价值观的改变.doc

价值观的改变 你有没有想过这样的问题：我为什么活着？人为什么活着？这样的问题，时常出现在我的脑海中。在我来美国之前，我一直都在思考这些问题，有时候还会觉得自己很迷惑，没有方向。我的人生，该在哪里开始，又该驶向哪里？ 在个人与个人的相处中，该怎么去衡量自己的方向？我想这个问题是很简单但是却很有深度的。比如，你跟你的一个朋友相处，就是最简单的一个列子。在我来美国之前，我觉得朋友就是跟自己有共同话题，可以跟自己一起玩耍一起开心的玩伴。在来美国之后，发现在国内的朋友都不在身边，自己该面对更多的新朋友，而每个人又都是不同的。有的时候，人就是害怕去沟通，从而让自己失去了很多与别人相识的机会。所以，在与新的个体相处的过程中，我试图去寻找自己的位置，寻找自己与别人的共同之处，试着去更好的与另一个完全陌生的人相处。这样的反复练习，我终于找到了自己的位置，找到了自己与另一个个体的相处方式。个人与个人的相处，也许就是试图去找到自己的另一部分的缺失。 在进一步的就是个人与群体的相处。在来美国之前，我脑海中的个人与群体，就是一个简单的个人与集体的观念。比如，在中国集体活动的时候，也许更多的是选择轻松的事情去做，不会去想更多的自己可以去做的是什么。来了美国之后，我的集体意识更进一步深化了。在我们跟同班同学一个去芝加哥公园烧烤的时候，看着同学们不管天气多么的恶劣，他们都在努力的去做自己力所能及的事情，而我却在偷懒。突然意识到，这是多么不好的一种行为。我不管天气的寒冷，也加入了他们的行列，我们一起生火，一起烧烤，一起开心。个人与群体的关系，更多的是伴随着互相帮助和努力，最后达到快乐的一种方式吧。 更深一个层次的，也许就是寻找个人在社会中的位置，方向。在来美国之前，一直觉得只要自己过得好就行了，我从未想过我会去做些什么大事来影响这个社会，甚至影响这个世界。我一直在思考，人为什么活着？我又为什么活着？从未找到自己的方向。对自己的未来一直是迷茫的，没有追求的。在来美国之后，看到的东西多了，自然也会受到影响。我看到的美国人更多的是在享受自己的人生，不管是什么样的人生。这是我第一次来美国，来到这个走在世界前端的国家，就是这一次让我看到了什么是差距。看到了每个人都在为自己的生活努力着，比如我的房东，她带着她的女儿两个人生活，她总是那么的繁忙，每天都是忙于工作。当我问她为什么那么忙的时候，她告诉我：因为我们要生活，而且要更好的生活。她的回答很真实。看着她，我开始思考我自己的未来。我也应该开始为了我的未来而好好的计划着，制定一个可以达到的目标，然后向着那个目标努力。人为什么活着，我现在看来，应该是为了更好的未来，甚至可以影响到这个世界。人总是要努力的，在这个社会中，去寻找到自己的一个位置，寻找到自己的一个方向。那个方向，也许是快乐的，也许是艰苦的，但是一旦你给自己定了那个目标，就要努力的向着它一步一步的走下去。 人，就要活得对这个社会有用，接受人生的所有挑战。 这些感触，是我这次来美国的一些事情中得到的。对我来说，这不仅是一次学习的机会，我得到的是比知识以外更多的东西。这些东西将成为我生命中最重要的一部分，一直影响着我未来的人生方向。Some changes of values Did you ever think about those questions: why I alive? Why people alive?Those questions often appear in my head. Before i came to America, I have been thinking about these questions, sometimes i feel puzzled,and i have no direction of my life. Where to start, and where the direction? In between individuals , how to measure myselfs direction?I think the question is very simple but very deep. For example, you with one of your friends is one of simple examples. Before i came to America, I think friend is the parson who has a common topic, can play and happy with me together .After i came to America ,i found my friends are not nearby, and i should face more new friends.Everone is different.Sometimes, the person is afraid to communicate, thus losing a lot opportunities met with others .So in the process along with the new individual , I trying to find my place, looking for myself and others in common, trying to be better with another stranger.Such practice repeatedly, finally i found my position, found the way which is getting along with another individual.Getting along with Individuals perhaps is trying to find my another part of the missing. In further is individual and the harmony of a group . Before i came to America,in my mind ,the individual and group are a simple concept. For example, in the collective activity,i just choose easy things to do, not to think what it is more i can do .After i Came to America ,i had a further deepening of the collective consciousness .When i went to Chicago park with a bar-b-que with my classmates , no matter the bad weather, they tried to do what they can do, but I had been lazy and just stood. Suddenly i realized that is a bad behavior.I told myself i cant lazy,then I didnt care of the cold weather, and joined them, we made a fire,made the barbeque, and then we were happy together.The relationship betwen Individual and a group ,the more is accompanied by helping each other, and finally get happiness.A deeper level, perhaps is looking for individuals position and direction in society. Before i came to America, i always felt as long as myself have a good life, I have never thought that I would do what great things to influence the society, even influence the world.I have been thinking about why people alive?After i came to America, I was affected by what i saw.Most Americans are more pleasure in their life, no matter what the life is.This is my first time to come to America,which is the most advanced nation in the world and let me know what is the gap. Why should I be alive? Never find my direction.I has been confused about my future,I do not have the pursuit of it.Seeing everyone try their best to get a good life , such as my homestay mother, she takes her daughter just two persons, she is always busy, everyday is busy with her work.When I asked her why she was so busy, she told me: because we want to have a better life than now.I think her answer was very real.Looking at her, I started thinking about my future.I should start to make a good plan of my future,then try my best to go ahead step by step.Why people alive? Now,I think it should be for a better future, even can make something affect the world.People always try their best to find a place belongs to their own, and seek to a direction in society.That way, perhaps is happy, perhaps is difficult, but once you give for yourself that goal, and you will work hard to go towards it step by step.I want to be a useful parson and accept all the challenges