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爱情持久弥新的7个小秘密Its not diamonds and flowers that make a relationship remain as warm, loving and intimate as it was at the start. Its the little things. So check out the tips that follow.让一段感情保持最初的温馨、爱恋和亲密的，并不是钻石或鲜花，而是生活中的小细节。1.Praise Your Partner for the Little Things赞美对方If theres something you appreciate about your partner, from the way he or she makes scrambled eggs to how hard he or she is working on decorating the bedroom, speak up. Praise provides a reminder of your love.如果有一些小事让你很欣赏你的另一半，不管是他/她炒鸡蛋做得很好吃，还是他/她很辛苦地装饰卧室，都记得要说出来。赞美是爱情的表达方式。2.Be Thoughtful要体贴The good we do tends to come back to us. When youre thoughtful to your partner, he or shes more inclined to be thoughtful in return. So remember to buy each others favourite dessert, cut out or email articles you think your partner might like, or take on the others jobs like arranging for your partner to have a day off, with no housework or expectations.我们的善举总是会有所回报。如果你对你的伴侣体贴照顾，他/她也会用体贴入微来回报你，所以要记得买对方最爱吃的甜点，把对方可能爱看的文章剪下来或者电邮过去，帮他/她安排一天没有家务轻松自在的假期休息下。3. Keep Your Promises坚守承诺Failing to keep your word can destroy the unity and trust in a relationship. Its better to say Let me think about it than to say youll do something but fail to deliver.不守承诺会毁了一段感情的和睦和信任。所以最好常说“让我想一想”，而不是夸下海口却没办法实现诺言。4.Share Your Passions分享热情Take turns choosing an arts or cultural event to attend together each month. The point is to show your partner what you love, so that he or she can experience it as you do (or close enough). To make this work, both of you have to be flexible: someone might have to attend a football match or the theatre. The reward lies in experiencing each others passion. And who knows you may have a lot more fun than you ever imagined.每月轮流选择并一起参加一项艺术或者文化活动。这么做，是向你的爱人展示你的爱好，这样他/她也可以和你一起经历(或者近距离感受)。想要做好这一点，你们俩都必须很宽容并愿意配合：可能有人得去看足球比赛或者去剧院。这样做的好处是可以体会对方到某些事物的热爱之情。而且说不定，你会发现其中的乐趣比你想象得要多得多！5. Kiss Under a Full Moon在月夜下亲吻On a fine evening, spread a blanket under the night sky and drink in the beauty and quiet of your surroundings together. You can talk if you wish, or simply savour the silence and the experience of being together, side-by-side, under the stars.找个天气不错的晚上，在夜空下铺条毯子，在美丽安静的环境下一起喝点酒。可以聊点什么，或者只是肩并肩躺在星空下，享受宁静时光和两个人在一起的感觉。6. Play the Honeymoon Game玩玩蜜月游戏Do something for your partner that you did when you were newlyweds or first got together. Make a special meal. Send some flowers after a night of lovemaking. Tuck notes in unexpected places.回想下你们新婚燕尔或刚在一起的时候你为他/她做过什么，再做一次吧。做顿特别的饭菜，一夜缠绵后送束花，或者在他/她意想不到的地方留个爱心小便条。7. Discuss the Big Things in Life讨论生活中的大事When you were courting, did you talk for hours about current events or the meaning of life? If all you seem to talk about now is the grocery shopping or how much to spend on a new sofa, reintroduce meaningful conversation into your relationship. Try this: one night, while youre in front of the TV or in the car, make a provocative (but not hurtful) remark about something your partner cares deeply about the government, a sportsman or woman something that will get his or her dander up. He or she will disagree, of course, which will get the ball rolling. And keep it rolling!恋爱的时候，你们有没有花大把的时间来谈论时事或者探究生命的意义？如果现在你们只会谈些琐碎小事，像去杂货店买东西或者新沙发要花多少钱这类的，那你们就需要在你们的感情里再次添加些有意义的对话。不如试试这个：有一天，当你坐在电视前或者在车里的时候，就你的爱人很关注的事情(政府或者运动员都可以)发表一些挑衅的言论(不要语出伤人)，讲一些可能会让他生气发怒的话。他/她肯定不会同意你的观点啦，这样谈话才能继续下去嘛，继续聊吧。How to Deal With Bullies如何应对欺负你的人If youre someone who aspires to something beyond the ordinary, you must have figured out by now that there will always be those who are jealous or resentful of your success.如果你想不走寻常路，做出些非凡的成就，那你就要明白总有那么一些人会对你的成就心生嫉妒与怨恨。It doesnt matter that youve worked long and hard to get where you are, nor that youve made great sacrifices in achieving your goals. The haters will always find a reason tocriticize and even condemn you.无论你工作有多努力，或者你做出了多大的牺牲才获得了现在的成就，那些“恨你的人”总能找到理由来批评你，甚至诋毁你。Theyre spiteful people who begrudge you the pride you have in yourself and the recognition youre receiving from others. They cant stand it that youre happy, fulfilled and achieving your goals.对你心生不满的人看不惯你对自我的肯定，也见不得你得到别人的认可。他们无法忍受你的快乐、满足和成功。These hateful individuals are unwilling to do the work that youve done; they rarely make the same kinds of sacrifices or put in the long, hard hours. They resent your success but are too lazy or spoiled to invest real time or energy in the pursuit of their own goals.这些嫉恨你的人不愿意去做你所做过的事，不愿意同你一样做出牺牲，也不愿意花时间心血去工作，他们只是嫉妒你的成功，却永远懒得去花时间和力气去完成自己的目标。Its true that we arent always going to succeed in our ventures, even if we put in the time and effort. Results are never guaranteed and life has a way of throwing curve balls at us.诚然，有时候即使我们付出了时间和努力，也未必能成功。谁也不能保证生活会是一帆风顺的，有时，它也会跟你打个擦边球。I loved it when Tina Fey went up to collect her Golden Globe and held it high, saying, This is for all the haters! Shes a good example of a talented, hard-working and successful person whos received an inordinate amount of negative press. Ms. Fey may be besieged by haters but she refuses to let them get to her.我喜欢蒂娜-菲在金球奖领奖时说过的话，她把奖杯高高举起，说道，“感谢那些讨厌我的人！”蒂娜就是富有天赋、工作努力而且获得成功的好例子，同时，她也收到了无数负面抨击，但她从未让这些流言蜚语影响到自己。The thing you need to know about these haters is that the only reason they behave this way is that you have something they want but they arent willing to work for it.你只要记住：这些嫉恨你的人，他们讨厌你的唯一理由就是他们想得到你所得到的，却不愿意付出你所付出的。The haters are convinced that youve been lucky or that youve had some unfair advantage but the truth is that your success is born of your untiring efforts, and its these efforts that have brought about your luck.讨厌你的人总觉得你只不过是运气好而已，或者你走了后门，但事实是，你是通过自己的不懈努力才做出了成绩，这些努力才是你的“好运”所在。The best way to deal with haters is what I call the one-two punch. First, dont let them phase you. Be happy about your success and proud of your accomplishments. Let in the approval and the recognition from affirming, supportive people and never doubt that you deserve all this. The haters are angry, jealous people. What they think or say is ultimately meaningless.对付嫉恨你的人的最好办法就是下面这套“组合拳”。第一，别让他们影响到你。尽情地为自己取得的成功而感到高兴和自豪吧，和那些