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FamilyintheEyesofEnglishmenandAmerican 1 Extendedfamily Nuclearfamily Single parentfamily Blendedfamily Stepfamily Dinkfamily Live incouples III Typesoffamilies Twogenerations parents children threeormoregenerations theparent married unmarried widowed divorced liveswithhis herbiologicaloradoptedchild remarriedcoupleandtheirchildren adopted married dualincome nokids heterosexualorhomosexualwithorwithoutchild unmarriedbuthaveabindingrelationship 2 III TheChangeofFamilyMode Extendedfamily Nuclearfamily Single parentfamily single personhousehold blendedfamily Reasons Latemarriage latechildbearingb Higherdivorceratec Moreemphasisonindividualachievementd feminism 3 FamilyintheEyesofDifferentPeople Familyismoreimportantthanwork Whenworkandfamilyareinseriousconflict familyisalwaysthefirstpriority TotheWesterners 2 Theypayattentiontopsychologicalqualitieslikeloveandtogetherness 3 Thereismoreindependenceofeachfamilymember 4 Themaindutyofeveryfamilymemberisnottoadvancethefamilyasagroupsociallyoreconomically nortobringhonortothefamilyname Theyjustpursueindividualfulfillment individualism 4 FamilyintheEyesofDifferentPeople ToChinese Theyemphasizethefilialduty childrenowetotheirparents andtheresponsibility parentsowetotheirchildren Theyemphasizethepeaceandharmonyofafamily Everyfamilymemberhasthedutytoadvancethefamilyasagroupsociallyoreconomically andtobringhonortothefamilynameaswell 5 Conclusion Americanviewsofmarriage Chineseviewsofmarriage MostAmericansexplainmarriagechoicesintermsoflove RomanticviewofmarriageWhenmarriedcouplesnolongerfeelthisromanticlove itisrelativelyeasyforthepartnerstocometotheconclusionthattheyshouldseparateandfindsomeoneelsewhotheyreallydolove Chineseviewganqing affection assomethingthatevolveandgrowsovertime Ganqingcanbecultivatedandnurturedinarelationalcontextbymeansofmutualaidandmutualcare Toacouple loveisoftenoneamongotherconsiderations suchasobligationstotheparentsandfamily 6 Inthepast peoplegotmarriedandstayedmarried Divorcewasverydifficult expensiveandtookalongtime Peoplemarriedbeforetheyhadchildren Fiftyyearsago itwassociallyunacceptableifonekeptbeingsingle Before1960cohabitingwasveryunusual Cohabiting divorce unmarriedbirthweremorallycondemned RelatedInformation IntheWest InChina 7 Thechangingaspectsofmarriage Trial marriage Theincreaseinone parentfamily Theincreaseindivorce Why 8 ThehighdivorcerateintheUSiscertainlyrelatedtoAmericanindividualism Americanstendtofeelthatmostrelationshipsarelargelyvoluntary inotherwords thatpeoplecanchoosewhetherornottostayinthem Thus manyAmericanstendtofeelamarriagerelationshipshouldbebasedonthefreechoiceofbothpartnersratherthanonobligation Ifoneorbothofthepartnersinamarriagenolongerfeelshis herneedsarebeingmet andnolongerwantstocontinueintherelationship mostAmericanstendtofeelthecoupleshouldbefreetoendit evenifthatmeansbreakingupafamily withtheresultingnegativeconsequencesforchildren DivorceintheUS I RelatedInformation 9 Theybelievethatunhappycouplesshouldnotstaymarriedjustbecausetheyhavechildrenathome Manypeopledonotbelieveinsacrificingindividualhappinessforthesakeofthechildren Theysaythatchildrenactuallymaybebetterofflivingwithoneparentthatwithtwowhoareconstantlyarguing Divorceisnowsocommonthatitisnolongersociallyunacceptable andchildrenarenotembarrassedtosaythattheirparentsaredivorced DivorceintheUS 10 However itwouldbetoosimpletoexplainthehighUSdivorceratebysayingthatAmericansdon tconsiderthemarriagerelationshipimportantenough Inoneway partoftheproblemisalsothatAmericanstendtoviewmarriageasbeingtooimportant orhaveexpectationsformarriagethatarctoohigh MostAmericansbelievethatmarriageshouldbebasedonlovetheromanticloveoffinding Mr Right or MissRight andtheyexpectalotfromthatpartner Inmarriagetheyexpecttofindromance understanding support sharing trust andaplacewheretheycan bethemselves i e actthewaytheyfeellikeacting Inoneway thesehighexpectationsareaproblem theyarenodoubtoneimportantreasonwhymanyAmericansbecomedissatisfiedwiththeirmarriagepartnersanddecidetodivorce However theyalsosuggestthatAmericansfeelmarriageisaveryimportantpartofone slife DivorceintheUS 11 ManychildrenintheUnitedStatesmoveawayfromtheirparentsatageof18or19 What syourinterpretationofsuchaphenomena Discussion 12 Thisisatypicalwesternphenomena TheAmericanchildrenarenurturedtobeindependenttodowhateverhecoulddoeversincehe shewasborn Childrenatageof18or19aretowardtheiradulthood itisnaturallyoldenoughtoleavetheirparentsandstartanewindependentlife However intheeyesofsometraditionalChinesepeople childrenshouldlivewiththeirparentsuntiltheygetmarried So theymisunderstandthattheAmericanchildrenleavingtheirparentsatageof18or19isduetotheirparents irresponsibilityorlackoflovefortheirchildren I RelatedInformation 13 IntheUS I RelatedInformation Childrenthinkofparentsasgoodfriends Ontheotherhand manyAmericansgivetheiryoungpeoplealotoffreedombecausetheywanttoteachtheirchildrentobeindependentandself reliant Americanchildrenhavebeenexpectedtoleavethenestatageof18aftertheygraduatefromhighschool Theyareexpectedtogoontocollegeorgetajobtosupportthemselves Bytheirmid twenties ifchildrenarestilllivingwiththeirparents somepeoplewillsuspectthatsomethingiswrong 14 Inmanyothercultures includingourChineseone inequalityextendsintothefamily particularlytothefather srelationshiptohischildren Thefatherisacceptedasrulerandmaster Thechildren srelationswithhimareveryformalandloveforhimisalwayscombinedwithfear I RelatedInformation InChina 15 Whereareherchildren ImaginethatyouarereadingthenewspaperandseeastoryaboutanAmericanwomaninCaliforniawhowasoncemiddleclassbutisnowhomeless Thewoman sconditionresultedfromabaddivorce inves