爸妈必知孩子性格的四大特点.doc

4爸妈必知孩子性格的四大特点我们做家长的要注意培养孩子良好的性格，这对孩子日后的成长，工作学习等都很有好处，想要培养孩子的好性格，那么首先我们要了解孩子性格的特点，来了解一下吧!性格表现受外在情境制约。幼儿的 性格常常受外在情境的制约。比如一个孩子摔倒了，如果家长表现得十分镇静，而且鼓励他自己站起来，他可能“勇敢”地自己站起来;相反，如果家长显得十分慌 张，急忙去安慰、搀扶，孩子则可能表现得“娇气”，哭哭啼啼地靠家长搀扶。又如，一个孩子伸手抢夺别的小朋友的玩具，如果遭到家长或老师的批评或责备，则 可能表现得“害臊”，反之，如果受到家长或老师的怂恿，则可能变得更加“粗野”、“霸道”。这种情境性制约作用还在孩子性格表现的指向性方面明显地表露出 来。比如，在严厉的爸爸面前，显得十分老实、听话，少言寡语;而在对他百依百顺的妈妈面前，则显得放纵、执拗，而且娇言昵语地喋喋不休。假定是在既温和又 善教的父母面前，则有可能变得既活泼又听话。当然，不论哪种表现，开始阶段都是稳定的。但是，久而久之，在同类情境的反复感染下，则可能逐渐变成稳定的性格。为此，应当注意，从小就为孩子创设培养良好性格的必要情境。对客观现实缺乏稳定的主观态度和与之相适应的行为习惯。由于幼儿性格受外在情境制约，极不稳定，故而难于形成对客观现实的稳定态度，也不可能全面形成各种行为习惯。幼儿只在同自己生活关系密切的方面形成 一些习惯，并且随之形成较为稳定的主观态度。比如，他睡觉必须用自己盖惯了的被子，如果突然给他换了被子，则会引起他的不快或不安，有时甚至招得他又哭又 闹。但即使是这类已经形成的行为习惯，也不是不可改变的，因之而形成的主观态度同样也可以进行改造。在更多的方面，幼儿对现实的主观态度及行为习惯，还是 受外在情境及成人态度和行为习惯的影响。比如，幼儿对人、对事的评价主要依赖于成人的评价，尤其是父母和老师的评价。幼儿的行为方式主要模仿成人的行为方 式，尤其乐于模仿父母、兄姐或老师的行为方式。他们缺乏独立的意向和行为习惯。性格具有极大的可塑性。既然幼儿对客观现实缺乏稳定的主观态度和行为习惯，性格表现更多地受外在情境的制约，故而其可变性、可塑性较大。比如，孩子本来是活泼的、好动的、 爱说的，但在老师过分严厉的要求下，孩子变得既不敢动，又不敢说，好似让人牵着线动的小木偶。久而久之，孩子的主动精神会受压抑。反之，一个性格较为孤 僻、沉默寡言的孩子，如果能到一个生动活泼的幼儿集体中生活，也有可能变得爱说爱笑，乐于同小朋友交往。性格的分化不像青少年或成人那样明显。幼儿年龄小，经历简单，经验不多，自我意识远未成熟，心理状态和行为习惯也不稳定，这些都导致幼儿的个性特征的表现远不如其他年龄孩子的个性特征表现明显。比如，一般地说，幼儿都比较活泼、爱动，不大懂得什么叫发愁、苦恼。可以说，合群者多，孤僻者少;爱说者多，寡言者少;乐动者多，沉静者少;活泼者多，愁苦者少。如果，孩子年龄越来越大了，就很难改掉性格中不好的一面了哦。宝宝性格培养，家长要有耐心并且循序渐进才行哦。We parents should pay attention to cultivate their good character, the growth of the children in the future, work and study, etc. Are all very good, want to cultivate childrens good character, so we must first understand the child personalityThe characteristic, to look at!Personality is conditioned by outer circumstances.Often the restriction of the external situation childrens character. Like a child fell down, and was very calm, if parents and encourage him to stand up, he may be brave to stand up;On the contrary, if parents appear very panic, hurried to comfort, to assist, children may behave temperamental, cry to rely on parents to raise her up. As another example, a child to plunder other childrenToys, if criticised by parents or teachers or blame, may behave shy, on the contrary, if encouraged by parents or teachers, are likely to become more rough, hegemony. thisKind of situational role also in directivity of child personality traits are obvious. In front of the stern father, for example, seem to be very honest, obedient, few words; The obedient to himMother in front, is indulgence, stubborn, and charming speech upon language chatter. Is both gentle and good assumption is in front of the parents teach, it could become lively and obedient. Of course, no matter what kind of tableNow, start is stable. However, over time, in the same situation, under the repeated infection of may gradually become stable character. Therefore, it should be noted that create good for the child at an early ageThe character of the necessary situation.Lack of stable subjective attitude in objective reality and the corresponding behavior.Due to the childrens personality is conditioned by the external situation, unstable, it is difficult to form a stable attitude of objective reality, it is impossible to fully take all kinds of behavior. Baby only in the relations with their own livesCut to form some habits, and then form relatively stable subjective attitude. For example, he used to cover the quilt, bed must use his if suddenly gave him in the bed, the cause of his unhappinessOr nervous, sometimes called blubber. But even this kind of behavior has been formed, also is not immutable, so and formation of the subjective attitude can also transform. In the moreAspects, children subjective attitude and behavior of reality, or the external situation and adult attitudes and behavior. For example, young children, to the person to the matter of evaluation mainly relies on the evaluation of adults, especially for parents and teachers evaluation. Young childrens behavior mainly imitate the behavior of the adults, especially happy to imitate their parents, brother, sister, or the teachers behavior. They lack the independent intention and behaviorHabit.Personality has a great plasticity.Since young children lack of stable subjective attitude in objective reality and behavior habit, personality traits more to the restriction of the external situation, so its variability, plasticity is bigger. For example, a child was lively, active, love to say, but at the request of the teacher too stern, children become afraid to move, and were afraid to say, as if to let a person holding line moving puppet. Over time, the childrens initiative will sufferDepressed. On the other hand, a character is relatively isolated out-of-the-way, taciturn children, if can go to a lively young children in the collective life, could also become love said love to laugh, willing to associate with children.The differentiation of character is not as obvious as teenagers or adults.Simple preschool age, experience, experience is not much, self-awareness is far from mature, mental state and behavior habit is not stable, all these lead to the performance of the childrens personality is much less than the other age childrenThe personality characteristics of obvious. For example, generally speaking, children are lively, love to move, not to know what is worry and distress. Can say, more sociable, less