The Effects of Spoiled Children.doc

The Effects of Spoiled Children It is undeniable that parents love their children; as a matter of fact, they would unconditionally provide the best things for their children. In the parents hearts, their children are the best children in the world. Most parents are over protective and pay too much attention to their children. However, in other peoples minds, they are just a spoiled brat because their parents no longer have control. Most parents dote on their children too much; consequently, it caused a number of bad influences in children life. The most significant effects are that spoiled children would become lazy, form the personality of self-centered and cannot bear hardships. To begin with, the children who are spoiled by parents fall into a habit of being lazy because their parents would prepare all the things for them; therefore, children do not need to consider problems in their life and do housework. With reference to the traditional culture of my country, China, most parents prefer boys to girls. Unfortunately, my family is not an exception. I come from an unbelievably orthodox family; in fact, my younger brother is the apple of the elders eyes in my entire family. When he was younger, my mother checked the school schedule and reminded him every day. She also prepared the books, stationeries, and snacks for my brother. He just had to carry his bag and walked away from the house. It made my brother think that it was not his job. He did not realize that he should do that by himself; in fact, he felt comfortable with my mother doing those things. As time passed, my brother has become an extremely indolent boy and has no sense of taking responsibility for the family; he never helps with any chores in my family. It was exceedingly busy before the Spring Festival last year; we had general cleaning to get through, decorating our department, and preparing the food. Even though we were working hard, my brother did not give a hand to us. My brother thought that was not his business; he, as a result, was enjoying the time that relaxed, watched the television and played computer games. My brother always thinks that my parents will get everything ready for him. My brother is dependents on others all the time because he does not know how to do things for themselves. Clearly, when family members dote upon the children too much, they would easily become a lazy person. Furthermore, in the parents favor, the character of children would gradually become selfish; they think everything should revolve around them. Tina, who was my high school classmate, was spoiled by her parents; in fact, Tinas parents would permit her to do whatever she wanted. Therefore, Tina would say and act to what she desired. She keeps the same temperament as usual when she is with others. Once, we went to celebrate my classmates birthday. We talked over which restaurant we should go to for dinner. After we used the method of a vote, we decided to go to a buffet in order to satisfy a liking for everyone. Nonetheless, Tina insisted on going to a seafood restaurant. We told her that the buffet offered seafood, and one of our classmates is allergic to seafood. Yet she said seafood in the buffet is not fresh, and she suggested the classmate who is allergic to seafood to eat fries in the seafood restaurant with her long face. She thought only of herself; she did not care about other people. Because her constant complaint and we did not expect an anticlimax in our friends birthday, we eventually went to eat seafood. Tina did not felt guilty while she saw the boy who is allergic to seafood only ate vegetables and fries; she took our compliance for granted. Nobody wants to be her friend if she does not change her character. It probably leads her to get expel when she goes to work. The spoiled children are only consider their own needs and regardless of others feelings. Another more serious effect is that the spoiled children could not bear setbacks in their life because many parents would invariably help their children to solve problems when they encounter difficulties. Consequently, it leads to most children not independent and cannot bear the brunt. My cousins parents have protected her like a flower in a hothouse. In reality, her parents would not educate her when she makes mistakes. My cousin had three part-time jobs before, but she had worked for only few days. She was a waitress in different cafs in her first two jobs. She resigned soon her jobs mainly because she disliked her manager frequently order her to clean tables, and the customers blamed her was extremely slow-moving. Last month, her parents requested a friend to offer a job to her. She became a cashier in a grocery for four days. This time she complained that it had to stand for a straight six hours, and it made her legs hurt and exhausted. She also grumbled at the poor food in her job, and the job was incredibly boring. Her parents thought my cousin had a hard time during her works; therefore, they just let her resign the job. After three failures, my cousin does not want to get another job anymore. She thought that she could ask her parents to get more money, so it is unnecessary to go to work. Now, she became a dawdler. She cannot move forwards when she has difficulties because she is waiting for other people to help her. Most children could not suffer criticism and frustration when their parents blindly doting on them. Thus, the effects of most spoiled children are change into bone-idle, s