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爱情观的英语作文 Whentheconversationestolove,italwaysraisethebiggestemotion,reactionandpassion. But, Whatislove? Loveisthatfeelingyougetwhenyoumeettherightperson.Thisishowmanypeopleapproacharelationship.Consciouslyorunconsciously,theybelieveloveisasensation(basedonphysicalandemotionalattraction)thatmagically,spontaneouslygenerateswhenMr.orMs.Rightappears.Andjustaseasily,itcanspontaneouslydegeneratewhenthemagicjustisntthereanymore.Youfallinlove,andyoucanfalloutofit. Thekeywordispassivity.ErichFromm,inhisfamoustreatiseTheArtofLoving,notedthesadconsequenceofthismisconception:Thereishardlyanyactivity,anyenterprise,whichisstartedwithsuchtremendoushopesandexpectations,andyet,whichfailssoregularly,aslove.(Thatwasbackin1956chancesarehedbeevenmorepessimistictoday.) Sowhatisreal,lastinglove? Loveistheattachmentthatresultsfromdeeplyappreciatinganothersgoodness. LOVEISACHOICE Ifloveesfromappreciatinggoodness,itneedntjusthappenyoucanmakeithappen.Loveisactive.Youcancreateit.Justfocusonthegoodinanotherperson(andeveryonehassome).Ifyoucandothiseasily,youllloveeasily. ACTIONSAFFECTFEELINGS Nowthatyourefeelingsowarmlytowardtheentirehumanrace,howcanyoudeepenyourloveforsomeone?ThewayGodcreatedus,actionsaffectourfeelingsmost.Forexample,ifyouwanttobeemorepassionate,thinkingpassionatethoughtsmaybeastart,butgivingtzedaka(charity)willgetyouthere.Likewise,thebestwaytofeellovingistobelovingandthatmeansgiving. Whiletherearemanydifferentwaystodefineloveandtherearemanydifferentwaystolovesomeone(orevenyourself),hereisageneralguidetoloving. 1.Sayit.WhenyousaythewordsILoveYou,theyshouldcarrywiththemthedesiretoshowsomeonethatyoulovethem,notwhatyousimplywanttofeel.Whenyousayit,makesureyoureallymeanitandarewillingtodoanythingforthatspecialperson. 2.Empathize.Putyourselfinsomeoneelsesshoes.Ratherthanimposeyourownexpectationsorattempttocontrolthem,tounderstandhowtheyfeel,wheretheyefrom,andwhotheyare.Realizehowtheycouldalsoloveyoubackjustaswell. 3.Loveunconditionally.Ifyoucannotloveanotherpersonwithoutattachingstipulations,thenitisnotloveatall,butdeepseatedopportunism(onewhomakesthemostofanadvantage,oftenunmindfulofothers).Ifyourinterestisnotintheotherpersonassuch,butratherinhowthatpersoncanenhanceyourexperienceoflife,thenitisnotunconditional.Ifyouhavenointentionofimprovingthatpersonslife,orallowingthatpersontobethemselvesandacceptingthemastheyare,andnotwhoyouwantthemtobe,thenyouarenotstrivingtolovethemunconditionally. 4.Expectnothinginreturn.Thatdoesntmeanyoushouldallowsomeonetomistreatorundervalueyou.Itmeansthatgivinglovedoesnotguaranteereceivinglove.Trylovingjustforthesakeoflove.Realizethatsomeonemayhaveadifferentwayofshowinghisorherloveforyou;donotexpecttobelovedbackinexactlythesameway. 5.Realizeitcanbelost.Ifyourealizethatyoucanlosetheoneyoulove,thenyouhaveagreaterappreciationofwhatyouhave.Thinkhowluckyyouaretohavesomeonetolove.Dontmakeanidolofthepersonyoulove.Thiswillplacethemunderunduepressureandwilllikelyresultinyoulosingthem. 6.Neverstoploving.Evenifyouhavebeenhurtbeforeyoushouldnotstopgivinglove. Youmustloveyourselfbeforeyoucanloveanother.Butbeforeyoucanloveyourself,youmustknowandunderstandyourselfprofoundly.Thisdeepunderstandingofyourselfwillautomaticallyleadyoutoloveyourself(sinceyouwillbeeawa