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59Unit 6Unit 6Text AWhy We Love Who We LoveI. Background information1.Dr. Joyce Brothers (born on October 20, 1927) is an American psychologist and advice columnist, publishing a daily syndicated newspaper column since 1960. She had a monthly column in Good Housekeeping magazine for almost four decades, and a syndicated newspaper column that she began writing in the 1970s, and which at its height was printed in more than 300 newspapers. She has published several best-selling books, including the 1982 “What Every Woman Should Know About Men,” and a 1992 book called “Widowed,” inspired by the loss of her husband; the book offered practical advice for widows and widowers, helping them to cope with their grief and create a new life for themselves. Today, Brothers continues to do guest appearances on television and radio talk shows.2.Love map A love map is a concept originated by John Money to assist a discussion of why people like what they enjoy sexually and erotically. According to Money, it is “a developmental representation or template in the mind and in the brain depicting the idealized lover and the idealized program of sexual and erotic activity projected in imagery or actually engaged in with that lover.”3.John William Money (8 July 1921 7 July 2006) was a psychologist, sexologist and author, specializing in research into sexual identity and biology of gender.4.Little League Little League Baseball and Softball is a non-profit organization in South Williamsport, Pennsylvania, United States which organizes local youth baseball and softball leagues throughout the U.S. and the rest of the world. Founded by Carl Stotz in 1939 as a three-team league in Williamsport, Pennsylvania, Little League Baseball encourages local volunteers to organize and operate Little League programs that are annual chartered through Little League International. Each league can structure itself to best serve the children in the area in which the league operates. Several specific divisions of Little League baseball and softball are available to children ages 5 to 18. The organization holds a congressional charter under Title 36 of the United States Code.5.Rotary International Rotary Club is an organization of service clubs known as Rotary Clubs located all over the world. It is a secular organization open to all persons regardless of race, color, creed or political preference. There are more than 32 000 clubs and over 1.2 million members worldwide. The members of Rotary Clubs are known as Rotarians. The stated purpose of the organization is to bring together business and professional leaders to provide humanitarian service, encourage high ethical standards in all vocations, and help build goodwill and peace in the world. Members usually meet weekly for breakfast, lunch or dinner, which is a social event as well as an opportunity to organize work on their service goals.II. Language points1.What mysterious force drives us into the arms of one person, while pushing us away from another who might appear equally desirable to any unbiased observer? (para. 3) What mysterious power makes us attracted to that someone special even if the people whom we face might be all suitable if judged fairly.2.Of the many factors influencing our idea of the perfect mate, one of the most telling, according to John Money, professor emeritus of medical psychology and pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, is what he calls our “love map” a group of messages encoded in our brains that describes our likes and dislikes. (para.4) Many factors may influence our choice of a marriage partner. One of the most compelling factors is defined as “love map” by John Money who is professor emeritus of medical psychology and pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, which is a group of messages indicating what we like and what we dont like. 3.It also records the kind of personality that appeals to us, whether its the warm and friendly type or the strong, silent type. (para. 4) The “love map” also records the personality type which attracts us, whether its the warm and friendly type or the strong, silent type. 4.When I lecture, I often ask couples in the audience what drew them to their dates or mates. (para. 6) When I deliver a lecture, I often ask couples what made them attracted to their lovers or marriage partners.5.The mother has an additional influence on her sons: she not only gives them clues to what they will find attractive in a mate, but also affects how they feel about women in general. (para.9) The son may not only choose a mate who is quite similar to his mother in characteristics, but also develop his feelings toward women in general.6.Conversely, a mother who has a depressive personality, and is sometimes friendly but then suddenly turns cold and rejecting, may raise a man who becomes a “dance-away lover.” (para. 10) On the contrary, if a mother is depressed in general, and sometimes friendly but then suddenly becomes cold and merciless, her son may become an unreliable lover.7.Because hes been so scared about love from his mother, he is afraid of commitment and may pull away from a girlfriend for this reason. (para.10) due to this reason, he may be afraid of dating.8.While the mother determines in large part what qualities attract us in a mate, its the father the first male in our lives who influences how we relate to the opposite sex. (para.11) Whereas the mother determines to a large extent what qualities in a mate appeal to us, the father, who is the first male in our lives, influences how we get along with the opposite sex.9.We hang around with people in the same town; (para.13) We stroll around and stay with people in the same town; hang about/ (a) round be standing or loitering about, doing nothing definiteSince he lost his job, hes been hanging about here. 他失业后一直在这里闲着。10.We tend to be most comfortable with these people, and therefore we tend to link up with others whose families are often much like our own. (para.13) We are inclined to be most comfortable with these people, and so we are inclined to marry people with similar family background.11.Its rather like the old, but perceptive, saying on the subject of marriage that advises future partners to make sure that the holes in ones head fit the bumps in the others. (para.16) Looking for someone with complementary needs is just like the saying on the subject of marriage, old but to the point. It suggests that future marriage partners should fit each other.12.Or, as Winch observed, its the balancing out of sociological likenesses and psychological differences that seems to point the way for the most solid lifelong romance. (para.16) Winch found that the trade-off between sociological similarities and psychological differences might be the way for a strongest romance for our whole life. 13.It turns out that the woman was like her mother-in-law a loving and caring person, the type who rolls up her sleeves and volunteers to work at church or help out people in need. (para.18) It is proved that his wife was like his mother, a loving and caring person who was willing to prepare for the work at church or help out people in need.14.This is the quality that her husband fell for, and it made color and religion and any other social factors irrelevant to him. (para.18) This is the quality that her husband loved, and he ignored any other social factors, such as color and religion.fall for fall in love withThey met at a friends house and fell for each other immediately.15.his marriage was his favorite gig, even though it was Gracie who got all the laughs. (para.19) his marriage was his favorite recreation, even though Gracie, his wife, laughed more frequently.16.They complemented each other perfectly: he was the straight man, and she delivered the punch lines. (para.19) They were a perfect match because he was serious and honest while she was humorous and had many intelligent remarks. punch line the point of a joke or humorous storyHe is eloquent, and always delivers the punch lines.他口才很好，说出话来妙语连珠。 III. Key to the exercises1. Reading comprehension(1) There are two real reasons why we choose that special someone.Reason 1 (Para.1 to para.13): Parents InfluenceReason 2 (Para.14 to para.30): Complementary Needs(2)The “love map” is crucial to our idea of the perfect mate because it records our preferences in personalities and characteristics. So we fall for and pursue those people who most clearly fit our love map.(3)While mothers determine what qualities appeal to their children in a mate, fathers influence their childrens personalities and chances of marital happiness. Additionally, mothers affect how their sons feel about women in general; fathers influence their daughters general feelings about men. (4)According to Robert Winch, a sociology professor at Northwestern University, Social similarities are involved in the choice of a marriage and the balancing out of sociological likenesses and psychological differences might be the way to keep romance solid and long-lasting.(5)The sentence “the holes in ones head fit the bumps in the others” implies that the two who are not the same but complementary can be a perfect match.2. VocabularySection A(1) goose flesh(2) blurt out (3) hang around (4) non-judgmental (5) float around(6) pediatric (7) wand(8) rears its head(9) crook (10) marital Section B(1) B(2) A(3) A(4) A(5) B(6) A(7) C(8) A(9) C(10) A3. Cloze(1) or (2) which (3) who (4) how (5) balance (6) love (7) solid(8) based upon (9) in terms of (10) children(11) healthiest (12) everyone(13) when (14) derived (15) steps(16) necessary (17) career (18) while (19) only (20) potential4. TranslationA. Chinese to English 1) Translate the following sentences into English.(1)London College of Fashion has produced a dictionary of fashion terms in four languages, and has also established links with a fashion college in Germany in order to swap ideas and information.(2)I hope I can get an interesting job rather than something mundane. Thats why I didnt apply for it this time. (3)Under the New Curriculum, in addition to giving a general introduction to computer theories, the school-based course also provides practical experience so that students can master computer skills better. (4)Wise men seek instruction; fools fall for applause.(5)The technology can be used to connect branch offices within a company, to link up with business partners or to give remote users access to the company network.(6)It is a great honor for me to introduce Mr. Milton Friedman, a professor emeritus from Johns Hopkins University who won the Nobel Memorial Prize in Economic Sciences.(7)Tightening our control in this area will not deter foreign businessmen from investing in China; on the contrary, it will reassure them. (8)Government inspectors lavished praise on the good leadership and management of this school and their report calls it “a welcoming school that is thought of highly by pupils, their parents and the local community”.2) Translate the following paragraph into English.The economic and social development has given people greater variety in education, work, travel, entertainment and information, but the more opportunities people have access to, the fiercer the competition. When some young people look at that, they also see it as a catalyst for social improvement。Ten years ago, people might have felt relieved to get admitted to college, and they went on to settle down with a job in their hometown. Now, howe