面对批评时如何保持冷静

1、How to Stay Calm in the Face ofCriticism文章出自： 面对批评时如何保持冷静戴尔 卡耐基在如何影响他人以及赢得朋友一书中建议他的读者：批评永远不会有好时机。你可能已经有所结论，但不是每个人都赞同戴尔No one likes to be criticized.Dale Carnegie, whe n givi ng advice on how to in flue nce people and win frien ds, tells his readers that there is n ever a go

2、od time to criticize. As you may have already con cluded, not every one agrees with Dale.t like. It that I w.I n ever liked criticism. It always triggered an automatic react ion in me that I did n would feel my heart beat ing faster and I immediately wan ted to expla in to or refute the critic. It w

3、asn t until I realized what criticism really was or actually what it wasnable to control my emotions and stay calm in the face of even the most scathing criticisms.Criticism is a judgment about something I did. The reason I was reacting negatively was because I perceived it as a judgme nt about who

4、I am. Since I felt my self-worth was being attacked, I n aturally went into a defe nsive sta nce to protect it and that was my mistake.I now realize that:Only I can decide my self-worthSelf-worth is the value I place upon myself. I have not fun dame ntally cha nged just because I made a mistake and

5、thereforeCriticism does NOT reflect who I am.The great thing is that even if some one has the inten ti on to attack you pers on ally to try to lower your self- worth, they can t because your seforth and esteem is con trolled only by you. Having this knowledge has really changed the way I handle crit

6、icism, constructive or destructive.面对批评时如何保持冷静没有人喜欢被批评。戴尔 卡耐基在如何影响他人以及赢得朋友一书中建议他的读者：批评永远不会有好时机。你可能已经有所结论，但不是每个人都赞同戴尔。我从不喜欢批评，因为它总是会触发我的无意识反应，而这种反应，我感到厌恶。（受到批评时）我会感觉心跳加快，当即就想要向批评者解释或反驳。这种情况一直持续到我认识了批评到底是什么一一或者说认识到批评实际上并不是什么。之后，当我所面对着尽管是最为苛刻的批评时，我都能够控制我的情绪，并保持冷静。批评，是对我所做某事的一种判断。我之所以消极反应，是因为我把这种判断认为是对我是谁”的判断。我感到我的自我价值受到了攻击，所以本能的进入了防御状态来保护它。这 是我的错误。现在我认识到了：只有我自己能够决定我的自我价值自我价值是我自身所看重的价值。我不能仅仅因为犯了错误而从根本上改变它，因此：批