责打孩子应讲方法.doc

责打孩子应讲方法我认为：适当体罚孩子，让他明白做错事情应当承担责任，并学会承受压力，是有好处的。现在多数孩子都是独生子女，都是在爷爷奶奶、姥姥姥爷、爸爸妈妈簇拥下的“小皇帝”，“小太阳”。往往都是衣来伸手饭来张口，不知稼穑不分五谷。是在各种新奇食品，成箱玩具的陪伴下长大的。大人们“捧在手里怕摔着，含在嘴里怕化了”，疼都来不及，怎么舍得动一根指头?孩子犯了错误即使妈妈有时气不过想打孩子，也在爷爷奶奶疼爱下望而却步。于是有些孩子就变成了“要风得风，要雨得雨”，稍有不顺心就不高兴就和大人闹，家长批评一句便不得了，养成飞扬跋扈唯我独尊的坏习惯。古语说：“养不教，父之过。”现在家庭，教育子女的任务却不仅仅在父亲，母亲也扮演着不可轻视的角色。在提倡赏识教育，快乐教育的今天，新一代的父母们为了让孩子成人成才，在竞争激烈的现代社会有立足之地、有所建树，可以说是使出了浑身解数。在孩子犯了错误，批评教育效果甚微，或者明知错误却屡教不改时，也许会忍不住扬起你的巴掌，让孩子改正错误，让孩子明白做错事应当承当责任。中国学前教育研究会副理事长朱家雄认为：只有“十全十美”的父母才会绝对不打孩子，而世界上极少有如此完美的父母。问题的关键不是能不能打，要不要打，而是应该怎样打。打孩子，要遵循以下几个原则。第一：适度原则体罚孩子，一定要 “适度”，俗话说，常骂不惊，常打不怕。经常打孩子，孩子就会习惯于挨打，逐渐养成一种即使挨打也满不在乎地态度，结果使孩子成为一个具有顽固反抗精神和暴力倾向的人。我原来的一个同事，他儿子成天逃学，整天沉溺于网吧，还会和一些不良少年打架斗殴。同事气得没有办法，隔三差五就会痛打一顿。可是不仅不起作用，还使孩子变本加厉，据同事气愤地说，孩子不仅在挨打时一动不动，摆出一副死猪不怕开水烫的样子还会恶狠狠地看着他。后来我离开了那个单位，那孩子现在怎么样了也不得而知，但我想他也许不会成为心理很健康的人吧。家长如果真要教训孩子，一定不要使用任何工具，用手打几下孩子的屁股就行了。家长期望完全通过打来教育孩子的做法，肯定是错误的。一味打，只会造成孩子种种不良的心态和心理偏差，决不能获得教育孩子的效果。第二：及时原则尽可能在孩子发生不良行为时马上加以惩罚，因为在孩子心目中，事情的因果关系是密切的，年龄越小越是如此。如果事情过去几天再惩罚，或几件事加起来一起惩罚，孩子会不明就理，甚至不清楚自己为何受罚。所以惩罚应及时，即发现孩子犯了错误之后，及时进行惩罚，指出其错误所在和应该承担的后果。第三：隐蔽原则“人前教子”的传统教育方法已经不合时宜，所以一定要注意打孩子的场所，对孩子进行惩罚应避免在公共场所和外人面前，孩子都是有自尊心的，当众不留情面会伤害孩子的自尊心，如果孩子当众顶撞，父母也会很没有面子。胡适的母亲就是教育孩子的典范，从不在人前打孩子。另外，打完以后要爱抚，讲道理，让孩子知道爸爸妈妈打他是为他好;孩子受到惩罚改正错误以后，爸爸妈妈要适时地对孩子进行言语和行动上的肯定，不要让孩子感到自己不受重视了、被冷落了。爸爸妈妈要让孩子明白，他之所以受到惩罚，并不是他因为他是个坏孩子，并不是爸爸妈妈不喜欢他，而是他这件事情做的不对。Spanking children should speak methodI think : the right to spank their children, to let him know what wrong things should bear the responsibility, and learn to bear the pressure, is good.Now most of the children are the only child, are in the grandma and grandpa, grandma grandpa, dad and mom surrounded by the little emperor , little sun . Are often hand clothing to eat a ready-cooked meal, do not know no grain crops. Is in all kinds of novelty food boxes of toys, grown up. Big people in his hand fall, with the fear of the mouth , pain are not, how willing to lift a finger? The child made a mistake even mother sometimes just want to hit a child, also in the grandparents love down and step back.Some children become to wind, rain, a bit difficult not to be happy and adults downtown, parental criticism a will not have become powerful and intransigent, stand upon ones pantofles bad habits.As the saying goes: do not support, the father of the. Now the family, the education of their children s task is not only in the father, mother also plays an important role. In the promotion of education, happy education today, a new generation of parents to let children become adult, in the fierce competition of the modern society have a place to live in, achievement, can be said to be resorted to use all ones skill. The child made a mistake, criticism and education had little effect, or knowingly error is incorrigible, might be tempted to raise your hand, let the child to correct mistakes, let the children know do wrong shall bear the liability.Chinese Preschool Education Research Association Vice-President Zhu Jiaxiong to think: only the perfect parents would never hit a child in the world, and few have such a perfect parents. The key of the problem is not can not play, want to play, but how to fight. Beating a child, want to follow the following principles.First: the principle of moderationCorporal punishment of children, must be moderate , as the saying goes, always scold not Jing, often playing remix. Children often play, the children get used to being beaten, had developed an even beaten make nothing of attitude, the results enable the child to become a recalcitrant rebellious spirit and violent person. I had a colleague, his son day truancy, indulged in Internet cafes, and also some bad boy fights. Colleagues have no way gas, time and again will beat him up. But not only does not work, also make the children become aggravated, according to colleagues said angrily, children not only in the blow when motionless, airs a dead mouse feels no cold. Will hurl at him. Then I left the unit, the child now what also can make nothing of it, but I think he may not be a mental healthy person.If parents are really going to lessons to children, do not use any tools, play a few hands the childs ass on the line.The expectation of parents completely through called education for children, must be wrong. A play, only children can cause adverse mentality and psychological deviation, no access to education child effect.Second: the principle of timelinessAs far as possible in children immediately punish bad behavior, because in their eyes, that causal relationship is close, the younger more so. If things in the past few days to punish, or a few things together with punishment, children will be unknown regarding science, even dont know how. So the punishment should be timely, which found that children make mistakes, timely punishment, point out a mistake and should bear the consequences.Third: covert principle People first traditional education methods have be inopportune or inappropriate, so attention must be paid to play the childs place, for the children of punishment should be avoided in public places and the presence of outsiders, children are proud, in relentless will hurt the childs self-esteem, if the child to contradict, parents also will lose face. Hu Shis mother is an educational model for children, ne