初中英语英美文化如何道歉才是正确的做法素材.docx

如何道歉才是正确的做法？Chances are, youve had to apologize plenty of times in your life. And theres a good chance youve alsouttered the phrase, I never meant to hurt you.生活中你可能要道歉很多次，而且很有可能说过这句话：“我从没想过要伤害你”。Stop doing that, says author Caroline Myss.作者卡罗兰梅斯说：“别再说那句话了。”In a talk Myssa spiritual seeker, researcher took on the topic of forgiveness and healing, and explained in no uncertain terms why I never meant to hurt you is never a sufficient apology, no matter who it comes from.梅斯是一位精神导师和研究员，她在一次访谈中讲了原谅和疗伤的话题，并且非常明确地解释了为什么“我从没想过要伤害你”这句话永远不适合用来道歉，无论是从谁的嘴里说出来。Picture that person coming up to you and saying, Wow, bummer. Im sorry I did this, but, you know, I never meant to hurt you. And, hey, can we just call it a day? Myss says.梅斯说：“想象一下，那个人朝你走过来跟你说哦，哥们，很抱歉我那样做，但你知道的，我从没想过要伤害你。就这样吧好吗?”As tempting as it can be to move on and bury the hatchet, that type of apology wont sit well with the person on the receiving end. That whole little thing I never meant to hurt you thats the thing you cant forgive, she says. It goes right to your soul, that toxic, sick feeling.虽然让关系能发展下去并停战和解是很吸引人的，但那种道歉真的不适合说给对方，她说：“那句我从没想过要伤害你所对应的整件小事，其实就是你无法原谅的那个行为，是那种直入你心扉的难受的感觉。”Instead, Myss says its important to approach the conversation differently. Ultimately, its about offering more than an apology. Its about sharing a soul-to-soul confession. Lets redo the scene, Myss says. The person comes up to you and says. I need to tell you something. I consciously knew what I was doing. I consciously knew it, and I have to call it something else: I sinned against you. It was a sin. I heard my conscience tell me not to do this and I didnt listen. It didnt matter to me. And I know that my actions redirected the course of your life. It was conscious. It was a sin, because it was conscious. And how much it hurt you did not stop me. This is not a boo-boo. This is not an apology. I am confessing my soul to you, and Im asking now for your forgiveness.梅斯说相反很重要的是要以别的方式引入话题，最重要的是你要强调你做了什么而不是道歉，应该有心灵间的忏悔。梅斯说：“咱们重新设想一下刚才的场景，那个人走向你说我要跟你说件事，我深知自己做了什么，我意识到了，我觉着应该换个说法：我得罪你了。是我的错，我的良心告诉我不要那样做，但我没当回事，这对我没什么影响，但我知道我的行为改变了你的生活，我是有意的。是我的错，因为我是故意的，对你的伤害也没能阻止我，这不是一时疏忽，我不是在道歉，这是我对你心灵的忏悔，我现在请求你的原谅。”Even saying those words on stages makes Myss visibly emotional, and she points out that this is how deeply within the soul