离婚.ppt

about divorce 刘 瑜 during the traditional wedding ceremony，the bridge and groom promise each other lifelong devotion. more and more marriages ends in divorce. what goes wrong? the fact that divorce is so common doesnt mean that person consider marriage a casual, unimportant relationship. just the opposite is true, they expect a great deal from marriage. people used to come to love each other because they needed each other. now it is just the other way around. they need each other because they love each other. they want to be deeply loved and understood. it is because people expect so much from marriage that so many get divorce. they prefer no marriage without love and understanding. with most optimism ,they end one marriage in hope that next will be happier. because they reflect high-order discontent resulting from the failure of marriage to meet the great expectations held for it. listening to the complaints of those recently divorced, one seldom hears of brutality and desertion, but usually something like, ”we just dont communicate very well”, ”he wont let me to me”. which marriage are most likely to end in divorce? marriage between people with low income or limited education are at great test risk. almost 45%of divorcing couple are childless. by and large, marriage today actually does deliver such moments, but as a result couple have gone on to burden the relationship with even greater demends. to some extent it has been the success of marriage that has created the discontent. the art of marriage is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or wife to have the wings of an angel, it is not looking for perfection in each other. it is cultivating flexibility , patience, understanding and a sense of humour. -peterson -彼得逊 marriage, with peace, is this worlds paradise; with strife, this worlds purgatory. w