Nonverbal Communication非语言交际

Nonverbal Communication. Peopleoftenshowhowtheyfeelwithoutspeaking.Theyusetheirfaceandtheirbody.Thisis callednon-verbalcommunication.Itcantellusalotabouthowpeoplearefeeling.Nonverbalcommunication, likeourverbal language,isalsoapartofourculture.Butnotallbodylanguagemeansthesamethingindifferentcultures.Differentpeoplehavedifferentwaysofmakingnonverbalcommunication.Forexample,differentpeoplehavedifferentideasabouttheproperdistancebetweenpeopleconversing;theappropriatenessofphysicalcontactvarieswithdifferentcultures.According to their own national habits, the Arabs believe that in order to be friendly, it should be kept close to each other. However, the British people in accordance with the British habit will be back, because he believes to maintain the appropriate distance is right.In western culture, it is considered rude to touch other peoples children.The Japanese pay more attention to the etiquette, when they talk with others, they will lower their eyes. They think it is rude to look at each other.Non-verbalcodesareusedtoestablishandmaintaininterpersonalrelationships.Inordertoavoidembarrassingsituations,itisconsideredmorepoliteornicertocommunicateattitudestowardsothersnon-verballyratherthanverbally.Thefunctionsofnon-verbalcommunicationareasfollows:1)Toexpressemotions;2)Toexpressinterpersonalattitudes;3)Toaccompanyspeechinmanagingthecuesofinteractionbetweenspeakersandlisteners;4)Self-presentationofonespersonality;5)Rituals(greetings).Inallofthenonverbalcommunications,eyecontactandtouchingisaveryimportantpart.Forinstance,atabusstops,whenpeopleofdifferentsexesinvolvedinconversations,themalesoftenstareatthefemaleseyes,butthefemalessometimeslookatthemaleseyesorlookround. Whatsmore,theyhaveadistancebetweenthem.Butwhenpeopleofthesamesex,towomen,they oftenlookateachotherandtheystandorsitnext.Sometimestheyholdhands.Buttomen,theyhaveanormaldistance.Duringgreetingsandfarewells,peoplelookateachotherandshackhandsorheldthemselvesinawarmembrace.Butthestrangersapproachingeachotherhavealookatoneofthem.Iftheytoucheachother,theymaybenotcareful.Ontheotherhand,asweallknow,gestureisalsoaveryimportantpartofnonverbalcommunication.Nonverbalgesturesusuallycommunicatemorethanaspeakerrealizes.Mostofourunderstandingcomesfromnonverbalcommunication.Ifyoufailtogesturewhilespeaking,youmaybe perceivedasboring,stiffandunanimated.Gesturesareessentialinourdailylife.WhenIobservetheusageofgestureonbus,Ifindoutthatbothmenandwomenusegestures.However,they useitdifferently.Menappearmorerelaxedingesturewhilewomenappearmoretensebetweenpeopleofdifferentsexes.Butwomentendtosmileandusefacialexpressionsmorethanmendo.Exoscopicpeopleusemoregesturesthanendocentricpeoplebetweenpeopleofthesamesex.Duringgreetingsandfarewells,gesturesarealsousedfrequently.Peopleoftenshakehandswhentheymeeteachother.Atthesametime,theywillwavehandstofarewell.Peopleusuallyusenogesturebetweentotalstrangers.Inconclusion,Menarelesscomfortablewithmakingeyecontactandtouchingthanwomen.Apparently,ithassomethingtodowithdominance,powerandstatus.Directeyecontactisasignofemotion.So,thelesseyecontactshared,thelessemotion.Wetendtolookmoredirectlyintotheeyesofsomeonewelikeandlooklessintotheeyesofpeoplewedislikeorfeeluncomfortablewith.Howeverwomenarelesscomfortablewithgesturethanmen.Womenmaysometimesfeelshy.Sotheyuselessgesture.Asaresult,itstopsthemfromdeliveringtheiropinionsfluently.Butmenarealwaysskilltousegesturetoexpressthemselves.Malesandfemalesoftendonotkeepadistancebetweenthemiftheyhavenointimacy.InChina,generallypeopleuseeyecontacttoshowtherespect.Tosomewomenwhoareshy,theydonotlookatotherseyes.Iftheybotharewomenbutarenotfamiliar,theymayleavealittledistancebetweenthem.Iftheyaremenandarefamiliartoeachother,theywillhaveanormaldistance.Toeveryone,theyusehandsorembracetogreetandsaygoodbye.Tothestrangers,peopleoftenfeelthattheeyecontactisstrange,andthetouchingisabnormal.But,regardlessofonesgender,Ibelievethatifattractionandotherstrongemotionsareinvolvedbetweentwopeople,theirabilitytointerpretnonverbalcommunicationdiminishesgreatly.There are many practical significance for the analysis of non verbal communication. The understanding of east and west culture can make us establish a good foundation for the communication, and the understanding of t