成的后果却是灾难性的！这也是师生关系紧张的又一主要原因。3、教育主管方面当前应试教育体系，注重知识教育，忽视了学生心理健康教育、生命教育，使学生人格不健全，也不珍惜生命。各级教育主管部门对下属单位、学校的评价唯分是从，年终评价分数按分数排名的行为屡禁不止；对个人的评价也是看教学成绩，导致老师把分数看成自己的命根，片面追求分数，忽视学生的健康成长。错误行使教师的教学自主权，对学生管理严格、要求严格，不但不会让学生感激，反过来会惹来学生的记恨，家长的指责，由此学生的行为被纵容，无法无天，对教师没有起码的尊敬。这是加在师生关系上的一个魔咒，此咒不除，师生关系决难改善！ 4、社会方面 社会因素主要包括政治、经济、文化教育、社会关系等，这些因素对一个人的生存和发展起着决定作用5。其中社会生活中的种种不健康的思想、情感和行为，严重地毒害着学生的心灵。特别在当前，人与人之间的交往日益广泛，各种社会传媒的作用越来越大，生活紧张事件增多，矛盾、冲突、竞争加剧。所有这些现象都会加重学生的心理负担和内心矛盾，影响学生的身心健康。当前农村中对学生的影响最大的莫过于网吧、游戏厅了，网吧游戏厅的老板唯利是图，置国家法律于不顾，学生成了他们的主要收入来源，大肆允许未成年人进入其内。对于老师的巡查他们给予放哨、开后门，对于无钱上网的学生他们给予赊账，甚至放高利贷！利欲熏心使得他们丧失做人的基本准则，最起码的商业道德也没有，丝毫没有关心下一代的健康成长！，泯灭了作为父母、家长甚至作为人最起码该尽得教育责任，怂恿学生逃课、打架，和父母、家长、老师作对，长此以往学生对于学习丧失兴趣，沉迷游戏娱乐之中，远离父母、老师，远离真正关心他们健康成长的人！而政府主管这些的部门睁一只眼闭一只眼，只要经济繁荣，至于精神文明吗？不是他们的业绩成就展示的指标，不用他们管的!以前的政府部门还要管收粮，现在不用操那份闲心了。该负的教育责任都还一个劲的往学校推，使得学生一走出校门受到教育的机会为零，对教师的评价也就是:老师拿走了财政收入的多少多少，让学生耳濡目染的是金钱利益关系，不利于学生的身心健康。四、建立良好师生关系的途径1、提高师德修养，塑造高尚师德形象。 所谓师德，是指教师和一切教育工作者在从事教育活动中必须遵守的道德规范和行为准则。师德是教师队伍建设的根本；教师整体素质的核心；也是良好师生关系建立的助推器。师德兴则教育兴，教育兴则民族兴6。胡锦涛同志曾在会见全国优秀教师代表时强调：广大教师和教育工作者要时刻不忘党和人民的重托；把培养优秀人才作为自己的重大责任，要自觉加强道德修养，孜孜不倦地钻研业务，不断提高育人水平；要率先垂范，为人师表，真正成为学生健康成长的引路人。就是说教师应该忠诚党的教育事业，热爱学生、关心学生。教师是管人的人，但管人首先要学会做人，做好人，然后才有资格去教育管理人，正如孔子所说：其身正，不令而行；其身不正，虽令不从。如果不杜绝教师队伍中的不道德现象，不完善教师的人格形象，塑造学生灵魂又从何谈起？所以，教师应不断提高自身道德修养，树立高尚的师德形象。首先，要有敬业爱岗，立志终生植根于教育行业，专心治学治教，躬耕教坛,孜孜以求，无私奉献，这是干好教育事业的思想基础。其次，树立牢固的法制观念，学法讲法，以法执教，依照教育法、教师法、未成年人保护法的有关要求，履行自身的职责和义务。再次，弘扬敬业、爱业、艰苦创业精神，并用中小学教师职业道德规范的标准约束自己，完善自己。最后，把“教书育人”与“教书育己”统一起来，从细小事情抓起，坚持经常，形成习惯，以身立教，为人师表，以自己高尚的人格形象给学生感染和启迪。学高为师，德高为范，桃李不言，下自成蹊。 2、加强学生的心理健康教育把心理健康教育与生命教育有机结合，和谐学生的心灵。寻找青春期心理健康教育与关爱生命教育的最佳结合点，让学生真正的珍爱生命，将青春期心理健康教育上升到对生命的敬畏教育，感受生命是至高无上的7。 对青少年进行青春期心理健康教育是素质教育的要求，更是青少年“身”和“心”全面发展的要求；提升青少年的生活品质，让他们健康的成长、幸福的生活，是当代教育所要关注和解决的重大问题，也是教育的真正核心所在。作为未成年人教育主阵地的学校，应采用开设心理健康教育课或讲座，利用广播、电视、录像、黑板报等宣传工具，针对青少年的心理特点及知识要求，让青少年从多角度、多场合接受青春期心理健康教育。引导他们正确认识其身心发展特点，掌握解决问题的方法和技巧。转变不良行为，和谐自己的心灵，建立良好的人际关系，从而使其顺利渡过青春期。通过设立心理咨询室、建立学生心理健康档案，使个别青少年的心理疾病得到治疗，不断提高其心理素质。探索学校、家庭、社区“三位一体”的心理健康教育模式，强化生命教育，打造“平安青春期”工程8。 3 、改革教育制度，促成师生关系和谐。 近二三十年来，经济领域的市场化风习很快蔓延到学校，大家都处于竞争之中，师生之间又多了一层利害关系，最终导致师生关系利益化甚至市场化，这样怎能促成师生的和谐呢？学校工作应以学生为中心，老师的责任就是“传道、授业、解惑”，老师不是老板，更非警察。老师是知识的承载者、是知识接力中的前一棒，学生是老师知识的传承者和扩大者9。要根除功利教育，让师生关系恢复和谐，仅靠教育者和受教育者转变观念是做不到的，而必须进行教育制度改革，并同步进行包括户籍制度、社会福利保障制度在内制度改革，方可有成效。 4 、全社会要为教育创造宽松的心理环境片面追求升学率是教育界的一种弊病,如今这种“片面追求”却成了用人单位和时髦宣传。一些高效益单位的用人、招工条件成了清一色的“大专以上”学历，这对学生和家长盲目追求高学历起了推波助澜的作用10。其实任何单位都应有不同学历层次的工作人员来各司其职。所以,宣传媒介也不要过分渲染高学历的作用,应强化全面素质的要求。总之全社会要为减轻学生过重的心理负担做点贡献,要为学生的健康成长创造宽松的心理环境。首先,各级领导要充分认识在当前改革开放的新形势下加强学生心理健康教育的必要性和任务的艰巨性。其次,有关行政管理部门要加强文化市场的管理,注意把握大众宣传媒体宏扬正气,抑制邪恶的导向。社会执法部门要加大对不法分子的打击力度,净化各种社会环境,消除种种不健康的丑陋现象等负面因素对初中生健康成长的干扰。从而为学生的健康成长创造一个良好的社会文化氛围,使他们能够真正地明辨是非,认清主流,达到正确的学习与模仿,学会积极地适应社会和人生,从而安全顺利地渡过人生的“危险期”、“转折期”,获得身心各方面的健康发展11。学校可与社区、德育基地联合，形成合力，抵制社会不良环境的影响，尽可能地净化社会环境。例如，与派出所联合，整治校园周边的网吧，为学生创设良好的社会环境，使学生远离不利于青少年身心健康发展的网络环境，引导学生文明上网，上文明网。学校还可设立法制教育基地，定期对学生进行法制教育，增强他们的法制观念和抵制不良环境影响的能力，教育学生要慎重与社会上的人交往等。5、构建新型和谐的师生关系 作为教师和学生在教育教学过程结成的相互关系的师生关系，它的走向是指师生关系的价值取向及其实践结构的发展趋势和方向12。历史上有两种主要的师生关系价值取向：一是教师本位的师生关系取向，如传统“师道尊严”思想；二是学生本位的师生关系取向，如民主、平等的理论和要求。现代教育需要民主、平等，也需要“师道尊严”。在新课改形式下，教育需要继承“师道尊严”的合理内核，剔除压迫、独裁、体罚等非尊重学生的方式，形成民主、平等式的“师道尊严”。 是给学生以发自内心的真挚的爱，才能真正的了解学生，也才能爱学生所爱、想学生所想、急学生所急，把学生的忧虑当自己的忧虑。一旦当学生感悟到老师真诚地热爱他时，就会激起他们心灵的火花，把教师当做最可信赖的人，并毫无保留地将心灵的大门向老师敞开，告诉你在他们的内心深处的秘密13。 教师热爱学生，关心是起点，也是建立良好师生关系的基础。这就要求我们像关心自己的孩子一样去关心他们的学习、生活；像爱护自己的眼睛一样爱护学生。不管是优等生、中等生、潜能生都要一视同仁，尤其是潜能生，更要给予更多的关心和鼓励。当学生犯了错误，感到内疚的时候，你能给以语重心长、慈母般的劝慰。如果抓住了这些有利的教学时机，只要几句话，几分钟就能产生巨大的心灵感应，引起强烈的情感共鸣，收到“心又灵犀一点通”的艺术效果。 必须尊重和信任每一位学生，关键的工作是培养和爱护学生的自尊心，睁大眼睛发现学生的每一处优点，正确对待处理学生的每一处错误，决不能态度生硬，而更应注意批评的技巧，在教育的整个过程中，自始至终坚持对学生保持尊重的态度：尊重学生的人格；尊重学生的情感；尊重学生的个性；有礼貌地对待他们，只有这样，学生才会向你敞开心扉。 教师对学生的爱还应充分体现出严格要求。严格要求是和蔼可亲、关心更为深刻的爱，它将为我们合格地、高质量地培养人才奠定基础。如果缺乏严格要求，学生反而会叛逆，往往会适得其反，事倍功半14。我们应根据学生的年龄特征、性格特征，宽容待人，在具体的教育实践中创造条件与他们达到心理相容。总之，新型的师生关系应当是在”以人为本”的思想指导下，建立在融融的师爱氛围中，建立在教师高尚的人格修养前提下，建立在民主平等基础上的15。当然，如何建立新型的师生关系，单靠这片言只语是无法详尽的，只能靠着一颗对教育对学生真挚的心在实践中慢慢探索、体会。参考文献1袁振国主编：当代教育学，教育科学出版社1999年8月版。2金一鸣主编：教育社会学，江苏教育出版社2000年10月版。3陈洪庆杜宇主编：新时期班主任工作指南，陕西大学出版社2007年2月版4余永德主编：农村教育论，人民教育出版社2000年1月版。5冯增俊主编：教育人类学江苏教育出版社2001年2月版。6叶小媚刘国平主编：中国师德手册，中央文献出版社2008年10月版。7鞠文灿主编：未成年人思想道德建设新问题与对策，华东师范大学出版社2005年1月版。8谢德民主编：论学习，人民出版社1992年6月版。9李镇西主编：做最好的老师，华夏新视界教育系列文化发展有限公司出版。10申亚权张守臣著：教育测量学哈尔滨出版社1996年7月版11付道春主编：情境教育学，黑龙江教育出版社1997年6月版12王鼎宏著：师论，南京大学出版社2001年月版。13孔凡哲主编：新课程理念下的创新教学设计，东北师范大学出版社2005年2月版。14李凤荣主编：新时期班主任工作难题解决经典案例，陕西大学出版社2007年2月版。15彭剑飞冯周卓主编初中数学心育艺术，湖南人民出版社2004年7月版。致谢：本文是在李敏老师的精心指导下完成的。李老师严肃的科学态度，严谨的治学精神，精益求精的工作作风，深深地感染和激励着我，在此衷心地感谢李老师。请您删除一下内容，O(_)O谢谢！Many people have the same mixed feelings when planning a trip during Golden Week. With heaps of time, the seven-day Chinese请您删除一下内容，O(_)O谢谢！National Day holiday could be the best occasion to enjoy a destination. However, it can also be the easiest way to ruin how you feel about a place and you may become more fatigued after the holiday, due to battling the large crowds. During peak season, a dream about a place can turn to nightmare without careful planning, especially if you travel with children and older people. As most Chinese people will take the holiday to visit domestic tourist destinations, crowds and busy traffic are inevitable at most places. Also to be expected are increasing transport and accommodation prices, with the possibility that there will be no rooms available. It is also common that youllwait in the line for one hour to get a ticket, and another two hours at the site, to only see a tiny bit of the place due to the crowds. Last year, 428 million tourists traveled in China over the week-long holiday in October. Traveling during this period is a matter that needs thorough preparation. If you are short on time to plan the upcoming Golden Week it may not be a bad idea to avoid some of the most crowded places for now. There is always a place so fascinating that everyone yearns for. Arxan is a place like this. The beauty of Arxan is everlasting regardless of the changing of four seasons. Bestowed by nature, its spectacular seasonal landscape and mountains are just beyond word. Arxan is a crucial destination for the recommended travelling route, China Inner Mongolia Arxan Hailar Manzhouli. It is also the joint of the four prairies across the Sino-Mongolian border, where people gravitate towards the exotic atmosphere mixed with Chinese, Russian, and Mongolia elements. As a historic site for the Yitian Battle, Arxan still embodies the spirit of Genghis Khan. Walking into Arxan, you will be amazed by a kaleidoscope of gorgeous colors all the year round - the Spring azaleas blooming red in the snow, the Summer sea wavering blue in the breeze, the Autumn leaves painted in yellow covering volcanic traces, and the Winter woods shining white on the vast alpine snowscape. Hinggan League Arxan city is situated in the far eastern area of Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region. Its full name Haren Arxan means hot holy water in the Mongolian language. Arxan is a tourism city in the northern frontier with a blend of large forest, grand prairies, vast snowfield, heaven lake cluster, thermium, as well as volcanic cluster. It is a rare and unique ecotourism base filled with healthy sunshine, clean air and unspoiled green. Nestled close to the countrys largest virgin forest, and known for its spring and ecological environment, Arxan is marveled at by many tourists as the purest land on earth. You cannot miss out the Autumn of Arxan. It is definitely the best with brightly-colored scenery full of emotions. Autumn in the northern part of the country comes earlier than the South. A September rain followed by the footprints of Autumn brings more colors to the once emerald green mountain and blooming grassland. Shutterbugs flock to see for themselves the marvel of splendid colors around the mountains and waters, many of whom have travel a long distance and even camp here only to capture a moment of the nature wonder. The silver birch turns golden, while the larch is still proudly green. You will find yourself drowned in the intoxicating red of the wild fruits as well as the glamour of flowers in full blown. And your heart will be lingering on the woods as its time for the wild fruits to ripe. The picturesque Arxan in Autumn is indeed a fairyland only exists in a dream that satisfies all your fantasies. If itrains heavily on Saturday night, some elderly Chinese will say it is because Zhinu, or the Weaving Maid, is crying on the day she met her husband Niulang, or the Cowherd, on the Milky Way. Most Chinese remember being told this romantic tragedy when they were children on Qixi, or the Seventh Night Festival, which falls on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month, which is usually in early August. This year it falls on Saturday, August 2. Folklore Story As the story goes, once there was a cowherd, Niulang, who lived with his elder brother and sister-in-law. But she disliked and abused him, and the boy was forced to leave home with only an old cow for company. The cow, however, was a former god who had violated imperial rules and was sent to earth in bovine form. One day the cow led Niulang to a lake where fairies took a bath on earth. Among them was Zhinu, the most beautiful fairy and a skilled seamstress. The two fell in love at first sight and were soon married. They had a son and daughter and their happy life was held up as an example for hundreds of years in China. Yet in the eyes of the Jade Emperor, the Supreme Deity in Taoism, marriage between a mortal and fairy was strictly forbidden. He ordered the heaven troop to catch Zhinu back. Niulang grew desperate when he discovered Zhinu had been taken back to heaven. Driven by Niulangs misery, the cow told him to turn its hide into a pair of shoes after it died. The magic shoes whisked Niulang, who carried his two children in baskets strung from a shoulder pole, off on a chase after the empress. The pursuit enraged the empress, who took her hairpin and slashed it across the sky creating the Milky Way which separated husband from wife. But all was not lost as magpies, moved by their love and devotion, formed a bridge across the Milky Way to reunite the family. Even the Jade Emperor was touched, and allowed Niulang and Zhinu to meet once a year on the seventh night of the seventh month. This is how Qixi came to be. The festival can be traced back to the Han Dynasty (206 BC-AD 220). Traditionally, people would look up at the sky and find a bright star in the constellation Aquila as well as the star Vega, which are identified as Niulang and Zhinu. The two stars shine on opposite sides of the Milky Way. Customs In bygone days, Qixi was not only a special day for lovers, but also for girls. It is also known as the Begging for Skills Festival or Daughters Festival. In this day, girls will throw a sewing needle into a bowl full of water on the night of Qixi as a test of embroidery skills. If the needle floats on top of the water instead of sinking, it proves the girl is a skilled embroiders. Single women also pray for finding a good husband in the future. And the newly married women pray to become pregnant quickly. Tradition transformed The love story of Niulang and Zhinu, and the Qixi Festival have been handed down for generations. Yet these ancient traditions and customs are slowly dying out. Many modern Chinese, particularly youngsters, seem to know more about St Valentines Day on February 14, characterized by bouquets of roses, chocolates and romantic candlelight dinners, than they do about their home-grown day for lovers. Even Qixi is nowadays referred to as the Chinese Valentines Day. More and more young Chinese people begin to celebrate this day in a very similar way as that in western countries. Fewer people than ever will gaze at the heavens on Saturday to pick out the two stars shining bright on either side of the Milky Way, that is, if people even know on which day Qixi falls. There are ready reminders dotted about, in the form of big ads saying Sales on Chinese Valentines Day! in shops, hotels and restaurants. But few young women will mark the festival with their boyfriends, or take part in traditional activities to pray for cleverness. A large-scale of exhibition on the Silk Road opened to the public in the National Museum on Thursday. The exhibition displays more than 400 treasures from Shaanxi province, Gansu province and 14 other regions. It is largest scale exhibition that shows the history of the Silk Road in recent years. AsAPECis going on in Beijing, the exhibit aims to show the world this brilliant section of history. The Silk Road is a series of trade and cultural transmission routes that were central to cultural interaction through regions of the Asian continent. It connected the West and East by linking traders, merchants, pilgrims, monks, soldiers, nomads, and urban dwellers from China and India to the Mediterranean Sea during various periods of time. I met my dear hubby in 2009 the second year I was in my school and it was the first year when he came here. We became colleagues. And there was nothing special happening during that year. He was just a kind and humble brother graduated from the same college as me. But we did not know each other till he became my colleague and his office desk was just in front of me. There was only a glass between us. So actually we could see each other when we both look up. But it is not the main reason that really draws us close. How we become close to each other was something seems quite natural. We went out to play badminton with other colleagues and we sometimes chatted for a while. He is a man of few words but somehow sometimes will say something really humorous. Then one day, to my great surprise, I found a pot of beautiful flower on my desk. It was just the flower I had talked about with my colleague the other day, and I thought it was her who put the flower there. But the truth is not. It was the humble guy sitting in front of me. He just simply said ,”well, I caught sight of this flower and thought that its beautiful and you may like it”. I wonder why I was moved because of these simple words and present. Maybe it is the sincerity and the true self that impress me. I thanked him and some colleagues walked past my desk would appreciate the beautiful flower and they noticed that something romance happened there. Then later on, there were some little surprises once in a while. Once, there was something wrong with my drawer and I had complained about it unconsciously. And he fixed it for me. Then the other day, he placed several pink diamond roses beside the flower with a piece of paper saying” I love you more than I can say! Diamond stands for marriage, rose stand for love. I hope you are mine, become my wife. You are the only girl who I really want to spend the rest of my life to stand by.” Although there were some grammar errors but I got what he meant. He meant so clear and so direct. And actually, I accepted him some days earlier. I was just waiting for him to break the ice. So finally, the common interests and the common understanding brought us together. Some people say the relationship and the feeling will change after getting hitched. You will find that love is no longer strong and there is always lack of passion and whats worse you may find out many bad habits of your partner, which never appear when you are first in love before the marriage. It seems that m