统计分析离异家庭儿童的不良性格.doc

浅谈离异家庭儿童的多重性格Statistical analysis of multiple personality divorced families children 近年来，由于社会经济的发展，人们思想观念也不断变化，离婚人数越来越多，相应的，离异家庭数量也在不断增加。多数调查研究认为，父母由于个人原因导致家庭破裂对儿童性格的负面影响很大。 In recent years, due to the development of social economy, people concept also constantly change, the number of divorce is increasing, the corresponding, the number of divorced parents are also growing. Most research argues that parents family breakdown due to personal reasons negative effect on childrens character. 一、离异家庭儿童主要的不良性格特征 A main, divorced families children are undesirable disposition feature 性格是十分复杂的心理现象，它包含着各个层面的内容。所谓离异家庭儿童的不良性格，并不是根据其自身性格特点而言，而是相对于正常家庭儿童性格特点而言的。单亲家庭儿童不良性格特征主要表现在以下几个方面。 Character is very complicated psychological phenomenon, it contains all aspects of content. The so-called divorce childrens bad personality, not according to its own characteristics, but relative to the normal family, children personality characteristics. Single parent families children are undesirable disposition feature is mainly manifested in the following respects. （一）冷漠离异家庭儿童由于家庭破损造成其心灵的创伤，失去了对生活的信心，常常显得心灰意冷。他们对人和事物缺乏热情，无动于衷，有时甚至还会对人怀有敌对情绪。这样他们就不容易被别人所理解和接纳，对其发展产生不利影响。 Divorced families caused their children because the family broken heart trauma, lost confidence in life, often seem disheartened. They lack of enthusiasm for people and things, indifferent, and sometimes even have hostile to man. So they will not easy to be understood and accepted and harmful to their development. （二）自卑自卑是离异家庭儿童最主要的性格特征。自卑儿童早期表现为：常年情绪低落；过度怕羞；拒绝交朋友；难以集中注意力；经常疑神疑鬼；贬低或嫉妒他人；自暴自弃；回避竞争竞赛；语言表达能力差；对挫折和疾病难以承受等特征。 Inferiority is divorced families children the main character. Inferiority is shown as: early childhood depression all year long; Too much shy; Refuse to make friends; Difficulty concentrating; Often suspicious; Belittle or jealous of others; Abandon; Avoid competition competition; Language expression ability is poor; Unbearable to setbacks and disease characteristics. （三）怯懦据统计，父母离异的儿童占29.63%，怯懦性格源于恐惧感，而在孩子小的时候引起恐惧感多源于成人，主要表现为胆小怕事，容易屈从他人，无反抗精神，在困难面前惊慌失措，感情脆弱，经不住挫折和打击。 According to statistics, accounted for 29.63%, of divorce children cowardly character comes from fear, and cause fear arises from when children are small adults, main show is timid, easy to other people, no defiance, panic in front of difficulties, feeling vulnerable, giving frustration and blow. （四）孤僻孤僻是离异家庭儿童表现最明显的性格特征。离异家庭儿童消极的情绪体验使他们不能正确评价自己，也不能正确对待别人，主要表现为沉默孤独，少与人交流，往往无友或少友，对他人采取冷漠的态度，心中充满了孤寂愁苦、凄凉和被遗弃的感觉，越发与外界疏远，处于自我封闭的状态。 Autism is divorced families children the most obvious character traits. Divorced families children experience negative emotions so that they cant evaluate themselves correctly, also cant correctly treat others, main show is lonely silence, less communication with people, often without a friend or friends less, take the attitude of indifference to others, the heart is full of loneliness and sorrow, sad and feeling abandoned, increasingly detached from the outside world, is in a state of self sealing. （五）焦虑焦虑是由紧张不安、担心、忧郁等感觉所组成的一种情绪状态，如紧张、不安、非常敏感、伤心压抑、不快乐等。离异家庭儿童由于父母闹离婚时对孩子的疏忽和父母一方的去世，会使儿童在其发展中因爱和安全的需要得不到满足而缺乏安全感，因而，离异家庭儿童或多或少都存在焦虑情绪。 Anxiety is composed of nervous, worry, depression and so on feeling of a kind of emotional state, such as tension, nervous, sensitive, sad depressed, not happy, and so on. Divorced families children owing to the negligence of parents divorce to the child and the parents of one party dies, can make children in their development because of love and security needs are not being met and the lack of security, therefore, divorced families children more or less there is anxiety. 二、离异家庭儿童不良性格特征的成因分析 Second, paper analyzes the causes of divorced families children are undesirable disposition feature （一）没有良好的家庭环境是其不良性格特征形成的主要因素现实生活中无数的事实证明，和睦稳定的家庭，对下一代的健康成长有着不可估量的影响。家庭是社会的细胞，社会的稳定与进步，首先从家庭的稳定和进步开始。人和则家兴，家和则国兴。那种只顾自己享受，全然不顾孩子健康成长的父母，其所作所为，实质上是对孩子幼小心灵的一种折磨和摧残。我们必须清醒地认识到，在离异家庭中，由于孩子只能获得单方面的父爱或母爱（有的孩子甚至连一方面的爱都难得到），而导致成长过程中的心理错位，智力发育迟缓，绝大多数离婚家庭的子女会体验到失落感、被遗弃感、不安全感。 Countless facts have proved in real life, harmonious and stable family, have a immeasurable impact on the healthy growth of the next generation. Family is the cell of society, social stability and progress, first of all, starting from the family stability and progress. And the home, home and GuoXing. That you enjoy, regardless the healthy growth of childrens parents, their actions, is essentially a kind of torture to the childs little heart and trample upon. We must realize soberly, in the divorce, because children can only obtain unilaterally a father or a mothers love, some children even love is hard to get) on the one hand, to grow in the process of psychological, mental retardation, the majority of divorced families children will experience the loss, abandoned feeling, sense of insecurity. 家庭是个人生活的重要环境，对儿童早期性格的形成起决定性作用。离异家庭儿童在父母离异前后经常感受到一系列消极的情绪体验，情绪与性格密切相关，有的孩子因长期的抑郁而逐渐形成了孤僻、怯懦的性格；有的孩子因长期生活在争吵、打骂的环境中变得情绪暴躁，形成冷酷粗暴的性格；还有的则可能由于父母经常迁怒于孩子，无故殴打孩子而使他们在恐惧中变得神经质。另外，父母不良教养态度与孩子不良性格形成之间有密切联系。据调查，在离异家庭的儿童教养中，家长的教育态度和方式正常型的占13%，大多数为放任型、溺爱型或是严酷型，这都是极不利于在离异家庭环境中儿童性格的健康发展。 The family is important in ones life environment, decisive role in the formation of early childrens character. Divorced families children before and after the divorce often experience a series of negative emotional experience, emotion and personality is closely related to some children because of long-term depression and gradually formed a lonely, cowardly character; Some children due to long-term living in the quarrel, beat and scold the environment become irritable, form a brutal behavior character; Others may be due to parents often angry at children, without beating children and make them become neurotic in fear. In addition, their parents bad parenting attitude is closely related with children bad character formation. According to the survey, children in divorced family education, parents education attitude and the way of normal type accounted for 13%, most of laissez-faire, NiAiXing or severe type, which is hardly conducive to the healthy development of childrens personality in divorced family environment. （二）儿童在不良的学校环境中也会形成不良性格特征学校是儿童生活的另一重要环境，对儿童性格形成也起着重要作用。在学校中教师的教育对其性格的形成有很大的影响，由于父母离异、家庭解体给离异家庭孩子带来的巨大的挫折，出现各方面的消极表现。在这种情况下，老师若不给予关心与帮助，就容易使孩子形成孤僻、自卑、缺乏主动性等性格特征。此外，在同伴间的交往中，若同伴们对他们进行冷嘲热讽，则会使离异家庭儿童形成自卑、孤僻、冷漠和拒绝等不良的性格特征。 School is another important environment of childrens lives, also plays an important role on childrens personality formation. Teachers in the school education formation has a great influence on the character, because the parents divorce, family disintegration huge setback for divorced families children, in all aspects of the negative performance. If in this case, the teacher not to give care and help, and easy to make the child form withdrawn, inferiority, lack of initiative personality features. In addition, the interactions between peers, if his companions to sneer, they will make the divorced families childrens formation of inferiority, eccentricity, indifference and refused to bad character traits. 三、培养离异家庭儿童良好性格的对策（一）注重让儿童获得应有的爱离婚家庭将如何处理与子女的关系，这对孩子的健康成长极为重要，离婚夫妇应慎重对待。绝大多数父母离异的儿童能够正确对待父母的批评和教育，他们希望得到与自己朝夕相处的父母亲的指导和帮助，渴望继续得到父母完整的爱。父母在面临婚姻危机时应设法为孩子创设一个良好的家庭环境，让孩子知道，父母虽然离婚但孩子仍然是父母的孩子，唯一不同的是父母分开了。不要让孩子体验消极情绪，并且在家庭解体之后，父母仍应尽可能地给孩子应得的爱护与照顾。让孩子获得心理满足，身心仍能够健康成长。 Divorce will be how to deal with the relationship with their children, this growth is very important to the health of children, divorced couples should be treated with caution. Most children of divorce can correctly treat parents criticism and education, they want to be with her of being parents guidance and help, eager to continue to receive the love of parents to complete. When parents marriage in the face of the crisis, should try to create a good family environment for children, let children know, although parents divorce children is parents child, the only difference is their parents separated. Dont let the child experience negative emotions, and after the disintegration of families, parents should give their children as much as possible is still deserve to love and care. Let children get psychological satisfaction, is still able to healthy growth of body and mind. （二）注重学校的教育作用在学校环境中，教师应尽可能帮助离异家庭儿童，让他们健康快乐成长。 In the school environment, teachers should help children divorce as far as possible, let them happy and healthy growth. 教师应做到以下几点：1.平时多注意离异家庭儿童的心理变化； 1. Pay more attention to the psychological change of divorced families children at ordinary times; 2.尽力去发现和肯定离异家庭儿童的长处，对他们的进步给予鼓励；2. Try to find and sure divorced families childrens strengths and progress giving encouragement to them; 3.为了提高儿童的自信心，教师应尽量给他们分配一些任务，如当班级干部等；3. In order to improve the confidence of children, teachers should be assigned to them as far as possible some tasks, such as when the class cadre, etc.; 4.教师可以引导儿童去接受他们已经改变的家庭；4. The teacher can guide the children to accept their families have changed; 5.建立一种和谐的师生关系，使儿童乐于接受教师的教育和帮助；5. To establish a harmonious relationship between teachers and students, make the children happy to accept the teachers education and help; 6.鼓励儿童参加集体活动，感受和大家共处的快乐，培养孩子学会与人团结友爱，明白自己并不是一个人；6. Encourage children to participate in collective activities, experience the joy of coexistence with everyone, should let the children to learn to unity and friendship among people, knew he was not a person; 7.多倾听孩子的话语，多与孩子谈心，明白孩子的内心感受。7. Listen to the words of children, talking with their children, understand childrens inner feelings. 当然，教师在教育中还应当与家长合作，以加深对离异家庭儿童的了解，以使教育效果更好，使他们健康快乐地成长。And, of course, teachers should also cooperate with parents in the education, to deepen the understanding of divorced families children, in order to make education better, to make them healthy and happy growth. （三）社会应对离异家庭儿童的教育给予高度的重视(3) the social response to the divorced families children education to give highly attention 因为社会中人们的认识观念，会影响到离异家庭儿童良好性格品质的形成，所以，社会应倡导每一位公民都不能歧视或讥讽离异家庭儿童，而应尽其所能去关心他们、帮助他们。当然，每个公民也应该提高自身意识，家庭成员之间应尽可能地和谐相处，使家庭破裂的情况逐步减少，由此才能让更多的儿童远离悲伤与苦恼，在充满爱的完整的家庭里茁壮成长。 Because people the understanding of the idea in the society, can affect the formation of divorced families childrens good character, so the society should advocate every citizen cant discrimination or sarcasm divorced families children, and should be doing everything they can to care about them and help them. , of course, every citizen should also improve their consciousness, between family members should be harmonious to get along with as much as possible, make family breakdown situation gradually reduce, this can let more children to stay away from sadness and misery, in complete family full of love. 总之，在帮助和教育离异家庭儿童中，社会应积极发挥其有利条件，并且要与家庭和学校紧密合作，以取得更好的教育效果。孩子是无辜的，不要因父母的离婚而伤害孩子。关心和爱护离异家庭的儿童，应该成为一种社会品德。因此，广泛地动员社会、学校、家庭共同携手，及时帮助和指导这些孩子，给他们无限的爱和殷切的希望，做到冷暖有人问，困难有人