孩子为什么不听话因为不会批评（Why children don't listen because they don't criticize）

1、孩子为什么不听话因为不会批评（Why children dont listen because they dont criticize）Why criticism doesnt work?When a child makes a mistake, God forgives him. The reason why parents never forgive their children is probably because they are too far from god!Everyone makes mistakes, but in reality, only children who m

2、ake mistakes can be more vulnerable to criticism.Why?Because children often make mistakes Incorrect！Because the child is small, do not understand things, easy to make mistakes? Incorrect！Because our parents always follow the childrens eyes. Yes! All childrens manners are basically out of the reach o

3、f their parents. As soon as she fell on the floor carelessly, the mother would say, how can you be so careless?! If the exam results are not satisfactory, there will be a voice sounded: you see how the exam so bad. If accidentally lost something, there will be a voice said: how do you always absent-

4、minded. Just hit the child, has not come out from the sad, painful grievances, even humiliating emotions, often with a storm of criticism, the heart I feel unhappy, but not what way! But can only silently silently, bold may top words, but it will provoke scolding, really wronged you may cry. Oh This

5、 can be even worse, parents will shout cry what cry.! Theres nothing to cry about! And have you ever thought about it? Why do you always criticize from morning till night? Why do you often criticize the same question? Is it because the child is disobedient? Not sensible? Theres too much troubleHave

6、you ever wondered why your criticism didnt work?Some people sigh that life is difficult! Its harder to be a woman! I think you must say now that its harder to be a mother than to be a mother!Every day I get to the front to subscribe to magazines and newspapers. There is an officer on duty who is an

7、old lady and her granddaughter often comes here after school. One day, as usual, I got the newspaper and went in and saw the little girl lying on the desk writing her homework. The old lady was teaching her little granddaughter, ah! Whats wrong with you? The writing is so ugly! This rewrite, that on

8、e has to be rewritten! Hand by hand to pull out a little girl angrily rebuked the side edge, the little girl seems to use the eraser action is too slow. The little girl pressed her lips tightly, her eyes still in silent tears, and reluctantly erased the words she had just written. I am curious to se

9、e, the original is the kind of practice words work, every word written many times, but the words written in the M word, see the little girl just went to school soon. Some characters are written well, and some characters are really ugly. They are not hung in the grid of words, or simply put the legs

10、out. I thought, as such no wonder, just started! I and the old lady is cooked, I know her granddaughters name, called yingko.So I said: aunt, you dont worry about me, and the. Yes, you are educated, the old lady said happily. Tell her about it.I said: the ah, do homework? Let me see!The little girl

11、seemed to be still very unhappy and answered, Oh!I picked up her exercise book and said, Oh! Is the practice of writing write new words ah, really good ah.The little girl seemed to have fallen out of her mind and stretched her head together to read her book.I then asked, by the way, would you show m

12、e which one you write best?The little girl made a quick glance at it and quickly pressed one of her words with her young fingers.The word I read was really good, then I asked, Oh, which word is the least beautiful one?I asked a drawling, before saying all that little girl quickly took the job from m

13、y hands, to which a poorly written word quickly erased.I nodded approvingly and said: Yingko, I think you can write a better than the best word to! Is that so?The little girl nodded vigorously, and soon in the book and write a word, is a kind of very good character, full of indomitable spirit.I patt

14、ed her on the head and said, great! Take your time, grandma. Dont be unhappy! No three minutes, the little girls performance.The old lady said in surprise: Miss Zhao, how can the girl listen to you like this? I said to her, cursing is not the best way.! Encouragement is much better than criticism.As

15、 the saying goes, the good-for-nothing, is also true for children.Criticism as a means of education, the purpose is to let the child know the cause of the error, and later can avoid or correct.But in fact, many parents have this experience, and children to speak well, talk about the truth does not w

16、ork, criticism does not work, anxious to play a meal is still useless, how to do the effect is not good!Anyway, its no use talking or scolding! Beat the pipe!Now its time for parents to think about it. How do you manage to make a mistake? How to educate children? Should we criticize if we are wrong?

17、1, useless criticismLets first look at some of the phenomena and characteristics of parents criticizing their children.(1) criticism is emotionalOnce the child mistakes, parents tend to be emotional, pale, dancing, murmuring, eyes, voice, language fast, while it is a dangerous situation, fully and d

18、elightfully! Well, finished, scolded, and the heart is also happy, but also balanced. And you may not know, when the family grow up to spend time, most of the childrens mind is calculated: now is scolded half.! Just a little more patience, and soon its all over.! The parents suddenly stopped and ask

19、ed when the children shouted: do you understand? The child immediately reflected, yes, I do.! Remember yet? Remember! Will you still commit crimes later? No! It was so nice and elaborate just to put an end to the storm. If there is a video camera, the parents look at their facial expressions and per

20、formance, really can not bear to see ah!And what the child says to you is often not to be able to fall back, just do not know what you have said at all. Just one thing: I was wrong, so you called me names! Even the guilt and uneasiness of the mistake vanished with the roar of criticism. Because they

21、 understand a little, and then scold, general will be fine! The only thing that children do and are interested in is waiting, waiting for the end of the blame! The end result is take the heart out of your mouth, you scold me, and I do mine.You can count on this more personal emotional catharsis. How

22、 effective is subjective criticism? In fact, a lot of times, silence is far more effective than criticism.The purpose of criticism is to make the child aware of his problems, to understand and accept the correct suggestions, and to correct them in action. As an analysis and evaluation of a fault, it

23、 should be very rational. In this process, temper will inevitably complain, can accept, vent objects.Imagine how such an emotion can win respect from children, and how to convince children, and how to let children listen to it?(2) the overflow of criticismSometimes, our parents criticized the child,

24、 impassioned voice, speed fast, brain activity, thinking of jumping, Lenovo rich, exaggeration. For example, when a bowl was played, you could think of losing your keys, losing money, losing face (because you failed the exam), and you could also fight, watch TV, play games and so on. In a word, anyt

25、hing that can be remembered can be replayed like a movie lens. Indeed, informative, allusive, say children eyelids doubled, mouth off, neck twist, head low, thought: say what you love! Not thirsty, either? Hum!Criticism should be targeted, say what the current problems, it is good, but can not blame

26、 the joint negligence, before we also count. The old old again will only let the children feel tired, hate and hatred for parents, and because other things to pull too much, dilute the current theme, the main contradiction is easy to be weakened and ignored. Very funny, often have parents talking st

27、opped, how? It was a while I forgot what to say! Had to laugh at myself and said: well, look at you, Im angry!Just imagine, such criticism makes children bitter and free theme of how could help solve the problem?(3) simplicity of criticismA lot of times, when a child makes a mistake, a parents perfo

28、rmance is often criticized, not criticized, and criticized without criticism. Many parents have had children Laichuang phenomenon, is often the side to side chatter, and the children are to regard this as background noise. There was no criticism at all. Because the child is very clear, if you walk t

29、o learn to be late, parents will have a way to let the children on time to school, a car can be sent, no car can take a taxi ah.A parent once asked me what I should do about it I said it was very simple, you dont care about him, and hell be criticized by the school if you are late. Because you have

30、all the way that he should not be late, bear children in bed is a shield consequences, so he was confident calmly in bed, you scold him for what?There are many situations like this, in which parents criticize only the phenomenon without taking practical and effective solutions.(4) criticism is impat

31、ientThere are times when children dont even realize that mistakes are coming or coming, and they dont know what the consequences of a mistake can be,Our parents are already can scarcely wait, gas is not one to play, usually is the eyes and the mouth, even hand to.No man is perfect? Moreover, who kno

32、ws not yet?!Its normal to make mistakes, and its normal to make mistakes when you first experience something! But parents do not give children enough time and space to experience mistakes, try setbacks, and children dont even know whats wrong. Criticism and blame have come along. This anxious, quick

33、, impatient of criticism, often kill childrens creativity, limiting the development of children.Why are there many children who are not interested in learning? It is because parents interfere too early, interfere too much, interfere frequently, trivial comments and inexplicable criticism, resulting

34、in childrens fear, boredom and rebellion2, when criticism?When a child first makes a mistake, you just need to tell him why hes wrong and how to do it right. In the guidance, the children maintain a respectful attitude so that he can also respect your opinion, patiently explaining that he knew the c

35、auses and consequences of errors, understanding mood let him not be the shadow of failure bound.If the child makes a similar mistake again, perhaps the child is not too familiar with the correct method, perhaps the lesson is not deep enough for him to ignore. First of all, we should analyze his reas

36、ons, and if the former, we should make it clear, make things clear and give him the opportunity to do it; if it is the latter, he should be properly criticized.3, what should be criticized?When children begin or come into contact with new things, due to lack of awareness, lack of preparation, behavi

37、or is not reasonable, and deviations and mistakes are reasonable. It is help, not criticism, that is needed!The first mistake can be understood, the second wrong, you can forgive, and then the wrong can not tolerate. It is reasonable to criticize at this time! I like a sentence, attitude determines

38、everything, mistakes occur frequently, that is more due to the problem of attitude. So criticism is for the attitude, not for the thing itself; criticism is for repeating again, to give children the opportunity to correct the first time. But our parents often criticize in the culprit, this will make

39、 the child feel very grievance!When the errors and problems again, such as not good report back, cause analysis of parents and children is not in a calm mood, more is the result itself to blame, for their children to vent discontent, but this blind criticism is very detrimental to the child to accep

40、t and correct.4, how to criticize?Lets take a practical case to explain that a boy in junior high school is very fond of video games and often skips classes. This has a great impact on homework and parents are very anxious. What should we do then?(1) nothing to argueAlthough the childs academic perf

41、ormance can be, but the self-control is relatively poor, the consequences of foresight is not enough, so when possible, would like to run out to play games. When this happens, parents should patiently explain the consequences of this and also express their trust and expectations for their children.

42、The important thing is to ask the child to understand what is wrong with it! And must not be furious, often beat and scold! John Locke said, reasoning is the real way to treat children. thats what it means.(2) repeated crimes should be agreed uponBut the child also encountered opportunities to play

43、outside the game, unable to resist the temptation to steal out of the game. Parents should tell him sternly that it is impossible to do so. In view of the fact that he has made such a mistake again, he will make a plan with the child, and ask the child to make a pledge, and indicate what punishment

44、he will accept if he does it again. Of course, it is acceptable to both sides. Similarly, must not be furious, often beaten!Here I would like to note is that children should be more about loyalty than adults. In such trust and respect, the child is difficult to repeat, even if you want to play, will

45、 also greet the parents in advance.(3) punish againOf course, the child is a child after all. He made a mistake again.But the parents have two choices, one is to keep silent, and let him know that you already know what happened, and told him that you reserve the right to punish, but now do not inten

46、d to implement. Or according to the agreement, let the children out, accept the punishment, and again let him tell him what to do if they do it again! Similarly, must not be furious, often beaten!Through the above approach, where the child embarrassed mistakes! Of course, I had this boy and talked a

47、 lot, learned that his parents dont let him play with his parents, so I did the consultation is a week at a fixed time to allow him to play the game, in the concrete implementation process, has been repeated, but soon,The child is no longer my classes, even within the stipulated time of the game less. Later, the student