中西方友谊差别.ppt

DifferentLands DifferentFriendship GuoJiadong Chinese Western Differentrange Ontheonehand thedefinitionoffriendshipisdifferent Chineseregardgoodfriendsasbrother andtheyevensweartointhesameday Therageofwestern sfriendsiswider Friendshipcanbesuperficial temperate Itcanalsobestrongandperpetual Differentrange Ontheotherhand thetopicrangeisnotthesame Nevertheless friendsonlyconfinedinoneareasinwestern Itwon textendtootherareas InChinafriendsrunthroughallaspects theytalkeverythingunderthesun Differenttime InWestern ifthepeopledonotseeeachotherregularly therelation shipislikelytodie StudiesshowthatoneoutoffiveAmericanfamiliesmoveseveryyear Americanfriendshipsdevelopquickly andtheymaychangejustasquickly Differenttime ForChineseatruefriendshipenduresthroughoutlifechanges Chinesearefriendseveniftheyhaven tspokenfor20years OneverywellknownsayinginChinais Itissufficientinlifetohaveatruefriend Differentresponsibility MostAmericansexpecttheirfriendstobemoreindependentandsolvetheirownproblems Onthecontrary Chinesefriendshipneedsmoreobligations AChinesemayusepersonalconnectionstohelpthefriendtogetsomethinghardtoobtain AChineseoftenprovidesmoneytohisfriendtohelphimoutofdifficulties howevertheserarelyhappenedamongthewesterners Differentresponsibility Westernfriendshipismostlyamatterofprovidingemotionalsupportandspendingtimetogether Chinesefriendstendtogiveeachothermuchmoreconcretehelpandassistances AChinesefriendsismorelikelytogivespecificadvicetoafriend However anAmericanfriendwillbeverycautiousaboutgivingdirectadvice Insteadhemayraisequestionstoencouragehisfriendtoconsidercarefullybeforemakingdecisions AuldlangsyneShouldauldacquaintancebeforgot Andneverbroughttomind Shouldauldacquaintancebeforgot Anddaysofauldlangsyne Forauldlangsyne myfriends Forauldlangsyne We lltakeacupo kindnessyetForauldlangsyne 朋友朋友一生一起走那些日子不再有一句话一辈子一生情一杯酒朋友不曾孤单过一声朋友你会懂还有伤还有痛还要走还有我 Reason Thedifferentculturebackground First Chinahadbeenaagriculturalsocietyforthousandsofyears Theneedoflaborforceinagricultureemphasizedtheimportanceofinter personalrelationship Friendswereanimportantformofinterpersonalrelationshipsinthehierarchicalfeudalsociety Second Chinesealwaysvaluepragmatism 实用主义 justasthesayinggoes ifyouhavemanyfriends youwillhavemanyroads Bycontrast thewesternculturewasbaseoncommercialcommunity Theyvaluedindividualismandadvocatedpersonalfreedom Moreover it snotstrangeforAmericantomovehousefrequently SomeadviceforaWesternstudenttogetaChinesefriendship Figureoutyourmostimportantvalues Gotothesameplaceatthesametime Sharemoreaboutyourself Gotointerestgroups notbars SomeadviceforaChinesestudenttogetaWesternfriendship Itisimpolitetoaskaboutaperson sage maritalstatus orincome VisitplacesAmericansenjoyparties churches westernresta