ChoosingOptimism生活态度乐观.ppt

OptimistInternational,1,ChoosingOptimismasaPhilosophyofLife,ASkillsDevelopmentModulebyMichelListenbergerWEB-WORKSHOPOBJECTIVESTolearnandtorecognizethechoiceswehaveinadoptingoptimismasaphilosophyTolearntechniquestofosterpositiverelationships,OptimistInternational,2,WorkshopOverview,OptimistSelfAssessmentQuizPromiseandCommitmentDevelopingSelf-EsteemSharingOptimismwithOthersYourUniqueGiftsYourMissionforabetterWorldSampleMaterials,OptimistInternational,3,AnIntroductiontoOptimism,OPTIMISMANDPESSIMISMPessimism:“Morethanatanyothertimeinhistory,mankindfacesacrossroads.Onepathleadstodespairandutterhopelessness.Theother,tototalextinction.Letuspraywehavethewisdomtochoosecorrectly.”-WoodyAllenOptimism:Liveapositivelifeanddeveloprelationshipsguidedbythe“OptimistCreed”AsOptimistsweshareacommonphilosophyandCreedthatcanliftourspirit,canliftthespiritofothers,andcanultimatelyaffectattitudesofallforabetterWorld.Theacquisitionof“optimism”goesbeyondacceptanceintoanyorganization.Itisajourney,anendeavortomakeachoicebetweenoptimismandpessimismineverysituationwefaceandwitheverywordweutter.,OptimistInternational,4,I.OptimistAssessmentQuizWhereareyouNow?Completethisquiztoassessyourpersonalreactiontosituations.,UsuallySometimesSeldomIamincontrolofmylife._Mydestinyisinmyownhands._Isetgoalsformyself._Iachievemygoals._Idontabusechemicalsubstances._Iamatmyidealweight._Ihaveapositivementalattitude._Ivaluethebenefitsofbeingoptimistic._Igreeteachnewdaywithanticipation_Iseethenegativesbutchoosepositives_Idontworryaboutyesterday_Idontgetangrywiththoseclosetome_,OptimistInternational,5,OptimistAssessmentQuizContinued,UsuallySometimesSeldomIamnotafraidofwhatothersmightsay_EverydayIwelcomenewchallenges_Iseepositivesolutionsindifficultsituations_IcanseemyselfachievingthethingsIwant_Ilearnbymymistakes_Ilaughwithpeople,notatthem_IknowwhatIcanchangeandwhatIcannot_IrecognizethatIhavespecialtalentsandabilities_Iappreciatemyfriendsandtellthemoftheirvalue_IsmilewhenImeetsomeone_Ifeelthepowerofoptimismworkinginmylife_Iamhappyandmakeotherhappy_Iammakingourworldabetterplacetolive_Addupyourscore:2pointsforeach“usually”,1pointforeach“sometimes”0pointsfor“seldom.”RepeatthisSelf-AssessmentQuizinonemonthforcomparison.,OptimistInternational,6,WhatisOptimism?,WhatisOptimisminyourview?“thepowerofpositivethinking?”WhatisthevalueofOptimismtoyouandtothosearoundyou?Whatspecificallydoyoulikeaboutyourself?,OptimistInternational,7,II.ChoosingOptimismPromiseandCommitment,In“DreamsandDeeds”thefoundersofOptimismmadechoices:FounderschoseourfirstOptimistClubinBuffalo,NYin1911OptimistInternationalformedin1919Louisville“OptimistCreed”adoptedin1922inKansasCityForeachofuslifeholdsmanychoices.Choicescanbeascomplexaschoosingacareerorassimpleashowwegreeteverynewday.Uponwakingwecanfacethealarmwithasmile,leapoutofbed,throwopenthewindowsashandsay,“Goodmorning,God,”orwecancursethealarm,shunthenewbornsunlightandsay,“GoodGod,itsmorning.”Wecanchooseoptimismorchoosepessimism.Toemphasizethefactthatthesechoicesmaybeconscious,pioneersof“PositiveMentalAttitude”NapoleonHillandW.ClementStoneconsiderthemindascarryinganinvisiblecoin.ThelettersPMAareemblazonedononeside,andNMA(negativementalattitude)ontheother.Choosing“Optimism”ischoice,notchance.,OptimistInternational,8,PollyannaOptimism,Ofcourse,noteverychoiceiseasy,norwilleverychoiceproducetheresultsyouhopesimplybecauseyoutakethepositivetact.PollyannaOptimismexpectspositiveoutcomeswithoutregardforpracticality.“Thereisasoft-headedtypeofthinkingfromthepracticalapproachthatbringssuccess.Somepeoplewhobelievethingsaregettingbetterfeelfoolishwhenthingsgetworse.Asaresult,theyoftenbecomedisillusionedandcynical.Buttough-mindedoptimistsareawarethattheyliveinanimperfectworldinwhichloveends,innocentpeoplearecheated,andsickpeopledie;thetrueoptimistseesthenegativepossibilitiesbutchoosesthepositive.”AlanLoyMcGinnisin“ThePowerofOptimism.”,OptimistInternational,9,PromiseYourself,AtonetimeyouchosetobeamemberofOptimistInternational.Younowhavetheopportunitytomakeadeepercommitmentadoptingandlivingitsprinciples.Youcanpromiseyourselftonotonlyrecite,buttohabituallylivebythetenetsofthe“OPTIMISTCREED.”ThatiswhywebeginourCreedwith“PromiseYourself.”ThebenefitsyougainfromourCreedareindirectproportiontoyourdedicationtolivebyitstenets.“Ifitistobe,itisuptome!”,OptimistInternational,10,III.DevelopingSelf-Esteem,RemovingBarriersispartofdevelopingapositiveself-esteem.IndividuallyListthingsthatyouworryaboutthingsthatarecausingangerthingsthatyoufearthingsthatarecausingtroubleinyourlife,ActivityforLettinggoWriteonpaperapersonalworry,fearortroublethatyouwouldliketogetridofrightnowNowfolditandtearitupandthrowitaway,OptimistInternational,11,DontSitonYourButs,Languageasabarrier“But”isanargumentforourlimitationsandajustificationforretreat.Relativesof“But”Couldve,wouldve,shouldvedonesuchandsuchSource:LesBrown,Self-TalkCyclesAffirmationsIfyousayitYoursubconsciousmindwillbelieveitAndyouwillachieveit!LanguageofAffirmationUsethepronoun“I”UsepresenttenseverbsUseactionmodifiers,OptimistInternational,12,AffirmationExercises,Changethisnegative“self-talk”topositiveImnogoodatrememberingnames.EverytimeItalkwithhimweenduparguing.Idontknowwhatswrongwithmetoday.Icantseemtocontrolmyweight.Wetriedthatbeforeanditdidntwork.Writesomethingyouwouldliketoachieveinthenextfewweeks.WritesomethingyouwouldliketoachieveinthenextfewweeksWritedownoneormoreAffirmationsaboutyourselfthatwillsetthestagefortherealizationofthisgoal.,OptimistInternational,13,SeeingwiththeMindsEye,VisualizationorImagingistheabilitytoseesomethinginthe“mindseye.”“Whateverthemindofmancanconceiveandbelieve,itcanachieve”-NapoleonHill“Tolookatthesunnysideofeverythingandmakeyouroptimismcometrue.“Exercisesin“Seeing”Writeabriefstatementofthekindofpersonyouwouldliketobe.Closeyoureyesandpictureyourselfasthatperson.,OptimistInternational,14,NeverGiveUp!Tothinkonlyofthebest,toworkonlyforthebestandtoexpectonlythebest.,Persistencemovesmountains“Ifsomeonetoldyoulifewasgoingtobeonesmooth,easyride,Ivegotaspecialannouncement;theylied!”LesBrown“Geniusisonepercentinspirationandninety-ninepercentperspiration.”ThomasEdison,OptimistInternational,15,FailureBreedsSuccessEveryfailureteachessomething:themorewefailthemorewelearn!,ConsiderAbeLincolnFailedinBusinessDefeatedforLegislatureFailedinanotherbusinessElectedtolegislatureSweetheartdiedHadanervousbreakdownDefeatedforSpeakerDefeatedforElectorDefeatedforCongressDefeatedforSenateDefeatedforVicePresidentDefeatedforSenateELECTEDPRESIDENTOFUSA!,OptimistInternational,16,LetthePastPass,“Toforgetthemistakesofthepastandpressonthethegreaterachievementsofthefuture”Learnfromourmistakes-rememberthelessonbutforgettheincident“Whenlifeknocksyoudown,youshouldalwaystrytolandonyourbackbecauseifyoucanlookup,youcangetup!”-LesBrown,OptimistInternational,17,PeaceofMindTobesostrongthatnothingcandisturbyourpeaceofmind.,TheSerenityPrayer:“Lordgrantmethecouragetochangewhatcanbechanged,thepatiencetoacceptwhatcannotbechanged,andthewisdomtoknowthedifference.”,Maketwolists:ThingsyoucanchangeThingsyoucannotchange,OptimistInternational,18,IV.SharingOptimismwithSynergismTotalkhealth,happinessandprosperitytoeverypersonyoumeet,FoundingconceptwasNetworkingMutualsupportofbusinessandpersonal“Win-Win”OptimismTraditionalconfrontationproducesa“winner”anda“loser”“Win-Win”looksforcircumstancesthatallowalltowin!StephenCovey,“TheSevenHabitsofHighlyEffectivePeople”Win-WinExerciseAnOptimistmemberisinvitingafriendtojoinhisclub.Setupawin-winsituationforboth:Howdoesthefriendwin?HowdoestheOptimistwin?,OptimistInternational,19,FriendshipsReciprocalEmpowerment,Tomakeallyourfriendsfeelthatthereissomethinginthem.Exercise:Tellthenextthreepeopleyouseewhatyoulikeaboutthem.,OptimistInternational,20,Smile,Towearacheerfulcountenanceatalltimesandgiveeverylivingcreatureyoumeetasmile.“Youcantgetoutoflifealive.Sowhynotenjoyitandhelpotherstoenjoyitaswell.”LesBrown,Exercise:Givethenextpersonyouseeyourbestsmileandholditfor4seconds!Willtheywonderwhatyouvebeenuptoorwilltheywanttoknowwhatyouknow?,“ASmile”byMonicaHunter(age10)Togiveasmilemeans,“YoureO.K.”Togetasmilewillbrightenyourday.Asmilecanturntheworldaround,Orcheerupsomeonewhosfeelingdown.And,ifyouhappentodisagree,Justgiveasmileandyouwillsee!,OptimistInternational,21,HumorasaHealer,LaughTherapyHumorshowsmedicalresultsExercise:Thinkofthefunniestjokeorstorythatyouveheardlately.Tellsomeoneyourjoke(optional),OptimistInternational,22,BeingEnthusiastic,TobejustasenthusiasticaboutthesuccessofothersasyouareaboutyourownEnthusiasmfromGreekroot“inGod”ShowinganEnthusiasticspiritwasshowingaGod-likequalitythatlivedwithinthatpersonssoulActivity:ListthesignsofanEnthusiasticperson.Canthesebelearnedaspartofyourbehavior?,OptimistInternational,23,AttitudedeterminesAltitudeInaviationterminology“Attitude”istheupwardordownwardpositionofthenoseoftheaircraft.Altitudeishowhightheaircraftflies.JohnReel,PastInternationalPresidentWiththe“wind”ofOptimismbeneathyourwings,youcanflyhighlikeanEagleand“SoarwithOptimism”CharlesWiles,PastInternationalPresident,V.YourUniquenessSelf-ConceptTogivesomuchtimetotheimprovementofyourselfthatyouhavenotimetocriticizeothers.,OptimistInternational,24,YourCoat-of-Arms,WritedownyourCurrentStrengths,talents,skillsandassetsWritedownthestrengths,skillsandabilitiesyouwanttodevelopYourPersonalLegacy;WriteyourmissionforabetterWorld!,OptimistInternational,25,YourMissionforaBetterWorld,“Thisisthetruejoyinlife,thebeingusedforapurposerecognizedbyyourselfasamightyone”“Willitprovide:U