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友尽专题：如何辨别撒谎,刘宜林,2019/6/13,（入门）,Friendship breaker： How to Discern Lies,1.我已阅读并同意以上服务条款 2.”您好我有事不在一会再和您联系“ 3.正品保障，七天无理由退款 4.“厨房正在煮，菜马上就上。” 5.“讲完这题我就下课。” .,I have read and agree to the terms of service “Hey I got sth stuck Ill call you later “ “We are committed to strict enforcement taobao mall no reason to return in seven days.” “Coming soon.” “finish this qizz and ill let you go.”,当今社会，说谎并不难见。所谓谎言并不恶毒，恶毒的只是人心。一个谎言，在华丽的又或者是看似平常的背后，往往隐藏着蛊惑和自私。 Nowadays, is not difficult to see someone telling a lie. Looking behind the normal or ordinary words, often hide confuse and selfish. “小明，你为什么不交昨天的作业？” “家里着火，不小心把作业烧了。” “Ming, why didnt you hand in your homework yesterday?“ “The house was on fire, Mrs. Sheldon.“,Although the lies can solve the problem temporarily, obviously, lying is absolutely not go on for long. Lie, body and mind are separated. We may for our comfort making up a lie, thinking that is no danger of anything going wrong. But the lie you made what you believed, is it too strong to break? Cheated someone may also cheated yourself. 虽然谎言可以解决暂时的问题，很明显，说谎绝对不是长久之计。说谎时，身心是分离的，也是分裂的。我们为了满足一时的方便，编出一个谎言，认为这样就万无一失了。可是，你所相信的谎言真的就那么牢不可破吗？骗人的同时也骗了自己。,马萨诸塞大学针对说谎者以及说谎环境的调查(1998, Dr.Robert, U. of Massachusetts),89%,75%,85%,受访的1500个样本当中，逾9成的人承认过自己经常有意识或无意识地撒谎,而在这近9成的人当中，常会向亲朋好友撒谎的人高达75%,而85%的谎言都在各种程度上被发觉了,数据来源：/wiki/Lie/VTA-steinn/cfm?b=2Th&c=2&v=11&t=NKJV#s=1118011.org,24%,可是只有25%不到的人选择了识破谎言并拆穿,more than 9 percent of people admitted to consciously lie or not,In this nearly 9 people, will often lie to the relatives and friends of people up to 75per.,85% lies were discovered,But only less than 25% of the people chose to expose,英国高等教育调查机构QS公司关于两性生活中说谎以及说谎带来的后果的调查(节选),43%,87%,52%,没有恋爱经历的男女，在日常生活和为人处事当中会说谎的比例占43%,有过两次或两次以上婚姻经历的男女，承认自己会说谎，尤其是在自己的伴侣面前会说谎的比例高达87%,首段婚姻，又或者是热恋中的男女承认自己说谎的比例达到了52%,数据来源：/wiki/Lie/VTA-steinn/cadf=qerg%adfd&a=adfgh=weqfdV#s=3236614.org,two times or two times above experience of marriage of men and women, admit that he might be lying, especially in front of their partner will lie the proportion as high as 87%,People in first marriage admitted often lying reached to 52%,Have no experience in love of men and women, accounting for 43% in the daily life,因此，学会如何辨别撒谎，是检测男友是否出轨，闺蜜是否偷食的一大利器。 Therefore, How to Discern Lies Its the best weapon to make sure Your BF. derailed or not,内容 content,1.识辨篇 2.拆穿篇 3.实践篇,Find it Nail it Use it in our life,识辨篇 Find it,无论怎样，谎言在这个世界无可避免地存在着，而我们，若是带着一双敏锐的眼睛和一颗能明辨是非的心，便可在人生这场大戏中游刃有余。让我们摒弃繁杂而又无用的方法论，直击谎言内部，学会辨别谎言，进而探讨解决方法。 No matter how, lies exist in the world. if we living with a pair of sharp eyes and a big-heart, between the truth and false, may live in ease in the life. Let us abandon the complicated and useless theory, learn to Discern a Lie, and find out the solution.,识辨,第一句谎言没有经过大脑 first sentence,不涉及自身 never involve itself,“哈？你再说一遍？” “pardon?”,“根据上下文找出问题”,1.不涉及自身 never involve itself,撒谎者往往较少使用第一人称（比如代词“我”“我们”），较多使用第三人称（比如“他”和“他们”）。这是撒谎者让自己和谎话保持距离的一种下意识手段。另外，如果用上第一人称，即用上“我”，从关系的角度出发，错综复杂的关系更能让说谎者站在一种旁观者的角度，好与所讲的事情撇清关系。并且，连接这关系的第一个人，一般都是同学。 Liars tend to use fewer first person (such as a pronoun “I“ to “we“), often use the third person (such as “he“ and “they“). This is the liar what let himself and the lie to maintain a sub conscious, and keep distance. In addition, if you use the first person, namely the use “I“, starting from the perspective of the relationship between, perplexing relationship can let liar standing in a other persons point of view. And the first person to connect with this relationship, are generally ”classmate”.,“他都是这样说.” “我初中同学的表哥就经常.” “我有個friend嗝同學.” “” “He said so.“ “My junior high school students cousin often.“ “I have a friends mate.“ “,2.第一句谎言没有经过大脑 first sentence,只有4%的人说起谎来滴水不漏，但是，人的第一反应很难作假。在没有精心编辑出的第一句谎言之前，所有脱口而出的谎言都是有漏洞的。并且这些脱口而出，看上去都非常的蹩脚。 Only 4% of the people spoke a lie like watertight, however, peoples first reaction is difficult to cheat. Without careful editing of the first lie before, all of lies by escape-lips are flawed. And these lies, all look really bad. 关键词：“没什么”“只不过”“而已”“偶尔” “没什么，我只是跟她吃个饭而已。” “现在偶尔还会有联系，不过只是普通朋友。”,另外，为了让第一句谎言不被拆穿，说谎者往往要继续编下去，从而制造一个又一个的谎言，进而增大了被拆穿的可能性。 所以，判断一个人是否说谎，请留意他的第一句话。 In addition, in order to keep the first lie not exposed, liars tend to continue to continue, thus making another lie, increasing the possibility of being exposed. “我吃饭的时候还碰见了王小明，” “你看我连她微信都没加” So, to judge whether a person is lying, pay attention to his first sentence.,3.“哈？你再说一遍？” “pardon?”,一个心思缜密的谎言，看上去是如此地牢不可破，那是理所当然的。因为说谎者精心编织的谎言已经在心中重复了数十遍，以至于骗了自己，才有勇气说出口来骗人。 但是这种自信只来自于自欺欺人的勇气，一旦被听见谎言的人所肯定，内心当中的自信便愈加旺盛起来，以至于对自己说“我没有做错”而在骗人的道路上越走越远。 A thoughtful lie, looked so the dungeon, can not be broken. Because liars carefully designed lie in their mind for several repetitions, until cheat everyone. Then they have the courage to speak to people. But courage this confidence comes only from deceive oneself and others, once heard peoplecertainly, inside self-confidence will become increasingly strong, so say to yourself: “I am not wrong“ while lying on the road more walk more far.,但如果带有一种否定又貌似看穿的怀疑的情绪去面对谎言，说谎者虽然在身体语言上不会有多大变化，可是内心当中也已经乱了阵脚，脑中会思考着“是不是哪里有疏漏”“不会呀应该很完美的”重复这种怀疑则可以打断说谎者的思考，进而使得气急败坏，狗急跳墙，伤肝动气。 “都说了不是你想象的那样子的！” 所以当你判断不准的时候，不妨来一句“哈？你再说一遍？“ But if with a negative and seemingly through doubt to face lies, liar though in body language will not change much, but they already in disarray, the brain might thinking “Is it right? Where there are omissions” “it should be perfect blablabla” repeating this doubt can interrupt the liars thinking, and may make them angry. “都说了不是你想象的那样子的！” So when you judge allowed in the time, you may try this - “ah? Pardon? “,4.“根据上下文找出问题”,第一次去夜店的人绝对有人陪同，自身懒惰的人绝对不会勤劳，喜爱偷窃的人基本很难收手，讨厌的人再怎么也不会喜欢上你。对不起其实是一句屁话，而谢谢你也只是因为不谢就不好意思。一次的劳累其实也是为了以后一百次不再这么辛苦，一百次的帮忙而获来的评价会毁在仅仅一次的拒绝当中，初次交往的都会说这次绝对是真爱，而有过三次婚姻的人也别谈什么爱情。 因为一个谎言而阻碍你的判断，请根据上下文来找出问题。 另，从上下文当中找出问题者，一般最为靠谱，远远在所谓猜测和第六感之上。,提问,不涉及自身 第一句谎言没有经过大脑 “哈？你再说一遍？” “根据上下文找出问题”,拆穿篇 Nail it,纸包不住火，谎言总有一天会不攻自破。但如果我们什么时候都只是靠时间来进行裁夺，未免有些懦弱。 Murder will out. lies one day may collapse of itself. But seems cowardly what if we just waiting for time to judge.,时间(误)是检验真理的唯一标准,怎样华丽地拆穿谎言？,How to nail a lie?,1.大声指出/私下提出 Public/Private,无论谎言打着怎样的旗号，说着怎样的借口，归根到底，说谎就是不好的。每一个靠谎言而蒙混过去的说谎者往往都带有一种侥幸的心理，因为简简单单而又不用付出什么而得到想要的结果，所以“就骗这一次下次不会再说了”是绝对不会存在的。 人无论怎么样，都要面对现实，说谎其实就是一种逃避。 No matter what lies under what kind of banner, in the final analysis, lying is not a good thing. Every liar when they past, often believe they were lucky, because simply payless and get the results what they want, greed is great. : ) so “trick for this time and next time i wont do again“ is absolutely not exist. No matter what, we have to face the reality, lying, in fact is a kind of escape.,数十年的生活经验告诉我们，如果你真的在乎他，请揭穿他。 Dozens of years of life experience tells us, if you really care about him, please nail him.,2.转移话题 Change the subject,如果不喜欢这么直接地戳穿一个人，又难以忍受他拙劣的演技，不妨在他表演的时候转移话题吧。 If didnt like so directly expose a person, also hard to endure his bad acting, might as well as find another topic when he was acting. “饿不饿，下面给你吃咯。” “.不饿.我跟你讲，其实他” “饿不饿，下面给你吃咯。” “.” “饿不饿，下面给你吃咯。”,如果是猪，重复几次对方应该也会发觉被发现了，该干啥干啥去吧。 If he is a pig, repeated several times will catch his mind hey mate you were spotted, do what you have to do.,3.“喝喝。”,If you really dont care and you really give a shit, 喝喝 is enough.,可以说，欺骗是每个人最不能忍受的伤害之一，谁都不喜欢被别人蒙蔽，但是当我们和朋友相处的时候，我们会发现，他在跟你说谎，或者他曾经跟你说过谎，你可能会感到愤怒或者不解。甚至，你可能会揭穿他的谎言，会质问他。可是，作为朋友，你是否有想过，他为什么会跟你说谎？ 其实，面对谎言你大可不必如此愤怒，因为有些谎言本身并没有杀伤力。朋友之间的谎言，多数是无恶意的，或许只是想提高一下他的形象，又或许是想了解更多的事实。 It can be said, is one of the most difficult to deceive everyone hurt bear, who doesnt love blinded by others, but when we and friends, we will find, he is lying to you, or he had told you a lie, you may feel angry or confused. Or, you may expose his lies, will question him. However, as a friend, have you ever thought why would he lie to you? In fact, in the face of the lie you need not so angry, because some lies in and of itself without hurt you. Between the friend lies, most are harmless, or just want to improve his image, however, perhaps he just wants to know more facts.,当你面对欺骗时，首先，分清善意的和恶意的谎言，不要因为憎恨被欺骗，而伤了真正爱你和关心你的人的心。 其次，不怨恨，不愤怒，不因为他人欺骗了你，就要用同样的谎言去惩罚他，这样你就从一个受害者，变成了一个施害者，如此，你跟那个让人厌恶的欺骗者有什么区别？ 第三，从心底里宽容欺骗你的人，因为他让你学会了辨别事物的好坏丑恶，懂得了如何保护自己。 When you face the deception, first of all, to distinguish between good and malicious lies, not because of hate being deceived, and hurt really lo