中西方友谊的差异The-DIfference-of-Friendship.ppt

TheDifferencesofFriendship,BetweentheWestandChina,Presenter1XiaoZhang2XiaoWang,Proverb,“没有真挚朋友的人，是真正孤独的人。”Withoutafriend,theworldislikeawilderness.,Generality,SocialcultureinChinaandtheUnitedStatesisnotthesame.Collectivistcultureisplayingadecisiveroleinthesociety.Meanwhile,theAmericancommunityisleadedbyindividualism.Thedifferencesofvaluesresultinvariousattitudesandunderstandingtowardsfriendship.,1.personyoulike;2.supporter;3.notenemy;4.sillyorannoyingperson-OxfordEnglishDictionary,“彼此有交情的人或恋爱的对象。”现代汉语词典,ThefriendshipandfriendsintheeyesofChineseandwesternpeople,Whatcanyouexpectfromyourfriends?,Howlongcanfriendshiplast?,Howmuchcanyoudependonyourfriends?,Howmuchcanyouexpectfromyourfriends?,TheFriendshipandFriendsintheEyesofChineseandWesternPeople,AlthoughChinesearemoregentleandhumble,thedefinitionoffriendandfriendshipisquiteclear.Weregardthetwoinaveryseriousway.Chinesefriendmustsharesimilarinterest,similarpersonalities.Otherwisetheyarejustacquaintance.,TheFriendshipandFriendsintheEyesofChineseandWesternPeople,FriendandfriendshipintheeyesofwesternpeoplearequitedifferentfromthatofChinese.Thosepeoplewhowerechancedonlikepatchesofdriftingduckweedcanbefriends.Furthermore,forthefriendship,thewesternpeoplearemorecasualcomparedwithourChinese.,WhatCanYouExpectfromYourFriends?,AfriendinChinaissomeonewhocanfeelthatyouareintrouble,andofferassistancebeforeyouaskfor.InChinatherearefewlimitsonwhatyoucanaskorexpectfromafriend.Youfeelfreetotellyourfriendswhathe/shecanorshoulddotohelpyouorpleaseyou.,WhatCanYouExpectfromYourFriends?,Inwesterncountries,youcancertainlyaskafriendtodosomethingforyou,butyouwouldnotexpectafriendtorecognizeandrespondyourwillwithoutstatingthemexplicitly.Therearelimitsonwhatyoucanexpectfromafriend.Whenyouaskforhelpinwesterncountries,youshouldrecognizethatthefriendmaysayno.,Howlongcanfriendshiplast?,Chineseseemtoexpecttheirfriendshiptostaythesameoveralongperiodoftime,maybeforalifetime.Atruefriendshipisarelationshipenduresthroughanychanges.,Inwesterncountriesanindividuallikelytochangeeventheirbestfriend.Thereasonisthatfriendship,likemanyotherrelationshipsinwesterncountries,especiallythecountryliketheUnitedStates,wouldencounterfrequentalteration.Ifpeopleinvolveddontseeeachotherandinteractregularly,therelationshipisprobablywither.,Howmuchcanyoudependonyourfriends?,Chinesefriendsgiveeachothermoreconcretehelpandassistancethanwesternfriendsdo.AChinesewillusepersonalnetworkingtohelpafriendtogetsomethinghardtoobtainsuchasajob.Wewillevenhelpourfriendgetoutoftheireconomichardshipbylendingthemmoneyandrequirenointerest.,Howmuchcanyoudependonyourfriends?,Peopleprefertobeindependentratherthaninvolvedwitheachotherinthewest.Sotheymayfeeluncomfortableinarelationshipinwhichonepersonisconstantlygivingandtheotheroneonlydependonwhatsbegiven.,Howmuchcanyouexpectfromyourfriends?,Chinesetendtocommunicatewithothersinanindirectway.Butinclosepersonalrelationshipssuchasfriendship,weusuallyperformanoppositeway.ThetalkbetweenChinesefriendswouldprobablysoundtoodirecttowesternears.,Howmuchcanyouexpectfromyourfriends?,Americansapologizetotheirfriendsforminorinconveniencessuchastelephoninglateatnight.EveninclosefriendshiptheychoosepoliteformsincommunicationlikeCouldyouandWouldyoumind,中国朋友的朋友=朋友，朋友的敌人=敌人,TheWest-friendsofmyfriends=?Foesofmyfriends=?,Becauseofthedifferencesamongthedefinitionoffriendship,theattitudestowardsthetreatmentoffriendandhowtomaintainafriendshipvaryfromChinaandthewest.AndthedifferentlyexpectedreturnbetweenChineseandthewestwouldmisleadourinterculturalcommunication.Therefore,thepeopleofChinaandthewestshouldpromotetheirculturalexchanges.Wemustunde