true love and marriage.doc

True Love and MarriageTrue love is the foundation of marriage, while the marriage is the distillation of the true love.Every girl dreams of finding her Mr. Right, charming and handsome, looking like a prince. Maybe he is the rich, which can meet all what you need. You can live in a castle with him. How wonderful! Well, you may wish to be a Cinderella, dancing with your glasses shoes, meeting your prince by chance. What a pity! We are all living in the reality. Differently, we describe the illusion to reflect the reality of money, love in the marriage.Theres no doubt that most of people in this book put the money at first. The marriage in Jane Austins book is always not the result of love, but the result of economic needs. The Mrs. Bennet was eager to marry their daughters off a rich man. Therefore, when the Mr. Darcy and Mr. Bingley came out at first, the immediately became the ideal son-in-law, especially when they realized how much they possessed and what a celebrated status. What element caused the problem? We should look over the science situation of 18th century. Only the oldest son had the privilege of inheriting his fathers fortune. While on the other hand, most young people would like to live in luxurious life. To save a comfortable condition, they had no choice but marry a man or woman who was in possession of amount of wealth. Whether there was love in a couple, as long as they have enough money, they would get marry.I appreciate the true love between Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth. Of course, Darcy is a very arrogant man, who seemed to always feel superior. Compared, Elizabeth is a clever girl who always has her own opinion. She looks like a gem, perfect appearance. In addition, she had a strong sense of personal worth, never allowed others to trample. When she realized that Darcy thwarted her sisters marriage and looked down on her parents, her strong personality made herself refuse Darcys proposal. Only because she knew the marriage based on inequality, would not be happy. Even though had overcome too many barriers: their social status and classical distinction, Darcy was only wanted to show his determination to marry her.Unnecessary misunderstanding made the two lovers missed. The prejudice made Elizabeth far away from Darcy, while the reason and love made her eliminate the prejudice and misunderstanding. Eventually, she admitted Darcy and accepted him. Look at Darcy, the price made him conceit, while the strong emotion to Elizabeth droved him to pour his heart to her. When he failed to proposal, he re-examined himself. After he noticed his shortages, he started to change himself to be accepted by everyone. Absolutely, Elizabeth and Darcy got a happy marriage. No matter how the world changes, the topic of love and marriage are perpetual. Date bake to the ancient, at home and abroad, how many languishing youths and unhappy maidens did pursue to it. Love is more like a naughty baby, when you want to grasp it, it will run away; on the contrary, it will make you satisfied and delight. Well, what is love? Sometimes, we prefer to say:” I LOVE YOU!” But whats the meaning of each letter? I-INJECT; L-LOYAL; O-OBSERVANT; V-VALIANT; E-ENJOYMENT; Y-YES; O-OBLIGATION; U-UNISON! These aspects are essential for the true love. Therefore, please think it seriously before you say “I love you!” to someone. The real spirit of true love can encourage the people who love with each other to have a sense of substantial. Someones love is full of enthusiasm and sincere, while others seem to be pure water, insipid but really. The love is never unconditional, and it looks like a check, which is listed on beauty, health, intelligence, fortune and so on. We should settle accounts for all of them. As a result, we have to be responsible for love. We admire that “all shall be well, Jack shall have Jill”; we wish all people can get the true love, only because we would like to see all niceness in the world. For some ancient China legends, the two lovers couldnt get together in reality society; they wouldnt give up even being way up high or down low. As we all know, the Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai, they preferred to die together rather than be separated. People didnt appreciate the sad ending, so they imagined that they waltz in the evening glow. The intense sentiment was widely read. As we as Darcy and Elizabeth, although there are many obstruction, they bravely confronted. Also, if ones life lacking of the love, his or her life would be imperfect. The true love, sometimes, when you are happy, he or she companied with you and share your pleasure; when you are sorrow, give you a warm hug; when you hesitate, give you definite eyesight. For instance, even though Elizabeth misunderstood Darcy, he still helped Elizabeths friends and relatives.The marriage, generally speaking, should be the fruit of true love. We have to admit that the marriage without love is immoral. Identically, a marriage only with love is unsubstantial. If you love someone, you should try your best to make yourself be trusted or reliable. Some people regard the marriage as a siege. The people outsiders want to enter in, while the people inside want to come out. Whats more, marriage is the accustomed diet. Even you dont like, you have to keep on. There are three realms: firstly, marry to the people who you love; secondly, marry to the people you love and have been used to; thirdly, marry to the people you love, have been used and owing the family context. Which is suit to you? The marriage with the true love must be taking your hand, living old age together. The marriage is scared, be careful and do not make decision offhand. Everyone has to clear that love is extemporaneous, while marriage is cradle-to-grave. The true love do not need certain passion, maybe dining, sleeping, chatting and aging are the essence of marriage-holding on together. Only experiencing the dynamic love, you can learn to tolerate, understanding and trust. Of course, trust is a line, which is pulling ones heart. Please remember that most people, who fall in love with others, may make mistakes. But if you choose somebody, you should contain his or her shortcoming. A perfect marriage should be based on trust in each other. In fact, love and marriage are actually different. Love is a feeling and a freedom, while marriage is a formality and a duty. Meanwhile, love is the prelude of marriage, and it is full of mysterious. Compared with love, the marriage is the destination of love, the same, marriage is practical. Love is a marten coat, one is you can enjoy spontaneous, while marriage is just an ordinary heavy coat. The marriage is not a hundred meter race, but a marathon. So everyone should know how to manage his or her marriage. When you stand at the crossroad of marriage choose a person who really loves you. Love is not about how much you say “I love you”, but how much you can prove that its true.Austen left all kinds of problems for us to think. The genius of Jane Austen lies in this perfect simplicity that reflects big problems. The plots in her works are always very natural. The development of the plot is as inevitable as a problem in mathematics. I think the depth of Price and Prejudice is the reason that makes this book prominent and classic. Today, her book still can be the guide telling us the economic relationships and love both at her time and in modern time. The first sentence in this book is impressive. It reads: “It is a truth well known to the entire world that an unmarried man in possession of a large fortune must be in need of a wife”. The undertone is very clear: the foundation of the marriage at that time is not emotion but possession. The marriage is scared; you cannot make remarks according something on the surfa