西方礼仪文化unit6TheEtiquetteinFuneralCeremony.ppt

1、Unit 6 The Etiquette in Funeral Ceremony,1. Have you known how the western-style funeral is like? If yes, please share what you know about with your partner. If no, please guess how it looks like.,Lead-in,State funeral for Yeltsin,State funeral for Reagan,2. Vocabulary building,Wreath laying (placin

2、g) ceremony,Pay final respect,Memorial service,Graveyard Cemetery Final rest place,Condolence Stand in silent tribute Departed saint Coffin,Match the Chinese words on the left column with their appropriate English expressions on the right.,国葬 献花圈仪式 向遗体告别 （宗）追思礼拜 墓地 挽歌，哀乐 吊唁，慰问 棺材 公墓 逝者，亡人,state fune

3、ral wreath laying (placing) ceremony to pay final respects memorial service final rest place dirge condolence coffin cemetery departed saint,1. Funeral serve several purposes Commemorating the life of the deceased Emotional support to the bereaved An opportunity for friends and family to pay tribute

4、 to their loved one,Funeral Etiquette,2. Upon Receiving the News Express your condolences and offer assistance as soon as possible. Only very close friends of the deceased and the immediate family are expected to visit the family before the funeral. Let the family know if you will be attending the f

5、uneral. It is important to keep the conversation brief taking in account their emotional state and that they will be receiving numerous similar calls.,3. Sending Funeral Flowers Unless the family asks that donations should be made in lieu of flowers, you should honor their request. Many people consi

6、der it obligatory to send flowers unless there is a prohibitive note in the newspaper notice.,chrysanthemum,White lily,4. Sending Mass card,If the deceased was a Catholic, some people will send a mass card instead of or in addition to flowers. Catholics and non-Catholics can arrange for a mass to be

7、 said for the deceased.,Sympathy card,5. Dress Though it is no longer necessary to dress in black, do show respect when picking out your funeral attire. Conservative suits or dress-clothes, in dark, respectful colors are most appropriate. It is advisable to avoid floral or busy patterns.,6. Paying R

8、espects It is traditional for friends to visit the funeral home prior to the day of the funeral service. The obituary in the newspaper will have the details as to the day and time for visitations.,7. Viewing the body In funeral services, a viewing (reviewal, funeral visitation or a wake in the Unite

9、d States and Canada) is the time that the family and friends come to see the deceased after they have been prepared by a funeral home.,8. Attending the Service Arrive at the funeral home at least ten minutes before the service begins. Funeral services usually start on time and it is considered rude

10、to be late. Enter quietly and be seated. Do not try to talk with bereaved family members if you arrive early. The first few rows are reserved for family members. At the conclusion of the service, you will want to leave promptly and wait in your car if you plan to follow the procession to the cemeter

11、y. Remember to turn your headlights on so you can be identified as being a part of the procession. Attending the graveside service is optional and is usually determined by the relationship between the individual and the bereaved family.,9. Expressing sympathy The family will appreciate a sincere exp

12、ression of condolence brief: Im sorry. Im sorry to hear of your loss. I always regarded Jane as a good friend. Tom, will be missed by everyone. If they want to talk about the deceased, lend an ear and a few minutes of your time. Being a good listener may be the best solace you can provide for them.,

13、9. Expressing sympathy If you have never met the family, introduce yourself and let them know how you are connected to their loved one. Colleagues and co-workers of the deceased may attend calling hours together, but try not to descend on the bereaved all together. I am so sorry for your loss. Let m

14、e know if there is anything I can do to help. Talk about their memories of the deceased. Sorrow is an individual suffering, but joyful stories shared freely can make the grief easier to bear.,10. Offering help Childcare Food gifts Cleaning Shopping Picking up out-of-town relatives ,11. Mourning at t

15、he funeral Usually a few people who are special to the deceased are chosen to be pallbearers. A member of the clergy will probably conduct the ceremony, but it isnt at all uncommon for friends and family to say a few words about the deceased or read poems or even sing a song, which details happy mem

16、ories and accomplishments.,11. Mourning at the funeral Sometimes the delivering of the eulogy is done by the clergy. Church bells may also be tolled both before and after the service. Tradition also allows the attendees of the memorial service to have one last opportunity to view the decedents body

17、and say good-byeThis opportunity can take place immediately before the service begins, or at the very end of the service.,Follow-up practice,Look at the following sentences, some of which are often said by people who attend the funeral and some by family members of the departed. Put them into the appropriate columns.,1)Im sorry. 2)Thanks for coming. 3)My sympathy to you. 4)It was good to know John. 5)John talked about you often.,6)John was a fine person and a friend of mine. He will be missed. 7)I didnt realize so man people cared. 8)Come see