Unit-14-Are-We-Raising-a-Generation-of-Spoilt-Brats.ppt

新世纪高等院校英语专业本科生系列教材（修订版）综合教程第五册(第2版)电子教案,Coverpage,上海外语教育出版社南京信息工程大学刘杰海,Unit14AreWeRaisingaGenerationofSpoiltBrats?,Contentspage,Contents,LearningObjectivesPre-readingActivitiesGlobalReadingDetailedReadingConsolidationActivitiesFurtherEnhancement,LearningObjectives,LearningObjectives,Rhetoricalskill:metaphor,simile,quotationsKeylanguageafterall,theotherparentsarealldoingit.Butthemessagewearesendingouttoourchildrenisthattheyshouldexpectthethingstheywantinlifetobehandedtothemonaplate.Andmanyexpertsbelieveourpushoverparentingisdoingmoreharmthangood.,DetailedReading,DR-p3-4text,3.Sowhydoparentsfinditsodifficulttosayno?Couldwebedoingourchildrenagravedisservicebylettingthemhavetheirownway?Arewerearingagenerationofspoiltbrats?4.Thatsomemiddle-classparentswhoarebringingupspoiltbratsispartlyagenerationalthing.Parentswhowerethemselvesbroughtupinaverydisciplinarianwayaredeterminednottodothesamewiththeirchildren,buttheystruggletofindabalancebetweensayingnoandsayingyes.Itissimplyeasiertosayyes.,DetailedReading,DR-p5text,5.InBritain,wetendtohaveahousefulofunderagedespots,lounginginconsideratelyacrosseverysofa,throwingtantrumswhenthelatestmust-haveaccessoryisdeniedthem,andtreatingtheirparentsaslittlemorethanlackeys.,DetailedReading,DR-p6text,6.ImthebreadwinnerandtheonlythingIaskisthatwhenIcomehome,Igettorelaxinmyarmchair,saysGary,whorunsanITcompany.Butmy17-year-oldsonisusuallysittingthereandrefusestogetup.Iknowitsoundspetty,butitmakesmelivid.Hegets35aweekpocketmoney,plustheclothes,computersandmobilephonesthatheneeds,buthewontshowmethemostbasiccourtesy.HehardlyevenglancesupwhenIcomeintotheroom.,DetailedReading,DR-p7text,7.Arecentsurveyrevealedthattheaverageteenagerleavesthehouseinanoutfitworthmorethan229,jewelryboughtfor125anda75watch.Mobilephones,MP3playersandwalletsaddanother300,bringingthetotaluptoaround700.Ouryoungstershavedevelopedatasteforthefinerthingsinlife,andincreasedaffluencemeansthatmostofuscanaffordtokeeptheminthemannertowhichtheyvebecomeaccustomed.,DetailedReading,DR-p8text,8.LizandherhusbandstretchedthemselvestotheirfinanciallimitstosendtheirdaughterAmytopublicschool.Theyhavediscoveredthatthefeesarejustthetipoftheiceberg.,DetailedReading,DR-p9text,9.We,aswellasAmy,areveryconsciousthatmostofherclassmatesarebetteroff,becausesheoftentalksaboutfriendswhohaveweekendcottagesinthecountry,saysLiz.Itisastruggle,buthavingplacedherinthatenvironment,wefeelitourdutytoensurethatshecankeepupwiththeothers,goontheskitripsandhavethesamegearastheothergirls.Shesnotspoilt,wejustwanthertodowell,andifthatmeanswehavetodowithoutholidaysoranewcar,thenitsworthit.,DetailedReading,DR-p10-11text,10.Self-sacrificehasalwaysbeenpartandparcelofparenthood,andweeventakeaperverseprideinit.Justtalktothemotherwhoboastshowsheneverbuysanynewclothes,whileherkidsaredressedinthisseasonsfashions.11.Thoseannualsurveysestimatingthatitcostsaround180,000tobringupachildtotheageof21dontappeartoputusoffprocreating.Butincreasingly,questionsarebeingraisedabouttheeffectsofchild-centeredparenting.Somuchemphasisisonempathizingwithourchildren;coulditbethatwerestoringupproblemsforlater?,DetailedReading,DR-p12text,12.Middle-classparentsbendoverbackwardstogivetheirchildrenchoicesfromthetimetheyarebabies,saysJulia.Weaskthemiftheywantyogurtorcheeseandwhichcolorspoontheywouldprefer.Weencouragethemtohaveopinions.Thenwethrowupourhandsinhorrorwhenweendupwithastroppy12-year-oldwhohasamindofhisown.Weempathizewiththem,whichisgreat,buttheresaflipsideifweretooclosetoourchildrenthenwefeeltheirpainwhentheyreallywantthatnewiPod,anditsveryhardtosayno.Mostparentsdontwanttoprovokeaconfrontation.IknowImasmuchofasofttouchasthenextparent.,DetailedReading,DR-p13text,13.Guiltisalsoaprimemotivatoramongdual-incomecoupleswhofindthemselvescaughtinacatch-22situation.Theybothworkallhourstoservicethemortgage,schoolfeesandfamilyholidays.Thentheyfeelguiltyaboutneverbeingthereforthekids,andsoassuagetheirguiltbylavishingtheirchildrenwithevenmoreclothesandconsumerdurables.,DetailedReading,DR-p14text,14.Theideaofafamilyunitisamyth.Workingcoupleshaveverylittledisposabletimeforeachother,ortheirchildren,sowhenthekidsareyoungertheyoutsourcethemtonanniesorchildminders,andwhentheyreolder,theyfeelguiltyandbuythemoffbyindulgingthemandneveraskinganythinginreturn.Bythetimetheyreteenagers,kidsseetheirpeergroupastheirnewfamilyandhavelittleloyaltytotheirparents.,DetailedReading,DR-p15text,15.Thefallouttoallthisisalreadywithus.Theanti-bullyingcharityKidscapehasidentifiedthedisturbingemergenceofspoiltmiddle-classmonsterswhomakeotherchildrensliveshell.Thesebratbulliesaretooshrewdtoengageinphysicalviolence,andinsteadtargettheirvictimsusingtextande-mail.Castingforwardafewyears,theGenerationY,aged16to27,isalsoturningouttobeatrickybunch.Havinggrownupquestioningtheirparents,theynowquestiontheiremployers,areterminallyself-absorbedandshowlittlerespect.,DetailedReading,DR-p16-17text,16.Arecentsurveyofemployersrevealedemployersdespairatthelackofinterpersonalskills,evenamonggraduateswithtop-classdegrees.Graduatevacanciesremainunfilledbecauseincreasingnumbersofyoungpeopleareunabletoanswerphonespolitely,interactrespectfullywithcolleaguesorgraspthefactthattheywillhavetoperformtaskstheyconsidertobebeneaththem.17.Someyoungpeoplehavebeensopamperedtheycantstickatajobwhenthingsgettough.Theyhavenoexperienceofknucklingdowntohouseholdchoresandpullingtheirweight,becausetheirparentsdideverythingforthem.,DetailedReading,DR-p18text,18.Overindulgencetendstostartinthecradle.Thatbeingthesmartest,state-of-the-artcradlemoneycanbuy.TheresanunmistakableelementofsocialcompetitivenessandkeepingupwiththeJoneses,whenwedressouryoungchildrenincashmere,andshowerthemwithexpensivetoysandourteenagersthewhizziestgadgetsmoneycanbuy.,DetailedReading,DR-p19text,19.WhetherawardrobecrammedfullofArmaniBabyguaranteesadulthappinessisamootpoint.Parentsshouldntbetoohardonthemselves.Itisntreallytheparentsfault.Theressomuchpressureonthemtoensuretheirchildrensucceedinlifefromanearlyage.Theyareconstantlytoldthathoweverwellorbadlytheirchilddoesatschool,itsalldowntotheparentingtheyreceived.Astheyearsgoby,thestakesgethigher,untiltheyveinvestedsomuchinthemthatfamilyliferevolvesroundthechildren.,DetailedReading,DR-p20atext,20.Adultshavetotakeresponsibilityforsettingboundariesandstickingtothem,saysAllisonMitchell.Parentscometomeindespairbecausetheirchildrenareconstantlydemandingstuffandtheadultisstrugglingwithdiscipline.Weremoreaffluentthesedayssowecangiveourkidsthingsweneverhad,butthatmeanstheyhavenoconceptofsavinguporofstrivingforanything.Itseasiertosayyestothatexpensivenewmobilephoneyourchildwants,ratherthanwaitingfortheirbirthday,orsuggestingtheyearnthemoneytopayforitthemselves,DetailedReading,DR-p20btext,butIgettheparenttositdown,closetheireyesandvisualizetheconsequencesofsayingyestoamobile.Theycanseethatinaweekstimeafreshdemandforsomethingelsewillcome,andtheywonderwhereitwillend.,DetailedReading,DR-p21text,21.Parenthoodhasbecomealifesentence.Youvemadethingssocomfortableforyourkidsthatjustwhenyouthoughtyoucouldretireandtraveltheworldandspendsomemoneyonyourself,your35-year-oldsoncomesbackandexpectsMummyandDaddytolookafterhimagain.,DetailedReading,DR:p1-3Analysis,Paragraphs1-3AnalysisFromparentsperspective,thistextbeginswiththedescriptionofthepamperedexistenceoftodayschildrenwhogetwhatevertheywant.Andthen,itispointedoutthatthelovingparents,readytodoeverythingfortheirchildren,areactuallydoingmoreharmthangood.Thus,thetheme,rearingagenerationofspoiltbrats,isputforwardinthispart.,DetailedReading,DR:p4-14Analysis,Paragraphs4-14AnalysisInthispart,thetextanalyzesthereasonswhysomemiddle-classfamiliesspoiltheirchildren.Thispartcanbefurtherdividedintotwosections.InParagraphs4-10,itispointedoutthatwhiletheparentsareunwillingtosettoomanydisciplinesfortheirchildren,theyalsofindithardtostrikeabalancebetweenpermissionandrefusal.Paragraphs11-14areaboutthemotivatorwhichmakesparentsempathizewiththeirchildren.,DetailedReading,DR:p15-18Analysis,Paragraphs15-19AnalysisThispartdescribestheproblemsrelevanttoyoungasaresultofoverindulgencebyparents.Andatthesametime,itispointedoutthattheoverindulgencefromtheparentsbeginsfromcradlebecausethereisalsomuchpressureonparentsfromthesociety.,DetailedReading,DR:p19-21Analysis,Paragraphs20-21AnalysisThispartisaboutthereflectionbyparentsandexperts,whobelievethatitisnecessarytolayoutthegroundrulesforacceptablebehaviorofyoungsters.ThewordsarequotedfromAllisonMitchell,whothinksitiswiseforparentsnottosatisfytheunreasonabledemandsfromtheirkids.,DetailedReading,DR-Questions-p1,DetailedReading,Paragraph1:Question,Whatkindofpamperedexistencedochildrenoftodayenjoy?,Asisdescribedinthispart,theywearclothesandaccessoriesworth700,theyhavebettermobilephonesthantheirparents,andtheyarebusywiththeirsocialliveswithoutworryingaboutthemoneyneeded.Whatsmore,alltheirdemandshavetobesatisfiedimmediatelyandanyrefusalisunacceptable.,DR-Questions-p3,DetailedReading,Paragraph3:Question,Whatdoestheauthormeanbypushoverparenting?,Theauthormeansthatparentswouldliketodoeverythingtheycanfortheirchildrensomuchsothatparentshateitwhenchildrenareunhappy,andrecoilwhentheyshout.Parentsfinditverydifficulttosaynototheirchildren.,DR-Questions-p4,DetailedReading,Paragraph4:Question,Whyaresomemiddle-classparentsspoilingtheirchildren?,Becausetheywerebroughtupinaverydisciplinaryway,theydontwanttodothesamewiththeirchildren,buttheyfindithardtostrikeabalancebetweensayingyesandsayingno.,DR-Questions-p6,DetailedReading,Paragraph6:Question,Whywasthefather,Gary,soangrywithhisson?,Becausethefatherfindsthat,despitethefactthathegiveshissonwhateverhedemands,hissondoesnteventakeaglanceathim,whenheisbackhomefromwork,toshowhimthebasicpoliteness,letalonegivebackthearmchairhewants.,DR-Questions-p8-10,DetailedReading,Paragraphs8-10:Question,Whatdoestheauthormeanwhenshesaysthatself-sacrificehasalwaysbeenpartandparcelofparenthood?,AccordingtowhatismentionedinParagraphs8-10,parents,inordertomaketheirchildrenkeepupwithotherclassmatescostlyexpenditureandactivities,choosetoworkveryhardandliveaneconomicallifethemselves,andeventakeperverseprideinit.,DR-Questions-p12,DetailedReading,Paragraphs12:Question,Whatisthereasonwhyparentsfinditveryhardtosaynototheirchildren?,Parentsencouragethechildrentohavetheirownopinionswhentheyareyoung,andendupwithself-centeredchildrenwithdefinitewills.Parentsaregenerallyempathizingwiththechildren,whichmakesiteasyforthemtofeelthepainoftheirchildrenand,therefore,hardtorefusetheirdemands.,DR-Questions-p13,DetailedReading,Paragraph13:Question,Whydoestheauthorsaydual-incomecouplesarecaughtinacatch-22situation?,Becausewhilethedual-incomeparentshavetoworkallhourstopayforthemortgage,schoolfeesandfamilyholidays,theyfeelguiltyfortheyhavenotimetostaytogetherwiththeirchildren;whatsmore,inordertobalancethis,theytrytosatisfyeveryneedoftheirchildren.,DR-Questions-p15-17a,DetailedReading,Paragraphs15-17:Question,GivesomeexamplestoprovethesentenceThefallouttoallthisisalreadywithus.,Asoneexample,theanti-bullyingKidscapehasfoundthatspoiltmiddle-classchildren,withtheirtroublesomebehavior,aredisturbingotherchildrenslives.Asanotherexample,asisshownbyarecentsurvey,leadingemployersfeeldespairatthelackofinterpersonalskillsevenamongthosegraduateswithtop-classdegreesbecausemoreandmoreyoungmenoftodayturnouttolackthehabitofpolitenessincommunication.,DR-Questions-p15-17b,DetailedReading,Asstillanotherexample,someyoungpeoplecannotstickatajobwhenthingsbecomedifficultforthem,andsomecannotevendodailyhouseholdchoresbythemselves.,DR-Questions-p19,DetailedReading,Paragraph19:Question,Whydoestheauthorsaythatparentsshouldntbetoohardonthemselvesanditisntreallyparentsfault?,Sincethereissomuchpressureonparentstoensuretheirchildrenssuccesswhentheyarestillyoung,andparentsareoftentoldthattheirparentingwilldecidetheirchildrensfuture,parentsendupspendingagreatdealofmoneyonthem.,DR-Questions-p20,DetailedReading,Paragraph20:Question,Whydoadultshavetotakeresponsibilityforsettingboundariesandstickingtothem?,Ifparentsindulgethem,childrenwonthaveanyconceptofsavinguporofstrivingforanything.Nomatterhowparentstrytosatisfytheirchildrensdemands,theresnoendinthedemandsfornewerandfinerthings.Therefore,itstheadultsobligationtolaydowntheboundariesandpersistincarryingthemoutsothattheycouldpossiblyavoidtheunendingrequests.,DR-Questions-p21,DetailedReading,Paragraph21:Question,Whydosomepeoplesaythatparenthoodhasbecomealifesentence?,Becauseparentswillfindthat,aftertheymakealltheireffortstogivecomfortablelivestotheirchildrenandpreparetoenjoyrelaxationintheirretirement,theirgrown-upchildrenwouldcomebackandexpectanotherroundofrearing.,LPT-theykitthemselvesoutdailyinclothesand,DetailedReading,“Theykitthemselvesoutdailyinclothesandaccessoriesworth700pounds.”,Paraphrase,Whentheygoouteveryday,theywearclothesplusflashypiecesofdecorationamountingto700pounds.,LPT-kitout,DetailedReading,kitout:(oftenpassive)tosupplysb.orsth.withnecessarythings,esp.clothes,e.g.,Nowadaysyoungpeopletendtokitthemselvesoutwithup-to-dateelectronicdevicessuchasiPhonesandiPads.Themountaineerswerekittedoutwiththelatestgearforhigh-altitudeclimbing.,LPT-accessory,DetailedReading,accessoryn.(usu.pl.)sth.thatisnotanecessarypartofsth.largerbutmakesitmorebeautiful,useful,effective,etc.,e.g.,Letmetellyouthatmybrotherspenttwiceasmuchmoneyontheaccessoriesashiscaritself.,LPT-anddemandtheydowhetheritbethelatest,DetailedReading,“Anddemandtheydo:whetheritbethelatestjeansoracomputerupgrade,instantgratificationisthebyword,andrefusalisnotanoption.”,Paraphrase,Andthechildrenreallymakedemandstotheirparents,suchastheup-to-datefashionsorthenewestelectronicproduct,whichhavetobesatisfiedassoonaspossible,andanydisagreementfromparentswouldbeunacceptable.,LPT-upgrade,DetailedReading,upgraden.ahighermodelofsth.;ahigherposition,e.g.,Ifyoudontwanttobuyanewcomputerrightnow,youdbetter,atleast,giveahardwareupgradetoyours.Theupgrademeans$500amonthinmysalary.,LPT-gratification,DetailedReading,gratificationn.theactoraninstanceofsatisfying,e.g.,Hehadthegratificationofknowingthathehaddonehisbest.Mostmenliveonlyforthegratificationoftheirdesire.,LPT-byword,DetailedReading,bywordn.acondensedbutmemorablesayingembodyingsomeimportantfactofexperiencethatistakenastruebymanypeople,e.g.,Cautionbecomesabywordforinvestors.Thegeneralsnamehadbecomeabywordforcrueltyinwar.,LPT-welcometothepamperedexistenceoftoday,DetailedReading,“Welcometothepamperedexistenceoftodayschildren,aplacewherepesterpowerrulesandparentsaremilkedlikecashcows.”,Paraphrase,Hereisaworldofexcessivelydoted-uponchildren,whereparents,harassedbytheirchildrensconstantdemandsforonepurchaseafteranother,serveasATMemittingmoney.,LPT-thepamperedexistenceoftodayschildren,DetailedReading,“thepamperedexistenceoftodayschildren”,Paraphrase,thepresent-daychildrenslifethatfullyrevealsoverindulgence,LPT-pesterpower,DetailedReading,pesterpower:childrensbehaviorinanannoyingmannertowardsparentsbydoingoraskingforsth.repeatedly,Note:Thewordpesterisactuallyaverb,whichisusedasapre-modifyingnoun,though,makingupaphraseandrevealingthespoiltbratstonagattheirparentsforup-datedthingsalmosteveryday.,LPT-parentsaremilkedlikecashcows,“parentsaremilkedlikecashcows”,Intheeyesofthechildren,ifnotallbutatleastsome,theirfathersandmothersaremerelycashmachines.Thisclauseisobviouslyasimile.,DetailedReading,Paraphrase,LPT-wehateitwhentheyarehappy,“Wehateitwhentheyareunhappy,andrecoilwhentheyshout,andtakingthepathofleastresistanceseemseasier;afterall,theotherparentsarealldoingit.”,DetailedReading,Paraphrase,Thelastthingintheworldwecouldputupwithisourchildrenbeingunhappy;therefore,wetendtoinstantlysatisfytheirneedsassoonastheyyell,thusthinkingitwouldbemorefeasibletomeetwiththeirdemandsthantoarouseconfrontationwiththem,becausetheotherparentsarealladoptingthesameparentingway.,LPT-recoil,DetailedReading,recoilv.tomovebackbecauseoffearordisgust,e.g.,Shewasbittenbyasnakeinherchildhood;therefore,shewouldimmediatelyrecoilinhorrorevenuponseeingastringontheground.Irecoiledattheideaofqueuingupforover7hoursbeforeenteringthatpavilionatEXPO.,LPT-tobehandedtothemonaplate,tobehandedtothemonaplate(Para.2)Tohandsomebodysomethingonaplateistoletsomeonegetorachievesomethingeasily,withoutmucheffortfromthem.,DetailedReading,LPT-andmanyexpertsbelieveoutpushover,DetailedReading,“Andmanyexpertsbelieveourpushoverparentingisdoingmoreharmthangood.”,Paraphrase,Alargenumberofspecialistsbelievethatourwayinfunctioningasparentsatthewillofourchildrenisdisadvantageousratherthanadvantageoustothem.,LPT-pushover,DetailedReading,pushovern.sth.thatiseasytodoortowin,orsb.thatiseasilypersuadedorinfluencedordefeated,e.g.,Isufferedfrominsomniathenightbeforethejobinterview,whichturnedouttobeapushover,though.Mydadisapushoverfather,forhealwaysgivesmesomemoneywheneverIaskhim.,LPT-couldwebedoingourchildrenagrave,DetailedReading,“Couldwebedoingourchildrenagravedisservicebylettingthemhavetheirownway?”,Paraphrase,Maybewhenweparentsencouragechildrentohavetheirownmindsandmaketheirownchoices,areweinfactdoingseriousharmtothem?,LPT-disservice,DetailedReading,disservicen.anact,intendedtohelp,thatturnsoutbadly,e.g.,Shedidhercauseagreatdisservicebyconcealingthetruth.Youhavedoneaseriousdisservicetoyourcountrybysellingmilitarysecretstoourenemies.,LPT-parentswhowerethemselvesbroughtupina,DetailedReading,“Parentswhowerethemselvesbroughtupinaverydisciplinarianwayaredeterminednottodothesamewiththeirchildren,buttheystruggletofindabalancebetweensayingnoandsayingyes.”,Paraphrase,Parentsdontwanttoimposetoomanyrulesandregulationsontheirchildrenbecauseparents,whentheywerechildren,hadbeenstrictlyinstructed,buttheyfinditverydifficulttodecidewhentheyshouldsatisfyandwhentheyshouldrefusethedemandsbytheirchildren.,LPT-disciplinarian,DetailedReading,disciplinarianadj.relatingtoapersonthatbelievesinkeepingcompletecontrolofthepeopleheorsheisinchargeof,esp.bygivingstrongpunishments,e.g.,