Roommate Conflicts新视野大学英语室友间的冲突

Roommateconflict Aboutproblemsbetweenroommatesandtheirsolutions Questionnaire Whatareyoudoinginthedormat10P M EatingChattingSleepingStudying Doyousharethesamehabitwithyourroommate ManySomeLessno Whatyoudothinkofyourdormlifeatpresent SatisfyingJustso soAwful Haveyoueverhadroommateconflicts AlwaysSometimesSeldomNever Whatareyouusuallyarguingfor TimeforsleepingLivinghabitsCleaningOpinionsaboutsomethingOthers Whatkindofmeasurewouldyoutakewhenconflictoccurs SpeakoutdirectlySendamessageore mailKeepitinmindOthers Wouldyouturntoyourroommatesfirstwhenyouareintrouble YesNoIdon tknow Whatdoyouthinkaffecttheroommaterelationshipsmost RegionsBackgroundsCharactersAcademicrecords Ifthereisachancetorecombinethedormmembers wouldyoustillliketolivewiththeformerroommates YesNoItdoesn treallymatter Whatdoyouthinkisthemostdesperateproblemtobesolveinthedorm CleaningDifficultpersonBadhabitandbehaviorOthers TalkShow HOST STUDENT Therearesixpersonsinourdormitory whichdiffersfromtheordinarydormof4 Morepeoplemeanmorecharacters morethoughts morehabits andlesspersonalspace Theinconveniencecausedbythecrowdedroomcanbereallyannoying GRADUATE Thisproblemdoesexistinsomedorms TheroomIusedtoliveisanordinaryroom 4personssharearoom Everyonehaveadeskwhichwasenoughformetodothemostworks STUDENT Thereissometimesanoddoneinadorm whosehabits opinionsandbehaviorareweirdandobviouslydifferentfromothers Gradually thatdifficultpersonwillbetheonewhoalwayshaveconflictswithothers GRADUATE Thattrue I veeverhadaroommate Hislifestylewasdifferentfromus andheliketosleepearlyandgetupearly Butforus itwastooearly Atthebeginning wecanbearit butlater wefoundthathesnoredsoloudly sometimeswecouldn tatall Itwashardbutwehavetobeasleepbeforehewenttosleep Anotherroommatewassosensiblethathewasawakedallnigh Therefore theyfightforthistheotherday STUDENT Thiswasarallytypicalroommateconflict HOST HOST COLLEGEINSTRUCTORS Itisthedifferencethatmakeswhoyouare sothateveryoneisuniqueontheearth Dormlifeisanimportantpartofthecollegelife Itcanaffectyouonmanyaspects suchasyourmood habit ideasandsoon Soitissignificanttoliveinharmonywiththeroommates Nobodyhastherighttoaskotherstochangeanything includingtherehabits Ifyourealizethatyourbehaviormaycauseconflictinthedorm thenyoushouldmakeachoicetohavechange Andtrytoreducethedifferences PSYCHOLOGICALCOUNSELOR Whatmakessomepeoplesoeasytorelateandotherssodifficult Wearguethatconflictinarelationshipoccurswhentheemphasisisonthedifferences ratherthanonthesimilarities Thinkofitas Unitedwestand dividedwecan tstandeachother Conflictoccurswhentheemphasisisondifference Reducingdifferencescanturnconflictintocooperation COLLEGEINSTRUCTORS Roommatesshouldhavegoodcommunicationstogetabetterunderstanding ratherthanmakepeopleunderstandyoufirst Whentwoormorepeoplewanttobeheardandnooneiswillingtolisten anargumentisinevitable Listenandunderstandfirst andyouunlockthedoorstopeople sminds PSYCHOLOGICALCOUNSELOR Yeah totallyright Thisisaboutthekindofunderstandingthatwillhelpyoucommunicateeffectively preventfutureconflictandresolvecurrentconflictbeforeitgetsoutofhand Thekindofunderstandingthatresultswhenyoucloselyexaminethedifficultbehavioruntilyoucanseethemotivebehindit STUDENT Livinginthesameroom thereisnodoubtthatconflictswilloccur Buttheconflictisnotamatterofprofitorbenefit Itisalwaysaboutthebrokenpieces Whentheconflicthappens remembertohaveintrospection andtrytobetolerantandgenerous HOST AUDIENCE Whatyousayordotopeoplecanproducedefensivenessortrust increaseresistanceorcooperation promoteconflictorunderstanding Itdependsonyou Rememberthat communication hasthesameoriginsas common tocommunicateistoestablishacommonunderstanding Whilecommunicating stayflexible Whileyoucan tchangepeopleyoumeet youcancommunicatewiththeminsuchawaythattheychangethemselves It samatterofknowinghowtogetthroughtothemwhenthe