全听说教程第三册unit4marriage

Unit4PartQuestionsforWhatdoyouthinkofmarriage?Doyouthinkahappymarriageisthemostimportantthinginyourlife?Whatkindof doyouwanttomarry?WhatareyourstandardsinchoosingalifeWhatdoyouthinkiscrucialforahappyWhatusuallycausestroublesinaDoyouthinkdifferencesbetweenhusbandandwifeareunavoidable?Ifyoudo,couldyousuggestsomewaysforthemtodealwiththeproblem?Haveyouheardofmarriageagreements?Doyouthinkacoupleshouldsignamarriageagreementbeforegettingmarried?Whatdoyouthinkofmarriage?Doyouthinkahappymarriageisthemostimportantthinginyourlife?Inmyopinion,ahappymarriageisthemostimportantthinginone’slife.Althoughitisrelativelyeasyformanypeopletogetmarried,itisreallyhardtohaveanidealmarriageforbothmenandwomen.Whenthehoneymoonisover,manycouplesstarttoexploretherealmeaningofahappymarriageand eseriousabouttheirrelationship.Theytendtohaveunrealisticexpectations,assumingtheirspousescanreadtheirmindsastowhattheywantandneed.Butreallifeisnotaromanticfairytaleanymoreandtheybegintodisagreeorarguewitheachother.Ifboththecouplecouldresolvetheirdisagreements,theirmarriagewouldbehealthyandhappy.Doyoungmenandyoungwomenhavethesamestandardsinchoosingaspouse?Ifnot,whyIdon’tthinkyoungmenandyoungwomenhaveexactlythesamestandardsinchoosingaspouse.There’salargenumberofstudiesshowingwhatthesestandardsareformenandwomenindifferentpartsoftheworld.Generallyspeaking,whenawomanchoosesherspouse,sheoftenputsemphasisonhischaracter,temperamentandeducationwhileamanwouldlikehisspousetobeyoungandbeautiful.You’llfindthatthedifferenceshaveagreatdealtodowithculturaltraditionsandsocialinfluence.HerearesomesentencesandstructuresthatyoumayfindusefulindiscussingtheaboveBothmenandwomenconsidermarriageaveryimportantpartoftheirMostmenwouldliketheirspousestobeyoungandbeautiful.Othersconsiderinnerbeautymoreimportant.Whenawomanchoosesherspouse,sheoftenputsemphasisonhischaracter/temperament/education/profession/ e/appearance/familybackground.Someyoungwomentodayconsider…ofgreatimportanceinchoosingaboyfriend/lifeHappinessinmarriagedoesnotdependonmaterialMarriagesbasedonmutuallovecreateahappyandharmoniousatmosphereintheMutualrespectandunderstandingbetweenhusbandandwifecontributemuchtoahappyEducationisanimportantconditionforagoodmarriagebecauseacouplewhoseeducationallevelsdonotmatchmaynothavemuchtosaytoeachother/haveconstantargumentsoverfamilyissues,bigorsmall.Amarriagebasedonromanticlovealonewillnotnecessarilylastlong,forasenseofresponsibilityisalsoessentialtoasuccessfulmarriage.IwouldmarrysomeonewholovesmeandcaresformeIwouldmarrysomeonewhoisgenerous/inligent/ambitious/broad-minded//good-looking/kind-hearted/Iwouldn’tliketomarrysomeonewhoistoomoney-conscious/stingy/selfish/hot-tempered/narrow-minded/rude/impolite/possessive.Eachindividualisuniqueanddifferencesbetweenhusbandandwifearethereforeunavoidable/aruleratherthananexception.It’sveryimportantforhusbandandwifetoshowappreciationofeachother/talkandgettoknowwhathisorherpartnerexpects.Amarriageagreementsoundstoopractical/lacksromanticflavor/reducesmarriagetomereIthinkawrittenmarriageagreementshowshowmuchyouandyourpartneraregoingtorespecteachother’sneedsandexpectations/promisesaharmoniousrelationshipinmarriedTroublestartsinamarriagewhenonepartnerkeepscominingaboutsmallthings,makingtheotherfeelresentful.Constantlycriticizingyourpartnerandhisorherfamilygivesrisetotroublesin/maydestroyamarriage.Lackofunderstanding/toleranceoverdifferencesmaybringtroublestoamarriage/causeamarriagetofail.PartWordBank

AMarriageAgreement(Part v.todescribebrieflywithfewdetails n.ahusbandorwife a.denotingathingthatonefeelsparticularlystronglyabout n.sth.thatannoysyou v.(Americanslang)toannoytoirritate n.asectionofalegalagreementthatdealswithaparticularpointpet sththatyoustronglydislikebecauseitalwaysannoysyou(TomandLindahavesignedamarriageagreement.Bothagreenottobreaktherulesoutlinedintheagreement.John,areporter,istalkingtothemabouttheagreement.)John:Tom,Linda,firstI’dliketoaskyouwhyyoudecidedtowritethisunusualTom:Wefoundthatmanyproblemsarecausedwhena hasdifferentexpectationsfromhisorherspouse.Wewantedtotalkabouteverythingopenlyandhonestlybeforewestartedlivingtogether.Linda:Alsowebothknowhowimportantitistorespecteachother’spetpeeves.Like,Icangetveryannoyedifothersleavestuff—clothing,papers,everything!—lyingaroundonthefloor.Itreallybuggedme,soweputthatintheagreement.John:ThisismentionedinArticle1:CleaningUp,isn’tit?Itsays,“Nothingwillbeleftonthefloorovernight.Everythingmustbecleanedupandputawaybeforegoingtobed.”Tom:ThenI’llknowclearlywhatLinda’sexpectationsJohn:Isee.WhataboutArticle2:Slee?Itsays,“Wewillgotobedat11p.m.andgetupat6:30a.m.exceptonweekends.”I’msuresomepeoplehearingthiswillthinkthatthisagreementisn’tveryTom:Well,wedisagree.Wethinkit’sveryromantic.Thisagreementshowsthatwesatdownandtalked,andreallytriedtounderstandtheother .Alotofproblemsoccurinamarriagewhenpeopledon’ttalkaboutwhattheywant.Linda:That’sright.Whenwedisagreedaboutsomething,weworkedoutasolutionthatwasgoodforbothofus.IwouldmuchratherhaveTomreallylistentomeandunderstandmyneedsthangivemeabunchofflowersoraboxofcandy.Amarriageagreementissometimeswrittenandsignedbytwopeoplewhontogetmarried.Thepurposeofamarriageagreementvaries.IntheUnitedStatesandsomeothercountries,somemarriageagreementsaredesignedfordivorce(especiallyforasecondmarriage)ortosetconditionsformarriagesothattheexpenseforalawyer’sfeecanbesavedwhentroublesariseinamarriage.Somearedesignedforthebenefitofthemarriage:tofacilitatetherelationshipbetweenspousessothatacouplewillstartouttogetherandstaytogether.ThemarriageagreementsignedbyTomandLindainthetextisanexaggeratedcaseofthesecondThetopicareainamarriageagreementisdecidedbythecouple’spurposeofsigningtheagreement,whichmaybetodeveloptrustandtogetherness,ortorespectindividualinterests.Thetopicstobecoveredinamarriageagreementorcontractinrelationtothesegoalsmaybeasfollows:everydayroutine,budgeting,creditcards,property,familyobligations,childcare,socialobligations,travel,hobbies,attire. hasdifferentexpectationsfromhisorherAspouseexpectstheothertoactinadifferentwaythantheotherispreparedto.Asseparateindividuals,husbandandwifedonotnecessarilythinkoractinthesameway.abunchofflowersoraboxofThesearecommongiftsforwomen.“Abunchof”isusedtotalkaboutpeopleorthingsthatarealikeandareviewedasagroup.Forexample,wecanalsosayabunchofkeys,abunchoffruit/grapes,abunchofpeople,awholebunchofthings.ExerciseListentotheconversationandchoosetherightanswerstothequestionsyouWhichstatementbestsummarizesthemarriageagreementbetweenTomandItisasetofrulesthatwillrestrict aldomtoacertainItisasetofrulesthatwillenablethemtoliveuptoeachother’sItisasetofrulesthatwillpreventthemfromgettingaItisasetofrulesthatwillsavetheirAccordingtoTom,whatwillgiverisetoproblemsinaDifferentDifferentDifferentsleeWhatcanbeinferredaboutLindafromtheSheissensibleandwell-Shedoesn’tlikeflowersorcandyverySheistoopracticaltobeagoodSheisquick-temperedandExerciseListentotheconversationagainandcompletetheanswerstothefollowingWhydidTomandLindadecidetosigntheBecausetheywantedtounderstandeachother’sexpectationssothatpotentialproblemscouldbeavoidedandtheycouldlivehappilytogether.WhatisArticle1Cleaningup.EverythingmustbecleanedupandputawaybeforegoingtoWhatisArticle2Slee.Timeforbed:11p.m.;timetogetup:6:30a.m.exceptonWordBank

AMarriageAgreement(Part v.tomakesth.up-to-datemakeit efriendsagainafteraquarrelfigure toworkoutthesolutiontoaproblemJohn:Linda,doyouspendalotoftimecheckingtoseeifthe isfollowingtheLinda:No,notatTom:Alotofcouplesarguebecausetheydon’tunderstandeachother’sexpectations.IthinkwespendlesstimearguingthanmostcouplesbecausewebothknowwhattheotherJohn:Whathappensifoneofyoubreaksarule?Tom:Well,that’sinArticle13ofouragreement.John:Isit?Ohyes,Article13:BreakingRules.“Ifyoubreakarule,youmustapologizeanddosomethingnicefortheother tomakeitup.”Linda:Yeah,likelasttimeTombroketheruleofdriving.John:What’stherule?Linda:TheruleiswemustaskfordirectionsifwearedrivingandgetlostformorethanfiveJohn:WhatTom:Weweredrivingtoafriend’swedding,andwegotlost.Lindawantedtostopatagasstationtoaskfordirections,butIthoughtIcouldfigureitout.Linda:Thenwedroveforty inthewrongdirectionandendedupbeinglateforthewedding.Tom:SoItookherouttodinner.IknewwhatIshoulddotoapologize.John:That’sveryimportant,Ithink,knowinghowtoapologize.Bytheway,doyountoupdateyouragreementatall?Whatifthingschangeinyourlifeandaruledoesn’tworkLinda:We’vethoughtaboutthattoo.Article14statesthatwemustreviewthisagreementonceayearandmakenecessarychanges.John:Well,itwasreallynicetalkingtoyouboth.Thankyouverymuchforyourtime.Tom&Linda:Thankyou.stopatagasstationtoaskforGasstationscanbefoundonroadsandhighways.TheyareusuallythebestcetoaskfordrovefortyinthewrongPossiblythecouplewasdrivingonahighway.Onceyoumissanexit,itwillbeverydifficultforyoutogetbacktotherightdirection.Youhavetodriveonandonuntilyouseethesignwhereyoucanturnback.ExerciseListentotheconversationandchoosetherightanswerstothequestionsyouHowmanyarticlesareprobablyinTomandLinda’smarriageHowdoTomandLindafeelabouttheirmarriageLindaisnotveryhappywithsomeofthearticlesintheTomthinkssomeofthearticlesintheagreementaretooBothTomandLindaaresatisfiedwithBothTomandLindaarenotsatisfiedwithitandtheywanttomakealotofchangestoWhatwillhappentotheirmarriageagreementinayear’sTheywillreviewthearticlesandmakechangestoupdateTheywillsitdownandwriteoutanewTheywillnotmakeanychangestotheTheywillnotneeditanymore,astheyarebothfamiliarwithitsExerciseListentotheconversationagainandcompletetheanswerstothefollowingWhatisstatedintheruleofItisstatedthatiftheygetlostformorethanfiveminuteswhentheyaredriving,theymuststopandaskfordirections.WhatisArticle13about?WhatdoesitArticle13isaboutbreakingrules.Thearticlesays,“Ifyoubreakarule,youmustapologizeanddosomethingnicefortheother tomakeitup.”WhatisArticle14about?WhatisstatedintheItisaboutreviewingthecontentsoftheagreement.Itstatesthattheymustreviewthisagreementonceayearandmakenecessarychanges.PairWorkDebating—ArgumentsfororagainstgivingfirstprioritytoeconomicstatusinchoosingaANowadays,someyoungpeoplegivefirstprioritytoeconomicstatusinchoosingaspouse.Areyoufororagainstthisstandardinchoosingaspouse?Expressanddefendyourviewsfromthesgiveninthecardbelow.Topic:Topic:Isitrighttogivefirstprioritytoeconomicstatusinchoosingaspouse?From ofastudentFrom ofasocialworkerPossibleArguments(forFromtheofastudentIthinkitisverynaturalforpeopletogivefirstprioritytoeconomicstatusinchoosingaspouse.Weallknowhowimportantmoneyis.Withoutmoney,wecanhardlydoanything.Lackofmoneyinamarriagewillcauseproblemstothecouple.Eventhoughthecouplemayhavemarriedforlove,beingalwayshard-pressedformoney,lovewillsoonberecedbyquarrelsandendlessworriesovermoneymatters.Ifthishappens,cantheylivehappilytogether?SoIthinkitisveryimportanttofirstconsiderifyourfuturespouseisabletosharetheresponsibilityofsupportingafamily.Ifnot,justwait.FromtheofasocialworkerNowadays,someyoungpeopleconsidereconomicstatusthemostimportantfactorwhentheychooseaspouse.Theythinkmoneycanbringeverythingtheywant,likeabigapartment,acar,oratripabroad.However,canthesematerialthingsreallyensurehappiness?Idon’tthinkso.Amarriagebasedsolelyonmaterialwealthwillnotnecessarilybeahappyone.Countlessexampleshaveshownthatrichpeopleoftenhaveunsuccessfulmarriages.Ahappymarriageisbuiltonadeeploveandaffectionbetweenhusbandandwife,whichcannotbeboughtbymoney.NowusetheabovesampleasyourmodelandcarryonsimilaractivitieswithyourTopic:Topic:Isitrighttogivefirstprioritytoauniversitydegreeinchoosingaspouse?From ofsomestudentsFrom ofsomeotherstudentsTheArgumentAuniversitydegreeisthefirstthingI’dconsiderwhenIchoosemylifecompanion.Ithinktwopeoplewithverydifferenteducationalbackgroundswouldhaveproblemsin withauniversitydegreehasbeenexposedtoawiderangeofknowledge/isWhatgreatpleasureitistospendyourlifewithsomeonewhocanshareyourenjoymentofmusic,artandli ture,ordiscusswithyouallsortsofsubjectsfromthebeautyofnaturetoaliensinouterspace/newadvancesinscienceandtechnology.Awell-educated tendstobemorecultured,andmoreunderstanding,whichwillensurehappinessinamarriage.Awell- ismorelikelytohaveagoodAuniversitydegreeisalmostamustinthecompetitivejobmarketnowadays.Thereforeagoodeducationalbackgroundiskeytoasuccessfulcareer,whichwillbringharmonyandsecuritytofamilylife.Idon’tthinkauniversitydegreeissoimportantinchoosingone’slifecompanion.alityisthefirstthingIwouldtakeintoconsiderationwhenIchooseaspouse.Tomymind,affection,honesty,generosity,kindness,sympathy,andcouragearethequalitiesIvaluemore.Ithinka ’smoralvirtueisveryimportantanditisnotdecidedbytheamountofschooleducationheorshehasreceived.Auniversitydegreedoesnotnecessarilybringhappinesstoamarriage.Mutualaffectionandunderstandingarekeytoahappymarriage. withauniversitydegreeisnotnecessarilywell-educated.Itdependsonhowmucheffortsheorhemadewhileatcollege.Ibelieveinlove/loveatfirstsight.I’dliketomarrythe Ilove,andtogetherwecanpursuethedreamsofourlife.Idon’tthinkauniversitydegreecanensuresuccessinacareer.Experienceissometimesmoreimportantthanformaleducation.Asamatteroffact,manyentrepreneursin evenreceivedsecondaryeducation.Theirsuccessactuallyreliesontheirunusual andopportunitiesavailable.PartListentotheconversationandchoosetherightanswerstothequestionsyouWhichofthefollowingistrueofthewoman’sHedoesn’tsharehouseworkatHedoesn’tknowhowtoputthingsinHedoesn’tcareforhiswifeandHe’slazyandWhatdoyouknowabouttheShe’sjustgotaSheearnsalotofShedoesmostofthehouseworkatShehasbadrelationswithherWhatdoesthemanthinkofthewoman’scomHethinksthewoman’shusbandislazyandHedoesn’twanttopassjudgmentonthewoman’sHethinksthewomancominstooHethinksthewomanshouldaskherhusbandtosharetheM:Ah,comein,Barbara.Takeaseat.HowhavethingsW:Oh,muchthesame.Istillseemtohavequarrelswithmyhusbandallthetime.M:Whatdoyouquarrelabout?W:Oh,everything.Yousee,heneverthinksofmyfeelings.M:Goon.W:Well,I’llgiveyouanexample.Youknow,whenthechildrenstartedschool,Iwantedtogobacktoworkagain,too.SoIgotajob.Wellanyway,bythetimeI’vecollectedGaryandLucyfromschool,Ionlygethomeabouthalfanhourbeforehecomesback…M:W:Well,whenhegetshome,heexpectsmetorunaroundandgethistea.Heneverdoesanythinginthehouse.M:W:AndlastFridayheinvitedthreeofhisfriendstocomearoundforadrink.Hedidn’tlmetoexpectthem,andI’dhadalonganddifficultday.Idon’tthinkthat’sright,doyou?M:Well,I’mnotheretopassjudgment.I’mheretoW:Sorry.Andhe’ssountidy.He’sworsethanthekids.Ialwayshavetoremindhimtopickuphisclothes.Hejustthrowshisclothesonthefloor.Afterall,I’mnothisservant.I’vegotmyowncareer.Actually,Ithinkthat’spartofthetrouble.YouseeIearnasmuchmoneyashePartTimetoLookatthesepicturesanddescribethemonebyone.Ifpossible,tryalsotofindsomethingrelevanttotalkabout.anewly-wedcouple,bridegroom新郎andbride新娘lookveryhappy,thetraditionisthat,thebrideinwhiteandthebridegroominblacksuit,abigcakewiththreelayers,aknifeinthewoman’shand,readytocutthecakecartoon,apriestperformsamarriageceremony,readoutthedutiesforthebride,surprise,pophereyes,ontheotherhand,bridegroomissmiling,incontent(满意)takeawalk,onthecountryroad,pushababycart,shappily,walkingadog,asunnyday,havesunglasses,apictureofhappymarriedlife,enjoythebeautyofnature Thepictureshowsanewly-wedcouple.Boththebridegroomandthebridelookveryhappy.Inthewest,thetraditionisthatthebrideshouldbeinwhiteandthebridegroominblacksuit.Wealsoseeabigcakewiththreelayersonatableandaknifeinthewoman’shand.Themanholdsthewoman’shandandreadytocutthecake. Thisisacartoonshowingapriestperformingamarriageceremonytoayoungcouple.Butlookatwhathe’sreading!Helistswhatthewifeshouldandshouldnotdo,leavingthebridepophereyesinsurprise.Thebridegroom,ontheotherhand,issmilingwithhiseyesclosedincontent.I’mnotsurewhatthecartoonisintendedtomean.Maybeitisacriticismofthesociety,inwhichwomenaresupposedtoalwaysservemen. Thispictureshowsafamilytakingawalkonacountryroad.Thewifewithasonherfaceispushingababycart.Herbabyisp