课文unit5loveandmarriage.ppt

New Times,Book 1,College English,Unit 5,Love and Marrige,Text Learning,New Words & Expressions,Text Learning,Reading Questions,Why does the author say “dating another woman” is the secret to keeping love alive in my relationship with my wife?,Reading Questions,Sample The other woman the author dates is his mother. She is the one whom he loves deeply and the one loves him greatly. But under great pressure from work and life, the author tends to keep himself busy all the time. The author often complains about how quickly time flies. His schedule is so tight that he doesnt find much time to see his mother and learn to fully enjoy everyday life. Fortunately, however, through the date with his mother, the author feels nice and relaxed, and he learns the importance of slowing down, which is the secret to keeping love alive between his wife and him.,Reading Questions,Text Structure,Part One Dating another woman was the secret Ive discovered to keeping love alive between my wife and I. Part Two I started dating my mother and we both got to understand each other better and love each other more. Part Three Spending time with my mother has taught me the importance of slowing down.,(Para. 1):,(Para.27):,(Para. 8):,Text Learning,Text Understanding,Text Understanding,That “Other Woman” in My Life,Para. 1 Para. 2 Para. 3 Para. 4 Para. 5 Para. 6 Para. 7 Para. 8,After 22 years of marriage, Ive discovered the secret (to keeping love alive) in my relationship with my wife, Peggy: I started dating another woman.,Paragraph 1,After 22 years of marriage, Ive discovered the secret (to keeping love alive )in my relationship with my wife, Peggy: I started dating another woman. (Para.1, L.1),Sentence Study 1-1,keep love alive adj.“活泼; 有活力”, （感情，品质）继续存在的 做love的宾语补足语。 the secret (to keeping love alive )中的to 为介词， keeping love alive 是动名词短语,解析：,live、 alive、living都有“活的、有生命的”意思，与dead意义相反。 2） live通常只作前置定语，且一般用于动物 alive、living不仅可作定语（alive只能置于名词后；living一般置于名词前，也可置于名词后），也可以作表语。,This is a live (=living) fish. (=This is a fish alive.) 这是一条活鱼。（指动物，且作定语时，三者均可用） Whos the greatest man alive (=living man)? 谁是当今最伟大的人物？（指人，不能用live） The fish is still alive (=living) 那条鱼还活着。（指动物作表语时不能用live）。,只有living前加the方可表示“活着的人” The living are more important to us than the dead. 活着的人对我们来说比死去的人更重要。 living 活着的，尤指（现存的）仍在使用的 living language现行的语言 3) live现场直播的，实况转播的(可做定语、表语) a live broadcast 现场广播 this show was live这个节目是实况转播,Sentence Study 1-2,date n.日期, 日子，时期, 约会 vt.约会, 定日期date sb.= have a date with sb与某人约会 I have a date with my girl-friend tonight. 我今晚和女朋友有个约会。 date back追溯到；始于 The town dates back to Roman times. 这座城镇建于古罗马时代。 * out of date 不再流行的; 过时的 * up to date 现代的; 时新的,Sentence Study 1-3,经历22年的婚姻，我发现如何同妻子佩吉保持爱恋关系的秘密：去约会另一个女人。,译文：,After 22 years of marriage, Ive discovered the secret to keeping love alive in my relationship with my wife, Peggy: I started dating another woman. (Para.1, L.1),Questions,Para 1: Did my wife agree with my dating another woman? Yes. In fact it is my wife who encouraged me to date the other woman.,The “other woman” my wife was encouraging me to date is my mother, a 72-year-old widow who has lived alone since my father died 20 years ago. Right after his death, I moved 2,500 miles away to California and started my own family and career. When I moved back near my hometown six years ago, I promised myself that I would spend more time with Mom. But with the demands of my job and three kids, I never got around to seeing her much beyond family get- togethers and holidays.,Paragraph 2,The “other woman”（ my wife was encouraging me to date） is my mother, a widow (who has lived alone since my father died 20 years ago). 1、date sb. 与某人约会（=have a date with sb.) 2、encourage sb. to do 鼓励某人做某事 3、现在完成时have/has done + since + 一般过去时 4、my mother, a 72-year-old widow 同位语 72-year-old 基数词-名词单数 =adj a three-leg table,whom,Right after his death, I moved 2 500 miles away to California and started my own family and career.(Para.2, L.2),Sentence Study 2-1,right: adv. immediately 立即，马上 * I must answer that phone, but Ill be right back. 我得去接电话，马上就回来。,就在父亲去世后，我搬到了2500英里以外的加利福尼亚，成家立业。,But with the demands of my job and three kids, I never got around to seeing her much beyond family get-togethers and holidays. 1. with the demands of = because of 2. get around to (doing) sth 找出时间做某事 I hope to get round to answering your request next week. 我希望下星期能抽出空来答复你的要求。 3. Beyond prep.1）go （far）beyond(远远) 超出，超越 be beyond sb. 为某人所不能理解 2） except除以外（一般用于含疑问或否定意义的结构中） I will do nothing beyond what I am told to do. 除去指示我做的那部分工作，其他的我一概不干。,4. get together（为社交或合作目的而）聚集，集合 get-together n.(非正式的)聚会, 联欢会, 会谈gathering,Questions,Para 2: Did I spend much time with my mother? No. My mother live alone 20 years ago, and I never get around to seeing her much because of the demand of my job and kids,She was surprised when I called and suggested the two of us go out to dinner and a movie. “Whats wrong?” she asked. My mother thinks anything （out of the ordinary） signals bad news. “ I thought it would be nice to spend some time with you,” I said. “ Just the two of us.” “ Id like that a lot.” she replied.,Paragraph 3,She was surprised when I called and suggested the two of us go out to dinner and a movie. “Whats wrong?” she asked. My mother thinks anything(out of the ordinary)signals bad news. “ I thought it would be nice to spend some time with you,” I said. “ Just the two of us.” “ Id like that a lot.” she replied.,should,reply=answer,out of the ordinary不平常的, 非凡的,Ordinary， common, normal,general, average common其反义词为“rare”。普通的 寻常的 常见的-可以这样理解：哪里都可以看到的 满大街都是的 eg: its a common bag,and you can find it in every store 这包很普通 哪个商店都有卖的 usual 通常的,平常的;惯常的 -可以这样理解：昨天是这样 前天是这样 大前天也是这样 这时就用usual 屡见不鲜的 。用usual修饰的东西可以 是很奇怪的或不可理解的 但是由于见得多了 所以见怪不怪 eg: its usual for us to see him crying naked. 对我们来说，他光着屁股大哭是很平常的事,ordinary: 通常的,平常的 -可以这样理解：东西分3种，好的 一般的 差的 而ordinary 就是其中的那个“一般的” ，它可能不常见 它可能不寻常 但它是一般的 不是好的 不是坏的 只是大路货 eg:The novel describes the way of life of the ordinary people there. 这部小说描写那里的普通人的生活方式 normal : 正常的,正规的,标准的 -可以这样理解：这个就很好区分拉 正常的状态 标准的 常态 (人的精神,身体)正常发育的 eg:The doctor said the childs temperature was normal. 医生说孩子体温正常,average 意为“平均的”“中等的,普通的,平常的” 例如: the average age 平均年龄,general general侧重“普遍”之意，表示在大多数人或物中流行并受到关注，不含有“地位低下”之意，其反义词为 specific。如 There is a general election in that country every three years. 在那个国家每三年就有一次普选 / 大选。 I have got the general idea of what he said just now. 我已明白了他刚才所说的大体意思。,New Words,suggest （advise, propose) vt. 建议，提议( that 主语 should do) I suggest that we should have a rest. vt.使想起, 暗示,表明 * His cool response suggested that he didnt like the idea. 他反应冷淡表明他并不喜欢这个主意。 【注意】 suggest 表示“建议”时后接从句要用虚拟语气，而表示“暗示，表明”时则不用虚拟语气。,Sentence Study 4-1,动词suggest 后的宾语从句中要求用虚拟语气结构，用来表示建议。形式为（should）+ 动词原形。因此，本句中suggest后为省略that的宾语从句,从句中go前省略should，为虚拟式。,解析：,4.She was surprised when I called and suggested the two of us go out to dinner and a movie.(Para.3, L.12),我打电话给母亲，建议我们俩外出一起吃饭、看电影，她感到很惊讶。,Her expression suggested that she _angry, so I suggested that she _ a walk in the open air. A should be; took B should be; should take C was; would be D was; should take,Para 3: Why did my mother feel surprised when I called her?,Because all those years I spend little time with my mother, the fact that I called her and suggested a date seemed something out of ordinary, and maybe signaled bad news.,Questions,When I pulled into her driveway, she was waiting by the door with her coat on. Her hair was curled, and she was smiling. “ I told my lady friends I was going out with my son, and they were all impressed,” she said as she got into my car. “ They cant wait to hear about our evening.”,Paragraph 4,New Words,impress vt. 给深刻的印象 impress sb. (with sth.)：have a favorable effect on sb给予某人深刻印象 be impressed by at, with 被深深打动感动 impress on sb. sth. 使某人了解某事的重要性，使 铭记 My father impress on me the importance of hard work. 我父亲要我牢记努力工作的重要性。,When I pulled into her driveway, she was waiting by the door with her coat on. Her hair was curled, and she was smiling. “ I told my lady friends I was going out with my son, and they were all impressed,” she said as she got into my car. “ They cant wait to hear about our evening.” pull into (机动车辆）驶进某处 hear about得悉, 听说 with her coat on 独立结构（带有自己逻辑主语的结构） With/without + 名/代词+（分词、形容词、副词、不定式、介词短语） Im teaching with the lights on. 我正在讲课，灯亮着。 Im teaching with the windows open. 我正在讲课，窗户开着。 Im teaching with my students talking.我正在讲课，学生在说话。,Paragraph 4,Para 4: What was my mothers feeling towards our date?,She felt happy, excited and looked forward to the date.,Questions,We didnt go anywhere fancy, just a neighborhood place where we could talk. Since her eyes now see only large shapes and shadows, I had to read the menu for both of us. “ I used to be the menu reader when you were little,” she said. “Then its time for you to relax and let me return the favor,” I said. We had a nice talk over dinner，just catching up on each others lives. We talked for so long that we missed the movie. “Ill go out with you again,” my mother said as I dropped her off, “ But only if you let me buy dinner next time.” I agreed.,Paragraph 5,Sentence Study 5-2,我们没有去高档的餐馆，只在附近找了一个便于说话的地方。,We didnt go anywhere fancy, just a neighborhood place（ where we could talk）. (Para.5, L.1),Since her eyes now see only large shapes and shadows, I had to read the menu for both of us. “ I used to be the menu reader when you were little,” she said. “Then its time for you to relax and let me return the favor,” I said. used to do 过去常常做某事 return the favor 还(某人）人情,We had a nice talk over dinner，just catching up on each others lives. We talked for so long that we missed the movie. “Ill go out with you again,” my mother said as I dropped her off, “ But only if you let me buy dinner next time.” I agreed. catch up on （使）掌握（最新消息） drop sb. off 让某人下汽车 pick up 搭便车 扩展 drop behind 落后 drop by 顺便访问 drop out 从比赛、俱乐部或学校退出,We had a nice talk over dinner，just catching up on each others lives. (Para 5, L.5-6),Sentence Study 7-1,over 此处为介词，表示“在做或从事的时候”，如： a chat over coffee.喝着咖啡聊天 “catching up on each others lives.” 为现在分词短语做伴随状语，表示同时进行的动作。,解析：,我们边吃边谈，谈得很好,只是交谈些彼此的生活情况。,only if,only if 中，only是中心词,而if则只是用来连接从句，因此，它表示“只有(才)；只有在的时候，唯一的条件是”的意思。对“条件”限制更严 ，增强主句语势 。 I will come home only if you come with me. = I will only come home if you come with me. 只有你跟我一起走，我才回家。 only if =only.if，表示唯一的条件，但意思不变。 only if 引导的状语从句置于主句之前，主句要用倒装语序 Only if you come with me, will I come home. if only表达强烈的愿望或遗憾，用在虚拟语气中，译为“但愿”、“要是该多好啊” If only I were a bird!,Para 5: 1. What does the phrase “return the favor” mean in this paragraph? 2. Who will pay for the dinner next time?,When I was little, my mother used to read the menu for me, but now she got something wrong with her eyes and couldnt see the menu clearly, so I read the menu to her in return.,My mother.,Questions,“How was your date?” my wife asked when I got home that evening. “ Nice.nicer than I thought it would be,” I said. She smiled her told-you-so smile. 同源宾语 dream a wonderful dream 做美梦 live a happy life 过着幸福的生活 sleep a sound sleep熟睡，睡得极甜 smile a happy smile幸福地笑了 told-you-so预料之中的，早说过 (I have told you so),Paragraph 6,Para 6: Why did my wife smiled her told-you-so smile?,Because she had expected that my dating with my mother would be very nice and helpful.,Questions,Mom and I go out for dinner a couple of times a month. Now I know what it was like for her to work in a factory during World War II. I know how she met my father there. I cant get enough of these stories. They are important to me, a part of my history. We also talk about the future. Because of health problems, my mother worries about the days ahead. “ I have so much living to do,” she told me once. “ I need to be there while my grandchildren grow up. I dont want to miss any of it.”,Paragraph 7,1. couple n. 夫妻，一对，一双 a couple of 三两个,几个，一些 (= several, some) a pair of ：一对 2. ahead adv. Go ahead! 前进，继续 ahead of time 提前 =in advance,Mom and I go out for dinner a couple of times a month. Now I know what it was like for her to work in a factory during World War II. I know how she met my father there. I cant get enough of these stories. They are important to me, a part of my history. to work in a factory during World War II was like what.(what 做介词like的宾语，what 应放在句首） cant get enough of sth 听/用/吃.不够 I cant get enough of these stories. 我对这些故事百听不厌 cannot. enough 无论怎样.都不够 e.g.I cannot thank you enough. 感恩不尽。 have enough of (对某人或某事)感到厌烦,We also talk about the future. Because of health problems, my mother worries about the days ahead.“ I have so much living to do,” she told me once. “ I need to be there while my grandchildren grow up. I dont want to miss any of it.” worry about担忧, 烦恼 living n.生计, 生存之道 earn/make ones living 谋生 He made a living by writing.他靠写作谋生。,Para 7: 1. What did my mother and I talk about when we were dating?,We talked about her life before I was born, it is a part of my history. We also talk about the future.,Questions,I tend to fill my calendar to the brim as I struggle to fit family, career and friendships into my life. I often complain about how quickly time flies. Spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of slowing down. tend to do 倾向于做，有的趋势,易于做某事 Women tend to live longer than men. 女人多比男人长寿。,Paragraph 8,Sentence Study 9-3,忙于应付家庭生活、事业和朋友关系等种种事情，我的日程表总是排得满满的。,I tend to fill my calendar to the brim as I struggle to fit family, career and friendships into my life. fill my calendar to the brim 把日程表排得满满的 fill to the brim 把.填满 fit sth into抽空做,找到做某事的时间 I had to fit ten appointments into one day. 我要在一天里安排10个约会,I often complain about how quickly time flies. Spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of slowing down.,Sentence Study 10-1,slow down: 放慢速度,此处意为“减少活动/工作等”。 You must slow down your car. 你必须把车子开慢。,与母亲共度时光，使我懂得了放慢生活节奏的重要。,Exercises,Reading Comprehension Vocabulary,1Directions: Choose the best answer for each of the following items. 1) The author started dating his mother because _. A. he felt sorry for his mother B. his mother was lonely C. his wife encouraged him to do so D. he had more free time 2) When the author suggested a date to his mother, his mother_. accepted it immediately was surprised was worried D. was curious,Reading Comprehension,C,B,3) The lines “She was waiting by the door with her coat on. Her hair was curled, and she was smiling.”（Para.4, L.12）suggests the following EXCEPT that_. A. his mother looked forward to the date B. his mother was excited C. his mother was happy D. his mother was nervous 4) According to this passage, which of the following is NOT true? A. The author had been in California for 14 years. B. The author and his mother had nice talks over dinners. C. The author and his mother took turns paying dinners. D. The author and his mother were hopeful about their future.,Reading Comprehension,D,D,5) The last line of the passage implies that_. A. the author has learned to relax more B. the author has learned to keep love alive between his wife and him C. the author has learned to do things slowly D. the author has learned to drive at a low speed 2. Directions: Read through the text and complete the following statements. What is the secret the author has discovered to keeping love alive between his wife and him? The secret is _,Reading Comprehension,A,dating another woman.,Why didnt the author see his mother much in the past six years? Because _took up much of his time. Why was his mother surprised when her son suggested a dinner and a movie? Because she thought his suggestion _ _ What did the mother and her son talk about? They talked about_ What did the author learn from his mother? He learned the importance of _,Reading Comprehension,both his job and his three kids,the ordinary / unusual and a signal of bad news.,each others lives and also the future.,slowing down.,was something out of,Summary of the Text Direction: Fill in the blanks according to what your have just heard. After 22 years of marriage, I found the 1) _ to keeping love alive in my marriage, that is, I start 2) _ another woman. The “other woman” is my mother, a 72-year-old 3) _ who has lived alone for 20 years. Because of the 4) _ of my job and family, I didnt find much time to see my mother. So she was 5) _ when I suggested a date with her. We didnt go anywhere fancy, just a 6) _ place where we could talk. I read the 7) _ to her, and we had a nice talk over dinner.,Reading Comprehension,secret,dating,widow,demands,surprised,neighborhood,menu,Summary of the Text Both of us feel wonderful about our date, and from then on we go out for dinner 8) _ times a month. I am very interested in the stories about her past life; we also talk about the future. I always fill my 9) _ to the brim and often complain about how quickly time flies. While spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of 10)_ .,Reading Comprehension,a couple of,calendar,slowing down,1. Directions: Choose the one answer that best completes each sentence from the four choices given below. 1) Gauguin（高庚）selected painting as a when he was in his thirties. A. job B. work C. profession D. career 2) Theres a _ of girls waiting for you outside. A. pair B. double C. couple D. few 3) We were dressed up for the party but she was still in her _ clothes. A. common B. ordinary C. normal D. aver