告别不合群：高手教你如何变身社交女王（双语）

1、告别不合群：高手教你如何变身社交女王（双语）While many Chinese studying abroad lock themselves in the dorm,library or the comfort zone of hanging out with fellow countrymen,Miao Si has broken the cocoon and emerged as a social butterflyamong her foreign peers。当很多中国留学生选择将自己关在寝室、图书馆中，抑或是待在中国同伴扎堆的"自在地带"中消磨时光时，缪思早已

2、破茧而出，成为外国同伴中的社交女王。Miao, 19, is spending her second year at the University ofWisconsin-Madison, Wisconsin, US. When she first arrived at theschool, Miao threw herself into parties held by Americans. She evenintentionally avoided hanging out with Chinese schoolmates。19岁的缪思现在美国威斯康星大学读大二。她一到学校便参加到各种美国人举

3、办的派对中去。她甚至还有意地避免同其他中国学生一起聚会。Miao explained: "Chinese on a foreign land tend to flocktogether. But I pay extra efforts to mingle with Americans becausea person's social circles determine their life. I want a "real" UScollege life。"对此，缪思解释说："中国人到国外常常会扎堆聚在一起，而我之所以想方设法地想要融入到

4、美国人的圈子里，是因为一个人的社交圈决定了他/她的生活状态。我要的是那种真正的美国大学生活。"Party is big in Americans' campus life. Fraternities andsororities hold parties with various themes every week。派对在美国的大学生活中占有举足轻重的地位。兄弟会和姐妹会每个星期都会召开各种各样的主题派对。You can dance heartily in clubs or enjoy drinking games in alocal student's house。你

5、可以在俱乐部里尽情地跳舞或到当地学生家中玩酒桌游戏。Miao didn't worry about dressing up - the dress code is ascasual as vest, skirt and sneakers。缪思并不用为着装发愁，服装要求通常十分随意，背心、短裙加帆布鞋就OK了。The part that worried her was having small talk with strangersat parties。她真正担心的则是如何在聚会上与陌生人聊天闲谈。Puzzling slang kept popping up. Boys were cra

6、zy about Americanfootball. Girls were all talking about Jersey Shore, a TV showpopular in the US but unfamiliar to Chinese。聊天过程中时不时地蹦出几个令人费解的俚语。男生们痴迷于橄榄球，女生们的话题则离不开美国当红真人秀节目泽西海岸，而中国学生对该节目知之甚少。There are few people who are happy to repeat themselves foryou to understand what they are talking about。很少会

7、有人愿意为了让你听懂他们在说什么，而重复他们刚刚说过的话。Facing "cold shoulders"， Miao had no other choice but to keepasking and learning. Her small-talk skills improved thanks to herparty experiences and proved vital to Miao's success in the rushfor sororities at the beginning of her sophomore year。当遭遇旁人的冷漠时，缪思别

8、无选择，只能不停发问和学习。她的交谈技巧能够得以提高，参加派对的经历功不可没。也正是这些沟通技巧使得她能够在大二伊始成功加入姐妹会。Miao rushed for 11 sororities in one night. She chatted with amember from each sorority on various topics, trying hard to findchemistry with each member. If the member feels the chemistry, youare in. If not, the picky "judges&quo

9、t; will tell you that you are outwith an impatient look。缪思曾在一个晚上赶场般地参加了11场由不同姐妹会举办的纳新活动。她同每个姐妹会中的一位成员就五花八门的话题展开交谈，极力地想在每位成员的身上找到默契。如果姐妹会的成员领会到了默契，你便有资格入会。否则，这些挑剔的"面试官"会用一副不耐烦的表情来踢你出局。It sounds like a job interview, but is far more difficult thanthat。这听上去像是求职面试，却远比找工作还要困难。"You can goog

10、le some background information about the companybefore a job interview," said Miao. "But it's impossible to knowabout the randomly assigned "interviewers" at sororities inadvance. I had to keep starting small talk to find commonground。"缪思表示："在求职面试前，你可以到网上搜索关于这家公司的信息

11、。可是要想事先了解姐妹会随机安排的"考官"的情况，那几乎是不可能的。因此我必须不停地交谈以寻找共同话题。"Miao was the only international student confident enough torush for sororities at her university this year. And she gotadmitted to her favorite sorority。缪思是她所在学校，今年唯一个有自信敢于参加姐妹会纳新活动的留学生。她最终加入了自己最喜欢的一个姐妹会。"Rushing for sororities is the most challenging socialsitua