双语阅读：想和女生约会就要先计划.doc

双语阅读：想和女生约会就要先计划 Summoningthecourage,youfinallylandadatewiththehotchickyouvebeenlustingfor.Youshowupatthedoorwithflowersandcandy,andthinkthatyouareabouttoscorebrowniepointswhensheopensthedoor.Ihavenewsforyou,buddy,becauseyourdateisprobablythinkingtheexactopposite. Ifyouregoingtoaskawomanoutonadate,haveaplan.Womenlovethatandwomenloveconfidence.Askopen-endedquestions.Ratherthansaying,“Whereareyoufrom?”say,“Tell,meabouttheplacewhereyougrewup.”Thatwillkeeptheconversationflowing.Men,youshouldstillopendoorsandpulloutachairforyourdate.Thesechivalrousthingsstillmakeagoodimpression:Planthedatenearherplace,notyours.Andmostimportantly,pickupthecheck. Flowersandcandywereoncethoughttobe“romantic”ora“gentlemanlygesture.”ThatwasalsointhedaysofLeaveittoBeaver.Timeshavechanged,womenhavechanged.Thingsthatworkedbackthen,justdontworknow.Theydontcarryanymerit,andinfact,theyactuallymayhurtyou.Letmetellyouwhy. Whatyouthoughtwassuchasweetgestureonyourpart,justtoldthewomanyouaretakingonadateaverydifferentthing.Toher,flowersandcandyrepresentawimpytokenofappreciationinhopesofreceivingherattentioninexchange.Theyareunoriginal,lackcreativity,andarejustplaincheesy.Youmightgetafakesmileinreturn,andmaybeahugifyourelucky,buttheywillbothlacksincerity.StrikeONE! Notonlywilltheylacksincerity,butyouhavejustlostanyounceofrespectyouwerehopingtoestablish.Anyordinaryfellowcanpickupflowers,soyouhavetodosomethingtosetyourselfapartfromthoseotherguys. Trysomethingdifferent.Thinkabouteveryconversationthatyouhavehadwithher.Ifyouwerelistening,sheprobablytoldyoumorethanenoughaboutherselftogiveyouaclueonherlikesanddislikes. Wheredidyoumeether?Atacoffeeshop?Atabookstore?Atthemall?Bringingsomethingofcontexttoherwillshowthatyounotonlyareattentive,butareproactiveaboutit.Ifyoubumpedintoheratabookstore,doyourememberwhichsectionyouwerein?Whatshewasreading?Pickupabookofthesameauthorortopicforher.Youcantimaginehowmanybrowniepointsthatwillearnyou. Andbeforeyoushowupforyourdate,havesomethingaboutthegiftinmindthatyouwanttotalkabout.Dontthinkthatherheartandaffectionwillbeyoursuponreceivingthegift.YouhavetoknowWHYyouregivingittoher,andbeabletoarticulateitatthesametime. Inthebookexample,doalittleresearchontheauthor.Findoutwhattypesofbookstheauthorwrites.Maybecheckoutsomeeditorialreviewsthatyoucan“borrow”tomakeitappearthatyouknowwhatyouaretalkingabout.Anditwillshowyourdatethatyouwentoutofyourwaytolookupandresearchherinterests. Inhermind,ifyougetintosomethingjustbecausesheisinterestedinit,thatwillshowheryoucanexpresssimilarenthusiasmlaterdowntheroad.Andifshestartspicturingthenearfuturewithyouinit,thatlldosomuchforthecurrentdateyouaregoingon. Trustme,youllseemoreenthusiasmonherend,whichwillmakeforanengagingdateforthebothofyou.Andyouknowwhatthatmeansusuallyanotherdateverysoon. So,tosummarizethekeypointsofthisarticle 1.NOOOOOOOflowersandcandy.DidIgetmypointacross? 2.Becreative.Bringsomethingofcontext. 3.Researchbeforeyougiveherthegift.Andhavesomethingarticulatetosayaboutit. 4.Dontmakeaseconddatewhileyourestillonthefirstdate. 译文： 终于，你鼓起万般勇气，敲定要和你心仪已久的热门对象约会。你站在门口，手上拿着花和糖果，想象她一开门你就达阵得分。小伙子，我得告诉你，你的约会也许和你想象的恰好相反。 如果你邀请女士和你约会，先要做计划。女人喜欢有计划和自信的人。问开放式的问题，比如说“谈谈你生长的地方”，要比问“你哪里?”要好的多。这样可以让谈话继续下去。男士们，你们应该为约会对象开门和拉椅子。这些体现风度的行为可以留下好印象：约会地点选在她家附近，而不是你家附近。最重要的是你买单。 花和糖果曾经代表了“罗曼蒂克”和“绅士风度”。那已经过时了。时代改变了，女人也改变了。以前行的通的，现在行不通了。他们不会给你带来任何好处，事实上反而会给你带来负面效果。让我来告诉你为什么。 在你看来这些是甜蜜的小动作，告诉对方你特别看重这次约会。对她来说花和糖果代表了希望获得她注意的小小表示。没有创意，缺乏创造力，再平凡俗气不过了。你得到的也许就是婉尔一笑，如果幸运的话也许是一个拥抱，但都缺乏诚意。一次打击! 不仅仅是她缺乏诚意，你也失去了最后一点点你所希望建立的形象。任何人都能送花，所以你要做一些与众不同的事。 试试做些不同的事。想想你和她谈过的话。如果你听进去了，也许她暗示过你很多她喜欢的和不喜欢的东西，多过她想告诉你的。 你曾经在哪里碰到过她?咖啡店?购物中心?给她带点有隐含意义的东西表明你不仅细致而且积极。如果你曾和她在书店偶遇，你是否记得是在哪个区域?她在看什么?带上一本同样作者或话题的书，你无法想象这样可以得多少分。 在结束约会前，脑海中想想你要谈论的礼物。不要认为她收到你礼物后会把心交给你或很爱慕你。你要知道你为什么送给她，并同时明确的告诉她。 以书为例，小小研究一下作者。找出这个作者的写作风格。也许查查社评，你可以借此表明你知道你在说什么。这样向你的对象表明你已经寻找和研究过她的兴趣爱好。 在她心里，如果你是因为她有兴趣而去学习某些东西，就表示不久你