跨文化交际chaer课件

1、1,Chapter 6: building relationships,2,How to get along with others,We are friends,3,Cultural differences on friendship between western and Chinese can be found in many aspects of daily communication, including addressing, greeting and parting, compliments, apologies, thanks, etc. In the following, w

2、e will look at some cultural different between China and western,4,Outline,Introduction Cultural differences in friendships Friendship obligations A question of love The importance of connections Social obligations Giving and receiving gifts,5,1.Greeting,Nice to meet you,6,2.Compliments and Response

3、 To compliment is to praise the addressees virtues, ability, behavior, appearance, clothing, personality and belongs. Appropriate compliments can serve as effective supplementary means in inter -personal communication. Western and Chinese culture are at polar opposites about compliment,7,Chinese are

4、 tend to efface themselves in words or refuse it, although they do feel comfortable about the compliments . So many westerners simply feel puzzled or even upset when their Chinese friends refused their compliments. The Chinese people regard modesty as a most valuable virtue, so they seldom agree to

5、the compliment on their own,Response to compliments,8,Where ？ Where,You look so beautiful,Everywhere,9,One day, a chinese girl Liu Mei was invited to her american friend Jackhome. Jack cooked many kinds of dishes for her. Jack: Do you want more beef? Liu Mei: No no no ! Jack: Ok. Help yourself,10,An

6、 western hostess, if she is complimented for her cooking skill, is likely to say,” Oh, I am so glad that you liked it. I cook it especially for you.” Not so is a Chinese hostess, who will instead apologize for giving you “Nothing”. They will say“随便作几个菜，不好吃 。”If translate this into English I just mad

7、e some dishes casually and they are not very tasty,11,3.Apologies and Responses If wrong things are done, there must be apologies .As to how to offer apologies, both western and Chinese people may “I am sorry.”,”I apologize for”. Etc. But Chinese would like to apologize for the crowded state of thei

8、r dwellings and for small numbers of dishes, although the room is big enough and there are many dishes. Chinese stay these to express self-depreciation only out of courtesy , not having other implication. But the westerners would wonder, since the room is so large and there are so many dishes, why d

9、o they say so. May be they do not welcome our visit, they dont like us to eat more,12,When Chinese contact with westerners, if they do not know these differences, it will lead to misunderstanding. The ways to respond to apologies are different, too. A: Oh, Im sorry. I forget it. B1: It doesnt matter

10、. B2: Thats all right. B2 is westerners. B1 is a Chinese person. “It doesnt matter” is a translation of “没关系”from Chinese, which is a common pattern in Chinese to respond to apologies. If a Chinese uses this to respond to apologies, westerners will think that he is a sharp person, who simply cannot

11、forgive a very little wrong thing,13,3. Thanks and Responses “Thank you” is widely used in English to show gratitude in such cases as being invited, helped, given a gift, etc. Cultural differences exist between Chinese and western in how to express thanks and responses. As a matter of fact, “Thank y

12、ou ” is used more widely by westerners than Chinese use“谢谢”, for minor favors like borrowing pencil , asking directions, requesting someone to pass on a message , receiving a telephone, etc. “Thank you” not only shows politeness but also carries a persons grateful feeling for those who offer help. W

13、ithout using expressions of gratitude, misunderstandings may arise because the help seems to be taken for granted and is mot appreciated,Thank you,14,For westerners, each person is an equal individual, whether he is a family member of not. In Chinese, “谢谢”is not frequently used between intimate frie

14、nds and family members because it may imply a certain distance between the addresser and the addressee. Native speakers may respond to “Thank you ” by saying : You are welcome /Its a /my pleasure/ Not at all/ Dont mention it/Thats all right. While Chinese people may say:“这是我应该做的”， which may convey t

15、o westerners the message that the Chinese did not really want to do it, or that he /she did it only because it was his/her duty. This message is quite different from what the Chinese speaker intended to express,15,4. Asking Personal Affairs People from China do not regard it as asking personal affai

16、rs when they ask others name、year、marital status、wages、personal life、 belief and political points. It is regard as concerns. While the westerns will think you invade their right of privacy. when we talk to the westerns, we must avoid asking some questions like this:“ How old are you?”、“Are you marri

17、ed？”、“How many children do you have？”、“How much do you make？”、“Whats your weight?”、“Do you go to the church,16,5.Invitation and Saying Good-Bye In the culture of British and America, it is very important to consult a time before you invite somebody to attend a banquet or take part in social activiti

18、es. Esp. in America, invite somebody means you are borrow times of others. So they respect time very much. While in China, people are prefer to an uninvited guest. And otherwise, You will be thought unfriendly if you cannot receive an uninvited guest very well,17,2. Friendship obligations,I want to

19、go shopping. would you come with me,A,B1,B2,I am glad to go shopping with you,I am sorry, but I cant, my schedule will not allow for it today,18,Chinese expect friendships to be more lasting 1. Chinese expect friendships to stay the same over a long period of time, maybe for a lifetime. proverb: Old

20、 friends and old wine are the best. (陈酒味醇，老友情深。 ) 2. Americans are likely to change even “best friends” several times over the years.( a move, graduation, marriage etc.) Birds of a feather flock together (物以类聚，人以群分,19,Americans expect friends to be independent Westerns friendship is mostly a matter

21、of providing emotional support and spending time together. Chinese friends give each other much more concrete help and assistance than Western friends do,B1: You should forgive him,B2: You should consider carefully what may happen If you continue arguing,A is arguing with her husband,20,Chinese can

22、usually expect more from their friends than Americans can a friend in need is a friend in deed 患难见真情 Friendship cannot always stand on one side. 友谊是双方的事。/来而不往非礼也,21,3. A question of love,Chinese view on love vs American view on love Similar: The attitudes that people have about romantic relationships Difference: How and why people get involved in romantic relationships,22,23,4. The importance of connections,Case: Permission to use library Sit