英语论文63=浅析中美家庭教育的差异VIP

1、英语论文63=浅析中美家庭教育的差异 浅析中美家庭教育的差异an analysis of the differences of family education between china and americaabstractchildren are the hope of a nation, and family education is the elementary education for children. many serious problems have appeared in our education system in recent years. almost ever

2、yone has realized the importance of solving these problems and many people have presented a lot of valuable suggestions. there are many types of family education in the world and each of them shows distinctive features and is closely responsive to its culture. and american family education is the mo

3、st famous one among them. there are great differences in the concepts of education, methods of education and results of education between american family education and chinese family education. this paper will analyze those differences from the three aspects, and will mainly analyze of the differenc

4、es on cultivating childrens independence, interests, creativity, psychological health, fame and the relationship with their parents between the two kinds of family education. the author hopes to find a satisfied family education method through comparing the differences between american family educat

5、ion and chinese family education. at the same time, the author hopes this paper can provide some helpful suggestions for family education.key wordsfamily education; independence; interest; differences 摘要儿童是一个国家的希望，家庭教育是儿童教育的基础。近年来，我们的教育出了很多严重的问题。几乎每一个人都认识到了解决这些问题的重要性，并提出了很多有价值的见解。世界上有很多类型的家庭教育，并且各自都

6、有其鲜明和独特的特点，反映了其独特的文化。而这些类型的家庭教育中，尤其以美国的家庭教育最能代表西方主流文化。中美家庭教育在育儿观、教育方式和教育结果方面都有所不同。本文将从这三方面来对比中美家庭教育，重点分析两种教育方式在培养孩子的独立性、兴趣、创造力、心理健康、名利观以及与父母关系方面的差异。通过比较中美家庭教育，作者希望能找到一种比较科学优良的家庭教育方式，进而为我们的家庭教育提供有利的帮助。关键词家庭教育；独立性；兴趣；差异 introduction“children are the expectation of their parents and the hope of a natio

7、n. family education is not only an important component of education but also the first lesson to a child, which will be remembered forever.” zhao zhongxin, p1, 1991 family education has a direct influence on the qualities of talents. in the 21st century, international competition is becoming fiercer

8、. and it is a competition for talents fundamentally. thus, each country should pay more attention to family education in the education projects. the issue has been becoming a hot topic in our country, and it aroused great concern of our government and all walks of society, in particular the educatio

9、n sector. however, many people think that schools and universities have the main responsibility for these problems which appeared in education in recent years. schools and universities are to be blamed, but their parents are more to be blamed. “if the love of the good, the beauty and the truth had b

10、een implanted properly in their mind in early years, if they had been trained to use their minds at the very beginning, they would not live so foolishly.” karl weter. p5, 2002 in order to find a better way to educate our children, we should study other countries experiences. there are many types of

11、family education in the world, and american family education is the most famous one. so it is necessary and significant to make a comparison of the differences of family education between america and china. this paper is to comparing chinese family education and american family education superficial

12、ly, which may offer some lessons to family education. i. two conceptions of family educationa. american family educationin america, parents aims are to train their children to have the ability of adapting to environmental variety and the ability of living independently. based on this concept, most a

13、merican parents emphasize more to train their childrens ability of independence once they are born. they generally believe that childrens growth must rely on their own experiences, because they think that children should form a self-supporting will and the capacity to live independently since their

14、childhood. and the capacity comes from the training in the early age. the so-called training contains many aspects, such as work, temper will, patience, the spirit of hard work, etc. however, the most fundamental training is the ability of adapting to hard conditions. through the process of work, ch

15、ildren will form the labor sense, learn some work skills and form a habit of labor. besides, children can learn how to overcome difficulties, temper their willpower, develop their talents and skills, rich their knowledge, and form a habit of hard work and thrifty by working in hard conditions. it is

16、 just in the unconsciously process that children will obtain the independent survivability and take the responsibilities for the society.b. chinese family educationcompared with american, chinese parents have a very different concept of childrens education. some parents in china only care about whet

17、her the children have a promising future, a good job, a good life or not. based on these expectations, the majority of parents feel that their responsibility for their children is to create as good conditions as possible they can so that the children will not worry about anything in the future.chine

18、se parents would like to provide everything what they can for their children in the process of childrens growth. in short, they would like to sacrifice anything if their children can live better with their help. therefore, in the process of childrens growth, the most important thing the parents conc

19、erning is to developing their childrens intellect, except for caring childrens daily life. in order to make their children have a good performance in study, become outstanding, or even become a famous person in the future, they would not let children do anything except studying. as for the childrens

20、 independence, civic awareness and their ability adapting to the society in the future, they consider little or not at all. from these aspects we can find the obvious differences of family education between america and china. ii. two different kinds of ways of family education.a. differences in cult

21、ivation of childrens independencebecause of a fundamental difference on parental concept, there are two completely different ways on cultivating their own childrens independence. 1. the cultivation of childrens independence in americafirst and foremost, chinese family education and american family e

22、ducation vary in the attitude towards independence. most american parents think that the child is an independent individual since he is born, who has his own willing and characteristic. neither the parents nor teachers have priorities to determine and restrict their childrens behaviors. the declarat

23、ion of independence says: “all the people are born equally; they are endowed with holy rights including life, freedom and pursuit of happiness. huang shaoxiang，p12, 1979 in order to let the children recognize that they are the masters of themselves, american parents will give their children enough f

24、reedom and will not make decisions for them in most cases. american parents willing to respect and understand their childrens feelings, thus, they always think carefully about their words and choose the appropriate time to educate their children. the famous basketball star, michael jordan once said,

25、 “i admit that our children will inherit some good traditions, but i dont think we should make rules to teach them what they can do, because i think even if they do, they will not be happy. his words may represent the thoughts and attitude of most american people in family education.in order to cult

26、ivate the childrens ability to enjoy independent life, american parents take the measures as follows. firstly, they try to give them enough opportunities and conditions which allow them to be fully trained in various settings since they were born. the common way the parents used is to let the childr

27、en do some self-service work according to childrens ability in different ages, because this method will develop their childrens love of working and talents. for example, “there are three children, which are primary school students, in an american family. all of them have their own roles and abilitie

28、s. the 12-year-old girl cured all kinds of delicious snakes according to different formulas; the 10-year-old boy helped his father to mow, water flowers and clean court; the 8-year-old little girl can weave cup mat in various colors.” jennifer tin, p107, 2005 this is the result of practices from the

29、ir childhood. it is not an isolated phenomenon in america. this kind of examples, such as primary and middle school students doing part-time job, are too numerous to cite. according to the america newspaper stands selling federations convey, there are thousands of newsboys in america. the phenomenon

30、 of elder students working in society can be seen here and there, and they are supported by their parents. an american said: “parents encourage their children to work and earn money in their free time. on the one hand, this will save some expenses, and more importantly, on the other hand, it will de

31、velop childrens self-awareness at an early age.” jennifer tin, p127, 2005 children will understand the meaning of treasure and know that treasure can only be gained through working, and then, they will know why we should cultivate saving and other good habits.secondly, american parents would like to

32、 see their children experience all kinds of difficulties rather than to live in an over- comfortable environment. they pay great attention to training their childrens mental ability so that the children can face all kinds of setbacks and can survive hard circumstances. so, we can see the following e

33、xample, in a cold winter morning, the american children get up to deliver newspapers while our children are still sleeping in the warm blanket. many chinese parents probably think that it is unacceptable, or even think that is “cruel” to children.thirdly, american parents have stringent requirements

34、 and regulations on childrens pocket money, although their economic conditions are better than the majority of chinese families. the principle, how much money they should give their children as pocket money depends on childrens ages and actual demands and the income of the family. what american pare

35、nts do is to cultivate childrens awareness of frugality. moreover, they do not award their children by giving them pocket money, and they let their children understand that the purpose of study is to help them to become a valuable person in the future. according to a survey, it is found that “about

36、54 percent young students have no pocket money in america, and there are fewer chances to get money from their parents as their ages increase. it is also found that 68 percent american students earn pocket money through doing part-time job in their spare time.” tin jennifer, p51, 2005 rockefeller wa

37、s one of the richest men in the united states and the first man earned one billion dollars in the world, but his children have little pocket money according to the regulations which printed on the title page in his family book. “the pocket money of the 7-8years old children is 30 cents per week; tha

38、t of the 11-12years old children is one dollar per week; that of the over 12 years old is three dollars per week. the most important thing is that the children were asked to record every expenditure. if the account is clear and their expenditure is used for legitimate purpose, they will receive addi

39、tional 5 cents in the next week. rockefeller said: too much wealth will bring disaster to their generation. ” james dobson, p175, 2004 his words contains a profound philosophy, it is worth of thinking carefully. 2. the cultivation of childrens independence in chinacompared with american parents, chi

40、nese parents hold a very different attitude toward childrens independence. in china, most parents require their children to be obedient to them. on one hand, most of chinese people hold the idea that there should always be a law in a certain community. that is the reason why almost every chinese fam

41、ily has its law both as an illustration and an evidence of the education of children. the law might be either formally written down on papers or announced orally. the law will be used to give instructions to the children who have done something wrong. apparently, this is very helpful for children, b

42、ut in fact, it is unfavorable to cultivate childrens ability of living independence. because there are so many restricts in their lives that they have no chances to learn from the daily life. on the other hand, because of the influence of traditional culture, one should respect his parents absolutel

43、y in most cases. so, many parents do not concern their kids feeling, because they think that what they do for their children is just their childrens needs. it is well known that in the later of last century, for the sake of sustainable and harmonious development, our country has carried out the one

44、child policy as family planning, for this reason theres an increasing number of families with one child, and chinese children, since long ago, have been considered as the apple in their parents eyes. based on the above reasons, parents tend to over-indulge their children in a surprising way that see

45、ms absurd to westerns. it is not surprising to see that chinese parents always try to do almost everything for their children, such as helping them to washing, cooking meals, bathing, etc. in short, many chinese parents, especially the parents with one child, arrange and decide everything for their

46、children or even become the substitution of their children almost in all aspects of life. therefore, the children have no chances to experience and contact with the society. the serious consequence is that many children cannot do these things what they should do in their age. for instance, the three

47、-year-old children cannot wear by themselves, the six-year-old children cannot tie their own shoes. “in the city, the primary school students need their parents to accompany with them to go to school and go home, and they let their parents take bags for them; many middle school students cannot wash

48、their own clothes; the most serious thing is that many university students need their parents to accompany them to enroll at the first year.” qi xin, p58, 2005 in a word, many parents finish everything for their children.besides, they protect their children excessively in social activities. many par

49、ents fear that their children will face a lot of difficulties or become bad boys in the society; they always reduce their childrens chances to contact with society or do not let them go to the outside alone. once there is a dispute or an unpleasant thing happened between their children, they usually

50、 do not like to learn the truth but only accuse others. that makes the dispute into a seriously conflict or a dispute among parents. these parents always are proud of what they did for their children, because they think that they have safeguarded the interests of their children. but, in fact, they d

51、o not realized that what they did for their kids have a negative effect on the childrens growth because these behaviors have deprived of their childrens right and opportunities to experience the life what they should learn in the early age. and they maybe have no chances to learn how to distinguish

52、between right and wrong.at last, they are always laissez-faire to their children on economy. many chinese parents are obedient to their childrens any requirements on economy. both rich families and poor families are likely to fulfill their childrens requirements without preconditions, because they h

53、ope their children have a superior sense when compared with others in material conditions. they save money from each expenditure or borrow from others to meet their kids demands. the serious result of these parents behaviors is that children can not understand the difficulties of life and do not kno

54、w why they should save. the worst consequence is that many children do not like to do their own work, but ask others to do it for them by the means of giving others money. we can see this kind of phenomenon here and there in our daily life. this is the direct consequence of the laissez-faire on econ

55、omy. b. differences in the cultivation of childrens intereststhe attitude on childrens interest is also very different between american and chinese.in the united states, children are encouraged and induced to developing their interest and do the things what they are interested in. american parents w

56、ill not prevent their children from doing what they like to do, and will not they enforce their children to do what they do not like either. for instance, jefferson, a fifteen-year-old child of a common family, likes to play basketball, i wanted to make him become a lawyer, but he became interested

57、in playing ball when he was young. we dont like him to give up his study, but after a long talk with him, i felt that he had his own idea of life, perhaps he should become independent, and so i gave up my mind.” his father said. maybe at the beginning the parents have requirements for their children

58、, but at last their own choices are the most important, in the united states.but in china, many parents never consider or respect their childrens interests. because of historical and traditional reason, almost everyone thinks that scholars should be respected without any doubts and have high status

59、in the society. so they pay great attention on their childrens studies because they believe that knowledge can change ones fate. in fact, scholars are respected by people in most time. hence, the parents hope that their children can obtain the same honor like the scholars in the future. without thinking carefully and researching, we can conclude from practices in daily life that some chinese parents, if not many,