如何利用英语打好人际关系

如何利用英语打好人际关系 . 简述英语教学与人际关系的影响 作者：谢寿光 ：外语学法教法研究xx年第05期 人际关系不仅有自身独特的结构，也有其在运动过程中显示出来的作用和影响。协调人际关系最重要的原则主要有：平等原则、诚信原则、礼貌原则、互利原则、人道原则、择善原则、适度原则、相容原则、积极原则、理解原则、自律原则等。除了把握人际交往的原则外，还应掌握一些技巧和方法。 学习英语的一个重要目的就是使学习者能用英语与人进行交际，而师生间及生生间的人际交际在提高英语学习兴趣及学习成绩上显得尤为重要。这便是本文的写作意图。 学生在某种意义上都会情不自禁地测试教师的教学方法以便不断地提高自己的学业成绩。换句话来说，学生就像社会上任何环境中的人一样努力左右着周围的环境。教师的人际关系在很多方面对学生会产生各种不同程度的影响。因此，教师应充分利用其正面的影响去推进学生各方面的成长，尤其是学业成绩的提高， 而不是出于私人的某个目的去控制学生的行为。多年前，有专家指出人际关系对周围环境及人产生的五大影响：1.自控能力及分类价值。 2.隐瞒所被授奖励的能力。3.本人的权力及威望。4.人的专业知识或特长。5.个人的魅力或某种组织或相关群体的会员身份。根据此专家的意见，所有的人在社会的某种特定环境中均会对人产生某种不同的影响。在中学英语教学中，课堂教学师生间有五种影响源，这对初为人师者来说尤为重要。因为这些影响源描述的是，教师如何利用它们的关系来控制课堂气氛。无庸置疑的是，此间涉及到教师的自身素质，教学技能，学业水平等方面的因素。有些教师因为有个人的魅力及非凡的领导能力，所以他们对学生有着令人难以置信的人际影响。例如，他们可以轻易而举地使学生获取重要信息，使学生领会实现自己目的的重要性以及紧急性，责任感，从而达到他们的目的。 教师在使用奖励与强制性的影响的方法上要注意的问题： 1.奖励学生的影响（Reward influence） 教师可控制学生的成绩也可控制学生的各项奖励。 学生可控制自己的行为也可通过自己的行为获取教师的奖励。 2.强制性的影响 （Coercive influence） 教师可保留好学生的学业成绩，教师有特权。同时，也可以加强惩罚力度。 学生有包容心，也有协同行为。 Communication is just as basic as food and drink. While some people sail ahead using their impeable(完美的) munication skills, others struggle to be understood. Heres how you can improve your munication skills 1. Understand the Nuances of Communication Communication has long transcended(超出) verbal(口头的) exchanges to bee an effective way of connecting with people. Communication leaves ample(广大的) scope(范围) for misinterpretation(曲解), leaving greater chunks of the intended meaning lost in translation. Understanding such subtle(精妙的) nuances brings about greater awareness in self-improvement. 2. Say whats On Your Mind When it es to conveying the desired message, most people shy away from speaking their mind mostly because they are bogged down by social expectations. They keep personal opinions withdrawn from the ensuing conversation. The prime purpose of being able to municate effectively is to be able to express your personal opinions in the given matter 3. Retain Eye Contact(接触,交流) Every conversationalist believes that the perfect way to engage audiences is to maintain eye contact with them. Looking at people in the eye tends to draw their wavering attentions to the conversation at hand. If you want to improve your munication skills remember to engage your audiences by directly looking at them. Eye contact ties the speaker to the masses with an invisible tether(范围,限度) and forces them to pay attention. Without eye contact verbal munication is rendered pletely futile 4. Mind Your Body Language The body does not need a verbal language to express itself. It can municate via(道路) mannerisms, expressions and physical conduct. When it es to effective munication skills, excellent verbal content is coupled with sound physical expression to render an engaging effect on the audiences. Animated gestures, lively expressions and physical mannerisms are excellent ways of conveying a given idea. A deadpan expression only conveys a lacklustre attitude and boredom, whereas(却,反而) an animated(精力旺盛的) front is more engaging to witness. If you want to improve your munication skills, you should start observing others while they speak. Talk to yourself and check your body language in the mirror to ascertain(查明,弄清) your flaws and improve upon them. 5. Be A Good Listener Communication is hardly a one-way process(经历,过程). Listening is as important as speaking. In fact, most munication experts believe that an ideal municator tends to listen more than speak. While it is heartening to be able to alleviate interpersonal troubles by talking it out, sometimes listening alone does the trick. Not only does it make the municating experience richer but also makes you more sympathetic(有同情心的) to the other person 6. Clear Enunciation(阐明,发表) Some people tend to draw their syllables(音节) out making their speech plete inprehensible(费解的) to the listener. While the idea of munication is extremely important, one shouldnt treat the medium of munication lightly Crisp enunciation adds to effective delivery 。Not only do these require a thorough understanding of the spoken word, but also require much work on improving speech defects. 7. Crisp Pronunciation When it es to addressing an audience, a municator must have an impeable pronunciation to have the desired effect. Very often, bad pronunciation has made laughing stocks out of the most able speakers. The method by which the medium carries the message tends to shape the overall meaning aordingly .If your pronunciation needs improvement, dont be shy asking for help. One should correct their pronunciation in order to maintain their effectiveness as good municators 8. Enhance (增长)Your Vocabulary Thorough knowledge of the medium involves equipping your vocabulary with new words. Many-a-times people have ended up using high-sounding words inappropriately(不适当的) only to face public embarrassment. Building a fortress without a strong foundation will only result in eventual failure. Learning new words is an invaluable addition to your munication skills. Not only does it increase your verbal prowess(威力,本事), it also helps you municate better. Coherent language is an assured winner in registering the intended meaning and engaging audiences effectively. 9. Follow Other Efficient Communicators Human beings are excellent emulators(竞争者) We live our lives emulating others and learn new things in the process. When it es to picking up ideas for improving ones munication skills, the best approach is to learn from others. It is only by observing others can you hope to pick up some helpful pointers for yourself. Observing other speakers will help inculcate their good points into your repertoire(演奏节目) .Seek the pany of good municators and observe them closely. Emulate their speaking styles and mannerisms. With time, not only will you be able to municate like them, but you will be able to develop your own distinctive style 10. Study from Self-Help Books Self-help books are excellent guides to improving any given skill. Effective municators enclose their transforming experiences in such books to help less fortunate people gain benefits of better speech. With a host of titles to choose from, one can resort to emulating tips mentioned in these books to help make their munication skills better. The step-by-step instructions given in these books lend an extensive insight into the idea of munication to help improve them in no time Lets talk about interpersonal relationship. With the development of our society, the connection between people bees inevitable. People need to municate with others as long as they are in the world. As a result, the interpersonal relationship bees more and more important. First of all, a good interpersonal relation promote people bee suessful. Through the human history, we can realize that no one can do everything well and bee suessful alone. Most of the great men have a good relationship among people. Secondly,a good interpersonal relation can help people live a happy life. Living in a happy environment need people keep a good relationship with the people around.