关于工作与学习 孙耀武 - 副本.docx

On Life and studies Second, the source Are you working happily? Do you have a satisfactory job? Do you have unhappy feeling when you have worked for a certain time? Have you got the feeling of taking the wrong profession? Do you think that you are not well-paid to deserve your performance? Have you got the suffering feeling when you go to work every day in a mess? Do you want to change a job urgently? Have you thought that your present company is not as good as you have imagined ever before? Do you realize that the current job is accepted at first because of survival pressure, yet it is not so suitable for you ? Have you got the specific thing that you want just from your work? Are you happy every day? ？ There are many furious people complaining on TianYa BBS, yet have you ever thought the reason why you are not happy and but so furious?。 As a matter of fact, the root of your unhappiness is that you dont know what you want. Because you dont know what you want, you dont know what to pursue. You dont know what to pursue, so you get nothing. I always think that the most important thing to consider in ones career life is yourself or what you want. Perhaps most people havent given thought to it. The only consideration is that I want a job which is wellpaid. I know the desire to get high salary of all the people, but have you thought the process of hunting for a new job every other year? Do you want to live your life in the anxiety of the work and wage every year? If not, please think it over. It just seeks quick relief of present problems or difficulties regardless of the consequences, you cant drink poison desperately because of thirst. The more anxious, the more likely you feel to need a job. The more blind and inconsiderate, the more likely you will fail and your experiences will become worse. The after interviewer will frown at the sight of your resume. So the more you drink, the thirstier you will be. The thirstier, the more you will drink. It comes into the vicious circle. At last, you will only complain the unfair world or the wrong time you are coming for. And you can only give vent to your complaints on TianYaBBS so as to find a little mental balance among the common feelings of losers. Most people have survival pressure, so do I. Where there is survival pressure, there is much anxiety. The positive people will gain strength from the anxiety, whereas the negative people will lose the direction due to the anxiety. All people must make its decision under the pressure. That is the truth, whether you like it or not. Generally speaking, we divide our things into two types: the important things, and the emergent things. If you dont handle the important things, then you will often have to do the emergent things. For example, doing exercises to keep healthy is the important thing while looking for a doctor is the emergent thing. If you do not do exercises everyday to keep fit, you will be likely to be troubled by pain. Take another example; the important thing is to prevent fire, while the emergent thing is to put out fire. If not paying enough attention to the prevention of fire, then the trouble of putting out fire will come frequently. So does the same with hunting for a job. The important thing is to know well what you want, and the emergent thing is to hunt for a job. If not, it will result in your endless hunting. Usually, people will feel larger stress coming from the emergent things which force people to do immediately. In comparison, the pressure of the important things is not so much as those emergent things. Most people do things with the orientation of the pressure, under which people must do the emergent things firstly. As a result, people are busy with dealing with the emergent things here and there without rest forever.(Many peoples work are also busy and suffering like the fire brigades, and the reason is that they dont get the important things well done. )Those friends who say they are living in misery and dont consider too much due to survival pressure have trouble in hunting for a job at present. The reason is that you havent done the important things. It is the result rather than the reason. Today if you are still in a hurry to find a job rather than thinking, then maybe you will continually shoulder the consequence of hunting for a new job miserably in the future.c is a little heavy which needs much contemplation, not so interesting as the topic of a super girl called Tang Xiao hit the guard. However, there is no easy success in the world. It pays a price for success. Firstly, please forget all the survival pressure, and then think about what you want most in your life .Hence, the most emergent thing is to think out what you want. Third, what is a good job? Tang Jun, who once served in Microsoft Company has the most desirable career to many youngsters in universities. I wrote a post on TsinghuaBBS, which was despised by these students. Because at that time they just wanted to go abroad or work in foreign companies. But from todays perspective, I am right. TangJun went to ShengDa Network Company (a private enterprise) which is founded by ChenTian qiao. Perhaps its many youngstersdream to get a high salary in one of top 500 companies for a highdegree overseas returnee. The problem is that there are only 500 good companies, not enough for so many graduates who are dreaming about it. People tend to be dignified outside, and also love to keep up with the Joneses. They will do the same thing in work, no matter whether it is what you want or not. People think foreign companies are very good, but what are their superiorities? OK, they are working in better office buildings, and it is what you want? They live in better hotels when they go on business trips, and it is what you want? Others will admire a job in a foreign company, and it is what you want? All those are to be shown to others, and why are you living so strenuous just for others? On other hand, they get medium wage, and far from being extraordinary. They have fewer chances of promotions, and it is so hard to be promoted as a senior supervisor. Even though they hate to work overtime frequently, yet they dare not to do so. Because if you dont work overtime, there are always others willing to do so. Under most circumstances, the company will assign a Taiwanese, a HongKonger, or a Singaporean to be your leader, whereas these people are bearing with uncertain superiority. Have you thought about it clearly? Must top 500 companies be good? Which do you prefer to give more consideration: what you want in hunting for a job or what to be shown to others? Most of my university classmates went to America. Recently some went to abroad after graduation for so many years. Is going to abroad so good? Most of my classmates are struggling as a doctor, a postdoctoral or a visiting scholar. So far, there is only one who has got a formal teaching profession in one of American universities. Is it very hard to become a professor in China? I also have some cousins who went to abroad, leaving their parents alone at home without care. It happened many times that their parents fainted at home without anybodys knowledge. Is going abroad really so honorable? Just as someone says;“Many things are like watching adult movies, the viewers feel very good, yet not necessarily for the doers. ” People always hope to find the best, but, whats the best? You consider it to be the best because you truly know it well or others say its the best. Even if its the best for others, for you its also surely the best? You must be clearly aware of what you want, and others opinions are not so important. Many people are often influenced by othersopinions: the opinions of ones relatives, friends, or colleagues and so on. The problem is that what kind of life do you want to live? Your life is not your parentscontinuation, nor your childrens prebiography, let alone your friends another part. Only you are responsible for your life, and nobody cant shoulder the responsibility. You will regret nothing for your decision at least in the end. As for most normal people, there is no extreme evaluation of right or wrong about the decisions they have made. You can try to make whatever decision. For instance, if you werent enrolled by your previous university, nor in this trade, and there is no way out for your whole life span or you will be a loser? Not necessarily. As far as Im concerned, the good job should suit you. To be more specific, a good job should bring you what you want. Maybe you should measure your job with that goal, rather than the companys size, scale, fame or different holders, whether its listed or not. The small company may be not the bad one, and the job which pays you a high salary may not be a good job. First of all, youd better think over what you want. If you dont know, you will never get a good job. Because you can only see what you cant get forever, while what you have in hand is not what you want. t learned to cherish. Generally speaking, people pay more attention to what they cant get, neglecting what they have got already. Fourth, be a common person. I find there is great differences between Chinese and foreign motivational stories. The Chinese motivational stories tend to encourage people to set a high goal, undergoing selfimposed hardships, and finally success befalls on him. In comparison, foreign motivational stories encourage people to face up to the real life, and the common peoples predicaments. Although the two stories have the same happy endings, the beginnings are different. Comparatively speaking, I think the latter is more practical in real life. However, the former is rather hard, because there is only one successful example among 1000 people, 999 being the losers. We are ordinary people, and being ordinary means the probability is very exact. As a result, we cant win 5000000 of buying the lottery. We cant become BillGates or LiKaShing, nor fall off from a plane. Among us, a few people can make their undertakings successful, and 30 of us will get divorce, and most of us will live longer than 65. So please be realistic when thinking what you want. If you wish to be successful like LiKaShing, Im sorry I cant help you. Being BillGates or LiKaShing depends on your fate. Reading this article will not make you so successful like them. Even though you have accomplished such achievements, absolutely it is not my articles contribution. An old saying says: “There is no one born to be the nobleman.”But there is only one person to be the king. The noblemen are not quite many. Setting a high goal is beneficial to those people who love to challenge themselves. However, for most common people, high goals will make them frustrated and they will give up easily. Back to my points, LiKaShing is about 5000000fold richer than you, is he happier than you? Perhaps. Is he 5000000fold happier than you? Absolutely not. He is at most one or two times happier than you. It is likely that he is not even as happy as you. Searching for what you want is not a race with others whose aim is to be more, higher or ambitious. Though to be a successful person like LiKaShing is a grand goal, yet you may not gain happiness from the goal or from the process of pursuing it. Basically, you can t do it either. You have to listen the real voice coming from your heart. Looking for the thing from which you can obtain happiness, and thats truly what you want.So, what do you want, is it the goal we called it, theres n