Unit 6(A)--Crisis-proof your marriage

1、Crisis-proof Your Marriageto crisis-proof your marriage打造没有危机的婚姻打造没有婚外情的婚姻?to affair-proof your marriageaffairinstitution, execution, the big C, STD = sexually transmitted disease, SOB, pillIf a woman is on the pill, she takes a special pill that prevents her from becoming pregnant.Crisis-proof Your

2、 Marriageoffice manager办公室主任find their marriage floundering over Stephens inability to keep his promises发现他们的婚姻由于Stephen不能信守诺言而岌岌可危.flounder: to make clumsy attempts to move or regain ones balance 挣扎I was at the end of the line.我最不重要。Crisis-proof Your Marriagecommunications skills沟通技巧more skills:peo

3、ple skills: how to assert yourself, listen to others, and resolve conflictslanguage / social /coping / survival / coordination / negotiating / marketable / unsalable / soft skills soft skills 翻译成中文即为“软技能”，包括交流沟通能力、协同作战能力、理解力、危机处理能力、自信程度等非专业技术能力，体现人的情商(Emotional Quotient) 和逆商(Adversity Quotient)。soft

4、 power? soft landing?Crisis-proof Your Marriagetake a lot of practice需要大量的实践to offset that feeling抵消这种感觉offset = balance固定下来每周四晚上见面to institute a Thursday date nightlike-minded 吃点东西to grab something to eatHe grabs a shower, a sandwich and a taxi to go to work every Monday morning.Crisis-proof Your M

5、arriageto enjoy being together with no pressure喜欢在一起没有压力这种感觉这种感觉Most difficult marital situations can be salvaged as long as both parties are willing.只要双方都愿意，大部分有问题的婚姻都可以挽回。extramarital affairsmarital status: single, married, divorcedmarital violenceIt takes commitment, but it can and does happen.这需

6、要努力，但能够实现，而且确实实现了。Crisis-proof Your MarriageI want to find someone who is ready for a lifelong commitment. (someone who grows old with you)万能药Panacea =?Cure-allTrade is not a panacea for the worlds economic or social ills.贸易不是世界经济或社会弊端的万灵丹。Crisis-proof Your Marriage前夫/妻ex-spouseMy ex was getting jea

7、lous even tho he has his gf with him. (possessive)wasbund = was husband = ex-husbandhubbycabbie? = taxi driverex-in-laws?Crisis-proof Your Marriagesource of ones problem问题的根源a source close to the mayor a diplomatic source; military sourcesan unidentified sourceCrisis-proof Your Marriagedivorcee离婚者es

8、capee to divorce, marry, discuss, lack, contact, enter, survive, wander, roamEmotions are raw (刺痛的).感情出问题how he or she is contributing to the problem他/她对这个问题有什么责任Crisis-proof Your MarriageTherapy neednt take a big commitment of money and time.治疗不需要投入大笔的金钱和时间。Community mental-health centers社区精神健康中心Yo

9、ur problem will melt away.Solution-oriented以解决问题为目的的-orientedCrisis-proof Your MarriageExport-oriented economy, community-oriented hospital, people-oriented society, test-oriented programs, group-oriented culture pro-pro-life vs. pro-choicepro-government, pro-Americananti- antibiotics, anti-dumping-

10、ismadventurism, terrorism, piggism, short-termismabsenteeism, presenteeism Crisis-proof Your Marriagesessiona recording sessiona brainstorming sessionhave a heavy session?Have a heavy scheduleRepresentatives of different Palestinian and Islamic factions (派别派别) agreed to have regular sessions of dial

11、ogue after they met on Saturday.Crisis-proof Your Marriage十一届三中全会十一届三中全会the 3rd Plenary Session of the 11th Central Committee of the CPC中国共产党第十八次全国代表大会（中共十八大）The 18th National Congress of Communist Party of China (18th NCCPC) 中共中央委员会中共中央委员会CPC Central Committee政治局Politburo , Political BureauCrisis-p

12、roof Your Marriage政治局常委会Politburo Standing Committee中央委员Member, Central Committee候补委员 Alternate Member政治局委员 Member, Political Bureau of the CPC Central Committee政治局常委Member, Standing Committee of Political BureauCrisis-proof Your MarriagePrice and time dont guarantee quality.代价和时间并不能保证高高质量。feel comf

13、ortable with和相处感到轻松自如I feel comfortable with him and he teaches us a lot. 公平抗争fight fairOne should learn to fight hard but fight fair to win without pride and to lose with grace.人们要学会努力争取并公平竞争，做到胜不骄败不馁。胜不骄败不馁。Crisis-proof Your Marriagefair and squarefair playblow up = lose ones temperflare up:骤然,突然发

14、出火焰,突然发怒be angry, fly into a rage, hit the ceiling 美口勃然大怒, 暴跳如雷Crisis-proof Your MarriageSay things calculated to hurt说的话有意伤害对方calculatingto storm out of the house and disappear for hours冲出冲出家门，一走就是好几个小时for days / weeks / months / years / centuriesstorm the microphoneArmed police stormed into the ho

15、use.grab, storm, slam, popCrisis-proof Your Marriageto withdraw into himself / retreat into himself for days好几天不说话好几天不说话to express opinions without saying hurtful things and without dragging up past transgressions (越界)说出自己的观点时说出自己的观点时不说伤人的话，不翻旧帐不说伤人的话，不翻旧帐take a holistic approachThere is a persisten

16、t myth (错误的看法) that happy couples dont fight. But no marriage is conflict-free.Crisis-proof Your Marriagehandle differences解决解决分歧“解决解决”deal with, tackle, address, solve a problem, resolve a conflict, work out, attack, take care of, attend to“last-man standing” fights互不退让、一决高下的争斗Crisis-proof Your Mar

17、riageBe open to new ideas愿意考虑新的想法Be open to negotiation?express ones opinion without interruption让他说出自己的想法，不要打断他Just so I understand, what you are feeling is this那么我的理解是,你的感受是Crisis-proof Your Marriage如果与丈夫开诚布公地谈话，她从来没感到是一件轻松的事。 She was never comfortable speaking openly with her husband.to feel comf

18、ortable doing sth / with sthI feel comfortable with the system / operating the system. 她沉默不语让他感到冷漠。 Her silence made him feel shut out.Crisis-proof Your Marriageturn / resort to another woman for emotional support找别的女人寻找情感安慰technical supportpsychological supportemotionally supportive familyanother p

19、art of me另外一个我Crisis-proof Your MarriageIt takes two.一个巴掌拍不响。一个巴掌拍不响。Speak ones mind, communicate openly 直言不讳feel free to say what you want to saynot mince (make less severe or harsh) ones words in criticizing the government; put sth bluntly, to put it bluntlyCrisis-proof Your MarriageTheir marriage

20、 is now much stronger.他们的婚姻现在稳定多了。marital conflict婚姻中的矛盾矛盾？contradictiondictionary, predict, edict, diction, dictate, dictator, dictatorshipCrisis-proof Your Marriage愿重归于好recommit to ones marriageIm ready for someone who has a lifelong commitment.分居separation; spend time apart?chemistrycourtshipgoin

21、g steadyproposal-engagementweddingraw emotionsseparationdivorce remarriage cohabitation?Crisis-proof Your Marriage重新承诺维持婚姻Renew their commitment to their marriageLet bygones be bygones.Our belief in commitment is what made us come through.我们相信承诺，这让我们得以度过难关度过难关。Crisis-proof Your MarriageTheir marriag

22、e is back on solid ground.他们的婚姻他们的婚姻又有了牢固的基础又有了牢固的基础。back to basics (返璞归真), back in fashion The company is back in the black. make a profit, turn a profit/penny, make a loss, break even, break-even point Ill be back in a blink.We still have problems, but with a difference.我们仍然存在问题，但性质不一样了。Crisis-pro

23、of Your Marriageput ones marriage on the back burner将婚姻放在次要位置Back burner:次要地位；多眼炉子的后炉眼Todays busy couples often put their marriage on the back burner, where it can die from lack of heat.give top priority to, be No. 1 prioritygoes high on your list.双职工夫妻One dual-income coupleCrisis-proof Your Marriag

24、eIntimacy and sharing搜索 “intimacy and sharing” 获得约 1,270,000 条结果 Valentines Day is a time of intimacy and sharing with your life partner. Crisis-proof Your Marriagecrop up =to appear unexpectedly or occasionallyappear, make ones appearance, emerge, turn/show up, surface, pop upCrisis-proof Your Marr

25、iagework long hours工作时间长Work short hours, work flexible hours, flextime, work/do overtime, meet the deadline?make frequent business trips经常出差Crisis-proof Your Marriage低收入工作a low-paying jobA person may be poorly / badly paid.Pay salary, starting salary, probation, internship, salary package, compensa

26、tion, bonus, incentive, allowance, welfare, benefit, perks, tips, wagesseverance package, relocation packageCrisis-proof Your Marriageoutside stresses, external stresses外部压力a clinical depression抑郁症spiritual support精神支持emotional support, psychological support, technical supportEven so即使这样Crisis-proof

27、 Your MarriageLook to decrease the stress in ones life寻求降低生活中的压力Get ones marriage back on track让婚姻恢复正常Chinas economy is on the fast track.be on positive track 走正道走正道Welcome aboard!All work and no playAll work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.One persons garbage is anothers treasure.Whos Hu?Crisis-p

28、roof Your Marriage规定一个时间set a regular time排好玩的时间Schedule playtimeInstitute, set, scheduleto overschedule sb.Americans overschedule themselves from cradle to grave.Crisis-proof Your MarriageWelfare states are producing too few cradles and too few graves.to overschedule ones kids (to enrich their life

29、)to be fun-deprivedThe essay was overwritten. to overstay ones welcometo be oversensitive to, be overprotective oftoo to be too good to be trueoverly, be overly aggressiveParents may be overly protective of their children and try to limit the degree of independence.Crisis-proof Your Marriageserve as

30、 a buffer作为缓冲Have a buffering effect倒霉，遇到不好的事 hit a rough patchWe acknowledged that the economy has hit a rough patch.hit the books, hit the road, hit the bottle, hit the sack/hay, hit it off, hit it big = succeedCrisis-proof Your Marriage背叛betrayal不忠infidelity, cheat, adulteryCrisis-proof Your Marr

31、iage人们人们不会马上原谅你。Forgiveness doesnt happen at once. The truth dawned on me several days later.The realization dawned on me thatRome wasnt built in one day.I wasnt born yesterday.I dont teach because teaching is easy for me.努力重获妻子的信任Crisis-proof Your Marriageto work hard to regain his wifes trust他确保他说

32、要去哪儿就总是在哪儿。He made sure he was always where hed said * he would be *.How proud do you think * he is * of his sons success?I dont think that boys and girls should * be separated * because they distract one another.I do not think Boys and girls should be separated because they distract one another.Cri

33、sis-proof Your Marriageput aside his shyness克服害羞心理put away? fold away?mean a lot to her对她非常重要mean nothing / little / a great deal / the most / everythingCrisis-proof Your MarriageWinning is not everything; it is the only thing.MeanI mean, I mean it. I mean business. I mean what I say and say what I

34、mean.= take me literallyBe looking forward, not backward既往不咎，一切向前前看Look into the futureLook back on the pastCrisis-proof Your MarriageReview打造没有婚外情的婚姻to crisis-proof ones marriage办公室主任office manager我最不重要I was at the end of the line.抵消那种情感to offset that feeling固定下来每周四晚上见面to institute a Thursday date

35、nightCrisis-proof Your Marriage随便吃点东西to grab something to eat喜欢在一起没有压力这种感觉to enjoy being together with no pressure这需要努力，但能够实现，而且确实实现了。It takes commitment, but it can and does happen.他/她对这个问题有什么责任how he or she is contributing to the problemCrisis-proof Your Marriage治疗不需要投入大笔的金钱和时间。Therapy neednt take

36、 a big commitment of money and time. 代价和时间并不能保证高质量。Price and time dont guarantee quality. 和相处感到轻松自如to feel comfortable with公平抗争to fight fairCrisis-proof Your Marriage说有意伤人的话to say things calculated to hurt摔门而出，一走就是好几个小时to storm out of the house and disappear for hours 几天不说话to withdraw into himself /

37、 retreat into himself for daysCrisis-proof Your Marriage说出自己的观点时不说伤人的话，不翻旧帐to express opinions without saying hurtful things and without dragging up past transgressions 解决分歧to handle differences互不退让、一决高下的争斗“last-man standing” fights愿意考虑新的想法to be open to new ideasCrisis-proof Your Marriage一口气说出自己的意见to express ones opinion without interruption那么照我的理解,你的感受是Just so I understand, what you are feeling is this她沉默不语让他感到冷漠。Her