增强大学生人际吸引力的对策（countermeasures to enhance interpersonal attraction of college students）

增强大学生人际吸引力的对策（COUNTERMEASURESTOENHANCEINTERPERSONALATTRACTIONOFCOLLEGESTUDENTS）COUNTERMEASURESTOENHANCEINTERPERSONALATTRACTIONOFCOLLEGESTUDENTSZHENJIANGRADIOANDTVUNIVERSITYABSTRACTTOIMPROVETHEINTERPERSONALCOMMUNICATIONABILITYANDLEVELISANIMPORTANTTOPICINPSYCHOLOGICALHEALTHEDUCATIONFORCOLLEGESTUDENTS,COLLEGESTUDENTSCANFROMTHEOPTIMIZATIONOFTHEEXTERNALIMAGE,PAYATTENTIONTOCONSERVATIONINNERQUALITIES,SKILLSANDOTHERASPECTSOFIMPROVINGINTERPERSONALATTRACTIONFORCE,LAYTHEFOUNDATIONFORTHEIMPROVEMENTOFINTERPERSONALRELATIONSHIPKEYWORDINTERPERSONALATTRACTIVENESSINTERPERSONALCOMMUNICATIONISTHEINTERACTIVEPROCESSOFCOMMUNICATINGINFORMATION,EXCHANGINGIDEAS,EXPRESSINGFEELINGSANDCOORDINATINGBEHAVIORSBYUSINGLINGUISTICSIGNSYSTEMORNONLANGUAGESYSTEMITISONEOFTHEWAYSOFHUMANEXISTENCEANDREPRESENTSTHEESSENTIALATTRIBUTEOFHUMANBEINGSWBARKER,ANAMERICANPSYCHOLOGIST,SAID,“PEOPLECANTDOWITHOUTPEOPLEHEHASTOLEARNTHEM,HURTTHEM,HELPTHEM,CONTROLTHEM“INSHORT,PEOPLENEEDTOBEWITHOTHERPEOPLE“1MARXALSOSAID,“MANISNOTONLYAGREGARIOUSANIMAL,BUTANANIMALTHATISINDEPENDENTINSOCIETY“2LEARNINGANDDEALINGWITHVARIOUSINTERPERSONALRELATIONSHIPSANDIMPROVINGINTERPERSONALATTRACTIONISAREQUIREDCOURSEFOREVERYONETOGROWUPTHEMOSTDISTINCTIVEFEATUREOFMODERNSOCIETYISOPENNESS,OPENINGUP,ANDPROMOTINGCOMMUNICATIONHASBECOMEAHISTORICALTREND,STRONGINTERPERSONALSKILLSAREESSENTIALQUALITIESOFMODERNPEOPLECOLLEGESTUDENTSAWAYFROMTHEIRPARENTS,INDEPENDENTLIFE,SPECIALLIVINGENVIRONMENTTOENHANCETHEIRDEMANDFORINTERPERSONALCOMMUNICATION,THEYWANTFRIENDSHIPMORETHANHIGHSCHOOL,MOREHOPETOGETASENSEOFBELONGINGANDPSYCHOLOGICALSENSEOFSECURITYINTHENEWENVIRONMENTDEALINGWITHTHEINTERPERSONALRELATIONSHIPISANIMPORTANTTASKOFCOLLEGELIFEADJUSTMENT,WHETHERSTUDENTSHAVEINTERPERSONALATTRACTION,CANHAVEGOODINTERPERSONALRELATIONSHIPSDIRECTLYAFFECTTHESTUDENTSACADEMICSTATUS,PERSONALITYDEVELOPMENT,SELFORIENTATIONANDPSYCHOLOGICALHEALTHINTERPERSONALCONFUSIONANDCONTRADICTIONISPRECISELYREFLECTMOREPROBLEMSINCOLLEGESTUDENTSPSYCHOLOGICALCOUNSELING,COLLEGESTUDENTSOFTENEXCLAIMED“LIFEISTOOHARD“,“THERELATIONSHIPBETWEENSTUDENTSISTOOCOMPLICATED“,“DORMITORYREALLYCANTSTAYHEREANYLONGER,IMAYBECRAZY“,MANYSTUDENTSEVENTOLIVEALONEOUTSIDETHEHOUSETHEAVOIDANCEOFDIFFICULTRELATIONSHIPBETWEENSTUDENTSATPRESENT,MANYSCHOLARSAGREEWITHTHISVIEW“COLLEGESTUDENTSCONFUSIONANDOBSTACLESININTERPERSONALCOMMUNICATIONAREONEOFTHETHREEMAJORPROBLEMSAFFECTINGCOLLEGESTUDENTSPSYCHOLOGICALANDBEHAVIORALHEALTH,SECONDONLYTOACADEMICPROBLEMS“3HELPINGCOLLEGESTUDENTSREDUCEINTERPERSONALCONFUSION,OBSTACLES,ACCUMULATEINTERPERSONALEXPERIENCE,IMPROVEINTERPERSONALSKILLS,ANDENHANCEINTERPERSONALATTRACTION,ISTHEURGENTTASKOFCURRENTCOLLEGESTUDENTSMENTALHEALTHEDUCATIONITHINK,TOSTRENGTHENTHEINTERPERSONALATTRACTIONOFCOLLEGESTUDENTS,WENEEDTOSTRENGTHENTHEFOLLOWINGEIGHTASPECTSOFSELFCULTIVATIONFIRST,OPTIMIZETHEIMAGE,IMPROVETHE“FIRSTIMPRESSION“THEFIRSTIMPRESSIONOFYOUWILLDIRECTLYAFFECTYOURFUTURECOMMUNICATIONIFYOURFIRSTIMPRESSIONISGOOD,YOUWILLHAVEMOREINTERESTINCOMMUNICATINGWITHYOUGOODFIRSTIMPRESSIONISTHEBASISFORFURTHERCOMMUNICATIONAPPEARANCEISTHEWINDOWTHATINITIATESTHE“FIRSTIMPRESSION“BEAUTIFULANDBEAUTIFULAPPEARANCEHASIRRESISTIBLEATTRACTION,JUSTASTHEANCIENTGREEKPHILOSOPHERARISTOTLESAID“BEAUTYISMORETHANANYRECOMMENDATIONLETTERRECOMMENDATION“4ALTHOUGHTHEAPPEARANCE,LOSTINTHE“ALLUNDERSTANDTHETRUTH,BUTTHEAPPEARANCEININTERPERSONALCOMMUNICATION,ESPECIALLYINTHEINITIALCONTACT,AFACTISSTRONGIMPACTONINTERPERSONALATTRACTIONITSVERYNECESSARYTOMAKEAGOODFIRSTIMPRESSIONFOREACHOTHERBEFORETHEASSOCIATION,ACCORDINGTOTHEIRSKINCOLOR,BODY,AGE,OCCUPATION,COMMUNICATIONSITUATION,DRESSUPCAREFULLY,MAKEONESELFMOREBEAUTIFUL,NATURAL,OFTENEASIERTOBELIKEDSMILEISONEOFTHEMOSTSIMPLEANDEFFECTIVEWAYSTOMAKEPEOPLEBEAUTIFULANDBEAUTIFULSMILECONVEYSFRIENDLINESS,IMPLIESCONFIDENCE,REPRESENTSOPTIMISM,ANDISADYNAMICIMAGEKEEPASUNNYSMILE,ITMAKESYOUCREATEACLEARINTERPERSONALATMOSPHERETWO,ACTIVECOMMUNICATION,IMPROVEFAMILIARITYGENERALLYSPEAKING,PEOPLETENDTOLIKE,CLOSETOFAMILIARPEOPLE,THEREFORE,INORDERTOENHANCEINTERPERSONALATTRACTION,WESHOULDACTIVELYIMPROVETHEOTHERSIDESFAMILIARITYWITHYOUTHEMAINMETHODOFIMPROVINGFAMILIARITYISINTERACTIVECONTACT,THEMOREINTERACTION,THEHIGHERFAMILIARITY,THECLOSERTHEINTERPERSONALRELATIONSHIP,ASTHESAYINGGOES“RELATIVESGOCLOSERANDCLOSER,FRIENDSCLOSER“AFTERTHEFORMATIONOFACLOSEPERSONALRELATIONSHIPBETWEENEACHOTHER,IFNOCOMMUNICATION,WILLALSOHAVEASENSEOFSTRANGENESS,ALIENATION,INTERPERSONALRELATIONWILLTENDTOWEAKEN,WASTHE“DAYDAYDAYFARNEARJAPANESE,SHU“DOTHEINITIATOROFINTERPERSONALINITIATIVE,INTERPERSONALCOMMUNICATIONSTUDENTSWHOMEET,TAKETHEINITIATIVETOINTRODUCEONESELFOTHERSEMBARRASSED,ACTIVERESCUECLASSMATESRIDICULENOTBEAUTIFUL,ACTIVEVISITINGFRIENDS,GREETINGSACTIVECONVERSATIONTHEELDERISDIFFICULT,THEINITIATIVEQINGZHANHELPINTHISWAY,YOUCANEASILYBECOMETHEMOSTFAMILIAR,THEMOSTINTIMATE,THEMOSTPOPULARFRIENDSTHREE,LOOKINGFORCOMMON,WININTERPERSONALRESONANCE“LIKEATTRACTSLIKE,PEOPLEGENERALLYLOVEBIRDSOFAFEATHERFLOCKTOGETHER“,ANDTHEIRSIMILARPEOPLEPEOPLEEXPERIENCE,AGE,EDUCATION,NATIONALITY,SOCIALSTATUS,INCOME,INTEREST,ATTITUDE,VALUESANDOTHERASPECTSOFTHESIMILARITIESM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