沟通英语听力原文Unit 1 Conversational Skills

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ConversationalSkills:HowtoBeaGoodConversationalist

Haveyouwishedyouwerebetteratmakingaconversation?Agreatconversationalistissomeonewhoconnectswithpeopleandmakesthemfeelimportant.Whentheytalktoyou,theymakeyoufeellikeyou'retheonlypersonintheroom.

Becomingagoodconversationalistrequiresknowingthreethings:first,howtostartaconversation;second,howtokeepitgoing;andthird,howtoendit.

Startingaconversationusuallymeanscomingupwithanopeninglineoricebreaker.Thebestkindoficebreakerisonethat'spositive.Thelastthingpeoplewanttohearfromastrangerishownoisythepartyis,howawfulthefoodis,orhowuglythepeoplearedressed.

Acomplimentisalwaysagoodicebreakerandwillusuallybeappreciated.Anynewseventisagoodicebreaker.Iencourageallofyoutoreadthenewspaperbecauseit'ssoimportanttoknowwhat'sgoingonintheworld.Thefactis,anyopeninglinewilldo,aslongasit'snotnegative,andaslongasit'snotalie.Thebestwaytoenticeapersontohaveaconversationwithyouisbybeingsincereandrespectful,andlettingthemknowthatyouareinterestedintalkingtothem.

Onceyou'vegotaconversationgoing,thebestwaytokeepitgoingisbyaskingtheotherpersonquestionsthatdonotrequirejustayesornoanswerorquestionswhichshowgenuineinterestonyourpart.Forexample,ifsomeonesays,\\there,andI'velivedthereallmylife.\native.IsyourfamilyfromMiamiaswell?\

Youkeepaskingquestionsbasedonthelastthingapersonsays.Thisiscalledthe\technique.\Choosequestionsthatwillgettheotherpersontoelaborateonwhatthey'resaying.Askquestionssimilartothoseareportermightasktodrawapersonout:who,what,when,where,andwhyquestions.

Onceyouhitonsomethingyoufindinteresting,keepaskingquestionsinordertogetthepersontoelaborateaboutthetopicasmuchaspossible.Agoodconversationalistelaboratesontheexperiencesthey'vehad.Insteadofsayingthepartywasprettyfun,tellwhyitwasfun.Describewhyyouhadagoodtimewhowasthere,whathappened,whereitwas,andhowpeoplearrangedtheparty.Gointodetail.Descriptionisthebestformofcommunicationbecauseitkeepspeople'sinterestupandstimulatesthem.Usewordstocreateimagesandpaintpicturessothattheotherpersoncangetavisualaswellasanauditoryimageofwhatyou'redescribingtothem.Ifyouusethedescriptioneffectively,youcanmakethepersonfeelasthoughtheywereactuallythere.

Inordertokeepaconversationgoing,thereareseventipsthatcanhelpyoubeanexcellentcommunicator:

One,beawareofyourownbodyandfaciallanguage.Makegoodfacialcontactwhenyouspeak,andbephysicallyexpressivewithoutbeingexcessive.

Two,don'tgossip.Youruntheriskofoffendingtheotherpersonyou'retalkingto.Italsomakesyoulooksmall.

Three,cultivateawiderangeoftopics.

Four,haveasenseofhumor.Peopleenjoyahumorousstoryorjoke.Sexualandethnic

humor,however,arenotworththeeffectsthatthejokemayhaveonyourtotalimage.Peoplemaybeoffended,whichinturnreflectspoorjudgmentonyourpartandmayencouragethemtothinklessofyou.

Five,don'tinterrupt.Peoplehatebeinginterrupted.Fighttheimpulsetointerruptandgivethepersonyou'retalkingtothetimetheyneedtocompletewhatthey'resayingtoyou.

Six,beenthusiasticandupbeat(cheerful).Don'tbeafraidtoshowenthusiasm.Itallowstheotherpersontofeelthatyou'reinterestedinwhatthey'resayingtoyou.

Seven,beflexibleinyourpointofview.Trytobeasopenaspossible,andtrytoseethingsfromtheotherperson'spointofview.

Ifyoustartedaconversationwithanotherperson,andyou'rehavingdifficultyendingit,thereareseveralsignalsyoucansendtotheotherpersonthatwillbringtheconversationtoitsclosewithouthurtinganyone'sfeelings.Breakingeyecontactisadiscreetsignalthattheconversationisabouttoend.

Anotherwaytosignalistousetransitionwordslikewell,oratanyrate.Youmaywanttorecapallthatwassaid.Whateveryoudo,don'tlietotheotherperson.Ifyouarenotinterestedintalkingtothemagain,don'tmentionthepossibilityofafuturemeetingjusttobepolite