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Thanks!开发领袖力Developing Leadership Qualities作者：埃丝特安德鲁斯 Esther Andrews 翻译：雷惟媛我经常听人说，领袖是天生而非后天培养的。你认为这是真的吗？读伟人的传记时，有多少次你发现当伟人还是个孩子时，他是安静的，缄默的，还相当腼腆的吗？这些难道就是一个领袖天生该有的品质吗？当然不是！这些人的领袖力是在以后的生活中发展出来的。你想让你的孩子成为一个领袖吗？领袖有什么品质？这里提出了一些领袖所需的品质，和你可以如何鼓励孩子发展这些品质的方法。 正直记住要成为一个好的模范，成为孩子的榜样。正直是孩子从父母那学来的一种品质，这需要父母言传身教。和你的孩子谈论正直，讲故事会是一个非常有帮助的方法。寻找一些讲诉正直价值的书籍。我找到了一本电子书，其中有一些提升孩子正直感的小故事。你可以在“儿童励志故事”/?gifted/agrant4中找到这本书。你也可以自己编一些讲述正直价值的小故事。 勇气永远赞赏勇气。当你的孩子展现出他的勇气时，留意它，称赞它。无论在什么方面，只要你看到孩子表现出了他的勇气，你就赞美他。在这种情况下，讲故事也是非常有效的。 创造力，独立思考能力发展这个品质最有用的就是问问题了。当你和你的孩子讨论问题时（任何话题），坚持问一些能激发创造性思维的开放式问题。遵循“更远一步”的原则。当你获得了所有显而易见的答案后再多问一个问题，提出一个更深更有创造性的想法。例如“为什么？”，“如果，事情就会”，“你会怎么看和你的感觉是”，鼓励你的孩子创造性的思考。和你的孩子交流，鼓励独立思考。 自信大体上讲，自信是成功所需具备的最重要的元素之一。在你孩子身上建立自信，避免批评你的孩子，时常真诚的赞扬你的孩子，养成一个习惯，每天和你的孩子谈论他的优点和成就。记住每天都提出至少一个你孩子的良好品质。如果你让它变成了每天的固定习惯，它会为你的孩子创造奇迹。只需要几分钟的时间去提起一个成就或者优点（一个好的品质）。鼓励你的孩子，经常重复“你能做到！” 领袖承担责任当事情出了问题，如果我们埋怨其他人或事，有时我们会感到更舒服。但一个领袖则会承担起责任。确保你的孩子知道他是自己人生的老板。他的成功是他自己的责任。我们不是周围环境的受害者，我们掌控着我们自己的生活。教会你的孩子发挥自己内在的力量，当你的孩子因为一个小灾难而去责备其他人或事，或找借口时，这正是你借机鼓励孩子承担责任之时。确保你的孩子明白犯错是正常的，错误是一个学习的机会。你可以帮你的孩子总结经验，而不是让他感到自己是错的，你可以问他“从这次事情中你学到了什么？”，“你认为是什么出了问题？”，“你认为为什么事情会这样发生？”,“你可以怎样避免这样的事发生？”然后再问，“如果，你认为会有什么事发生？”你的孩子需要理解到他是无法控制其他人的，也别期望可以控制他人的行为，但是他可以完完全全的控制自己的回应。这会让你的孩子感觉有力量，而不是做一个受害者的感觉。你与孩子之间的谈话对孩子的未来影响深远。确保你每天能花些时间和你的孩子交谈，了解你孩子生活中正在发生的事情。通过做这些你成为了一个领袖，你也培养了孩子的领袖技能。Often I have heard that leaders are born, not made. Do you think this is true? How many times did you read a biography of a great leader, and discovered that as a child, he has been quiet, reserved and rather shy? Are those natural qualities of a leader? Of course not! These people have developed their leadership qualities later in life.Would you like your child to be a leader? What are the qualities of a leader? Here are some of the qualities required to be a leader, and how you can encourage the development of these qualities in your child. Integrity- remember to be a good example, a role model for your child. Parents teach by example, and integrity is a quality kids learn from their parents. Talk with your child about integrity. One tool that is very helpful is story telling. Look for books that tell about the value of integrity. I found an e-book that has several stories that promote values in kids. You can find it at Inspirational Kids Stories /?gifted/agrant4. You can also make up your own stories, that tell about the value of integrity. Courage- always praise courage. When your child shows courage, notice it and praise it. Praise courage wherever you see an expression of it. Story telling is also very effective in this case. Creative, independent thinking. In order to develop this quality, it is very helpful to ask questions. When you talk with your child about any subject at all, always ask open questions, that encourage creative thinking. Use the One Step Farther principle. After you have gotten all the obvious answers, ask one more question, to come up with a deeper, more creative idea. Questions like Why, What would happen if., How do you think did it feel., encourage your child to think creatively. Talk to your child, encourage independent thinking. Confidence- this is one of the most important qualities required for success in general. To develop confidence in your child, avoid criticizing your child, praise your child sincerely and often, develop a habit to talk about your childs strengths and achievements with him every day. Remember to make it a point to bring up at least one good quality of your child every day. If you adopt it as a routine, over time it will do wonders for your child. It takes only a few minutes to mention an achievement or a strength (a good quality). Encourage your child, repeat the phrase you can do it often. A leader takes responsibility. When something goes wrong, sometimes it makes us feel better if we can blame something else or someone else. A leader takes responsibility. Make sure your child knows that he is the boss in his life. His success is his responsibility. We are not victims of our environment, we have control over our life. Teach your child to come from a place of power. When your child blames someone else or something else for a mishap, or comes up with excuses, you have an opportunity to encourage your child to assume responsibility. Make sure that your child knows that it is Ok to make mistakes. Mistakes are an opportunity to learn. You can help your child draw conclusions, without making him wrong, by asking: What did you learn from this?, What do you think went wrong?, Why do you think this happened?, How could you avoid this? and again, What do you think would happen if.? Your child should understand that he has no control over other people, and is not expected to have control over other peoples actions, but he has full control over his own reaction. This will give your child the feeling of power, as opposed to being a victim.The conversations that you hold with your child have a profound effect on your childs future. Make sure you take the time to talk with your child every day, to be involved with what is happening in your childs life. To support, encourage and inspire. By doing that, you are being a leader, and you are developing your childs leadership skills.作者简介：埃丝特安德鲁斯养育了两个有极高天赋才能的孩子，她负责“激发天赋的学校教育”多年。在她的时事通讯“激发孩子的天赋才能”里，她分享了自己的经验，提供了一些你可以和孩子一起玩的简单有趣的活动，每天花几分钟时间发展孩子的智力。你可以搜索h