The-Taboos-in-Western-Etiquette.ppt

TheTaboosinWesternEtiquette Thepurposeofthisthreadisnottoagreeordisagreewithtaboos Justtolistthem Itisadmissibletoanextenttodebatewhetherornotsomethingisataboo butpoststhatagree disagreewithtaboos orpoststhatrepeatstuffothershaveposted willgetdeleted Whatisataboo Youknowhowtheysaythere retwosidestoeveryissue Well atabooisanissuewhereonesideprovokessomuchanger hysteria andfearthatnobodydarestoadmithavinganyotheropiniononthatissuethantheoneeveryoneelseclaimstohave TaboosinAustralia Bigbusinessesrunningsmalleronesoutofbusiness BigAustraliancompanies i e VEGEMITE sellingouttooverseas Dobbingonyourmates Bragging Sleepingwithamate s partner AtleastwhereI mfrom Goingoutwithaclosemate sex withoutaskingfirst Beingaposer issayingyoucansurfwhenyoucan t youwouldn tbelievethenumberofpeoplewhohangoutatsurfbeachesanddothis Idon tknowifevenallAustraliansknowjusthowmanyofthemthereare AlthoughtherearelittleracistpocketsofAustraliahereandthere itisconsideredVERYun Australiantoberacistordiscriminatory inanyway inthevastmajorityofthecountry TaboosDecayinAustralia Thingshavechanged alittle forthebetterinAustralia DebateisonceagainpermittedontheroleofimmigrationinAustralia Thetriumphalismoftheopen borderslobbyhasbeenshattered perhapsirrevocably Thishappenedinpartbecauseofthecourageandhonestyofourgreatestlivinghistorians AnaccountofthesavageassaultProf BlaineysufferedfromAustralia selites andhisrecent unexpectedrehabilitation permitsanaccuratecameoofhowopinionsarechanginginmycountry Yes westillhaveanimmigrationsystemthatignoresournationalinterests andrespondstopressuregroups Ofcourse wereceivesteadydosesofgovernmenbromidestoutingmulticulturalismas theAustralianwayoflife Ourpublicfundsstillsupportflamboyantswindlers suchasKaziZafarAhmed This refugee isactuallytheformerPrimeMinisterofaforeigncountry AhmedlootedBangladeshfrom1989 1991 andnowlivesonanAustraliandisabilitypensioninSydney Butatleastnowoppositiontotheseidiociescanbeeffectivelyexpressed Itallbegan20yearsago onMarch18 1984 Onthatnight GeoffreyBlaineytookthestageataRotaryClubintheunremarkabletownofWarrnambool apleasantenoughmetropolis boasting28 500people insouthwesternVictoria tospeaktheunspeakable Tospeakaboutimmigration BeforeItellyouwhathesaid anditwasprettymildstuff youshouldknowhowimportantandrespectedBlaineywasatthetimeofhisremarks Bornin1930 Blaineyhadmadenationalliteraryheadlinesin1954withthefirstofhisbooks hehaswritten36atlastcount ThePeaksofLyell Hissubsequentbest sellinghistoriesincludedTheRushThatNeverEnded 1963 TheTyrannyofDistance 1966 andTheTriumphoftheNomads 1975 Blainey swritingwassomethingnew Hecombinedexceptionalgiftsinscrupulousprimaryresearchwithagenuinepoet seyefordesolatelandscapes SeethefollowingsegmentfromTheTriumphoftheNomads AmericanTaboos Americansarefairlyeasy goingandareusuallyreadytohelp Mostofthemarefriendlyandopen minded ButculturalmeltingpotastheUSis U S societyharborssomeuniquetaboos Thesestemfrommanylong heldbeliefsandrangefrompuritanicalattitudestowardsocialandsexualbehavior toadeeprespectforhorsesandpets torecentattitudestowardpersonalprivacy racism andbeyond TabooCategory TaboosonspeakingthenamesofcertainsupernaturalbeingsTaboosofunpleasanttopicsTaboosaboutpersonalprivacyTaboosoffoodandbeverage TheFirstCategory Taboosonspeakingthenamesofcertainsupernaturalbeings TheseincludemainlyGod theDevil TaboosoverGodandDevil ThemotivationbehindthetabooofGodmighthavesomethingtodowithrespect whiletheclearesttaboomotivatedbyfearmustbethatoftheDevil EuphemismsforGodandDevil Godcouldnotbereferredtobyname whichhasresultedinexpressionssuchastheLord theKingofKingsandtheAll Mighty TheeuphemisticexpressionsassociatedwiththeDevilaresomewhathumoristicandfriendly perhapstomaketheDevilseemlessfrighteningandunfamiliar asforexamplein WhatintheSamHillareyoudoing Western Hughes 44 listssomeBritishEnglishexamplessuchasOldNickandLordoftheFlies TheSecondCategory Taboosofunpleasanttopics Underthecategoryofdelicacyfallsuchtopicsasdeath disease physicalandmentaldefectsandcriminalactionsaswellasreligionandrace Death Americanuseeuphemismslike hepassedaway or welosthimlastyear Thebaldstatementthat hedied isjusttooblatantforoursensitivities AlthoughmostAmericansprofessabeliefinanafterlife theyareveryreluctanttodwellonthefactofdeath Otherwaystorefertodeath passon gotoone sMaker and joiningthemajoritytoresignone sbeing tomoveintouppermanagementBeingnolongereligibleforthecensus Death Race Negativeremarksregardingsomeone sracecanbeseenasatabootopicintheUnitedStates Eventhoughsuchwordsorphrasesmaybeapartofpopculture itisstillcommonlyfrownedontousethemincausalconversation Itisatabootocalltheblack negro Thethirdcategory Taboosaboutpersonalprivacy easy goingandout goingasAmericansare they asotherwesterncountries harborsomecertaintaboosoverprivacylikeage weight income religion mattersofheartandcosmicsurgery Age AgeisaverysensitivesubjecttomanyAmericans especiallytowomenoverage30 Inthisyouth upheldculture thethoughtofgrowingolderisapainfuloneandmostAmericans ifpossible wouldliketohavenothingtodowithit SomanyAmericansworkhardtomaintainayouthfulappearance Thelastthingtheywanttobeaskedisunthinkable Howoldareyouexactly Thisquestionmayresultinreplieslike HowolddoyouthinkIam I minmythirties Let sjustleaveitatthat Icannotremember Oh don taskmethat IstoppedkeepingtrackafterIturned30 AlotolderthanwhatIwouldliketobe Anyhow ifyouaredyingtoknowsomeone sage thisishowyoucouldgoaboutfindingout Firstyouestimatetheiragebytheirappearanceandspecialhabit Thenyoutaketenyearsawayfromthatestimation Youwillgetabigsmilefromthatpersonwhowillalsogetredandsay Wow Youaremybestfriend I m38already Canyoubelieveit You ofcourse reply No Ireallycan t You rekidding Youdon tlooklikeover28 Thisisamazing Nowthat sonecertainwaytomeetsomeone sego Weight Chinesepeopleoftensay Yougotfat asacomplimenttoone shealth Butthatdoesn tapplytoAmericans Whatwasworse itcouldbeoffensivesayingso Thisisoneofthetouchiest 最敏感的 subjects InAmerica itisokay evendesirable tobethinbutitisasinandahugeembarrassmenttobeoverweight Infact thethinneryouare theprettieryouareconsidered LookingthroughanyAmericanfashionmagazines you llnoticethatmostmodelsarenothingmorethanskinandbones Ifyouabsolutelyhavetocommentonthissubject it salwayssafetosay Oh youlooklikeyouhavelostweight than Oh youlooklikeyouputonafewpounds However ifyouwouldliketobehonestbutnothurtful Isuggestyouchooseyourwordscarefully perhapsbysaying Hey youlookgreat Veryhealthylooking Andalwaysremember it snotfat It smuscular However ifyouwouldliketobehonestbutnothurtful Isuggestyouchooseyourwordscarefully perhapsbysaying Hey youlookgreat Veryhealthylooking Andalwaysremember it snotfat It smuscular Income Youshouldnevereveraskhowmuchsomeone ssalaryis There snowayaroundthisone However it sperfectlysuitabletoaskabouttheirjobtitleandwhattheydoforaliving Thisinformationshouldgiveyousomeideashowmuchtheymakeayear Theforthcategory Taboosoffoodandbeverage Americansdon teathorses dogsandcatsandalsooffal Dogmeatadvertisedasa Guizhouspecialty inHubei People sRepublicofChina GenerallyinallWesterncountrieseatingdogorcatmeatisconsideredtaboo thoughthattaboohasbeenbrokenunderthreatofstarvationinthepast In2008 itwasreportedthatcatswereastaplepartofthelocaldietGuangdong China withmanycatsbeingshippeddownfromthenorthandoneGuangzhou basedbusinessreceivingupto10 000catsperdayfromdifferentpartsofChina American aswellasotherwesterncountries donoteathorsemeat Offalistheinternalorgansofbutcheredanimals andmayrefertopartsofthecarcasssuchastheheadandfeet trotters inadditiontoorganmeatssuchassweetbreadsandkidney InAmerican organmeatsthatareconsiderededibleinotherculturesaremoreoftenregardedasfitonlyforprocessingintopetfoodundertheeuphemism meatby products Exceptforheart tongue beef liver chicken beef orpork andintestinesusedasnaturalsausagecasings organmeatsconsumedintheU S tendtoberegionalorethnicspecialties BusinessEtiquetteandTaboosinUK TheHandshake whenyoufirstmeetbusinesspeople andalsoonleaving therewillbetheusualroundoffirm butnotbone crunching andnotprotracted 延长的 handshakes Asyet theEnglishhavenotadopterthefrenchhabitofroutinelyshakinghands Typicalgreetingsare Hello nicetomeetyou orthetraditional Howdoyoudo BusinessCards Thehandshakeisgenerally butnotalways followedbytheexchangeofbusinesscards Cardsfortheprofessionalclasses includingcivilservants areususllydiscreet simpledesignswithblackinkonawhitebackground Forthoseinvolvedin say manufacturing marketing orpublicrelation theyaremorecolorfulandincludethecompanylogo UnliketheJapanese theBritishtendsimplytoglanceatthecardwithoutstudyingit pocketit andreciprocate 交换 withoneoftheirown iftheyhaveone FirstNames Taketheleadfromyourhostregardingtheuseoffirstnames asdageneralruleitisbesttotakethingsgradually Agedifferencesarealsoadeterminant Asnotedearlier American style butyouneedtobesureofyougroundbeforeassumingthisisthelevelofcommunicationpreferredbyyouhost Itisafact too ofcourse thatthewideuseofe mailhashadasignificantimpactoncommunications theAmericanprotocolof hi Peter iswidespread butEnglishtraditionalistsoftenprefertheconventionalletter writingformat using DearPeter DressandAppearance TheBritisharetraditionallyrestrainedanddignified andtheirclothingreflectsthesecharacteristics Businesstravelersshouldwearsuitsindarkcolorsformeetings IntheU K businesscontactsnoticehigh qualityfabrics well shinedshoesandotherdetailsofdressing Darkbrownsuits tweedsandcorduroyareviewedascolorsandtexturesforthecountryorforhunting Leavethemoutoftheboardroom Avoidstripedties IntheU K manyschoolsorassociationshavetheirownstripedpatterntodenotemembership Gifts GiftsarenottypicallyexchangedwhiledoingbusinessintheU K Ifyoufeelthatatokenofthanksisinorder apenorbookwithashortinscriptionwillbeappreciated Ifyouareinvitedtoaclient shome bringflowers wineorchocolate ChristmaspresentsarenotexchangedinthebusinessworldoftheU K SomeOtherTips 1 Dostandinline InEnglandweliketoformorderlyqueues standinginline andwaitpatientlyforourturne g boardingabus Itisusualtoqueuewhenrequired andexpectedthatyouwilltakeyourcorrectturnandnotpushinfront Queuejumping isfrownedupon 2 Dotakeyourhatoffwhenyougoindoors menonly Itisimpoliteformentowearhatsindoorsincludingrestuarantsandchurches 3 Donotgreetpeoplewithakiss Theyonlykisspeoplewhoareclosefriendsandrelatives 4 Nevereatoffaknifewhenhavingameal 5 Avoidtalkingloudlyinpublic 6 Itisimpolitetostareatanyoneinpublic Privacyishighlyregarded 7 Donotpickyournoseinpublic Theyaredisgustedbythis Ifyournostrilsneedde bugging useahandkerchief 8 AvoiddoinggesturessuchasbackslappingandhuggingThisisonlydoneamongclosefriends 9 DonotaskpersonalorintimatequestionsTheyliketheirprivacy Pleasedonotaskquestionssuchas Howmuchmoneydoyouearn Howmuchdoyouweigh or Whyaren tyoumarried 10 DonotburpinpublicYoumayfeelbetterbyburpingloudlyaftereatingordrinking butotherpeoplewillnot Ifyoucannotstopaburpfromburstingout thencoveryourmouthwithyourhandandsay excuseme afterwards 11 DonotpasswindinpublicNowhowcanwesaythispolitely Let ssaythatyouwanttopasswind Whatdoyoudo Gosomewhereprivateandletitout Ifyouaccidentlypasswindincompanysay pardonme 12 NobargaininginBritain 13 Nostripe ties14 Nevertaketheroyalfamilyaffairsasajoke 15 Theyregardthenumber 13 and friday asunfortunate Andmostofthemprefertostayathome 16 AvoidtoengagedinbusinessinJulyandAugust manybusinessmenareontheirvacation sodoesChrismasfestivalandEasterDay 17 TheBritisharenotfondofphysicalcontactinpublic Avoidhugging backslappingorothertouchingbeyondafirmhandshake 18 Avoidtalkingwithyourhandsorgesturingwildly butkeepyourhandsoutofyourpocketswhileconversing 19 Queues orlines arecommonintheU K andaparticularetiquetteisrequired Ifyouencounteraqueue godirectlytothebackofthelineandwaitquietly Itisnotconsideredgoodformtodiscussthelengthoftimespentwaitingwithyourqueuematesoreventoengageinsmalltalkwiththoseyoudonotknow France Socialactivities Ontable1法国人在餐桌上敬酒先敬女后敬男 哪怕女宾的地位比男宾低也是如此 5如嘴里有东西要吐出来 应将叉子递到嘴边接出 或以手指取出 再移到碟子边沿 整个过程要尽量不要引别人注意 之后自然地用餐便可 6遇到豆类或饭一类的配菜 可以左手握叉平放碟上 叉尖向上 再以刀子