On trans-national marriage.doc

on trans-national marriage 摘要：跨国婚姻是指婚姻超越了国界以及不同国家的人之间所结成的婚姻关系。据公开资料显示，近些年来，我国跨国婚姻的登记数量逐年增多，并已涉及53个国家和地区。是什么原因促使那么多的中国姑娘远渡重洋去追逐异国姻缘？在一个个看似浪漫的跨国婚姻中，所蕴涵的是否仅仅是甜蜜和幸福？跨国婚姻中还存在哪些不为人知的酸甜苦辣？本文将从中西方文化差异的角度来剖析跨国婚姻的现状及其存在的问题，同时警醒世人重视婚姻的价值，相爱是结婚的前提，学会相处则是所有婚姻的保鲜剂。关键词：跨国婚姻(trans-national marriage) 离婚率(divorce rate) 存在问题(the existing problem) 文化差异(cultural difference) 婚姻真谛(the essence of marriage)high marriage rates and high divorce ratetransnational marriage is a marriage beyond marital relations between national boundaries and people in different countries.according to public information, in recent years, the number of transnational marriage registration in china is increasing year by year, and has been involved in 53 countries and regions.however,behind the greatly increasing, the divorce rate of this kind of marriage is rising as well, and has been significantly higher than the growth rate of marriage.the data shows, among the canadian and chinese husbands and wifes, the divorce rate is 60%. in 1997, the japanese and chinese husband to divorce his wife for 30% of the number of married a japanese wife and husband divorce, china accounted for 35% of the number of marriage. from 1990 to 1995 the marriage grows 2.4 times, and the divorce logarithm growth 2.8 times. in 1990 the marriage and divorce ratio is 20%, compared with 26% in 1995.the existing problem of transnational marriageallegedly, there are many chinese daughter-in-law to overseas, life was not like they had imagined that everywhere is heaven. on the contrary,they suffered the grievance and even be abused outside, but due to the face, they would rather working abroad as the babysitter than return home.and there are many chinese in foreign countries chose to marry a foreigner before, eventually divorce and go back home to find a chinese again.whats more,many of them have to face the dispute about the ownership of their children caused by divorce.here are some failed examples for the trans-national marriage:1、 the foundation of marriage is not for love.the transnational marriage is mostly driven by money and material benefits, marry people outside the country just want to seek a better material life and get more enjoyment.2、 appear a number of age gap grandchildren marriages.most of the transnational marriage age level is disparity. generally ,a twenty or thirty year old chinese girl marry a quite big years old of fifty or sixty or even seventy, eighty foreign man.3、 the emergence of a short time known of lightning marriage.along with the acceleration of the pace of the times, more and more marriages “fall in love at the first sight”, particularly among young men and women.4、 the phenomenon of sham marriage by foreign man is serious.there are many chinese women were confused by material interests and be cheated to foreign countries.the cultural difference is the chief killer now,let me analyses the current situation and problems of transnational marriage from the differences between chinese culture and western culture. firstly,westernersconcept of love and marriage is not like us.they pay more attention to communication, spirit and hobbies instead of the economic ability or education,while the chinese marry-age young women seem to be more concerned about each others hardware conditions such as wage,house,car and so on.secondly, chinese couples rely more on each other both in the spiritual and material.they can share anything with each other.but in western countries, sweethearts of husband and wife are so independent that you might even thought they were ruthless.they dont believe that love a person will have to pay much money,what they are more concerned about is the happiness between each others company.thirdly,western people treat their parents in different ways.chinese tradition isproviding everything for the elderly,children growing up have to support the elderly through their own efforts.but in the western,children have no responsibility for their parents.especially the united states with a perfect welfare relatively system of the government,the old maintenance task will be borne by the state. fourthly,westerner have strong self-awareness and respect for privacy.even the husband and wife cant reading each others letter or mobile phone without permit.and chinese couples is more close,they will usually read each others letters,especially the wifes often check their husbandss massage om the mobile phone.fifthly,traditional chinese males ideal marriage is the basic type as an understanding wife and loving mother,while western men prefer strong-minded women who have a life and hobby of their own.last but not least,the western way of thinking is different from chinese.chinese expression of love is more likely in a reserved style,they never directly speak out what they are thinking and what they want.however,the westerners are more simple and direct,so any problems will be directly carried out.conclusion,in transnational marriage, because of the differences in nationality,habits,ideas,customs,language and so on,both sides are easily have no sense of identity and belonging.however,marriage