来自美国的讲座青春期教育面对青春的冲动,为什么要等待

面对青春的冲动, 我们为什么需要等待? _致处于青春期的青少年,Why Wait? 为什么要等待,Why Wait? 为什么要等待,Rules protect us!保护我们的原则,Why Wait? 为什么要等待,Rules protect us!保护我们的原则,I.First protective wall Physical reasons 第一道保护的城墙身体原因,Why Wait? 为什么要等待,Rules protect us!保护我们的原则,I.First protective wall Physical reasons 第一道保护的城墙身体原因,A.Physical Reason #1: Protection from hurting our own bodies 身体原因1：避免自己的身体受到伤害,B.Physical Reason #2: Protection from an addiction to premarital sex身体原因2：避免沉溺于婚前性行为而不能自拔,B.Physical Reason #2: Protection from an addiction to premarital sex身体原因2：避免沉溺于婚前性行为而不能自拔,C.Physical Reason #3: Protection from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)身体原因3：避免感染性病,D.Physical Reason #4: Protection against unwanted pregnancy and abortion身体原因4：避免造成意外怀孕及流产,D.Physical Reason #4: Protection against unwanted pregnancy and abortion身体原因4：避免造成意外怀孕及流产,E.Physical Reason # 5: Providing for beauty in the marriage relationship身体原因5：为婚姻关系提供美好的享受,II.SECOND PROTECTIVE WALL - EMOTIONAL REASONS第二道保护的城墙 情感原因,II.SECOND PROTECTIVE WALL - EMOTIONAL REASONS第二道保护的城墙 情感原因,A.Emotional Reason #1: Protection from having our acceptance based on our performance情感原因1：避免建立在行为基础上的接受,II.SECOND PROTECTIVE WALL - EMOTIONAL REASONS第二道保护的城墙 情感原因,A.Emotional Reason #1: Protection from having our acceptance based on our performance情感原因1：避免建立在行为基础上的接受,B.Emotional Reason #2: Protection from guilt 情感原因2：避免犯罪,C.Emotional Reason #3: Protection from misleading feelings情感原因3：避免误会的感情,C.Emotional Reason #3: Protection from misleading feelings情感原因3：避免误会的感情,D.Emotional Reason #4: Protection from the hardships of breaking up情感原因4：避免面对分手的艰难,C.Emotional Reason #3: Protection from misleading feelings情感原因3：避免误会的感情,D.Emotional Reason #4: Protection from the hardships of breaking up情感原因4：避免面对分手的艰难,E.Emotional Reason #5: Protection from psychological and emotional distress情感原因5：避免心理和情感上的忧伤,F.Emotional Reason #6: Protection of our self-esteem情感原因6：保护自尊,F.Emotional Reason #6: Protection of our self-esteem情感原因6：保护自尊,G.Emotional Reason #7: Provides for the richness of maturity 情感原因7：拥有成熟的情感,F.Emotional Reason #6: Protection of our self-esteem情感原因6：保护自尊,G.Emotional Reason #7: Provides for the richness of maturity 情感原因7：拥有成熟的情感,H.Emotional Reason #8: Provides an affirmation of our dignity情感原因8：对个人尊严的肯定,I.Emotional Reason #9: Provides a shared memory情感原因9：拥有共同的回忆,I.Emotional Reason #9: Provides a shared memory情感原因9：拥有共同的回忆,III.THIRD PROTECTIVE WALL - RELATIONAL REASONS第三道保护城墙 相关原因,I.Emotional Reason #9: Provides a shared memory情感原因9：拥有共同的回忆,III.THIRD PROTECTIVE WALL - RELATIONAL REASONS第三道保护城墙 相关原因,A.Relational Reason #1: Protection from communication breakdowns相关原因1：避免交流障碍,B.Relational Reason #2: Protection from difficult courtships相关原因2：避免求爱受挫,B.Relational Reason #2: Protection from difficult courtships相关原因2：避免求爱受挫,C.Relational Reason #3: Protection from an involuntary comparison of former sexual partners相关原因3：避免不知不觉地与之前的性伴侣进行对比,D.Relational Reason #4: Protection from damaged family relationships相关原因4：避免破碎的家庭关系,D.Relational Reason #4: Protection from damaged family relationships相关原因4：避免破碎的家庭关系,E.Relational Reason #5: Provides for a special relationship found only in marriage相关原因5：只在婚姻中拥有这种特殊的关系基础,IV.FOURTH WALL OF PROTECTION MORAL/SPIRITUAL REASONS第四道保护的城墙 道德/心灵原因,IV.FOURTH WALL OF PROTECTION MORAL/SPIRITUAL REASONS第四道保护的城墙 道德/心灵原因,A.Moral/Spiritual Reason #1: Protection of our value and dignity道德/心灵原因1：价值观和尊严的保护,B.Moral/Spiritual Reason #2: Demonstrate respect, patience, and self-control道德/心灵原因2：表现出尊重、耐心和自制,B.Moral/Spiritual Reason #2: Demonstrate respect, patience, and self-control道德/心灵原因2：表现出尊重、耐心和自制,C.Moral/Spiritual Reason #3: Provides a stronger love. 道德/心灵原因3：拥有坚贞的爱情,V.THE MOST COMMON COUNTER-ARGUMENTS 最常见的辩论,V.THE MOST COMMON COUNTER-ARGUMENTS 最常见的辩论,A.How do we know we suit each other unless we have sex together before marriage? 婚前若没有发生性关系怎么知道我们是否合适？,V.THE MOST COMMON COUNTER-ARGUMENTS 最常见的辩论,A.How do we know we suit each other unless we have sex together before marriage? 婚前若没有发生性关系怎么知道我们是否合适？,B.Ill go crazy if I dont sleep with someone! 不和那个人发生关系我会受不了！,C.HOW CAN WE COPE WITH SEXUAL PRESSURE?我们怎样应对性冲动？,C.HOW CAN WE COPE WITH SEXUAL PRESSURE?我们怎样应对性冲动？,1.Principle #l: Set standards beforehand.原则1：预先设立一些规定。,C.HOW CAN WE COPE WITH SEXUAL PRESSURE?我们怎样应对性冲动？,1.Principle #l: Set standards beforehand.原则1：预先设立一些规定。,2.Principle #2: Be accountable原则2：负责任,3.Principle #3: Avoid sexually orientated media原则3：避免接触有性导向的媒体,3.Principle #3: Avoid sexually orientated media原则3：避免接触有性导向的媒体,4.Principle #4: Choose companions carefully原则4：选择同伴要谨慎,3.Principle #3: Avoid sexually orientated media原则3：避免接触有性导向的媒体,4.Principle #4: Choose companions carefully原则4：选择同伴要谨慎,5.Principle #5: Seek other peoples wisdom原则5：学习别人的智慧,28 POSITIVE REASONS TO WAIT等待的积极因素,28 POSITIVE REASONS TO WAIT等待的积极因素,1.Abstinence protects you from both the fear of and the consequences of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). 节制使你免于经受对性传染疾病的恐惧和后果。,28 POSITIVE REASONS TO WAIT等待的积极因素,1.Abstinence protects you from both the fear of and the consequences of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). 节制使你免于经受对性传染疾病的恐惧和后果。,2.Abstinence frees you from the fear and consequences of pregnancy. 节制使你免于经受怀孕的恐慌和后果。,3.Abstinence frees you from the dangers of various birth control methods. 节制使你免于面对采用各种避孕手段的危险之中。,3.Abstinence frees you from the dangers of various birth control methods. 节制使你免于面对采用各种避孕手段的危险之中。,4. Abstinence frees you from the trauma of abortion.节制使你免受流产的痛苦。,3.Abstinence frees you from the dangers of various birth control methods. 节制使你免于面对采用各种避孕手段的危险之中。,4. Abstinence frees you from the trauma of abortion.节制使你免受流产的痛苦。,5.Abstinence protects you from sexual addiction.节制使你免于沉溺于性,6.Abstinence frees you from the pressure to get married before you are ready.节制使你免于面对没做好准备就结婚的压力。,6.Abstinence frees you from the pressure to get married before you are ready.节制使你免于面对没做好准备就结婚的压力。,7.Abstinence frees you from being valued on a performance basis. 节制使你不必因着行为而被人评价。,6.Abstinence frees you from the pressure to get married before you are ready.节制使你免于面对没做好准备就结婚的压力。,7.Abstinence frees you from being valued on a performance basis. 节制使你不必因着行为而被人评价。,8.Abstinence protects you from comparison later in marriage.节制使你免于在婚后被拿来对比。,9.Abstinence protects your most delicate sex organ-your mind. 节制可以保护你最敏感的性器官 情绪,9.Abstinence protects your most delicate sex organ-your mind. 节制可以保护你最敏感的性器官 情绪,10. Abstinence protects you from feelings that can mislead you. 节制可以使你摆脱误导你的感情。,9.Abstinence protects your most delicate sex organ-your mind. 节制可以保护你最敏感的性器官 情绪,Abstinence protects you from feelings that can mislead you. 节制可以使你摆脱误导你的感情。,11.Abstinence protects you from sustaining bad relationships. 节制使你不必维持不好的关系。,12.Abstinence frees you from the trauma of having to give up your baby for adoption.节制使你免于经受因流产而放弃自己孩子的打击。,12.Abstinence frees you from the trauma of having to give up your baby for adoption.节制使你免于经受因流产而放弃自己孩子的打击。,13. Abstinence helps you avoid deep scars. 节制帮你避免留下深深的伤疤。,12.Abstinence frees you from the trauma of having to give up your baby for adoption.节制使你免于经受因流产而放弃自己孩子的打击。,13. Abstinence helps you avoid deep scars. 节制帮你避免留下深深的伤疤。,14.Abstinence provides a basis of trust.节制提供了信任的基础。,15.Abstinence helps you develop respect for life.节制帮助你懂得尊重生活。,15.Abstinence helps you develop respect for life.节制帮助你懂得尊重生活。,16.Abstinence frees you to focus your energy on establishing and realizing life goals. 节制使你能专心在建立并实现生活目标之上。,15.Abstinence helps you develop respect for life.节制帮助你懂得尊重生活。,16.Abstinence frees you to focus your energy on establishing and realizing life goals. 节制使你能专心在建立并实现生活目标之上。,17.Abstinence gives freedom from guilt. 节制使人从罪中解脱出来。,18.Abstinence helps develop unselfish sensitivity.节制有助于培养不自私的敏感性。,18.Abstinence helps develop unselfish sensitivity.节制有助于培养不自私的敏感性。,19.Abstinence enhances true communication in a relationship.节制在关系中加强了真正意义上的沟通。,18.Abstinence helps develop unselfish sensitivity.节制有助于培养不自私的敏感性。,19.Abstinence enhances true communication in a relationship.节制在关系中加强了真正意义上的沟通。,20.Abstinence helps build patience and self-control.节制有助于培养耐心和自制能力。,Sex is worth waiting for!,21.Abstinence helps to enhance the special relationship found only in marriage.节制有助于加强婚姻中的特殊关系基础。,21.Abstinence helps to enhance the special relationship found only in marriage.节制有助于加强婚姻中的特殊关系基础。,22.Abstinence helps develop positive principles of relational