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Perfeconizm,ti,1,Outline,WhatisPerfectionism?CharacteristicsConsequencesSuccessandHappinessSourcesofPerfectionismOvercomingPerfectionism,2,3,4,Learntofailorfailtolearn,5,Crisis(WeiJi)DangerandOpportunity,6,“Thegreatestmistakeamancanmakeistobeafraidofmakingone.”ElbertHubbard,7,ThePathofFailure,Age22:LostjobAge23:DefeatedforstatelegislatureAge24:FailedinbusinessAge27:NervousbreakdownAge34:RanforcongressanddefeatedAge39:DefeatedagainAge46:RanforsenateanddefeatedAge47:DefeatedfornominationforvicepresidentAge50:DefeatedagainforsenateAge51:16thUSPresident,8,“Freedomisnotworthhavingifitdoesnotconnotefreedomtoerr.”MohandasGandhi,9,“Theimportantworkofmovingtheworldforwarddoesnotwaittobedonebyperfectmen.”,GeorgeEliot,10,11,12,13,14,ThomasWatsonSr.IBM,AmyEdmondson(1999)“PsychologicalSafety”,“Ifyouwanttoincreaseyoursuccessrate,doubleyourfailurerate.”ThomasWatsonSr.,“OriginsofGenius”(Simonton,1999)Failyourwaytosuccess(Klem,1997),15,Perfectionismisanincapacitatingfearoffailurethatpermeatesourlives,especiallythoseareasthatwecareaboutmost.Itisanapproach,acognitiveandemotionalschema,thatweholdtowardthejourneyofourlives,towardtheprocessofgettingfrompointAtopointB.,16,PerfectionVs.ExcellenceCharacteristics,Defensive,OpentoSuggestions,HalfEmpty,HalfFull,OverGeneralize,Realistic,NoSelf-Acceptance,UnconditionalAcceptance,Static,Dynamic,Perfection,Excellence,Fearoffailure,Failureasfeedback,FocusonDestination,JourneyandDestination,17,PerfectionVs.ExcellenceConsequences,TemporaryRelief,LastingSatisfaction,InevitableFailure,PossibilityofSuccess,Wastestime,AppropriateTimeAllocation,Pronetodisorders,HealthyApproach,HurtsSelf-Esteem,ContinuousImprovement,HarmsRelationships,AllowsforGrowth,Anxiety/Stress,CreativeTension,Perfection,Excellence,Performance?,LessPainMoreGain,18,LessPainMoreGain?*#!#?,SustainableapproachtogrowthProcrastinationHigherlevelsofself-confidenceLearntofailorfailtolearnTheLuckFactor(Wiseman,2003)Creativity(Simonton,1999)80/20Rule(ParetosPrinciple)Increaseinflowexperiences(Csikszentmihalyi,1991),19,SourceofPerfectionism,ConditioningDestination=Reward=AcceptanceJourney=Unrewarded=MeansOnlySocialenvironmentPermissiontobehuman?,20,21,22,23,24,25,26,“Emphasizingeffortgivesachildavariablethattheycancontrol.Theycometoseethemselvesasincontroloftheirsuccess.Emphasizingnaturalintelligencetakesitoutofthechildscontrol,anditprovidesnogoodrecipeforrespondingtoafailure.”,IntelligenceversusEffort,HarmfulPraise?(Dweck,2005),“Whenyoupraisekidsintelligenceandthentheyfail,theythinktheyrenotsmartanymore,andtheyloseinterestintheirwork.Incontrast,kidspraisedforeffortshownoimpairmentandoftenareenergizedinthefaceofdifficulty.”,FixedversusMalleable,27,OvercomingPerfectionism,Awareness,28,29,OvercomingPerfectionism,AwarenessFocuson,andreward,effortActiveAcceptanceBehaviorchangesattitudeMeditationandvisualizationSettingaliberatinggoalorvisionThePlatinumRuleHelpingothers?,30,Applyingthe3Ps,1.PermissionAcceptanceRespectforreality2.Positi