情感美文：婚姻生活中的八个真谛

1、情感美文：婚姻生活中的八个真谛 然而当说的次数到达一定数量后，离婚就会变成真的了。 情感美文：婚姻生活中的八个真谛 1.The biggest threat to a marriage is not death or poverty, it is the daily trivial matters. 经得起贫穷和生死考 验的爱情，往往会输给平淡的流年。Think about Jack and Rose in the film Titanic, no one could doubt their true love. I still clearly remember those scenes wh

2、ich touched me. It was Jack who saved Rose's life with his own life, making the love last forever. Imaging that both of them survived, they went onto a marriage, the ending may not be that 。“ lovingThe biggest threat to a marriage is not death or poverty, it is the daily trivial matters.2.Basing

3、 a marriage on “ loveONLYmay carry many risks.婚姻不能光靠感情维系，应该有多种元素去平衡。As an adult I have to say that many of us may not just love one person in our entire lifetime. Before marriage, we might have loved someone else, which is not uncommon. After marriage, it is also possible to be attracted by someone

4、other than your spouse. Basing a marriageon “ love ONLY may carry many risks. From my point of view, a good marriage contains the following elements: love, responsibility, understanding, effective listening, patience, appreciation, common interests, care, kindness, trust, fairness and so on.3.Focus

5、on changing ourselves rather than others, u will findpeace in your marriage对方是无法改变的，至少无法改变到你满意的状 态。Many of us try very hard to change others, even we clearly know that it is not necessary and it is impossible. Sometimes we give up but soon we will pick the bad habit up again. It is why we argue from

6、 time to time (not just with our partner, but with someone else)。If we could truly accept the above statement, and focus on changing ourselves rather than others, you will find peace in your marriage. If you can successfuly change yourself, then your partner will notice that with appreciation and he

7、/she may rethink what he/she has to change, then things are going to be better. It is a positive cycle. If you failed to change yourself, what could you expect others do?I have always believed that everyone has some secrets that would last for a lifetime. If you have yours, then please accept the tr

8、uth that your partner has his/hers. It is not a smart idea to expose everything under the sun. Stop peeking his/her record of chatting, his/her messages. Don't be so curious about his/her locked draws and dairies. The rule of respecting other's privacy applies on your partner too.5.When the

9、number of stating“ divorce reaches a critical level, a divorce may becomenevitable.每对夫 妻都会说离婚，但大局部都不会离。然而当说的次数到达一定数量后，离婚就会变成真的了According to a research, that on average each couple has stated “ divorce many times throughout their marriage, while most of them still live together today. However, when t

10、he number reaches a critical level, a divorce may become inevitable. Thus, if you don't really mean that, or it is not your final decision yet after a rational consideration, please don't repeat that. It could bring nothing else but worries, pains and possible disasters.6.Youcannot compromis

11、e your spouse's small bad habit as you have wished 细节决定婚姻长短婚前的小摩擦，会变成婚后的大问题。Before marriage, you may think that you are able to compromise on your spouse's small bad habit, like throwing the socks everywhere, taking bath three times a day, or being on QQ or MSN the whole night and day, or ge

12、tting up at noon each day etc. However, you may find out that actually you cannot compromise them as you have wished, and eventually you will not be able to accept these.7.Love and marriage are linked but it does not mean love must result in a marriage.A good marriage must be established on the basi

13、s of love. Some kind of love feelings may not end up in a marriage. So please realize that love and marriage are linked but it does not mean love must result in a marriage. Love is a kind of chemical reaction and emotional reflection, while marriage is more technical and needs skills. In a word, the

14、 biggestdifference between love and marriage is the RESPONSIBILITY!8.Atisme goes, responsibility becomes the major factor时间越长，你越会发现，相 比当初的激情，原来婚姻中起决定因素的，是责任二字。The last but not least: let's talk about RESPONSIBILITY. As time goes, you will find out that comparing with the enthusiasm at the very b

15、eginning of your relationship, responsibility becomes the major factor. Women also need to take responsibilities as men do because a marriage is a union of two. What you ask for from the other party is what you should also do for the other in return.Now you may get some ideas about what a marriage entails. All I can say is that a good marriage would double