成功人士是怎样应对愤怒情绪的.docx

成功人士是怎样应对愤怒情绪的生活中，每个人都会产生愤怒的情绪，但大多数人会被这种情绪控制，从而影响到自己的工作或者生活。但成功人士却能够很好地应对愤怒情绪，来看看吧In Their Head:在心理上：1. They accept that anger is natural and healthy他们明白：接受愤怒是自然的，健康的When you recognise anger as an essential and necessary emotion, you stop being afraid of it. Only when youre no longer afraid of it can you start managing its manifestations.当你承认愤怒是一种必要的，必须的情绪时，你就不会再害怕。只有不害怕的时候，你才能开始控制它带来的影响。Fear breeds defensive thoughts and behaviours, but when you embrace something, you put yourself in charge. Being in charge of your anger allows you to express it calmly and constructively.恐惧会滋生防御性的想法和行为，但是当你接受某件事的时候，你就把自己放到了掌控者的位置。掌控自己的愤怒让你可以平静地、，建设性地表达愤怒。2. They focus on I statements他们习惯第一人称的表达方式Most people experiencing anger talk in you statements like “you are making me late” or “you still havent finished the report that was due this morning.” This type of language naturally makes other people defensive and less likely to want to help you out.大部分人愤怒时总会以第一人称表达，比如“你让我快迟到了，”或者“你还没完成今天早上应该交的报告”。这种类型的语言很自然会让他人产生敌对心理，不可能帮你摆脱困境。By talking in I statements instead, the people youre talking to are more likely to help. Talking in I statements will also help you focus on how to fix the problem rather than just complaining that the problem exists. Try these instead: “I dont like to be late, it reflects poorly on our team” and “I really need that report, is there anything I can do to help.”以第一人称的叙述方式，对方更有可能帮忙，还能帮你集中经理寻求解决问题的方法，而不是一味抱怨已经存在的问题。尝试下列表述方法：“我不喜欢迟到，这有损我们的团队形象”或者“我非常需要那份报告，我能做点什么来帮忙吗？”3. They avoid negative self-talk他们避免消极的自我暗示Theres nothing wrong with being self critical, but when your negative self-talk holds you back from personal, emotional and professional growth you need to act.自我批评没有什么错，但是当自我暗示阻碍了你的个人，情感和职业成长时，你就需要采取行动了。When you embrace your imperfections youre more likely to think about how to improve, rather than whats wrong with you, which over a long period of time, can lead to stress and depression. Take a more positive and constructive view of yourself and youll achieve more and be happier.当你接受自己的不完美，你才更有可能思考如何进步，而不总是纠结于自己的缺点，久而久之造成压力和抑郁。对自己采取更加积极，更加建设性的态度，你会获得更多，更加快乐。At Work:工作中：4. They focus on the problem, not the person他们对事不对人If someones done wrong by you its likely they didnt mean it, so lighten up! Accidents and mistakes happen everyday and while its easy to blame, getting angry at the person you believe responsible is not going to fix the problem. Stop wasting your time with un-constructive finger pointing and get on with business.如果某人做了错事，他们可能并非本意，所以不要生气！事故和错误每天都在发生，责怪别人非常容易，然而，对责任人生气并不能解决问题。不要把时间浪费在没有意义的指责上，想办法解决问题。5. They dont hold a grudge他们不会记仇Holding a grudge doesnt achieve anything. Moreover, it takes energy and effort to hold something against someone which over time, wears you down and contaminates your mind, leading to a negative world view. Let it go. Forgive and forget and be happier.记仇没有任何用处。而且，总是记恨别人非常耗费精力，久而久之会让你精疲力尽，污染你的心灵，导致消极的世界观。顺其自然。原谅，忘记，快乐地生活。6. They never send an email while angry他们不会在愤怒时发送电子邮件The way you communicate with people at work can impact your future career prospects, and email is a permanent record of your communication with the potential to make or break a career. Anger impairs your judgement, which can lead you to write something in an email that you wouldnt when youre in a better frame of mind.工作中与人沟通的方式会影响你未来的职业前景，而电子邮件是代表你的沟通能力，体现你能否闯出一番事业的永久记录。愤怒会扰乱你的判断，会导致你在电子邮件中写下头脑冷静时不会写的话。If you need to write something, draft an email with an empty To: field, save the email as a draft and look at it again tomorrow.如果你需要写些什么东西，起草一份电子邮件，收信人一栏不要填写，将邮件作为草稿保存，明天再查看。At Home:在家中：7. They meditate他们会冥想Meditation can help you deal with stress and anxiety which are precursors to anger. Regular meditation regulates levels of cortisol, a hormone released during times of stress. It also boosts serotonin, a so-called feel good hormone that balances your emotions and can make you more aware of your feelings.冥想可以帮你缓解压力和焦虑，两者都是愤怒的前兆。经常冥想可以调节压力荷尔蒙皮质醇的水平。还可以提高血清素水平所谓的“让人感觉良好”的荷尔蒙，平衡你的情绪，让你更清楚地意识到自己的感觉。8. They exercise他们经常运动Its widely recognised that regular exercise boosts energy levels and aids focus. Researchers have also found that it can help you manage your anger. Studies have shown that regular exercise dissipates feelings of anger and reduces the risk of it bubbling to the surface. So, get running.众所周知，经常运动可以提高精力，帮助集中注意力。研究人员还发现，运动可以帮你抑制愤怒。研究表明，经常运动可以驱散愤怒情绪，减少愤怒爆发的风险。所以，有空的时候跑跑步吧！9. They keep a journal他们写日记Keeping a journal is a healthy outlet for your emotions,