白天追求女孩之策略报告.doc

THE DAY GAME REPORT:白天追求女孩之策略报告A Step-By-Step Game Plan for DOUBLING Your Day Game Success!步步为营让你追求女孩事半功倍By Sinn作者：SinnTABLE OF CONTENTS目录Introduction . 3前言The 8 Major Differences Between Night and Day . 3晚上和白天追求女孩的8大不同点5 Things You Can Constantly Work On. 4你可以不断努力改进的5件事Talking to strangers . 4尝试同陌生人交谈Body Language. . 5善用肢体语言Relentless Positivity. . 6一直保持积极心态Teasing . 6学会调侃Touching . 7掌握身体碰触技巧Different Approach Scenarios . 7搭讪的不同场景1) Moving Sets . 7 1）行走在路上的时候2) Seated Sets . 82）坐着的时候3) Standing Sets . 93）站着的时候Openings . 9搭讪开场白4 Categories of Teasing . 11四种调侃方式1) Role-Plays. 111）角色扮演2) Push/Pulls . . 122）欲扬先抑3) Name Calling. 123）巧用绰号4) Challenging. 134）挑战威吓Qualification Pinging. . 13快速试探Touching During the Day. 15白天的身体碰触Instant Dates. 16迅速约会Basics of Delivery . .19谈话语音的几个注意点The 5 Keys To Creating Massive Amounts of Comfort Quickly. . 20快速营造让对方感觉舒适的五个要点Conclusion . 21总结INTRODUCTION前言If youre reading this report, chances are that the two of us have a lot in common.Every day that I leave my house, I see AT LEAST 1 beautiful woman that I would like to approach.如果你正在看这篇报告，那很可能我们有很多共同点。每天我离开我家的时候，我至少能看到1个我想上前搭讪的漂亮女孩It was this that led me to learn how to meet them. Unfortunately I was underage, so I was forced to learn to game during the day. Thats how this report came to be. I can honestly say that I have done more than 4,000 day game approaches, and over that time and my time as the senior most instructor for Mystery Method, I patched together a mishmash of techniques and systems to produce amazing results during the day.正是这个原因，让我想去学习怎么上前去和她们接近。但很郁闷，我那时还是未成年人，我只能在白天学学追求女孩的理论技巧和策略。这就是这篇报告形成的前因。坦白说，到现在为止，我已经实践了4000多次上前同陌生的女孩子接触搭讪，有了这些经验，再加上作为最资深的讲师在Mystery Method授课的经历，我收集并掌握了大量在白天追求女孩的实用技巧。In this report, Im going to be spilling the beans on some of my most closely guarded secrets. This is the stuff that Ive previously only revealed to guys that paid almost a thousand dollars each to learn at my Day Game Seminar.在这篇报告中，我将抖出一些我多年珍藏最深的秘密，而这些秘密在以前都是需要在我的追求女孩策略讲座上付上差不多1000美金才能得到分享的。Before we get started we need to figure out what Day Game is.在开始之前，我们先搞清楚什么是白天追女策略。In my opinion (and for the purpose of this report) Day Game refers to any approachnot in a bar or club. This can include approaches done in restaurants, on the street, in abookstore, coffee shop etc在我看来（也是对于这篇报告来说），白天追女策略不是指在酒吧或者夜总会和女孩的搭讪套近乎，而是指在诸如饭店，街上，书店，咖啡厅等地方上前和女孩的接近。Lets start out by discussing some of the Differences between Night time approaches and Day time approaches.我们先来谈谈晚上和白天同女孩接近的几个不同点吧！THE 8 MAJOR DIFFERENCES BETWEEN NIGHT AND DAY晚上和白天追求女孩的8大不同点1， The Level of stimulation is lower during the day: The competition for her attention is less during the day. There are no lights, loud music, hot guys, or dance floors to compete with.1，白天周围环境的刺激性更小：白天想要得到她的注意力更容易一些，因为白天没有耀眼的灯光，嘈杂的音乐，帅气性感的男性以及充满诱惑的舞池。2. The Stigma of Cold Approach is lessened during the day: Many girls have a stigma against not being picked up in a club. Girls are more approachable during the day, as every girl would prefer to tell her friends how she met her bf/husband in a bookstore or coffee shop rather than at a bar or club.2，白天遭遇陌生人搭讪接近的尴尬会少一点。很多女孩都有在夜总会不被接近的尴尬经历。而白天的话，更容易接近女孩，因为每个女孩都宁愿告诉她的朋友们，她和她男友或者老公实在书店或者咖啡厅相遇的，而不是在酒吧或者夜总会。3. Groups are MUCH more difficult to approach during the day. It is markedly harder to keep 2-3 peoples attention during the day without using an energy level that will come off as “weird”. Furthermore you will often be approaching women on the move during the day. It is very difficult to stop a moving group and keep their attention. You also should avoid mixed groups during the day as guys are much more likely to be boyfriends.3，在白天，想要接近一群陌生人难得多。如果不进行近乎怪异的行动的话，想要让2到3个人注意力集中在你这里是尤其困难的。另外，在白天，你会经常接近在路上的几个女孩，想要让她们停下脚步听你说话也是很难的。还有，你也要尽量避免上前接近男女混杂的人群，因为其中的男的很可能是这些女孩的男朋友。4. Tone Down Your Energy Level by 2/3s. If you go in real high energy you blow yourself out. A good general rule is to use about a third of the energy you would use at night when approaching in a bar or club.4，把你的个人能量控制在正常的三分之一水平。如果你过于激情，能量爆发太多，可能会把事情弄砸。使用在晚上在酒吧或者夜总会和女孩接近谈话所用的能量的三分之一就可以了。5. You dont need to disqualify or “Neg” during the day. Because youre operating on a much faster timeline, we want to avoid attraction material and disqualifiers as much as possible. Day Game is really about qualification and comfort.5， 不用使用试探言词。因为，在白天接触的时间会很短，我们要尽量避免使用为增加吸引力所准备的言词。白天追求接近女孩其实主要是取得她的信任并让她感觉舒适。6. Attraction is much shorter during the day, if its even necessary at all. Generally you want to generate attraction with your opener then try to get through qualification as quickly as you can.6，吸引力在白天都很少，甚至可说有点无关紧要吧。通常，你用开场白产生让对方感到你的吸引力，然后尽快获得对方的好感和信任。7. Direct Game works better during the day. You can demonstrate a lot more interest early on during the day. In fact the sooner you can establish that you are interested in her romantically the better.7，在白天，直接的方式会更管用。刚开始，你可以向她展示你对她的极大兴趣。实际上，你越浪漫而有情趣的向她表示对她的兴趣和好感，效果越好。8. Girls are not always in a social mode during the day. What that means is that you can often run into girls who literally arent paying attention as youre trying to open them. We deal with this through the use of pre-openers. A pre-opener is a social question that girls have heard before, which allows them to contextualize the interaction. Examples are “Do you know what time it is?” or “Do you know where McKinney Ave is?”8，在白天，女孩并不总是处于社交状态中。也就说，有时你接近到女孩，在你和她们搭讪的时候，并不会对你太注意。这种情况下，我们一般使用一些常用套词先做铺垫，这些套词，这些女孩都以前听到过，这样有助于她们把自己定位在特定的场景中，从而使她们提高对你的注意力。例如：“你知道现在几点了吗？”或者说“你知道McKinney大街在哪里吗？”Home Study Course: This is my list of 4 things you can work on ALL the time,to help improve your game.家庭自学课程：提高自我交际能力可以不断训练的四件事5 THINGS YOU CAN CONSTANTLY WORK ON.你可以不断练习的五件事Talking to strangers同陌生人交谈Make it a goal to have 3-4 “random” conversations a day. In the past I have suggested that students stop wearing a watch to give them an opportunity to ask people,“What time is it?”给自己定个目标，每天同3-4个陌生人交谈。以前，我曾建议我的学生让他们停止佩戴手表，这样他们就有机会向别人询问时间，以增强交际能力。Its also a good idea to get into the habit of talking to everyone say hi to people you pass on the street. In fact if youre really new, you may want to take the F newbie challenge Get dressed, do your hair, put on cologne, and go to the mall. Practice saying hi to EVERY SINGLE PERSON YOU PASS, and keeping eye contact养成和能和陌生人交谈的习惯。同你在街上遇到的人打招呼。实际上，如果你真的不知道如何下手，你可以尝试下F这个网站说的新手交际挑战练习，着装整洁，头发梳理好，喷点古龙香水，然后去商场，对碰到的每个人都打声招呼，当然同时还要做眼神交流。Another benefit of talking to everyone is that it keeps you in social mode all day long.和每个人交谈的另一个益处就是它可以让你始终处于社交状态。Its sometimes hard for you to go 0 60. Theres a dynamic that occurs when you have not been talking to anyone for the last 3-4 hours. All of a sudden see a girl you want to approach you have to snap into your most outgoing, attractive self without the benefit of a warm up.就像突然从0到60，有时这样的交际程度变化对你来说是很难的。如果你3到4个小时都没有跟任何人说过话，然后突然你看到一个你想接近的女孩，如果没有热过身，贸然上去交谈的结果只会让你无法展现最外向，最吸引人的自我。One of the things about Day Game is it cannot be faked. You cannot be weird. It is simply a test of how cool you are. If you are going 0-60 then you are stressing about the approach. You will not be cool you will be nervous.追求女孩的另一个特点是不能矫揉造作。你不能表现得很怪异。这纯粹就是对你个人镇定能力的测试。如果你要突然从0到60，这样的变化肯定会让你感到有压力，那你就不会那么镇定自若了，你会很紧张。Its also important to not practice Bad Habits. You should not practice having boring conversations. Ever. Every new conversation you have is an opportunity to practice your new more attractive way of interacting with people.不进行糟糕的谈话练习也很重要。从来不要进行糟糕的谈话练习。每一次新的谈话都将是你应用你全新的有吸引力的谈话方式与人的互动交流。Another often overlooked idea during the day is the way you dress. Dont leave your house looking like crapEVER. Even when you go to the gym Youre clothes should always match, be clean, and fit you well.另外一点容易忽视的是白天你的穿着打扮。从来不要把你房间搞得很邋遢。即使你去健身房锻炼，你的着装也要搭配得当，整洁，并且合身。.Body Language善用肢体语言Most communication is Body Language and “Value Sub-Communications. This means that what you are saying is actually less important than what youre body, voice tone, eye contact, and posture are revealing.大多数的交流其实都是靠肢体语言和潜意识价值判断进行的。也就是说，通过你的肢体、话语音调、眼神交流以及身体姿势所传达的信息，实际上，比你说的内容更重要。If you are nervous talking to a girl, what does that say about you? It says that you think shes of higher value than you are, it says you are worried about the outcome of the interaction, and it says you want something from her. None of which are things we want to communicate to women.如果和女孩交谈，你显得紧张，这会传达什么信息呢？这就表示你认为她比你显的更加尊贵，你对和她的互动交流结果感到担忧，你是想从她那里得到一些东西。所以的这些都不是我们在交谈中想要传达给对方的。Before we get into some specifics, I want to say there is NO such thing as perfect BL.在开始谈具体实践之前，我想说其实根本没有完美的肢体语言之说。The idea of Super Attraction Alpha Body Language is Bullshit!所谓的最佳的吸引人的肢体语言范本根本就是子虚乌有。All you have to do is look RELAXED and Comfortable其实你要做得只是做到看上去放松和让人看得顺眼，觉得舒服。You want to focus on eliminating nervous twitches, using less movement, and seeming “Too comfortable.”你要消除紧张性身体颤动，那就身体少些动作，做出让人看上去极其享受的样子。Relentless Positivity!一直保持积极心态This idea goes beyond just smiling.保持积极可不只是时刻面带笑容。You want to convey that EVERYTHING IS GOOD.你要向对方传达一切都很好的信息。Evolutionarily speaking the guy who is positive, and also has a positive outlook is more likely to be successful. He is more likely to have been successful in the past. This guy is more likely to be successful in the future as well. Positivity is the emotional equivalent of big muscles. A girl sees a guy with big muscles and her primitive brain says “That can survive.” A girl sees a guy with a positive outlook and the same response is triggered.从进化论上来说，如果一个人心态积极，而且外表也更阳光，那么他获得成功的机会就大很多。他在过去就可能已经成功过了。他也很可能在未来取得成功。在情感上来说，积极的心态可以同强健的体魄相媲美。如果一个女孩看到一个具有强健体魄的男的，她的大脑本能就会告诉她“恩，这个同类是可以生存下来的”。同样，如果一个女孩看到一个积极阳光的男的，她的大脑也会同样做出这样的判断。4 Helpful Tips For Staying Positive:有助保持积极的四要点1， Dont dwell on negative thoughts. Immediately think about something positive or ask yourself “What lesson can be learned from this experience?” Or “What is the best use of my time here?”1，不要在消极思想上逗留。立刻想点别的有积极意义的事情或者问问你自己“从这次经历中，我学到什么了呢？”或者“现在我能利用我的时间最好做点什么呢？”2， Dont find excuses for why things wont work. Instead find excuses for why they will. Dont say if I approach her she might say NO rather think, if I approach her she will say YES!2，不要为自己失败找理由。相反，应该找寻把事情做成功的方法。不要老想着如果我上前接近她，她可能会拒绝，而是要想着，如果我上前接近她，她会很愉快和我交谈。3， Find the good in everything. You are no longer pissed that you have to wait in the line at the bank. Rather you are happy that you get the chance to text message your girls etc.3，凡事往好处想。不要因为在银行排长队而郁闷，相反，应该感到很开心才是，因为这样你可以趁此机会给你的女友发短信了。4， DONT COMPLAIN TO WOMEN unless what you are complaining about demonstrates value. Complain to your friends not your targets. The only thing you should ever bitch about is how cool your life is. “Im so tired but I have to go snowboarding for a week with my friends in Aspen!”4，绝不要向女孩抱怨除非你所抱怨的内容包涵对你有利的信息。抱怨还是对朋友吧，而不是对你追求的目标。你唯一可以“抱怨”的是你的生活的丰富和精彩。例如：“我真的累得不行了，哎，但我还得同我朋友们去阿斯彭滑雪玩一周！”Teasing学会调侃Most guys are afraid to tease. You want to get into the habit of teasing everyone. Stop taking life and conversations so seriously and learn to open up, and poke fun at yourself and others.大多数人都不敢进行调侃。你得养成同别人调侃开玩笑的习惯。不要老是把生活和谈话搞得过于严肃和认真，试着敞开自己的心灵，在调侃你自己和别人的玩笑话中制造快乐。GET USED TO NOT HAVING SUCH SERIOUS COMMUNICATION ALL THE TIME!让自己习惯并不是一直都要严肃地进行谈话As guys we are naturally too serious, especially outside o